Guest bobo Posted November 6, 2013 Report Share Posted November 6, 2013 I used to know this guy 2 years ago and we drifted apart...So recently last week he fb msged me .And yes after that we exchanged number..Now.. The real issue is whenever i apps him he always late replyThe whatsapp last seen always the latest timestamp...... I just find it annoying Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freedom123 Posted November 6, 2013 Report Share Posted November 6, 2013 Actually I regard this as an accurate indication of how much the person cares abt u. Annoying surely if someone you really cares isn't as keen, but this may save you from wasting too much time on the wrong person... up2xgd, Azure Sky, Ng Ngai Lam and 1 other 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ahwen91 Posted November 6, 2013 Report Share Posted November 6, 2013 Hi. i am the threadstarter.Just now i had some issue trying to login my account. I find it weird why did he initiate msg me in the first place ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted November 6, 2013 Report Share Posted November 6, 2013 鍾意就好，理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blacque Posted November 6, 2013 Report Share Posted November 6, 2013 ^lol. Yet the Whatsapp Timestamp Anxiety strikes again... juzabishanguy 1 Instagram: vodkabaker Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ahwen91 Posted November 6, 2013 Report Share Posted November 6, 2013 ^lol. Yet the Whatsapp Timestamp Anxiety strikes again...i guess this anxiety happened to everyone yea Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
inamoto Posted November 6, 2013 Report Share Posted November 6, 2013 think about it another way... maybe he is really busy and he does not want to give u a slip shot reply? its just a possibility Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Raiden Alpha Posted November 6, 2013 Report Share Posted November 6, 2013 I always go online and then log off all the time to made people like TS annoy. Haha Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NielKlient Posted November 6, 2013 Report Share Posted November 6, 2013 I think only when someone is obsessed about another person then he will be annoyed cos of the log in time etc. If he doesnt reply immediately or reply late, he might be busy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mvoo Posted November 6, 2013 Report Share Posted November 6, 2013 everyone been thru this phase, i guess. if not you can turn it off in the setting, it solve all the problem. (for iOS) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Butterscotch Posted November 6, 2013 Report Share Posted November 6, 2013 Yes it can be mildly frustrating, especially when you are so into the guy and expect him to drop everything just so that he can attend to your beck and call... get my drift? Chill out, he has his own stuff to deal with too. Perhaps he's online because someone else sent him a Whatsapp message too at the same time... you never know, right? At the end of the day, he is his own person too, and he has the prerogative whether to reply you or not. Don't overthink things and just go with the flow. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gray Posted November 6, 2013 Report Share Posted November 6, 2013 I'm one of these kind of people. See already don't reply. Why? Cos I don't like tapping on the phone and I have other things to do. Doesn't mean I'm not interested in continuing the friendship, just don't like chatting. Point is: your friend might be like me. You can try meeting up irl. You might get a more positive response. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ahwen91 Posted November 6, 2013 Report Share Posted November 6, 2013 I'm one of these kind of people. See already don't reply. Why? Cos I don't like tapping on the phone and I have other things to do. Doesn't mean I'm not interested in continuing the friendship, just don't like chatting. Point is: your friend might be like me. You can try meeting up irl. You might get a more positive response.Do you think that this might be a reason ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gray Posted November 6, 2013 Report Share Posted November 6, 2013 Do you think that this might be a reason ? Could be. Since he took the initiative to get into contact again, it shouldn't be that he's not interested. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fiction Posted November 6, 2013 Report Share Posted November 6, 2013 yeah it annoys me too.. most of the time i just give him the benefit of the doubt. if he initiates a chat, it'll be a better indicator.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Angelix Posted November 6, 2013 Report Share Posted November 6, 2013 I'm guilty of not replying eventhough I seen the messages. Truth is, I have a lot of things on my hands and sometimes I just don't have the mood to chat. I know that once I replied, I would have to continue the conversation for another 15 to 30 minutes. Yet, "Sorry. Busy now. Chat later?" seems like a rude reply. Well, I choose not to reply until I'm free. inamoto 1 http://instagram.com/franciscwh90/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
feedersmiracle Posted November 6, 2013 Report Share Posted November 6, 2013 I sometimes get paranoid when people don't reply my messages, so I told them, if they are really busy, then tell me they are busy, don't just leave me waiting, I rather they tell me that they are busy, along side a simple description of what they are doing like, "im eating", or " I'm working". I'm fine cos I respect that they are busy... I don't find that rude the slightest, angelix. If they don't reply, they may be aren't that interested but want to keep you in their loop. mhmm. diff ppl diff perspectives. FancifulMaster 1 Speaking loudly, suffers softly. Smiles so wide, cuts unseen inside.Bitin' the bullet, but never kick the bucket. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recalcitrant_95 Posted November 6, 2013 Report Share Posted November 6, 2013 (edited) Maybe he's really busy with his own work.. You can try to reciprocate by making him wait next time round when he msg you (so that it doesn't come off as you being too needy)Or otherwise.... You can always send him this Edited November 6, 2013 by Recalcitrant_95 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
