All About Hiv / Aids Discussion + I Suspect I Might Have Hiv Symptoms + Hiv Medication Prep + I Tested Positive (Compiled)

[abang]

I may sound naive but I do want to know more about the welfare of an HIV+ person.

 

 

Some questions about medication:

1.   What are the names of the medication a HIV+ person takes on a daily basis?

2.   Are there side-effects?

3.   Is it cheaper to get from local hospitals or get from overseas?

 

Some questions about sexual encounters:

1.    Should an HIV+ person abstain from all forms of sex - no kissing, no oral, no anal for fear of passing the virus to others?

        What's left will only be hugging and handjobs?

2.     If an HIV+ person keeps his status from prospective sexual partners, is it an offence here in Singapore?

3.     What are the chances of cross-contamination between 2 HIV+ persons if they so decided to have sex together?

 

 

 

[sensnip]

A good number of people on this forum are quite careless when it comes to raw sex and raw bj. To them, its like a personal trophy on their shelf each time they suck a new cock or fuck a new butt and they throw caution to the wind. 

 

I know what I have to say here will not be popular with a lot of people, to which I do extend my apologies but this is my personal observation. Of those people who contacts me privately, this attitude prevails. One of the first thing that they want to do is to suck me or to fuck me. When I say no because of safety reasons, they turn cool as cucumber. When I push them further to ask why are they not concerned about safety and safe sex, they ignore and totally disappears from communication without reply, which makes me come to the conclusion that they are aware of the risks of their actions but would rather turn a blind eye to it, all because for a moment's enjoyment and victory over another person.

 

If this attitude continues unabated, there are certainly a lot of worries for this community. Some would say, to each his own. Sure, I have no problems with that, just that when it happens, you only have yourself to blame and nobody else. Ultimately, we have ourselves to be answerable to. Why I am saying this is because I am also aware that there are a number of HIV+ persons out there who are very bitter over their own situation and have turned revengeful. They feel that the world has wronged them and that since someone else had passed the disease to them, they have the same right to pass it on to someone else too and for that, they go round having unsafe sex indiscriminately. You, and I, surely do not want to fall prey to this revenge and bitterness.

[Roy2017]

I wanted to form a group  for hiv poz  .when l posted anyone want too meet for coffee but how just look at this guys behave. I just ask anyone care to meet up. At least reply something but nothing not even a yes or no. If u made a effort to get them the hiv poz to be together but their ego and self proud they live life as if as it those negative for hiv can be gay also will not accept them and will not fall for them. But l can tell  u they will avoid at all cost.

This happen to the guy who is charged who is lonely and need fren to talk , to spend time or to make love n contact went into disastrous consequence .

Look at  guys here in chat group all are in pain but no one can understand them the suffering inside them. which is a self creation and looking for sympathy and understanding.   

At the end race religious belief all gone for hiv poz cos only the positive hiv wil undertand each other.

How to made them undertand this. U still need us as hiv to be with hiv. Correct me lf l am wrong.j Just a personnel opinion. No hard feeling .

[Guest Guest]

On ‎8‎/‎14‎/‎2018 at 9:50 PM, Roy2017 said:

I wanted to form a group  for hiv poz  .when l posted anyone want too meet for coffee but how just look at this guys behave. I just ask anyone care to meet up. At least reply something but nothing not even a yes or no. If u made a effort to get them the hiv poz to be together but their ego and self proud they live life as if as it those negative for hiv can be gay also will not accept them and will not fall for them. But l can tell  u they will avoid at all cost.

This happen to the guy who is charged who is lonely and need fren to talk , to spend time or to make love n contact went into disastrous consequence .

Look at  guys here in chat group all are in pain but no one can understand them the suffering inside them. which is a self creation and looking for sympathy and understanding.   

At the end race religious belief all gone for hiv poz cos only the positive hiv wil undertand each other.

How to made them undertand this. U still need us as hiv to be with hiv. Correct me lf l am wrong.j Just a personnel opinion. No hard feeling .

 

Maybe HIV is still a taboo disease and nobody wants to admit to having it, much less "meet for coffee"? There's no need to take it so personally. Even if you are lonely, there are many other avenues of social platform to mingle around, even if nobody wants to meet face to face.

[Roy2017]

Well there is no right or wrong.So call maybe term used have to be look correctly like a quick way of giving a excuse to denied it . For some might be a everyday day words to use to comfort themselves. A lot of avenues one example is blowingwind having to say that one also still barking out loud in this platform.just go and read all those comment made by that individual who prefer to dominate any issue.  by anyone prefer to comment. For some reason or so look at pink dot people who are face to face just see how happy there are shouting for their satisfaction. Stop for once barking at the wrong tree.

[Guest Advise]

On July 7, 2018 at 2:31 AM, abang said:

I may sound naive but I do want to know more about the welfare of an HIV+ person.

