Would You Date Someone Of Different Ethnicity? + Will You Consider Interracial Relationships? E.g. Chinese Guy With Indian Boyfriend(Compiled)

[Guest Teen]

Is anyone having interracial relationship now ? How is it like ?

[Guest jericho]

omg is it possible to hv a more inane topic.

[Phil]

Not different from same ethnicity relationship.

It's the guy who is important, not his race.

[sohorny]

I've always want to try ang moh bf, but dunno where to find.

[abang]

My recent ex-bf of 8 years was an American ang mo.

Advantage:

Hunky and good looking.

Never had a dull moment.

Lots of activities and events to attend.

Had a well-paid job.

Very, very caring and not sticky...

Can cook

Allows me to have my own space.

Disadvantage:

Tends to be Racist - not towards me, lah.

Tends to have expensive taste - I live by my means..

(I am in the Happy group of wage earners, if you read the recent report)

Cannot enjoy Cai Qin (Taiwan singer) with me.

Now, manless for almost some time...

Only pre-requisite: must earn more than me...

Why... money talks and at 50s, I am used to pampering myself once in a while

[briax]

While it is not very different from dating someone of the same race, it is without its challenges and surprises. Especially when you are going to go beyond just having a early honeymoon relationship with him, and getting close to his family. Mine was quite an interesting one cos i get to see how my partner's indian father side can be different from my cultural background. Differences do not mean it is troublesome, it is just something new to learn from. Our cultural background (though it can be independent of racial differences)do shape how two persons interact, communicate or deal with issues in a relationship.

[Phil]

I think the case is the same with heterosexual couples...

[Guest Marad44]

In cosmopolitan Singapore healthy inter-racial bonding starts in childhood and continues growing - in friendship & partnership.

Mixed marriages have been on a steady climb since official statistics became available in 1961. But it was not until the last 10 years that the numbers saw a big leap: 16.4 per cent of about 24,000 marriages in 2007 were interracial compared to 8.9 per cent of about 25,000 marriages a decade before. (Ref: http://www.singaporeunited.sg)

But when a guy is vehemently opposed to a BF of his own race, the question arises in my mind if he has a low appraisal.of himself.

Edited November 12, 2011 by Marad44

[Lungker]

Please post nicely if talking about other races here.

Thanks and have a good weekend.

[xenophile]

I happen to be one Malay guy who exclusively dates Chinese. Mainly cos I grew up with mainly Chinese friends.

Im pretty curious about what other Malays think of Malays dating only Chinese, and curious about what Chinese think about other Chinese boys dating Malay.

I've been called straight to the face various things, namely arrogant, rootless. Is that a sentiment shared by most other Malays?

Not trying to throw the bottle into the procession. Just curious.

[merlinkun]

Considering there are people who can marries cousin, pillows, ghosts, or dating people 70 years apart, who are we to judge who people date?

I don't see it as an issue, it is just personal preference.

[warlock88]

dating malays are ok.

[SeannyShortcake]

Doesn't matter what race you are.

As long as you have substance.

And cute :x

[sanxian1990]

Me me!! My BF is a Malay-Chinese, more on the Malay side. (I'm Chinese)

Advantages: I can learn a new language! I can learn how to cook/prepare/savour Malay/Peranakan food from someone who grew up in that environment. Yum Yum!!

I love my darling!

[EasleyLim]

I've always found it quite interesting (and sometimes quite challenging) to be in an interracial r/s. On one hand, you will have lots of new things to learn from each other but on the other, there's a limited amount of things that both have in common. Also, cultural/ethinic difference makes it easy for misunderstanding to occur.

But on a shallower note, latinos and white boys are super hot to me, haha.

[Maquis]

Considering there are people who can marries cousin, pillows, ghosts, or dating people 70 years apart, who are we to judge who people date?

I don't see it as an issue, it is just personal preference.

Don't forget that in Japan a guy married his sex doll... :-D

[tamshui]

My recent ex-bf of 8 years was an American ang mo.

Advantage:

Hunky and good looking.

Never had a dull moment.

Lots of activities and events to attend.

Had a well-paid job.

Very, very caring and not sticky...

Can cook

Allows me to have my own space.

Disadvantage:

Tends to be Racist - not towards me, lah.

Tends to have expensive taste - I live by my means..