azimuth Posted November 7, 2013 Report Share Posted November 7, 2013 Whatsapp can be a nightmare sometimes if you have a lot of friends chatting, especially so if you are joined in chat groups which can generate like 400 to 500 messages per hour. Give him sometime to read through and reply yeh? :-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
muddywill Posted November 7, 2013 Report Share Posted November 7, 2013 I guess I understand when people take their time to respond. But personally, I am very quick. As soon as I see a message, I respond. I dunno if that makes me look desperate or too available. But I feel uncomfortable not responding even if it is to someone I don't like which is another problem because I don't really dislike that many people. I always assume people are a lot like me. If they were interested, they would respond quickly. If not, then it is an indication of they are not interested. I'm a pretty busy guy too, but I always have the time to respond to an email or a message (only takes a few seconds, haha). But yeah, I get really paranoid too. There is a guy that I like a lot, and whenever I facebook him, he takes an entire day to respond if at all. Sigh..... People must find me tiring and high maintenance. Or perhaps there is some internet/online etiquette that I am not following that puts them off? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest grin Posted November 7, 2013 Report Share Posted November 7, 2013 I used to know this guy 2 years ago and we drifted apart...So recently last week he fb msged me .And yes after that we exchanged number..Now.. The real issue is whenever i apps him he always late replyThe whatsapp last seen always the latest timestamp...... I just find it annoying We always try to find excuse for that guy, maybe he is busy etc etc. From my opinion, his initiation was just testing market, he is not really that into you, not that sure or afraid to move forward at this stage. Hard to swallow, I know, I feel the same, and deep down you sure hope he is really into you, but another part of your heart tells you otherwise. What you can do now is to test market like him, when he message you, try not to reply so quick, see what happens. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
azimuth Posted November 7, 2013 Report Share Posted November 7, 2013 The thing with Whatsapp messages is it can be distracting especially when you are in a chain of thoughts while doing some work. Hence, I usually ignore it and go back to it only when I have time. Hence, he might not be ignoring you. It's just that he is really busy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Cadman Posted November 7, 2013 Report Share Posted November 7, 2013 This is my personal experience. My bf is crazy about me and talks a lot when we meet up. But when it comes to WhatsApp, he either takes forever to respond or responds with little or no emotion, which drives me crazy. I'm the sort that respond promptly (because he is important to me) and kinda expect the same of him. But I know I can't apply my own standard on him and trying to accept that this is the way he is. Perhaps he is just not that good a typist. Recalcitrant_95 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Exynos Posted November 8, 2013 Report Share Posted November 8, 2013 eh haha used to feel this way... I was so immature to even ask him why he doesn't reply me. but all doubts and feelings aside, I think you just get used to it la. maybe sometimes you need to care less or not put so much of yourself into it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dragonboater Posted November 8, 2013 Report Share Posted November 8, 2013 I'm one of those who hates it when people EXPECT me to reply their messages as soon as I'm online. Do they not understand that I could be engaged with other matters? Why should I reply to THEIR messages as soon as I'm online? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
azuchan Posted November 8, 2013 Report Share Posted November 8, 2013 It's a generational thing i guess. Those from the 80s and below will know how slave-inducing being forever connected can be.I used to be online all the time, never turning off my data plan on the phone or my pc at home. Certain things happen and had to go offline for about a week. The first few days was torture. After 3 days, I actually found it really freeing and realized i'm happier without being conected to people all the time. The people who were sincere would sms or call me directly. I found i had the freedom to pick and choose who i talked to, according to my needs.Maybe your friend had discovered this. You should try it too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
darkflame Posted November 9, 2013 Report Share Posted November 9, 2013 I heard some people simply used LINE because of the Whatsapp timestamp drama. I'm always running after you. You are my ideal. You are me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