 

Some questions about medication:

1.   What are the names of the medication a HIV+ person takes on a daily basis?

2.   Are there side-effects?

3.   Is it cheaper to get from local hospitals or get from overseas?

 

Some questions about sexual encounters:

1.    Should an HIV+ person abstain from all forms of sex - no kissing, no oral, no anal for fear of passing the virus to others?

        What's left will only be hugging and handjobs?

2.     If an HIV+ person keeps his status from prospective sexual partners, is it an offence here in Singapore?

3.     What are the chances of cross-contamination between 2 HIV+ persons if they so decided to have sex together?

 

I don't know the answers to your first three questions. Hopefully somebody else will respond to those. I know a bit about the second three.

 

1. The first things an HIV+ person need to do, before getting back in the sexual arena, are to get psychological counseling and medical treatment to put himself in a healthy frame of mind and get on medication to reduce his viral load as low as possible as well as lower his status down to undetectable. That makes it very difficult to pass the virus on to others but, in my opinion, the maximum precautions should still be taken to be as safe as possible. Most scientists agree that HIV can't be passed on through saliva, so kissing is okay as long as neither partner has cuts, ulcers, or sores in his mouth, gums, tongue, cheeks, or lips. Anal should definitely be done with condoms each and every time, unless the negative partner insists otherwise, and goes on PrEP for the maximum protection against infection. In a relationship, condoms + PrEP is the safest option, but I can't tell other people how to live their lives. Hugs, handjobs, and frottage are wonderful regardless of status.

 

2. It is illegal for someone who is HIV+ to not disclose their status before having sex. If this is found out, and proven, the HIV+ person can be sent to prison.

 

3. If two HIV+ people have unprotected sex, and either one of their statuses is not undetectable, there is a chance of cross-contamination, which means someone could end up with two different strains of HIV in his body, and his medical treatment will become much more difficult as well as much more expensive.

 

That's what I can offer, based on what I have read over the years, but please talk to a professional for the best answers to your questions.

[abang]

The best is not to have sex at all...Just watch porn..

[Guest @Club]

@abang is right, as he always is, celibacy is the proper way to fight sexually transmitted diseases especially if you are not sure with your partner.

[Steve5380]

On 7/7/2018 at 1:31 AM, abang said:

I may sound naive but I do want to know more about the welfare of an HIV+ person.

 

 

Some questions about medication:

1.   What are the names of the medication a HIV+ person takes on a daily basis?

2.   Are there side-effects?

3.   Is it cheaper to get from local hospitals or get from overseas?

 

Some questions about sexual encounters:

1.    Should an HIV+ person abstain from all forms of sex - no kissing, no oral, no anal for fear of passing the virus to others?

        What's left will only be hugging and handjobs?

2.     If an HIV+ person keeps his status from prospective sexual partners, is it an offence here in Singapore?

3.     What are the chances of cross-contamination between 2 HIV+ persons if they so decided to have sex together?

 

 

You sound naive.  Questions like these are justified for a young teenager, but not for a 50+ year old adult.

The Internet is full of reliable sources of information about HIV.

To get answers to your questions you only need to be able to read.

[Guest Proof]

4 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

You sound naive.  Questions like these are justified for a young teenager, but not for a 50+ year old adult.

The Internet is full of reliable sources of information about HIV.

To get answers to your questions you only need to be able to read.

 

This unnecessarily mean and sarcastic reply to a post from more than a month ago is proof of what some other guests have been claiming here recently. You are not a nice or considerate person, just a troublemaker with a condescending attitude towards posters on Blowing Wind, the vast majority of whom are Singaporean and Asian. The next reply will probably give another excuse that you are argumentative or some other nonsense, but this is a very serious topic, and there is no room for gratuitous argumentativeness in these replies.

 

Regardless of Abang's age, there is no limit for people to discuss HIV issues, as well as ways to stay safe. Furthermore, there are plenty of teenagers reading Blowing Wind, and seeing the answers provided in this thread could help protect their health and save their lives. There is some good advice given above and I encourage the members and guests to keep the good exchange of information going. Simply typing 'HIV' into Google can return an overwhelming amount of information. Here we can all reduce it down to laymen's terms.

[abang]

Ignore that comment. 

I really appreciate real answers and not silly bloody ones.

It just show how ignorant he is.

Case closed with him.

[Steve5380]

3 hours ago, abang said:

Ignore that comment. 

I really appreciate real answers and not silly bloody ones.

It just show how ignorant he is.

Case closed with him.

 

I stand by my post.  You sound naive.  And very petty when you spew out this stupidity: "how ignorant he is".

 

Instead of writing "I do want to know more about... etc.", like an old man like you could be ignorant of such basic things, you should have written:

 

"Here are questions a young person ready to start an active sex life should ask"

 

and if I misinterpreted your post all you need to explain is that your questions were rhetoric, not your own ignorance. Your first three  questions only apply to those who have contracted HIV, and the answers have relevance and are provided  when they seek professional treatment.

