Would You Date Someone Of Different Ethnicity? + Will You Consider Interracial Relationships? E.g. Chinese Guy With Indian Boyfriend(Compiled)

[fab]

Many Chi gals go for Ind guys tho.

[hotlongboy]

I see. Hopefully it isn't that hard to find that exception. Getting used to the rejection

[Heaven84]

Most of my dates are with Malay guys. Maybe I attract Malays more than Chinese. It really depends on the person and whether u have the right chemistry.

[iamziz]

Most of my dates are with Malay guys. Maybe I attract Malays more than Chinese. It really depends on the person and whether u have the right chemistry.

True. It is all about chemistry while putting race aside. I am very rojak as for me 1st is the personality, 2nd the physical attraction if I am looking for fun. Race is something I don't like to subscribe to but unfortunately we can't avoid that subject.

You are only 19 and you will meet many who put race 1st than anything else. Don't be disheartened. Along the way, racist remarks might be thrown at you. Don't let that bring you down. It is not your fault to be who you are neither your parents. The rejections and failures you face should make you a stronger person as you don't deserve to be with such persons. Indirectly, you are filtering them away.

There are nice people out there and here in BW for friendship or fun - Chinese, Malays, Indians, Eurasians, Caucasians etc.

Cheer up.

[MarriedTop]

For me I am open. I met Indon, Malay, Pinoy, white South African, Ind , chinese and Pujabi.

I think you will met someone less racist/ race preference oriented like me or Aziz~

[hotlongboy]

It's nice knowing that the exceptions do exist. I notice that guys who are in their mid 20s and older are more open to dating ind guys compared to the younger bunch. I wonder why.

[giPmuC]

See hotlongboy, someone already expressed his intent to you on another thread. But not on dating, on fun. Not sure if he's Chinese, too

[Boi1230]

Dont you worry. You will definitely find yr love one. I see that there is a high rate in Chn with ind compare to chn with mly. Just remember that love will only come to you unexpectedly. look carefully for guys around you

[hotlongboy]

See hotlongboy, someone already expressed his intent to you on another thread. But not on dating, on fun. Not sure if he's Chinese, too

Haha. I saw you talking about me. Tsk tsk. But he's too old I guess.

[hotlongboy]

Dont you worry. You will definitely find yr love one. I see that there is a high rate in Chn with ind compare to chn with mly. Just remember that love will only come to you unexpectedly. look carefully for guys around you

That's true

[giPmuC]

Haha. I saw you talking about me. Tsk tsk. But he's too old I guess.

Haha sorry. Was just tryin' to help.

[trueblue]

At least you're honest about your race!

[holicks]

As for me i would love to have ind bf , coz i love black or brown skin . i dont mine about raceial things .

[woodlands894]

I too horlicks. I like tanned or dark skin

[woodlands894]

Hi I'm an indian. 19 167 52. Rather new to the scene. I have realized that every time I introduce myself as an Indian, the other party just says that they are not interested. Although I have a great interest in chi boys, I find it hard to find one who doesn't mind my race. Just curious about your take on this.

I like Indian boys

[hotlongboy]

It's nice to know that there are quite a few of you open to the idea. So what do you find attractive in an ind? Curious.

[kuchiyose]

We don't MAKE the stereotypes - we just SEE (or SMELL) them.

[trueblue]

We don't MAKE the stereotypes - we just SEE (or SMELL) them.

Completely unnecessary.

[hotlongboy]

Yeah I agree. That was totally uncalled for.

[funnyboy]

curious. Would you?

[zwei]

during my frist trip to taboo, i saw this couple they were indian chinese so i guess yea?

[skinnychineseboy]

Hi I'm an indian. 19 167 52. Rather new to the scene. I have realized that every time I introduce myself as an Indian, the other party just says that they are not interested. Although I have a great interest in chi boys, I find it hard to find one who doesn't mind my race. Just curious about your take on this.

hey hotlongboy

pm me

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18 170 50

[Nickolade]

Hey hotlongboy,

I can relate....but also, I've learnt one important thing.