(I am in the Happy group of wage earners, if you read the recent report)

Cannot enjoy Cai Qin (Taiwan singer) with me.

Now, manless for almost some time...

Only pre-requisite: must earn more than me...

Why... money talks and at 50s, I am used to pampering myself once in a while

I'm now confused.... your saying you want your BF to make more money than you ...so that he pays for your pampering?

[tamshui]

I have been in 4 interracial relationships.. I'm American, and I did not have any problems except human problems, misunderstandings! As far a cultural the " Chinese say" HAVE A WIDE HEART" I never had a problem letting my BFs doing whatever want culturally, they can eat whatever they want and have any of their friends visit and speak as much in their own language as they want... except to me, LOL.

Its really about two humans in love. and as far a music we share, I have a few favorite Asian singers I really like.

[imran]

so far my bf's were a taiwanese, a mix frm sarawak n malaysian chn. All hav to eat halal place cos of me...

[Guest Guest]

sorry for asking this but why do u need to continue to be HALAL when u r gay? i tot gays are already sinned. if u want to practise all taboo, then u sldnt be gay in the first place?

[Guest GIRL]

Been with an indian and pinoy...

almost been with a mexican...

They always ask me "would your parents mind if i am not of your race"

Unless you plan to bring the guy home whose race your folks may not favor, not much of a prob..

Religion wise i am free thinker... but i would not convert to his religion....

Diet wise i dun take meat.. just fish and vege but no prob with them.. :clap: :clap: :clap:

[Guest GIRL]

My recent ex-bf of 8 years was an American ang mo.

Advantage:

Hunky and good looking.

Never had a dull moment.

Lots of activities and events to attend.

Had a well-paid job.

Very, very caring and not sticky...

Can cook

Allows me to have my own space.

Disadvantage:

Tends to be Racist - not towards me, lah.

Tends to have expensive taste - I live by my means..

(I am in the Happy group of wage earners, if you read the recent report)

Cannot enjoy Cai Qin (Taiwan singer) with me.

Now, manless for almost some time...

Only pre-requisite: must earn more than me...

Why... money talks and at 50s, I am used to pampering myself once in a while

Just to sidetrack..

I wonder why men and women in their 50s tend to prefer money to love compared to youngsters?? :whistle:

Never mind, back to topic..

[Phil]

Just to sidetrack..

I wonder why men and women in their 50s tend to prefer money to love compared to youngsters?? :whistle:

Never mind, back to topic..

Maybe simply because at this age, you can buy apparence of love with your money; while your true love will not sell well... :twisted:

[Crimson87]

Dated Taiwanese, Malay and Indian.... but really, it's all the same. I treated them in the same way. If a guy can fall in love with a guy, other factors such as love dun really matter any more. Being your true self is the most important and at the end of the day, if the relationship doesn't work out, it won't be due to the fact that he's of a difference race as you, but him not being able to accept you for who you are.

[abang]

I'm now confused.... your saying you want your BF to make more money than you ...so that he pays for your pampering?

What I meant was he must afford his own share of luxury... things like paying his own portion during overseas vacation, going for concerts etc. No, I aint (and cannot be anymore) a gold digger...

[Guest GIRL]

Maybe simply because at this age, you can buy apparence of love with your money; while your true love will not sell well... :twisted:

Hello phil, i think like that too... i fear aging, worst is i am female...

[Guest passionfruitea]

interesting topic. my bf is chn, i'm ind. sometimes i think to myself, how did we even manage to meld our differences and cultural backgrounds and make this work? it's been a pretty amazing journey, we've been together for a few years now and we're still a lot in love. oh and the sex is hot!

thumbs up to all other interracial couples here! =)

[Seedrick]

I am Chn but my BF now is Pinoy ~ My ex is a Indo Chinese (not exactly inter-racial but we come from very different cultural background) :oops:

[closetedlestroll]

In my younger straighter days I've dated an caucasian poker pro and a British-Thai bartender.

After eating lots of Bpa Bisphenol A, p&&&& and realising I prefer to play for the other team, I have only dated a Thai girl, Pakistani girl and Korean girl.

I think it's more fun to date interracially why restrict yourself to one race? We always like sharing food recipes, learning about each other's respective country's history/background/culture. Sometimes hearing your partner say certain words in Chinese, or trying to mumble something in your native language can be quite hilarious.