 

I am not ignorant at all about HIV.  I lived for 21 years with my bf who was HIV+, and I have guided him and helped him with it.  I know much about protection, the basics and the fantasies, how to live well with HIV, many of the dozens of medications and their side effects, etc.  And in response to your wanting to know more about the welfare of HIV+ persons, I can say without hesitation that that this welfare can be quite good provided the person seeks adequate treatment.  My bf lived nearly 30 years with the virus, and he could have lived many, many more years with it.  Had he not had HIV, I would not have liked to know anything about HIV medications, treatment.  Not having HIV, the important thing is to know its effects and how to protect against it, and not fall for alarmist theories.

 

Instead of attacking whoever says something critical of your posts, you should reflect and accept the criticism.  Don't be so petty.  And if you have the need to lash out at something, do it against your government, which having so much money is unwilling to give free HIV treatment to the relative few on your small island who are infected with it, because in their sanctimoniousness and that of their supporters they like to equate HIV with SIN!

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Edited August 23, 2018 by Steve5380

[Steve5380]

On 8/14/2018 at 8:50 AM, Roy2017 said:

I wanted to form a group  for hiv poz  .when l posted anyone want too meet for coffee but how just look at this guys behave. I just ask anyone care to meet up. At least reply something but nothing not even a yes or no. If u made a effort to get them the hiv poz to be together but their ego and self proud they live life as if as it those negative for hiv can be gay also will not accept them and will not fall for them. But l can tell  u they will avoid at all cost.

 

 

On 8/19/2018 at 6:26 PM, Guest Guest said:

 

Maybe HIV is still a taboo disease and nobody wants to admit to having it, much less "meet for coffee"? There's no need to take it so personally. Even if you are lonely, there are many other avenues of social platform to mingle around, even if nobody wants to meet face to face.

 

Roy2017, yours is an excellent idea.  Going back to my HIV+ bf,  he socialized with a group of HIV+ people that gathered once a week for dinner in a big room at a local church,  and a kind lady whose son had died of HIV sponsored the meetings.  I went often with him,  and I met the nicest people who shared a common interest to stay well, all down-to-earth, all becoming friends. The meetings included presentations by experts who talked about the issues relevant to people with HIV: optimum nutrition, necessary tests, medications, protection of others, etc.

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Edited August 23, 2018 by Steve5380

[Steve5380]

7 hours ago, Guest Proof said:

 

 Simply typing 'HIV' into Google can return an overwhelming amount of information. Here we can all reduce it down to laymen's terms.

 

You don't research a complex subject on the internet by just typing a single word into google.  Instead, you type in a phrase. 

For example, typing  "Is HIV transmitted through oral sex"  will give you a wealth of information,  all about transmission of HIV and through oral sex in particular.  All you need to do is read this information, and the terms used there should become familiar to any "layman" interested in prevention of HIV.

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Edited August 23, 2018 by Steve5380

[Guest Proof]

Steve, please get a grip on yourself, and stop the inappropriate arguing in this thread. There was no reason to respond to Abang in the manner that you did. You are old enough to know better. But as predicted you are now trying to play innocent and act as though people are victimizing you when they refuse to take your rudeness lying down. You also keep trying to make everything about you, and how much you claim to know, and how much you think you have the answers to every topic on Blowing Wind.

 

Step back from the keyboard for a while. Have a 24-hour break from posting, because almost every time you type something lately, you are lashing out at somebody. I understand that you suffered a loss, and you are a lonely person, and your life has changed a lot from what you previously enjoyed. But the posters on Blowing Wind did not cause that. It is very possible that the way you are behaving is a subconscious form of dealing with your grief, but now you are hurting other people, although just mentally.

 

Stress can push people over the edge, and it would be a good idea for you to either talk to a counselor, or take up another hobby in which you interact and socialize with real people. As a Geriatric Keyboard Warrior, you are not treating other posters as humans, but as villains to be attacked. Sort of like an old age version of a video game player. As a result, many of your posts are needlessly harsh, or very self-centered. Take a deep breath and stop being condescendingly defensive when others feel wronged.

[Steve5380]

"Guest Proof"...  why are you a "guest" and not a registered user?  Why are you hiding behind some anonymity?  

 

This gives me the clue that you don't have good intentions. You got into a conversation with your disguise apparently defending some guest but a purpose of attacking me.  Your first post to me was not enough  for you, now you continue in the same tone.  If you think that I am wrong, then argue my wrongness.  If you think I post too much...  well.  tough luck to you, there are no restrictions here.  When I talk about MY experience I think that it can be useful to others, and this is the reason I post it.  Earlier you criticized my suggestion to look up the Internet.  And I told you the right way to do it.  Maybe this fueled your resentment and you are feeling wronged.  But I think it is worth to let readers know that the Internet is a valuable source of information, if used properly.  And who is making himself a victim?

 

I am indeed posting a lot and this distracts my thoughts during this the darkest time in my life.  I see this as positive,  I provide good information and some helpful discussions. But your blabber that you try to make sanctimonious helps no one.  I haven't search the whole site for "Guest Proof", which can be anyone, but I haven't seen anything of value you have posted.  Until then, please don't criticize those who contribute.