In some ways, appreciate that fact that these people, who hear "indian" and turn the other way, are the ones that "slide off easily".

Take it as a "filter" of sorts that's working in your favour.

I used to take it personally....and at times, It got frustrating to face rejection based on just racial preferences...

But for every person that didn't take the time to get to know me...there are also those that I have met, who did.

And the friendships and relationships I've formed with the people that stayed....priceless.

But on another note though, maybe it would be good for you to look inward too....

Realise that you too seem to have a 'racial preference' that you'd prefer....

Maybe understanding why you have a greater interest in chinese guys specifically....will help take the frustration off when someone else that you meet, places the their own racial preferences on you.

But anyways, good luck on your search.

Plenty of genuinely open minded people out there that you've yet to meet....so ...have faith.

[ophio81]

then where on earth are these genuine open-minded people? I wish there were some way of collecting all of 'em in one place at the same time. It would make dating that much easier

[funnyboy]

The search might be hard, but don't loose faith. Don't let all the stereotypical people out there put you down!

[ophio81]

Thanks funnyboy. I wonder if we should setup a gathering of "genuine open-minded people"? Any takers?

[woodlands894]

Thanks funnyboy. I wonder if we should setup a gathering of "genuine open-minded people"? Any takers?

I am open lol

[upshot]

Haha. I saw you talking about me. Tsk tsk. But he's too old I guess.

ya see.. you too have your own preferences.. you like them younger.

So preferences are a combination that will have to coincide with someone looking for the same combination. I don't date guys but I have meet and has chat or fun with Indian guys and a number of others too and if the chemistry is great, no qualm having fun with them and sometime not just ONS. Simple because you click and it just seem fine. But when it doesn't.. never also jump to the conclusion it is a race thingy. Matter of a fact last Sat I had a wonderful time with this indian chap.. and even this Malay just came by to let us savour his meat. In fact we were not sure even. but it just came natural and the company clicked.

Edited October 30, 2012 by upshot

[Guest Indianlikeacleveland]

I think its wrong for anyone to let the colour of our skin define who we are..I think many people who aren't indian tend to think most Indians are big bellied, have moustaches, drink alot, have alot of hair and have body odour...blah blah stereotypical bullshit...please don't adhere to the myth that Indians are only like what they are portrayed to be..the Chinese and Malay comminutes, have many diverse characters...well so does the indian community and i think anyone can date anyone regardless of the colour...once again never let colour define u..or us for that matter..

Edited October 31, 2012 by Indianlikeacleveland

[Guest Sky Monterro]

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Edited April 3, 2022 by Sky Monterro

[SeannyShortcake]

You might get lucky.

As insensitive and untactful as this may sound,almost every other race wants to date a Chinese boy in Singapore.

Just a general observation.

[monochrome]

You might get lucky.

As insensitive and untactful as this may sound,almost every other race wants to date a Chinese boy in Singapore.

Just a general observation.

I disagree and this is an awful sweeping statement. Instead of pinning it on a person's preference, you lumped entire racial categories at the bottom of the social hierarchy and putting ours at the top.

If you were living elsewhere, and a white person tells you, "Every other race wants a white boy." do you think that's an accurate description of who you are and what you want?

[SeannyShortcake]

I disagree and this is an awful sweeping statement. Instead of pinning it on a person's preference, you lumped entire racial categories at the bottom of the social hierarchy and putting ours at the top.

If you were living elsewhere, and a white person tells you, "Every other race wants a white boy." do you think that's an accurate description of who you are and what you want?

In Singapore,it's generally observed that an Aj would want a Chinese guy for a bf/fun/whatever.

Elsewhere,I wouldn't know.

It may not reflect the desires of every single individual.

I agree in Western countries people are swinging more to whites than any other race.

You know I'm not wrong.

[monochrome]

In Singapore,it's generally observed that an Aj would want a Chinese guy for a bf/fun/whatever.

Elsewhere,I wouldn't know.

It may not reflect the desires of every single individual.

I agree in Western countries people are swinging more to whites than any other race.