[fizzy]

In the end, it all comes down to individual preferences. Being in an interracial rls allows us to learn more about each other's culture, roots and language.

After all, it is a relationship, so definitely there has to be that mutual feeling for each other beyond the race boundary.

[Toro]

My recent ex-bf of 8 years was an American ang mo.

Advantage:

Hunky and good looking.

Never had a dull moment.

Lots of activities and events to attend.

Had a well-paid job.

Very, very caring and not sticky...

Can cook

Allows me to have my own space.

Disadvantage:

Tends to be Racist - not towards me, lah.

Tends to have expensive taste - I live by my means..

(I am in the Happy group of wage earners, if you read the recent report)

Cannot enjoy Cai Qin (Taiwan singer) with me.

Now, manless for almost some time...

Only pre-requisite: must earn more than me...

Why... money talks and at 50s, I am used to pampering myself once in a while

Same here.. i find it easier to maintain a relationship with a caucasian than with a local guy.

[kyle24]

i had tried with:

Indonesian malay : its ok just have alot of dull moment

malaysian malay : almost same with indonesian, but i prefer to not try again

Pinoy : too stingy but overall there are caring

Singapore Chn : everything wanna perfect and always complain, but they are charming and mature

Japanese : there are cute and naive,, but always like to sex and sex, for them sex is very important

but i prefer with chinese is better,,,

[Phil]

Back to the questions of the TS:

1- Yes.

2- Wonderful!

[Guest mlybttm]

i want indonesian boyfren...

[dreamer]

i've never been attached, but i realised that when u're mixed and you didn't grow up in either of your parents' cultures, you tend to go for more ... "cosmopolitan" people who aren't so ... entrenched in culture? that being said i'm ok with any race as long as there's chemistry. but then again, i'm not answering the TS's question. sorry for wasting bandwidth haha!

[whoiam]

I'm having one. We communicate in English and so far it's ok. He bring me to eat his country food, I bring him to eat mine. So far we dont have any cutural issue or language barrier.

I think those barriers (culture, language) wont be a problem if you 2 are willing to work it out and be considerate towards each other's feelings.

So give it a try. You may find your love with a foreign guy and he will make you so much happier than you thought it might be : )

[sum1outhere_03]

i had tried with:

Indonesian malay : its ok just have alot of dull moment

malaysian malay : almost same with indonesian, but i prefer to not try again

Pinoy : too stingy but overall there are caring

Singapore Chn : everything wanna perfect and always complain, but they are charming and mature

Japanese : there are cute and naive,, but always like to sex and sex, for them sex is very important

but i prefer with chinese is better,,,

I don't mind the Japanese dude! LOL.

[iamziz]

Was in 4 relationships. 3 long distance (some people are lucky but I don't think I want to do it again). Local Malay Singaporean, French and Australian. Last relationship was a lived in Thai dude for 3 years. No issues at all. It is matter of respecting each other's beliefs. With the Thai dude, I followed him for his prayers at the Buddhist temples during my BKK time. I respected the activities there until some locals looked at me and said 'Farang mai wai' - The foreigner didn't put his hands together (as in a prayer mode). I turned to them and smiled. He even followed me to visit my late mom at her resting place. My parents adored him. Be it inter-racial or even same background, besides the commonly discussed factors such as communication, personal space, respect etc, we learn to compromise. When you get into a relationship, it is no longer just about you. You make room in your heart and daily activities for your partner and he does the same.

When a Thai royal princess passed away a few years ago, I was invited to attend the funeral wake at the palace. As it was a formal royal thingy, I had to dress up in black. My friend lent me a nice jacket. On arrival, we were escorted to where the body laid. Buddhist monks did some prayers and my friend went to the floor to pay his respect while I was shown to to a seat. It was a complicated prayer style I have never seen to be given to the royal family. Everyone got to know I am a Muslim. Smiled and nodded their heads at me while I 'wai' at them and they did the same to me.

It all boils down to respecting each other. If you are not willing to do that and adamant to your own belief, it is not wise to get into an inter-racial relationship.