[Roy2017]

I have to mentioned this steve there is a mentally sick person is playing around with many diffrent name.  Hiding dare not stand up as a man oop wrong defination wheater he likes or not the prick is still hanging there bloody asshole.Shame on him a double personality sick tn the brain. Stop answering or question him. If u read all the remarks he written you would know that this need mental help.

[drifter]

Worried shit. I had not been having any form of sex other than jerk off with other guys for the last 3 years after my broke up.  Yesterday I hooked up with a guy at the Swimming pool and followed to his place. I told him I’m only into JO and he said he mostly do JO too, and when he was like playing with my nipples and I closed my eyes and suddenly he was like sucking me. I stopped him and told him I needed leave. Scared shit I know STDs and HIV can spread to the oral receiver as well...

[Steve5380]

5 hours ago, Roy2017 said:

I have to mentioned this steve there is a mentally sick person is playing around with many diffrent name.  Hiding dare not stand up as a man oop wrong defination wheater he likes or not the prick is still hanging there bloody asshole.Shame on him a double personality sick tn the brain. Stop answering or question him. If u read all the remarks he written you would know that this need mental help.

 

Thank you Roy2017.  Something is wrong with this individual, and for him to be SICK is the kindest way to put it.

[lovehandle]

 

 

[keyboard]

Saw the video online and transcribed it and before post... video is up there. Transcript as below for the above video.

 

//

You know when I was 17, I came out to my mum that I'm gay and obviously she cried and one of the things she said then was that you're going to die of AIDS.

 

THIS IS AVIN, HIV REDEFINED LIFE FOR HIM.

 

Well I contracted HIV about 7-8 years ago and then I was only having sex with just one person. We've known each other for a long time so there's a certain level of trust in there and that's why we didn't use a condom. But because drugs were introduced and he ended up having sex with other people and that's how HIV was introduced into the relationship and that's how I contracted it.

 

So before I contracted HIV, I was already working for Action for AIDS and it was at one of the trainings while teaching them how to use the it in front of everybody that my test kit was positive. Because at that point, there were no symptoms of the usual signs that say that I might have HIV. Right after the training, I knew what I needed to do and it was to get the confirmation test. I went to get it done at one of the other anonymous clinic, it was too shameful for me to get tested at our own clinic.

 

I knew who I contracted HIV from.

 

But there was no need for me to confront them because I was never angry at them. What if I knew who gave me... it wouldn't have made a difference. I would still have to live with the fact that I have HIV.

 

Living with HIV and intimacy... it's a tricky thing to navigate. I know a lot of people who find it difficult to be intimate, not just sex-wise, be intimate with anyone. They feel like they are constantly hiding a part of them from their friends and they can never be completely themselves.

 

It was many many years before I could tell my mum that I have HIV. I would leave my medication bottles here and there to hint. She's very sharp so she'll ask me what they are. So one day... I couldn't deal with it anymore. Awkwardly went into the room, told her that, "You know, remember that bottle you asked me about the other day? It's actually my own." She broke down, she was very sad and I felt like I was disappointing her again.

 

So do I feel guilty when I have sex with someone else?

 

Every time actually, especially in the earlier days when I was first diagnosed. There's always a lot of worry, even when you've taken enough precaution. But there's still that nagging 'what if'. What if I transmit HIV? And he's someone that I love so dearly and I don't want to put him in a position where he has to deal with this. I don't think it's something that will ever go away that easily that guilt or that questioning. It's always going to be there.

 

Love and being in a relationship sometimes seems like a very far off thing. I mean despite having a lot of friends and being surrounded by people, finding a partner for life is completely different. And having someone who can accept the fact that I have HIV is a little bit stressful. Sometimes I feel like maybe it's just easier if I don't date anybody and to shut off from everyone else.

 

I mean something as pure as love is somehow perverted now because if you look at how the Chinese words for AIDS is Ai Zi Bing. So it's a disease that's from love. And it was love for my partner that I contracted HIV and that's how most people contract HIV as well. But at the end of the day we just want to be loved and accepted.

 

I think one of the major misconceptions we still have today is that people don't understand how successful or how good treatment is. If an accident happens, for example if the condom were to break, there really is nothing to fear because medication is so successful that there are just so few copies of the virus, he or she is not infectious anymore.

 

Today I lead a normal if not... if not a better life. And HIV medication is so affordable and there are so many ways where we can access treatment and care. Nobody should have to die of HIV or AIDS today.

//

[Guest Guest]

16 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

 

Thank you Roy2017.  Something is wrong with this individual, and for him to be SICK is the kindest way to put it.

 

You didn't realise that YOU are the sick man being referred to? LOL!

 

On ‎8‎/‎23‎/‎2018 at 10:52 AM, Steve5380 said:

You sound naive.  Questions like these are justified for a young teenager, but not for a 50+ year old adult.