You know I'm not wrong.

Well generally everywhere you go, gay minorities tend to want to be with the majority race. It's part and parcel of majority privilege, yes and I agree but this is a sensitve thread and making such insensitive remarks (you said so yourself that it was insensitive) is just not helpful.

Personally, to the TS, I certainly wouldn't mind dating people of any race as long as they're attractive, well-educated and have a deep and broad worldview. My ex was a Malay guy I didn't expect to end up with. We were together for a whole 3 years during our undergraduate days in London and even lived together. We broke up because he wanted to pursue a career in academia in the UK while I wanted to work back here. Before I met him, some of the other British guys I dated were of Indian origin, and boy were they HOT, with the killer British accent.

Right now where I'm working, there's a Japanese expat I'm close with being the only other gay guy around, whose boyfriend is local Indian and for some reason, he just doesn't want to date Chinese guys. To each his own I suppose.

Keep your chin up, hotlongboy and there certainly are more guys here than just the Chinese community. There's more to people than the colour of their skin.

(edited a typo)

Edited January 16, 2013 by monochrome

[Nic Jude Das]

Reading through this thread, I can tell that there are plenty of people with good observations and advice. And while not all are true for everyone, the some that are should give you a sense of hope.

As an Indian myself, and unstereotypically having an inclination to Chinese guys myself, it might help to know that there are plenty of guys out there of all kinds. Sure, the typical Indian gay guy might not be your fancy, but you might be surprised that there are the few who might not be as typical as you thought, or maybe they are typical but might be the guy who is able to connect with you on some level. Or, in that respect, a Chinese guy who'd accept you for who you are, maybe even one that might not like Indians much but might take a liking to you. Who knows? Maybe one who might be neither Indian or Chinese, a Malay guy or Eurasian,etc. I could go on and on, but in the end, it's not one's race that matters, only his outlook - physical, behavioural and emotional - and your percpective and perception of him that matters, as well as how well you put yourself out there too.

It's a two-way street, basically. Like many before me have mentioned, you're only 19(or 20 this year), and you have a hell of a long way to go. The ocean is fucking enormous, with a fucking load of fish. Set your sights far and wide. There's loads to learn and things you never thought could exist in this gay life we all have. All it takes right now is a sense of adventure. Even if you do find "The One", there's still a shitload of "gay stuff" out there too.

In other words, this fear of not finding the ideal Chinese guy should be far from your mind. It's never going to be easy, but open your mind to every possibility and take every bad step as a learning experience. There's a lot of time to seek out the one who want. Never give up hope.

From me, and all those who would side with me on this, we wish you the best of luck and hope that, in the years to come, you'll eventually find The One and live a happy and fulfilling life. Good luck!

[undies87]

im indian and I exclusively date Chinese guys only, I think its a personal preference its an attraction to oriental boys... and surprisingly those Chinese guys that ive dated are in the same way attracted to indian guys only. 

Edited December 29, 2013 by undies87

[greenlantern8]

I'm racially chinese, and I've dated various different races across Asia and Europe. Whilst there are differences which can trigger arguments, by in large I enjoy the process of learning about the other guys culture. And I honestly don't have a racial preference.

Edited July 2, 2013 by greenlantern8

[cloz8dude]

Like as the tittle says, do you usually put "race" as an important aspect in finding your significant other? 

 

As a local guy from the minority ethnic group(besides the 4 main groups), I've always kind of wonder if I'd be able to find my partner here, or even date one. 

One thing I know for sure is that finding my significant other from the same race is close to impossible cause I know there isn't any around here. From the statistic, I fall under "others" category in the ethnic group chart in Singapore, so again, its impossible. 

Singapore is my home, it's where i was born and where i belong. I'm not thinking of migrating to any other country even if i have the choice. So I'm very keen to know if I'd couple up with someone or stay single forever...

I know it must be a bit tough for someone to adjust to each others culture, different views, faith etc. But still, is it possible to find someone who won't mind what race you come from and just love you for who you are? 

