Filxon Posted October 27, 2011 Report Share Posted October 27, 2011 I have met this american guy almost 2 years,he is working here in Asia,I always met him 3 or 4 times a month but no intimacy,I was fallen to this guy but he don't even know my feelings.When a day he went back to US,i used to chat with him,and He confess with me, he has a big problem and he don't even want to tell me cause He don't want me to get hurt but then i always keep asking him and promise him that i will be fine just to tell me his problem,cause i wanna help but i was so shock when he tell me "SORRY",i am already committed with a Filipino Guy also named Mark Anthony" I was so speechless and i feel like the whole wide world crashing on me,and He asked me again on "What should i feel about it "but I pretend that i am FINE but he don't know that i was crying that time while i am chatting to him,I am Depressed,i can't even sleep 3 days straight,i always thinking of him on what he is doing,if he is with his guy or what.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Bubu Posted October 28, 2011 Report Share Posted October 28, 2011 dumb ass.. no i'm not referring to the american guy. I'm talking about you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doncoin Posted October 28, 2011 Report Share Posted October 28, 2011 Well, you can move on, or you can spend the next few years pining wistfully out of the window hoping and fantasizing he will break off with his bf. One day, when you are deathly ill, he will show up unannounced because he has not heard form you in a while. When he saw how sick you are, he run into your arms, sobbing and asking you to forgive him because he has been stupid not to realise how wonderful you are. He is going to break off with his bf so that the two of you can be happy together. You will of course get better, and the two of you will spend the rest of your lives happily ever after. As for the bf, he would be doing what you are doing. The cycle goes on... Love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil Posted October 28, 2011 Report Share Posted October 28, 2011 Well, you can move on, or you can spend the next few years pining wistfully out of the window hoping and fantasizing he will break off with his bf. One day, when you are deathly ill, he will show up unannounced because he has not heard form you in a while. When he saw how sick you are, he run into your arms, sobbing and asking you to forgive him because he has been stupid not to realise how wonderful you are. He is going to break off with his bf so that the two of you can be happy together.You will of course get better, and the two of you will spend the rest of your lives happily ever after. As for the bf, he would be doing what you are doing. The cycle goes on... :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted October 29, 2011 Report Share Posted October 29, 2011 I have met this american guy almost 2 years,he is working here in Asia,I always met him 3 or 4 times a month but no intimacy,I was fallen to this guy but he don't even know my feelings. When a day he went back to US,i used to chat with him,and He confess with me, he has a big problem and he don't even want to tell me cause He don't want me to get hurt but then i always keep asking him and promise him that i will be fine just to tell me his problem,cause i wanna help but i was so shock when he tell me "SORRY",i am already committed with a Filipino Guy also named Mark Anthony" I was so speechless and i feel like the whole wide world crashing on me,and He asked me again on "What should i feel about it "but I pretend that i am FINE but he don't know that i was crying that time while i am chatting to him,I am Depressed,i can't even sleep 3 days straight,i always thinking of him on what he is doing,if he is with his guy or what..You sounded like another Madam Butterfly. One fine day, you will appear and cry out loud to you "Butterfly~" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nudi Posted October 29, 2011 Report Share Posted October 29, 2011 You should get him out of your system and find closure. Tell him your situation and ask to have sex with him one time and then no more after that. Whether he obliges or not, you would have tried and and this will set you free. This is better than having hang-ups on 'what if' or 'what might have been' or lamenting over a lost opportunity. For all you know, he may not be interesting in you as a lover in the first place and yours is a one sided-affair. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Passingthru Posted October 29, 2011 Report Share Posted October 29, 2011 I'm wondering if you're a Filipino native and your "lover" a caucasian. As a general rule, the Filipino psyche has been so meddled with - 300 years in a convent followed by 50 in Hollywood - that they suffer a special form of Pinkerton syndrome. On one hand, there's the old world mestizo hierarchy whereby the more Spanish admixture you have the "better" or classier you are and then came American liberation, so on the other, the closer or more connected one is with Americana, the more "advanced" or contemporary one is. So you have one group pining for the "good old days" when the old "Spanish" clique exerted influence, acceptability and even awe and was the last word on cultural dos and don'ts. Then, suddenly another group emerged...a group which embraced and imitated everything American because there's now another acceptable option( how liberating, a 2nd wind, a fresh opening ).....dreaming, for example, of "a house with white picket fences" - something many have never experienced in reality or even seen up close. Heck, even many Americans themselves never have! LOL!The point I'm striving to make is that, generally speaking, the Filipino is in love with the idea and cache of what caucasians, especially their old colonial masters, represent. They feel more valid and liberated from pedestrian concerns if only they can get themselves attached by whatever means to that other oh-so-elusive group. Sadly, as you can see, they aren't really in love with the person although they may never realize that truth...or at least they are in permanent denial, So what they can't get or missed the chance of getting, they severely pine for.What is the cure? Get rid of that hunger for validation by knowing that your life and what you are has a place in the scheme of things which doesn't have to include any "old colonial masters". You are what you are in your own terms and you grab life in the same way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Filxon Posted October 30, 2011 Author Report Share Posted October 30, 2011 why i am still falling inlove to a man who has already bf?yes,he tell me that he is taken already so were just be friends.and now i am making a moves to ruind them cause i dont want him to his friends,i am so sorry God but i really really love this guy..i pretend to be so sick just to get his focus on me,and now he call me and worried to me,he call me and i am always happy to hear his voice,he texted me and i am happy to read his messages,every time he tell me a stories about him and his bf,why i am so happy inside hat they are fighting?I am so really obsessed with him..i dont know till when i am going to be pretend and making a stories just to get his attention..they say if u love that guy you must let him go,but why me,i dont want him to let go instead i am being so selfish and dont want to see him happy with others...I am getting so crazy but its all about my love to him..i know it was not right but it is the only way i know to get him and his attention.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ordinary Posted October 30, 2011 Report Share Posted October 30, 2011 Go find yourself another guy. There is a blade of grass in every inch of soil. Filxon 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