 

On ‎8‎/‎24‎/‎2018 at 3:50 AM, Steve5380 said:

I am indeed posting a lot and this distracts my thoughts during this the darkest time in my life.  I see this as positive,  I provide good information and some helpful discussions. But your blabber that you try to make sanctimonious helps no one.  I haven't search the whole site for "Guest Proof", which can be anyone, but I haven't seen anything of value you have posted.  Until then, please don't criticize those who contribute.

 

Nobody gives a damn about the darkest time you are going through. Whatever dark times you have, do not give you any rights to call someone a teenager when he is already 50+ years old.  How can such shaming be "positive"? How can telling anyone to "Google" be your form of "good information and helpful discussion". You have your dark times and, guess what, we have ours too. Just because you are going through a rough patch doesn't mean you can go around throwing the stones in your path at others. If you think your actions is going to win you any goodwill or any sympathy, you are damn wrong because it is only hatred which you have gathered, as well as lots of wonder as to how your dead bf can lived with a major loser like you. At 70+ years old, you should know better than this!

 

So if you think you are here to provide any type of support system to anyone here, I can assure you that your endless argument is not doing anything good. And in fact, if you want to continue arguing, I will be happy to continue this argument with you, and bring you through darker times by dragging, not just you, but your dead bf as well, through an endless thread of shit stirring together.  

 

[Guest Be Respectful]

1 hour ago, Guest Guest said:

You didn't realise that YOU are the sick man being referred to? LOL!

 

Nobody gives a damn about the darkest time you are going through. Whatever dark times you have, do not give you any rights to call someone a teenager when he is already 50+ years old.  How can such shaming be "positive"? How can telling anyone to "Google" be your form of "good information and helpful discussion". You have your dark times and, guess what, we have ours too. Just because you are going through a rough patch doesn't mean you can go around throwing the stones in your path at others. If you think your actions is going to win you any goodwill or any sympathy, you are damn wrong because it is only hatred which you have gathered, as well as lots of wonder as to how your dead bf can lived with a major loser like you. At 70+ years old, you should know better than this!

 

So if you think you are here to provide any type of support system to anyone here, I can assure you that your endless argument is not doing anything good. And in fact, if you want to continue arguing, I will be happy to continue this argument with you, and bring you through darker times by dragging, not just you, but your dead bf as well, through an endless thread of shit stirring together.

 

He is self-centered, egotistical, arrogant, disrespectful, and bitter -- but please take the arguing elsewhere -- and don't cause this thread to be locked by the moderators because of his disruptive vibes. It contains too much important information about keeping ourselves healthy and should not be derailed. Thanks.

[Steve5380]

It seems as if the multiple "Guests" here don't agree with each other...  but it is possible that they are all the same SICK guy who Roy2017 described.

He doesn't realize that I don't care for his sickness, even if he wants to drag me and my dead bf together through his sh..t.   What he is hurting is this thread, that should be informative about HIV in a model of the function of BW,  not a battlefield.   Maybe moderators could move it to the Members Lounge where disruptive "guests" can read but not post?

[Guest Outraged]

The worry about people intentionally trying to spread HIV and other diseases can never be eliminated right now! My friend said that recently at a sauna, he was lying on top of a guy frotting (non-penetrative humping) with his dick between the guys legs, and his dick occasionally rubbing against the guy's hole as they grinded! Then the guy started trying to pull my friend's dick into his hole! My friend said he doesn't do bareback! The guy didn't reply and kept wiggling his ass to pull in the head! My friend repeated again that he only fucks with a condom! The guy then replied that he doesn't get fucked, he simply likes to feel the head in the shallow part of his hole, perhaps not aware of how risky that is? Once somebody's dick enters any part of the ass, regardless of what you personally call the activity, that is fucking raw and puts you as risk for sexually transmitted diseases, including HIV, especially if the top leaks precum or even loses control and shoots cum into the bottom's asshole! Is this bottom careless, stupid, or malicious?

[Guest Save yourself]

All these self-centred malicious people.

[Guest Save yourself]

Horrible! All these malicious people !

[kimlo777]

On 8/14/2018 at 9:50 PM, Roy2017 said:

I wanted to form a group  for hiv poz  .when l posted anyone want too meet for coffee but how just look at this guys behave. I just ask anyone care to meet up. At least reply something but nothing not even a yes or no. If u made a effort to get them the hiv poz to be together but their ego and self proud they live life as if as it those negative for hiv can be gay also will not accept them and will not fall for them. But l can tell  u they will avoid at all cost.

This happen to the guy who is charged who is lonely and need fren to talk , to spend time or to make love n contact went into disastrous consequence .

Look at  guys here in chat group all are in pain but no one can understand them the suffering inside them. which is a self creation and looking for sympathy and understanding.   

At the end race religious belief all gone for hiv poz cos only the positive hiv wil undertand each other.