otokonoko Posted November 9, 2013 Report Share Posted November 9, 2013 You can switch off the "last online" feature in the settings.Others can't see when was the time you were last online. Neither can you see theirs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boo Posted November 9, 2013 Report Share Posted November 9, 2013 Actually I regard this as an accurate indication of how much the person cares abt u. Annoying surely if someone you really cares isn't as keen, but this may save you from wasting too much time on the wrong person... Agreed! Instagram Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caleb Posted November 9, 2013 Report Share Posted November 9, 2013 pretty labelled as not caring, non responsive when the drama starts... well, sometimes you just dun have the mood or time to reply msg... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sky1985 Posted November 10, 2013 Report Share Posted November 10, 2013 The timestamp doesn't mean anything. Just have to go with the flow and not be so paranoid about when he is last seen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted November 10, 2013 Report Share Posted November 10, 2013 I'm one of those who sometimes dun reply to whatsapp msgs promptly. most of the time its cos im busy, rather reply properly later than just give slip shot reply. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest red Posted June 19, 2015 Report Share Posted June 19, 2015 Well I have a friend for more than one year, we chat on fb and whatsapp.. I have experienced him not replying me even he is online, it was really irritating and hurts at the same time especially if u really like him(or her). But once, i confessed that i hate when he does it. I found out he was just busy doing things and that, maybe reading, watching, reading, chatting about school works and all. So that made sense. You can't just have him all the time u want. But be noted that he still gots time for you in some other days coz if not, that means he is not interested talking to you. Well in my case, he msg me first when he is free, and I made a rule that If I send, he don't reply, I'll stop sending another msg til he will msg me first again Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Ashley Posted December 23, 2015 Report Share Posted December 23, 2015 I think it is better if a person replies and says that he or she is busy so that the person does not wait forever for the reply. Not replying according to me is rude. Also the person initiating the chat does not know whether he should continue chatting or not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest 6hours Posted December 23, 2015 Report Share Posted December 23, 2015 If he doesn't reply in 6hours time, it is simply too much Told my boyfriend it is not polite (including me) if the message has been read but not replied within 6hours Who sets the rule? Me, because how can one not check his phone during the day and the job is sooooo busy every single day for not giving a short reply. Even the CEO has to make time for his family... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Puffypuff Posted December 23, 2015 Report Share Posted December 23, 2015 Idk i mean if you are busy with other matter at hand , why go in and read the messags in the first place? For me, when i am busy i just off internet connection to my phone to avoid such problem. Waiting for my impossible love Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonely57 Posted December 23, 2015 Report Share Posted December 23, 2015 If he doesn't reply in 6hours time, it is simply too muchTold my boyfriend it is not polite (including me) if the message has been read but not replied within 6hoursWho sets the rule? Me, because how can one not check his phone during the day and the job is sooooo busy every single day for not giving a short reply. Even the CEO has to make time for his family...6 hours is Ok but totally not replying at all on the other Hand... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2015 Report Share Posted December 23, 2015 my friend have a iphone 5 claim his whatsapp is spolit so can only talk on phone , he prefer older days BO TE WA CHO. guess no one talk to him cause everyone is busy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonely57 Posted December 24, 2015 Report Share Posted December 24, 2015 my friend have a iphone 5 claim his whatsapp is spolit so can only talk on phone , he prefer older days BO TE WA CHO. guess no one talk to him cause everyone is busy.Story of my life.. No one talks to me so I guess my WhatsApp is spoilt .. Somehow only work texts get through.. FML Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted December 24, 2015 Report Share Posted December 24, 2015 Dunno, I've ever seen people playing with their iphones constantly but can have fifty over unread whatsapp text, equally many unread sms, missed calls and hundreds of unread emails. Its like they just don't want to stay connected all the time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonely57 Posted December 24, 2015 Report Share Posted December 24, 2015 Dunno, I've ever seen people playing with their iphones constantly but can have fifty over unread whatsapp text, equally many unread sms, missed calls and hundreds of unread emails. Its like they just don't want to stay connected all the time.Cuz this is the era of iPhone and Samsung... If it was Nokia.. All I can say is... Nokia.. Connecting people.. xD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mith Posted December 24, 2015 Report Share Posted December 24, 2015 this whole tread is just silly.......... i'll reply when i am free! i am not a phone slave! i do not "serve" my phone 24/7! i don't check/look at my phone when i'm eating! i don't swim/gym with my phone! i don't shower with my phone! i don't check my phone when i watch movie in cinema! i don't check my phone when i am reading a book! i don't get angry with my fren when they don't reply me.... if people are angry with me for not replying them immediately, then they are NOT my fren! Phil 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
azimuth Posted December 24, 2015 Report Share Posted December 24, 2015 Another reason to disable status update. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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