suckling_pig Posted October 31, 2011 Report Share Posted October 31, 2011 (edited) Have you perhaps presented an obsessive side of your nature that has scared him off ? Edited October 31, 2011 by suckling_pig Filxon 1 We see things not as they are, but as WE are - The TalmudWhen the student is ready, the teacher will appear - The Buddha Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Filxon Posted October 31, 2011 Author Report Share Posted October 31, 2011 Go find yourself another guy. There is a blade of grass in every inch of soil.I wish too sir but he is really the one i wanted too... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Filxon Posted October 31, 2011 Author Report Share Posted October 31, 2011 Have you perhaps presented an obsessive side of your nature that has scared him off ?precisely sir..i do anything just for him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Filxon Posted October 31, 2011 Author Report Share Posted October 31, 2011 (edited) I used to chat to the guy that i used to love today even i know to myself that he don't used to love me back cause he have already taken with a filipino guy also,5'4 in height( i don't want to think about this guy,makes me mad at myself because he not that good looking guy and not a long legged one)oh my my EGO...I am 5'10 with a long legged that's what people used to describe me i dont even know why he choose to love that messy guy,He share some problems to me about his BF,he is so mad about him cause he even contact him after 18 hours but i used to pretend again to be pity on him and give him some nice word but that nice word is from nothing not came from my heart,..i am so happy to hear about that he is mad on him but when he told me that he missing him so much,his kiss his hug and his presence...Gosh,i feel so shitty crap and feels like the world crashed on me again,and he told me that he will going to find him this day and i used to tell him " Hope u can find him"but i am so hurting insideI used to make up some stories of mine too that i am going to meet someone today a white american guy,all i know he will going to stop me but he never do it..instead he push me to do such things..i really hate to think about it,i am so sad..and he used to tell me a nice of memories of them which makes me so jealous..i hate myself ,why i can't let him happy to others..why i cant let him go?i am so pathetic and not fair.i know it but i am so inlove with him so pardon me guys why i am doing such things..i dont know how to do now,i cannot even sleep a this days ago,i am getting depressed to think about him a lots. ;( cryingP;s pardon my grammar...i just wanted to pulled out what inside me..i was just hurtin... Edited October 31, 2011 by Filxon Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted October 31, 2011 Report Share Posted October 31, 2011 you just give all sort of excuses to make yourself look less ugly, you are so ugly and yes selfish no doubt at all, you do not love him at all but only yourself, you are sick, yes you are, you only try and want to get any you like, you do not know what is love, you just cannot accept that those who not go accordingly to your plan. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Filxon Posted October 31, 2011 Author Report Share Posted October 31, 2011 you just give all sort of excuses to make yourself look less ugly, you are so ugly and yes selfish no doubt at all, you do not love him at all but only yourself, you are sick, yes you are, you only try and want to get any you like, you do not know what is love, you just cannot accept that those who not go accordingly to your plan.aww..thank u sir for slapping me the truth....that would be nice of u Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Marad44 Posted November 2, 2011 Report Share Posted November 2, 2011 ... the Filipino is in love with the idea and cache of what caucasians, especially their old colonial masters, represent. They feel more valid and liberated from pedestrian concerns if only they can get themselves attached by whatever means to that other oh-so-elusive group... Thought-provoking! After reading your comment, I ran into this on Wikipedia - Colonial Mentality in the Philippines: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Colonial_mentality Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lungker Posted November 2, 2011 Report Share Posted November 2, 2011 Filxon, I am merging the three threads that you started into one.I think they are all referring to the same thing - unrequited love.Try to be happy. Please play safely! Use a condom if you are having anal sex. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fenghou Posted November 2, 2011 Report Share Posted November 2, 2011 If your love for someone is true, pure and great, learn to let go.The last thing you want is to let your love inhibit his life, his happiness , his freewill.I would never do anything to hinder my true love's life, or his happiness.Love him more than yourself, place yourself in his situation and think what he would want, who he would have wanted.it's by no means easy. I know, been there done that. I'm not asking you to stop loving him, but I want you to respect him because you love him.If you opt to go "I would die without him", and try all sorts of drama-rama tactics and lies, it just means you love yourself more than you love him.learn to let go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Marad44 Posted November 2, 2011 Report Share Posted November 2, 2011 To the contrary, shouldn't Filxson embrace himself? He appears to suffer from insufficient or little self love. Self-esteem and self-love are issues that are often related together. Seems to me that his low self esteem is causing the obsession for the American. “Love yourself first and everything falls into line.” Lucille Ball quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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