How to made them undertand this. U still need us as hiv to be with hiv. Correct me lf l am wrong.j Just a personnel opinion. No hard feeling .

I have worked with marginalised people for more than 30 years and one thing I have learnt is that the marginalised prefer not to mix with their own.  There is a need in them to 'normalise' their situation so of course their choice would be to mingle with so-called 'normal' people. Likewise the group of people with AIDS whom I work with.  Few want to be seen in public with other people with AIDS for fear of exposure of their identities.  No person with HIV/AIDS wants to shout out to the whole world that they are HIV+.  This invisible disease is very strongly guarded from public notice and knowledge because of the heavy stigma that comes with it.

[Roy2017]

I totally agreed with you as u can see there some who is looking around but sadly to say no respond .lt is a pity but a reality to face. But to me l think if anyone out there need someone to talk or mingle around always welcome.

But there are some bring this kind of behaviour or ego to self destruct. If you  are Hiv you are always a HIV. It cannot be erased or ignored.

[Steve5380]

On 11/8/2018 at 7:41 PM, kimlo777 said:

I have worked with marginalised people for more than 30 years and one thing I have learnt is that the marginalised prefer not to mix with their own.  There is a need in them to 'normalise' their situation so of course their choice would be to mingle with so-called 'normal' people. Likewise the group of people with AIDS whom I work with.  Few want to be seen in public with other people with AIDS for fear of exposure of their identities.  No person with HIV/AIDS wants to shout out to the whole world that they are HIV+.  This invisible disease is very strongly guarded from public notice and knowledge because of the heavy stigma that comes with it.

 

What you describe, could it be the consequence of homosexuality being such a taboo in SG and the place being so small?  Here in the US gays are not advertising their HIV+ status either, but among themselves there are few reservations and no rejection.  Support groups in the US are quite common, about many subjects, starting with Alcoholics Anonymous.  The group I frequented with my bf is small and does not advertise but exists by word-of-mouth. It is welcomed in a Methodist church and is supported by volunteers.

[Steve5380]

On 11/8/2018 at 10:31 PM, Roy2017 said:

 

But there are some bring this kind of behaviour or ego to self destruct. If you  are Hiv you are always a HIV. It cannot be erased or ignored.

 

Well...  today it can be nearly ignored.  Treatment is improving,  a modality of replacing oral medication with a monthly injection is in trials now.  And "always HIV" is not what the experts say.  One could be cynical and be of the opinion that drug manufacturers and doctors make so much money off HIV treatment that the last thing they want is a vaccine and a cure, but a lot of work is being done and there is hope.  Here is one of many articles about the state of the art:

 

https://labiotech.eu/features/hiv-cure-2020-research-review/

[kimlo777]

4 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

 

What you describe, could it be the consequence of homosexuality being such a taboo in SG and the place being so small?  Here in the US gays are not advertising their HIV+ status either, but among themselves there are few reservations and no rejection.  Support groups in the US are quite common, about many subjects, starting with Alcoholics Anonymous.  The group I frequented with my bf is small and does not advertise but exists by word-of-mouth. It is welcomed in a Methodist church and is supported by volunteers.

your observations are accurate and in many sense correct.  HIV/AIDS is more often than not a consequence of a lifestyle that society frowns on ie gay lifestyle, promiscuity or substance abuse.  Hence the heavy stigma of the disease. 

[kjboy]

 

 

Free HIV test in this coming Saturday.

Anyone keen? I'm going.

[Guest Sister's_HIV]

I've a sister who has been living with HIV. She got the disease from her deceased husband who passed away from the same illness. She hasn't done Complete Blood Count (CBC) tests for years since she married her second husband who doesn't believe in western medicine, hence the husband influenced her to even a complete ignorant that she is.  I tried to advise the husband and her about the importance of regular Complete Blood Count (CBC) tests to determine if she should take ARV drugs but only being told to mind my own business. What to do when facing this issue? Any advice appreciated.

[Steve5380]

18 hours ago, Guest Sister's_HIV said:

I've a sister who has been living with HIV. She got the disease from her deceased husband who passed away from the same illness. She hasn't done Complete Blood Count (CBC) tests for years since she married her second husband who doesn't believe in western medicine, hence the husband influenced her to even a complete ignorant that she is.  I tried to advise the husband and her about the importance of regular Complete Blood Count (CBC) tests to determine if she should take ARV drugs but only being told to mind my own business. What to do when facing this issue? Any advice appreciated.

 

It seems that in Singapore, the Infectious Disease Act forces any medical practitioner or lab to report patients who have an infectious disease like HIV.  So if your sister gets tested, the test may reveal that she has HIV and she will have to receive treatment.  You may double check this,  which could be a reason your sister doesn't want to be tested.  If this is the case, you could take her on a short trip to Bangkok to have her tested there,  and if the virus count is very high and/or the CD4 count is very low she could start treatment there at a lower cost than in SG.