 

I meant no offence to whatever your preference is. Just for my knowledge and curiousness, I thought I'd ask;)

 

 

[Guest Guest]

What matter most is his performance in my bed.

[Guest Raiden Alpha]

Common interests and understanding is more important than skin colours.

I know some people will never believe in this shit cause I have seen people crying in anger/hurt over rejection at places before.Their rage and hurt run very deep that I'm afraid it affect their outlook on life. But those places only mostly attract shallow/superficial/unsavoury characters. Avoid those places for they can never give what your heart truly desire.

-Shikon Jewel-

[limpeh]

For me as long as the guy is hot and can carry a decent conversation, why not?

For as long as you work out and have a nice bod, people will want you no matter what race you are.

[Guest Vivavoo]

it doesn't matter la. People only care about face, bod and dick size.

[Guest Raiden Alpha]

^^TS is looking for love not lust...

I myself can't hang out with other races(honest here)due to high expectation and culture difference,I can't even stand my own race sometimes so it is not a racism issue here.

I hang out with my own kind but I secretly help out my minorities colleagues rather than my own clique because I know whose character is more deserving of receiving kindness and bonus. That's all I can do at this current point in my life.

Not bad but not good either.

[Guest Guest]

^^TS is looking for love not lust...

I myself can't hang out with other races(honest here)due to high expectation and culture difference,I can't even stand my own race sometimes so it is not a racism issue here.

I hang out with my own kind but I secretly help out my minorities colleagues rather than my own clique because I know whose character is more deserving of receiving kindness and bonus. That's all I can do at this current point in my life.

Not bad but not good either.

So u cannot stand anyone - your own race and other races?

[Guest Raiden Alpha]

So u cannot stand anyone - your own race and other races?

I cannot stand difference in ideals and thoughts.

Anyway this is not relevant to the topic. We should not discuss this anymore.

@Ts

Don't give up. There really are cases of people here who overcome skin colours issue to become true life companions for each other. May your wish come true.

Edited August 28, 2013 by Raiden Alpha

[EasleyLim]

Eurasian ah? HAHAHA! Always kena the "Others"

 

I don't think inter-racial r/s is that big of an issue, most people I know wouldn't mind dating someone outside of their own race. That said, it would definitely be harder to maintain for reasons that you had already listed (adjust to each others culture, different views, faith etc) but if you guys really love each other and willing to compromise, I believe it can work out. 

[Guest Wesley]

Who cares what others think. Until you get to that mind set you will always be too self-conscious to attract or keep a bf or have a LTR. Compatability is all that matters.

 

I am an North American expat Christian who is now a Singaporean so I fall in the category of "other". My partner's heritage is African Muslim so he to falls in the category of "other"also. We are about as opposite as you can get in skin colour, ethnic up bringing and religon. The reason we get along is respect, tolerance and acceptance. I couldn't image anyone loving me more. Love is not defined by colour of skin, religion, sexual orientation, ethic heritage.

 

Hugs

[iamziz]

Who cares what others think. Until you get to that mind set you will always be too self-conscious to attract or keep a bf or have a LTR. Compatability is all that matters.

 

I am an North American expat Christian who is now a Singaporean so I fall in the category of "other". My partner's heritage is African Muslim so he to falls in the category of "other"also. We are about as opposite as you can get in skin colour, ethnic up bringing and religon. The reason we get along is respect, tolerance and acceptance. I couldn't image anyone loving me more. Love is not defined by colour of skin, religion, sexual orientation, ethic heritage.

 

Hugs

 

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[Guest Guest]

Wesley is probably the rare one. One look at the personals here in BW or elsewhere and u can find those who want to be with their own. Fact of life. Dont let it cramp your style.

[hotlongboy]

I for one have been at the receiving end of this. I have come to learn that most people here and on dating apps are very shallow. The moment i reveal my race, they will usually not continue with the conversation. It's like an instant stereotype. Well, i guess i just learned to cope with it. The rejection used hurt a lot at first. Getting rejected just because you're of a deferring race. Getting judged just because i'm of a different skin tone.