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Can You Accept If Your Date Is Effeminate / Sissy? + Do You Feel Comfortable Dating Effeminate Gays? (Compiled)

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SoSonni Newbie

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I can accept to a certain degree of effeminacy in my date as long as it's not over the top. It's just not where my preference lies.

However, I feel like I should say something about a statement that I have heard as well as read close to a hundred times.

"I might as well date a real woman."

A lot of effeminate males have actually no desire to be a woman, and to say said remark is rude and insensitive.

They are who they are and they are not women.

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If one is closeted then surely they will feel uncomfortable...especially if its a one on one date.

Through the years as I get gain confidence ...its not an issue anymore.

 

People tend to be too concerned about what others think of them.

Sissy or not I am sure some are really beautiful inside out. I will be more upset and uncomfortable with yahdao who has  an attitude.

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Sissy or not I am sure some are really beautiful inside out. I will be more upset and uncomfortable with yahdao who has  an attitude.

 

yah some sissy actually beautiful inside, gd hearted....

but trust me, some, if not most gays still like more manly....bad hearted also nvm

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i will accept and be like "yay! another sister found" :) 姐妹们 unite!

 

come on, sissies are the backbone of the gay community. accept him, it's just a date. you accepted the date before knowing him well enough. you accepted the date yourself, so have the courtesy to be his good date. start by accepting him!

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i will accept and be like "yay! another sister found" :) 姐妹们 unite!

 

WTF

 

 

 

come on, sissies are the backbone of the gay community.

 

since when

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Exactly.

You can make a manly guy to reveal his more effeminate sides.

 

But a sissy guy to show his manly side?

Does not compute.

 

 

This is simply not true. U havent dated any before. The one I dated I treat him as girl girl. He shows very strong resilience in her character when I faced trouble. THAT to me, is super manly.

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This is simply not true. U havent dated any before. The one I dated I treat him as girl girl. He shows very strong resilience in her character when I faced trouble. THAT to me, is super manly.

oh your girl girl must be sitting and riding on top of you like a jockey.  heehaa !

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This is simply not true. U havent dated any before. The one I dated I treat him as girl girl. He shows very strong resilience in her character when I faced trouble. THAT to me, is super manly.

 

Resilience to aid the one you love is manly to you.

 

But it doesn't with me.

 

Honestly some girls (real ones) out there also prove to be tough cookies when it comes to sticking it through the thick and thin with their men. I wouldn't call them manly.

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Exactly.

You can make a manly guy to reveal his more effeminate sides.

But a sissy guy to show his manly side?

Does not compute.

Firstly love this feeling cannot be found instead it will find you instead. So one really cannot say no or yes to whoever come into one life despite our expectations.

Ok back to the main point. Being manly does not equate to strength to me,life is a long journey fill with ups and downs. Pure brute strength will not prevail all the time,what really sustain and keep people going is strength of character. Some of those soft spoken ones really grasp this concept better than others. That's what made them appealing to people who are searching for a soulmate and deeper meaning in life. :)

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Aiyah, such considerations are absurd. You're already gay so why be so concerned about such things. Shouldn't we all be more inclusive as opposed to being so judgmental. We're already being judged unfairly by the wider society in general so we shouldn't judge and persecute our own people.

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For me, I can't really imagine myself in such a situation. Clearly I think of myself as one being attracted to 'macho' guys. However the rules of love works slightly differently from how you imagine it. More often than not, other factors do come into play. You'll never know it's possible unless it really happens. So keep an open mind guys, keep an open mind

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Aiyah, such considerations are absurd. You're already gay so why be so concerned about such things. Shouldn't we all be more inclusive as opposed to being so judgmental. We're already being judged unfairly by the wider society in general so we shouldn't judge and persecute our own people.

 

everyone say this online but it doesnt reflect the reality on grounds.

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I used to think that I would be ok with them , until I met one online which turned out to be a big no-no for me. 

 

Some things come with experience

 

After all, we all have our preferences - One man's thorn is another man's rose

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I used to think that I would be ok with them , until I met one online which turned out to be a big no-no for me.

Some things come with experience

人往往都是口是心非, 说的是一套, 做的又是另一回事, 也有很多人说外貌不重要, 若真给他丑和帅的, 你看他会如何取舍?

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Everyone has their own preference...

 

If you really like that person, I guess that doesn't really matter? 

 

 

Personally, I'm very attracted to someone who's super sweet and genuinely nice. I think the rest is secondary..

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some sissy guys also can have black hearts.

 

ultimately, after the initial physical attraction (and if you are attracted to sissy guys), still gonna know the person's real character first.

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Congrats to the people who fall for them then......

 

人往往都是口是心非, 说的是一套, 做的又是另一回事, 也有很多人说外貌不重要, 若真给他丑和帅的, 你看他会如何取舍?

I don't quite get you... I'm just saying that the person whom I met was a turn-off for me that's all, and I realised that I don't like it ............ how is it 'saying one thing and meaning another'?

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u r honest with your feeling, turn off or can't accept does not mean you look down on them,

i am just hoping people not to be a hypocrite, their words are as sincere and beautiful as their heart,

cos we know, most will say one thing and then do something that doesn't seem to fit at all with what he said.

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