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Edited January 10, 2019 by Steve5380

[Guest Sister's_HIV]

7 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

 

It seems that in Singapore, the Infectious Disease Act forces any medical practitioner or lab to report patients who have an infectious disease like HIV.  So if your sister gets tested, the test may reveal that she has HIV and she will have to receive treatment.  You may double check this,  which could be a reason your sister doesn't want to be tested.  If this is the case, you could take her on a short trip to Bangkok to have her tested there,  and if the virus count is very high and/or the CD4 count is very low she could start treatment there at a lower cost than in SG.

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Thanks for the advice, she's living in a developing country where there is no such The Infectious Diseases Act (IDA) so a person diagnosed with HIV is not required to undergo counseling at a government-recommended healthcare institution. She chose not to seek western medical treatment more likely heavily influenced by her husband's backward mindset so I think not much I can do in this case.

[Steve5380]

1 hour ago, Guest Sister's_HIV said:

 

Thanks for the advice, she's living in a developing country where there is no such The Infectious Diseases Act (IDA) so a person diagnosed with HIV is not required to undergo counseling at a government-recommended healthcare institution. She chose not to seek western medical treatment more likely heavily influenced by her husband's backward mindset so I think not much I can do in this case.

 

I wonder why people make such a strong distinction of a "western" medicine.  Shouldn't medicine be medicine?  Would your sister reject "western" cars, "western" cell phones,  "western" computers?   If a person has an infected tooth, would she reject antibiotics and maybe a root-canal treatment because it is "western"?  Same with kidney problems, liver problems, heart problems that require "western" surgery?   I know people who use Chinese medicine a lot,  but only as far as it can go, not as a replacement for "western" medical science.  If your brother-in-law would develop some ugly STD like syphilis, would he reject the antibiotics to treat it and instead drink some herb tea?  Really??

[Guest Sister's_HIV]

4 minutes ago, Steve5380 said:

 

I wonder why people make such a strong distinction of a "western" medicine.  Shouldn't medicine be medicine?  Would your sister reject "western" cars, "western" cell phones,  "western" computers?   If a person has an infected tooth, would she reject antibiotics and maybe a root-canal treatment because it is "western"?  Same with kidney problems, liver problems, heart problems that require "western" surgery?   I know people who use Chinese medicine a lot,  but only as far as it can go, not as a replacement for "western" medical science.  If your brother-in-law would develop some ugly STD like syphilis, would he reject the antibiotics to treat it and instead drink some herb tea?  Really??

 

I guess probably there is a difference that is why really hard to change people who have such mindset. I'm not sure how the guy dealt with diseases that you mentioned as I don't really like to be told mind your own business.

[Steve5380]

39 minutes ago, Guest Sister's_HIV said:

 

I guess probably there is a difference that is why really hard to change people who have such mindset. I'm not sure how the guy dealt with diseases that you mentioned as I don't really like to be told mind your own business.

 

To be told "mind your own business" is ugly and offensive.  Fortunately you have a good counterargument: "she is MY SISTER".   Your sister IS your business, and this cannot be argued against. You may not want to get into a fight with your sister's husband, but at least you have a solid argument to keep insisting that she gets a checkup.  You can at least inquire from her the reason she doesn't want to seek treatment, and this will help you decide if and how you can help.

 

It is predicted that shortly there will be available an injection to treat HIV that can be administered once a month instead of having to take daily a cocktail of medicament.  Hopefully in the country your sister is living there is treatment for HIV that is covered by the government or insurance and the economic burden of a treatment is no so high, if this is another concern of your sister.

[Guest Sister's_HIV]

18 minutes ago, Steve5380 said:

 

To be told "mind your own business" is ugly and offensive.  Fortunately you have a good counterargument: "she is MY SISTER".   Your sister IS your business, and this cannot be argued against. You may not want to get into a fight with your sister's husband, but at least you have a solid argument to keep insisting that she gets a checkup.  You can at least inquire from her the reason she doesn't want to seek treatment, and this will help you decide if and how you can help.

 

It is predicted that shortly there will be available an injection to treat HIV that can be administered once a month instead of having to take daily a cocktail of medicament.  Hopefully in the country your sister is living there is treatment for HIV that is covered by the government or insurance and the economic burden of a treatment is no so high, if this is another concern of your sister.

 

Just let you know even though we were once siblings especially female siblings who already married off, in our culture my sister has became his full responsibility. Also as a full time mother and have to take care of her own and step children, it is expected she will be sided or even listen to her traditional minded husband. I've asked and provided information about HIV to her, it went "silent" and she doesn't even want to speak to me anymore as her brother unless necessary, this indicates even in the future there will be superior HIV treatment with less side effects, I don't think I can change their mindset in this case.

[Guest research - take action]

On 7/7/2018 at 2:31 PM, abang said:

I may sound naive but I do want to know more about the welfare of an HIV+ person.

 

 

Some questions about medication:

1.   What are the names of the medication a HIV+ person takes on a daily basis?

2.   Are there side-effects?

3.   Is it cheaper to get from local hospitals or get from overseas?

 

Some questions about sexual encounters:

1.    Should an HIV+ person abstain from all forms of sex - no kissing, no oral, no anal for fear of passing the virus to others?