[Guest jayy]

I'm Indian. So far I've been with Indian, Chinese and Japanese guys. For about the past year or so I've been seeing an Eurasian guy and things are going really well for us. I think its pure bullshit when people say "sorry, I think we can't get along because of our cultural differences". Whether you have chemistry with someone does not depend on age, race, body type and so on. If you're on the right frequency, you'll click. it just depends on how open-minded you are, and how willing you are to step out from your comfort zone. My guy and I get along just fine. We talk, we joke, we banter, we argue, we fight sometimes..but it's all good. I've met his parents and family and noone treats me any different just because I'm of a different race. It's really not that big of a barrier as it seems.

[qedcwc]

I happen to be one Malay guy who exclusively dates Chinese. Mainly cos I grew up with mainly Chinese friends.

Im pretty curious about what other Malays think of Malays dating only Chinese, and curious about what Chinese think about other Chinese boys dating Malay.

I've been called straight to the face various things, namely arrogant, rootless. Is that a sentiment shared by most other Malays?

Not trying to throw the bottle into the procession. Just curious.

Quote from character Orked (Malay girl) in late Yasmin Ahmad's 2004 film Sepet:

"For generations, Malay men have been marrying outside their race. Takde hal je, alright je. Sekarang aku nak buat (going into relationship with a Chinese boy), semua bising. Pehal?!"

sorry for asking this but why do u need to continue to be HALAL when u r gay? i tot gays are already sinned. if u want to practise all taboo, then u sldnt be gay in the first place?

There is no black-and-white definition that homosexuals are to abandon everything their religion prescribed. They can choose to do it out of personal choice, such as health concerns. Besides, swine is already defined to be among the dirtiest in at least 3 chapters of the Qur'an and even in the Bible, cos no matter how clean you try to maintain its sty, it will still eat its neighbours' poo.

Edited July 23, 2012 by qedcwc

[raisugen]

Just curious..how do you guys meet other guys from places like western countries, japan, korea, thai etc?

[trueblue]

I dated someone out of my race for a while and religion, rather than race, turned out to be the main issue.

[Phil]

Just curious..how do you guys meet other guys from places like western countries, japan, korea, thai etc?

Some people travel sometimes...

And If the guy is great, it can develop into à great relationship...

[mango_juice]

Japanese : there are cute and naive,, but always like to sex and sex, for them sex is very important

haha I want the Japanese one also... Just wondering, any language barrier? Esp when he's abt to cum he'll shout out in his own language

[russell]

i m in the 3rd year of my relationship with my China Chinese boyfriend, i am a malay muslim. however, i am not a really practising muslim, i do eat non-halal food and drinks liquor.

to me the race isnt the issue, its how we individually keep and maintain the relationship. we are both actually control freaks, but i leave my controlling mind for work only. china chinese are very strong willed but loving too in their own way. so at home, he is incharge. even when going holidays, i just pass him my share of the trip, letting him hold the cash, and he chooses wat to buy.... its nice actually to just switch off and let someone else take charge... we've been to hongkong, japan and this aug planning for our first trip to bkk together.

coincidentally, i've came out to my cousins first and auntie uncles through them, before i met him and now my relatives are fine with me and him. we are staying together with my mum. only bf is too shy to be close with my older relatives.

my first relationship was with an indonesian of javanese descent, then malaysian chinese, malaysian malay, indonesian chinese, local malay and current china chinese.

i dont directly search for foreigners, just that those that click my gaydar happens to be foreigners. for about two years, whenever i look at a guy from afar and then found out when we actually spoke to each other, he would be an indonesian....

[hotlongboy]

Hi I'm an indian. 19 167 52. Rather new to the scene. I have realized that every time I introduce myself as an Indian, the other party just says that they are not interested. Although I have a great interest in chi boys, I find it hard to find one who doesn't mind my race. Just curious about your take on this.

[Guest sgjgvan]

i guess u r right that, in general, it is a challenge for you to meet ur interest...but there are exceptional cases...

Edited August 11, 2012 by sgjgvan

[TannedKE]

Generally guys prefer similar guys, like the fit would prefer someone who is fit which they can exercise and gym together. Same for race I guess,we prefer guys of the Same race so that we cbuan communicate in our language. But there are exception cases

[pralaya]

I had a Chinese top lover. Loved sucking him.

[giPmuC]

The others are correct - you just have to find the exceptions. Sometimes you can't help but be affected by other hot guys who don't like you back, and that's okay. You're still young! Lots more opportunities.