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Can You Accept If Your Date Is Effeminate / Sissy? + Do You Feel Comfortable Dating Effeminate Gays? (Compiled)

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Do you think that a straight acting gay is more straight if he is into masculine hot straight acting gay as compared to a straight acting gay who is into effeminate slim gay?

 

Nope, gay is gay, it is just a matter of preference for the type of sex partner one prefers. 

 

In addition, gay or straight is just a label.  I don't do labels.  I prefer orgasms... :D :D :D

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That's interesting that you said that. But I mean after everybody have addressed it, we will have some who love, some who don't mind, some who cannot "accept" this particular group within our community. The same responses would be if the topic was about chubs, non-Chineses, skinny, hairy, etc. I just find it funny that's all haha

LOL I was just using it to illustrate my point quickly :P "Straight acting" is indeed a really dumb term. Be yourself, you are not getting paid to act, you're no Meryl Streep.

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Fair enough...

 

But about the "straight-acting" thingy, I think that's just a stupid label. Maybe cos I'm looking at it from my perspective. No one I know would ever believe I'm gay, cos I'm straight-seeming (seemingly straight). Not straight-acting, cos this is who I am. I like being the dominant, slightly rowdy dude I am and I would never change tt, ever... This is how some of us are. So being so manly, I tend to be attracted to feminine boys, n girls too of cos. Especially since I'm looking for a really petite lil boiboi or gerger... ;)

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i agree with tony tran, some of these fem boys have bfs that are hot enough to make anyone of us jealous. wonder how to get them also...

also, i think some of these straight guys will find Boo cute also :D

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i agree with tony tran, some of these fem boys have bfs that are hot enough to make anyone of us jealous. wonder how to get them also...

also, i think some of these straight guys will find Boo cute also :D

yeah boo looks seriously cute

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i mean, straight "acting". haha seriously, their inner diva will come out sooner or later.

 

Gays will only look at surface for quick sex. Tops will look for fem guys and not manly guys. Fem guys can easily get bfs that are hot enough to make anyone of us jealous. For me, most tops will avoid me. Even when I offer myself explicitly they will stick to their preferences.

 

Going to sauna will be headaches for me. Standing there will only attract btms. So have to act very atas to avoid them. Will find 2 types of tops for me to be lucky.

 

One passive type not sure can or cannot fuck me so I must show something like follow him to dark room then touch him and see he touch back and want. If he interested, then lead his hand to my btm for testing. If he want then he lead me to room to slaughter me.

 

The other active and aggressive type really very very rare. One year maybe got 3 or 4 only. This type like manly btms and very cocky and sure. No need to ask or show, they see they catch they slaughter. Sometimes so aggressive even had to service them in public for them to show off. Even in room also so loud until whole sauna know. Wat to do. But very worth it can fuck until shiok shiok want to die. This type is like sex maniac looking for rape victims.

 

Very worthwhile to let inner diva will come out and let him treat me worse then fem bois and me more fem than fem bois "yeah fuck my cb all night....ahhhh song ah your cock so angry inside my hole one....I doggy you beat my backside...you cha my nene so hard...."

 

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Gays will only look at surface for quick sex. Tops will look for fem guys and not manly guys. Fem guys can easily get bfs that are hot enough to make anyone of us jealous. For me, most tops will avoid me. Even when I offer myself explicitly they will stick to their preferences.

 

Going to sauna will be headaches for me. Standing there will only attract btms. So have to act very atas to avoid them. Will find 2 types of tops for me to be lucky.

 

One passive type not sure can or cannot fuck me so I must show something like follow him to dark room then touch him and see he touch back and want. If he interested, then lead his hand to my btm for testing. If he want then he lead me to room to slaughter me.

 

The other active and aggressive type really very very rare. One year maybe got 3 or 4 only. This type like manly btms and very cocky and sure. No need to ask or show, they see they catch they slaughter. Sometimes so aggressive even had to service them in public for them to show off. Even in room also so loud until whole sauna know. Wat to do. But very worth it can fuck until shiok shiok want to die. This type is like sex maniac looking for rape victims.

 

Very worthwhile to let inner diva will come out and let him treat me worse then fem bois and me more fem than fem bois "yeah fuck my cb all night....ahhhh song ah your cock so angry inside my hole one....I doggy you beat my backside...you cha my nene so hard...."

 

 

To no surprise, you were describing me pretty well in the latter... That's pretty much me I guess. With my face, and body, of cos I'd be cocky! Hehehe! But no la, I'm not very cocky really. I just know what I want...

 

Just curious though... Why would Tops avoid you?

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To those guys who appear so straight that no guy dares approach you, can you pls tell us how to "break the ice" with you if we are interested in you? :)

I had encounters with straight guys who were in relationship with girls during army, but they were the ones who took the initiative to approach me simply because I was not as straight acting as them.