        What's left will only be hugging and handjobs?

2.     If an HIV+ person keeps his status from prospective sexual partners, is it an offence here in Singapore?

3.     What are the chances of cross-contamination between 2 HIV+ persons if they so decided to have sex together?

 

 

 

 

On 8/23/2018 at 10:52 AM, Steve5380 said:

 

You sound naive.  Questions like these are justified for a young teenager, but not for a 50+ year old adult.

The Internet is full of reliable sources of information about HIV.

To get answers to your questions you only need to be able to read.

 

On 8/23/2018 at 6:36 PM, abang said:

Ignore that comment. 

I really appreciate real answers and not silly bloody ones.

It just show how ignorant he is.

Case closed with him.

 

Actually I found the response from Steve5380 not outstanding or even vastly offensive.

Yes, maybe in the Asian context it is a bit blunt but he is from Cowboy country so have a bit understanding for his cultural background.

I can't more than agree with Steve. Abang mohon maaf tetapi ada banyak informasi di internet kira HIV.

You just need to go to any US or UK website from any gay organisation and you will find (most) the responses to your questions.

If Steve had not done it, I would have responded the same manner.

 

http://www.aidsmap.com/hiv-basics

 

http://www.aidsmap.com/topics

 

This websites seems quite exhaustive and in English language.

 

Question 3 is not covered but as drugs are centrally controlled by states, I m not sure if you can just bring.

 

[Steve5380]

2 hours ago, Guest research - take action said:

 

Actually I found the response from Steve5380 not outstanding or even vastly offensive.

 

 

Thank you for supporting my answer to Abang.  That exchange in July was the latest he posted.

Does anyone know what happened with Abang?

[Steve5380]

9 hours ago, Guest Sister's_HIV said:

 

Just let you know even though we were once siblings especially female siblings who already married off, in our culture my sister has became his full responsibility. Also as a full time mother and have to take care of her own and step children, it is expected she will be sided or even listen to her traditional minded husband. I've asked and provided information about HIV to her, it went "silent" and she doesn't even want to speak to me anymore as her brother unless necessary, this indicates even in the future there will be superior HIV treatment with less side effects, I don't think I can change their mindset in this case.

 

Hopefully your sister will live many years without side effects of HIV.  As long as there is no other damage, the impaired immune system recovers after starting treatment.   One still wonders if her husband does not care that his wife has HIV...  maybe he does not believe HIV exists, that it is an invention by the drug manufacturers, blah blah blah...  or maybe he has HIV too?

[lovehandle]

seriously all should watch 

even though the era has changed (by Boo JunFeng)
applauses for the volunteers and healthcare workers!

 

Edited January 22, 2019 by lovehandle

[Guest guest]

I wonder will a HIV carrier has difficulty in finding a job?

[Guest Guest]

On 1/22/2019 at 12:34 PM, -Ignored- said:

seriously all should watch 

even though the era has changed (by Boo JunFeng)
applauses for the volunteers and healthcare workers!

 

 

THE real life Iris is below , that I knew while volunteering in AFA. 

 

A strong and sincere lady with inner strength and a ready smile and a listening ear. 

There are many others volunteers, buddies, supporters from working professionals , a family of supporters and friends.

 

 

[Guest Guest]

BE a volunteer in AFA, u will meet and form lifelong friendships with a bunch a funny, weird ,cookie, at times fun , at times serious, but always discovering new things and about human spirit to overcome by th ose challenged by HIV and Aids. 

 

HELPING  someone cope with HIV and AIDS will be rewarding experience.

 

I HAVE volunteered before and made firm friends.

[Guest Anonymous HIV test..my 2nd]

I'm NOT Singaporean, I went for a Anonymous HIV test back in 1 year ago.. Result was Negative (I didn't take any HIV drugs)

But I'm now thinking to go for my 2nd test to reduce own doubts..

 

I know that there are some clinics that provides Anonymous HIV Test in Singapore,

 

Questions:

1) Do anyone know..where can I get Free Of Charge anonymous HIV testing?

 

2) I'm price concerns...But If fee is required for my anonymous test.. How much the fee? And What type of testing will be included eg:syphilis etc.. What bundles test will include? (More type of test more better)

Which clinics and When or Which date have more bundles test include.. *Cause I'm not rich person..every dollars counts for me.. Just an ordinary worker here.

 

 

To person who will give me reply:

Thank you in advance for your kind info sharing!!

[lovehandle]

Not sure how true: but one stone kill two birds?!

 

[yfllcqyc]

I have some question about anonymous testing at DSC.

Quite a while back when I went for testing at DSC they didn't show us the actual testing strip, just verbally telling us the results. Since then I have been going to mobile testing, and every time they do show us the strip to confirm. Anyone who went to DSC recently can tell me whether they still don't show us the strip?