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Just curious though... Why would Tops avoid you?

I really don't know. Like that night, when 3 of us standing at corridor, this hot guy passed by. I was nearest to him and I tried to walk very close to him. He sort of make a big step to walk further from me then closer to the fem guy in front of me.

 

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I really don't know. Like that night, when 3 of us standing at corridor, this hot guy passed by. I was nearest to him and I tried to walk very close to him. He sort of make a big step to walk further from me then closer to the fem guy in front of me.

 

Hmmm... Seems to me tt u frequent these places huh? I haven't been in one at all. And maybe, the dudes prefer more feminine ones then. If you're feminine, be yourself. If you're not, still, just be yourself. Why would you want a guy to drill you when he's not physically attracted to you. Those who are, will pay more attn to your pleasure, so this way it's a win-win... Right darling? ;)

 

Yes... lots of patience, until sometimes I lost interest in them.

 

I'd rather lose interest in someone not interested in me, than make a fool of myself by getting shot down... Dun worry la... Even though I'm single, and starting to feel a lil lonely, I'm sure that I will find someone at the right time. I'm sure you will too my dear ;)

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Hmmm... Seems to me tt u frequent these places huh? I haven't been in one at all. And maybe, the dudes prefer more feminine ones then. If you're feminine, be yourself. If you're not, still, just be yourself. Why would you want a guy to drill you when he's not physically attracted to you. Those who are, will pay more attn to your pleasure, so this way it's a win-win... Right darling? ;)

 

This thing must try then can know if he want me or not mah.

I wonder if that hot guy was you, how would you react to me and that fem guy?

 

It is like everytime I sure lose to the fem guy.

 

 

Usually the aggressive tops who catch me are not hot guys but at least average looking only. But they like to fuck me better than the hot guys so still very worth it. 

 

Don't know why they are so aggressive and very few are like them.

 

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Hmmm... Seems to me tt u frequent these places huh? I haven't been in one at all. And maybe, the dudes prefer more feminine ones then. If you're feminine, be yourself. If you're not, still, just be yourself. Why would you want a guy to drill you when he's not physically attracted to you. Those who are, will pay more attn to your pleasure, so this way it's a win-win... Right darling? ;)

 

This thing must try then can know if he want me or not mah.

I wonder if that hot guy was you, how would you react to me and that fem guy?

 

It is like everytime I sure lose to the fem guy.

 

 

Usually the aggressive tops who catch me are not hot guys but at least average looking only. But they like to fuck me better than the hot guys so still very worth it. 

 

Don't know why they are so aggressive and very few are like them.

 

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Yes I will accept even if its not a blind date.

 

I guess TS your question is for blind dates or just booty calls wherein you don't know who you will meet-up.

Usually , IMO before you have a real date, you already met this person and asked him out.

 

A date is just date, no strings attached yet.

You can meet-up and know them, be open-minded.

 

The tricky part is after a date, if you don't like them (sissy, effeminate, etc) as partners or even friends,  just say that this would not work or just say goodbye and don't entertain calls from them if your not interested. Thank him for even meeting you.

 

Dates are there to meet-up and know different people, you do not have to sign a lifetime contract yet.
 

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For me I personally would date people like that

Especially those loud gays who dress loudly , talk loudly , wear female boots , spags and even hot pants .

Oh please if that's the case I would rather date a straight women

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I think the traditional gender roles need not apply in a homosexual context. It is not called HOMO for nothing. Live by your own rules to who you like. 

 

I think there is this whole identity crisis about being masculine means certain things - i.e. chop wood, hunt, bring home the meat etc., and if you behave otherwise, you are a sissy. 

 

If you really like the guy, so what if his behaviour is sissy? Does it bother you? If it does, then you need to date someone else.

Love. 

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I think the traditional gender roles need not apply in a homosexual context. It is not called HOMO for nothing. Live by your own rules to who you like.

I think there is this whole identity crisis about being masculine means certain things - i.e. chop wood, hunt, bring home the meat etc., and if you behave otherwise, you are a sissy.

If you really like the guy, so what if his behaviour is sissy? Does it bother you? If it does, then you need to date someone else.

Well said. If you truly like someone, doesn't matter if you have to be the man or the woman, isn't it?

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I think it is internalised homophobia. Think of it this way. For some gay men to date someone who is more effeminate, will only draw attention to themselves that they are gay, especially if they are closeted. Hence, they want to pass off as straight by being with someone who is super butch in mannerisms and appearance. The problem is with themselves. Not who they are dating. 

Love. 

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Many gay men are turned on by butch men and can't be turned on by effeminate men, what to do? I say to each his own. Everyone don't have to be the same.

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