Do You Believe Some People Bring You Bad Luck?

[Guest Guest]

Do your believe in such stuff?

Ever since knowing someone.

My luck has been bloody down dun ask me what happens next..

Everything i worked hard in this life all went down to drain.. 

 

Please constructive comments not things like blaming others but not yourself..

[IkuTube]

I will not say that I believe nor I don't but the answer is Yes.  Basically, it is about the integration of energy all around us.  Perhaps, this article as in This Link simplifies the understanding of what can possibly happen.  At the same time, to understand how energy in the thought-form of individuals can also play a part to shape the outcome in situations.  Think about the terms 'energy giver' and 'energy sucker' here.  Also, the term 'like attracts like' and vice versa.

 

As all energy is subtle towards the creation for conscious creation to the outcome (circumstances), intention plays an important part.  Like in your case, I have a friend who thinks whether her maid (whom is a 'foreign spirit/energy' to her sacred home [sacred Geometry]) can stir the energy (luck).  In this instance, should she is overly protective with her home and strongly 'thinks' that every foreign spirit does not belong to the part of the Sacred Geometry (nor a part of the ying-yang in the house), the evolution in consciousness can disrupt the balance and harmony.

 

There is more to understand the process but it entails the understanding (and acceptance) that the Law of Cause and Effect is also a part to the whole process.  Unfortunately, this will probe into the area where "things like blaming others but not yourself" is already been told not to be mentioned.

[WeiLian]

Yes, I think so. I have met a depress guy last year whom I tried to console him. Being a positive guy, I never thought that bad stuff would happen to me. Well, the next few weeks I started to get bad luck and it lasted for the whole year. It really took me quite a lot of effort to pull myself up again. Hope I don't meet such people again.

[abang]

We are emotional beings so we do get affected by others... That is why I avoid funerals and hospital visits...

[Guest Guest]

Please do state what do i do to reverse back my luck...

It is killing me now ever since this happened...

I regret replying to his sms and meeting him..

Ever since i replied his sms and replied him...

Things have been going down hill...

 

The most regrets was i did tell myself to avoid him however his persistent sms  plus lots of stuff was cancelled so this made me go meet him despite the fact i did tell myself to shut him out of my life...

[Guest Guest]

If i was to change number...

get away from this person

would u think things would change for the better? 

[Guest contradict]

I will not say that I believe nor I don't but the answer is Yes.  

 

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hmm...did you just contradict yourself?

[Guest elderly]

We are emotional beings so we do get affected by others... That is why I avoid funerals and hospital visits...

 

usually elder folks like you tend to be more 'pang dang' over funeral and hospital visits.  

[Guest tuesday]

Do your believe in such stuff?

Ever since knowing someone.

My luck has been bloody down dun ask me what happens next..

Everything i worked hard in this life all went down to drain.. 

 

Please constructive comments not things like blaming others but not yourself..

 

no, i dont believe.  think it's human nature to just want to blame something/someone when things gone bad and when the timing is right, the unfortunate person/thing becomes the scapegoat.

sometimes it could be just karma in action...when the time is right and the clogs start to spin...in life there'll be ups and downs.  perhaps it just so happen that the appearance of that person coincide with your 'down' time.

 

no, im not asking u to blame yourself.  love yourself!  ...but it's not helpful to blame that something/someone..its unproductive and energy sapping.  just do your best to fix things back.

 

if you have a religion, perhaps you could pray to your deity for help also.  no harm...

[Guest No Yin where got Yang?]

Please do state what do i do to reverse back my luck...

 

Well....wear RED! It is very Yang since you have been haunted by Yin Energy. Or you may want to consider jogging until you sweat under the hot sun to purge stuck energy inside you.

 

However, the root has to come from your friend, ask him what causes his distression and you will be able to prescibe the anecdot to your bad luck by attacking your friends' bad energy.  I believe, you have known your friend due to some unseen "force" to put you both together so that you can help him.  Heaven has its way of drawing a positive energy to help the bad ones. On that note, you count yourself lucky to have been picked by heaven for the difficult task at hand.  

[Guest Guest]

There is a saying "let sleeping dogs lie"

Hokkien saying "lang kiang ho mai kay kiang"

Iike in gambling once you made enough leave the table no matter how nice things look..

 

If u decide to start your life afresh.. People whom you consider toxic ( depending on definition)  just cut them out do not contact with them... change number etc... 

If you wish to start anew in life cut out people whom you feel are bad in life do not bring them into your new life..

 

Just to sidetrack a leopard never changes its spots..

 

 

If you starting a new in life do consider cutting out people whom are toxic ( depends on definition )

 

Hope i can have better luck by sharing my experience here... 

 

PS:  I am not a gambler.. what i am going through now is not due to gambling... I was just abit kiasee to cut some people out.. and kay kiang to accept them into my life...

 

Whatever it is constructive comments please..

 

Well or like what some has said here... karma.. whatever the reason i am not sure so i am asking... 

But somethings should have never been let into your life...

[Guest Guest]

no, i dont believe.  think it's human nature to just want to blame something/someone when things gone bad and when the timing is right, the unfortunate person/thing becomes the scapegoat.

sometimes it could be just karma in action...when the time is right and the clogs start to spin...in life there'll be ups and downs.  perhaps it just so happen that the appearance of that person coincide with your 'down' time.

 

no, im not asking u to blame yourself.  love yourself!  ...but it's not helpful to blame that something/someone..its unproductive and energy sapping.  just do your best to fix things back.

 

if you have a religion, perhaps you could pray to your deity for help also.  no harm...

 

i cannot morph myself anymore.. i have no more identity...

i may just have to leave things now as it is and start in other places..

maybe not that person's fault but my own bad luck..

[Guest 共業]

YES， its called  “ 共業 ” . Someone who constantly have bad luck, can affect your good luck by telling his problems, end by by helping him, you get worse if your positiveness is not strong, you attracts

his negativeness.

 

佛教称“ 共業 “

 

 

Thats why I only stick with friends who are postive in thoughts, in deeds,  etc.

 

 

[Guest 共業]

共業與別業如何解釋？

 

所謂共業者，就是由大眾行為所共同造作，因而感召一股共同之業因與業果。

 

譬如一家人就有一家人之共業，

一個社會就有一個社會之共業，

一個國家就有一個國家之共業，

一鄉鎮有一鄉鎮之共業，

一縣市就有一縣市之共業，

省有省之共業。

 

共業有善有惡，善者感召善之共業，惡者感召惡之共業。

 

七十九年度四月二十一日，軍用運輸機，在雲林縣東勢鄉失事墜機，運載十八位保國衛民之軍人，在這一次空難中全部罹難，當中包括有三位少將，九位上校，三位中校，一位少校，一位上尉，一位士官長，這些國防軍事幹部，全部西歸黃泉，這叫做共業。

 

國家富強有國家富強之共業，國家窮弱有國家窮弱之共業。

 

何謂別業呢？就是參與大眾行為共同造作，在共同造作中有輕重、有深淺，因此感召之果報也同樣有輕重之別，深淺之差異。

 

譬如七十九年八月二十五日，南投縣日月潭，發生遊艇翻覆事件，全部乘客有八十五人，僅救起二十餘人，死亡的人數遠超過六十多位。

 

由這翻船事件而論，八十五名乘客都參與這次遊艇行列，那麼八十五位乘客就叫做共業，二十餘位救起不參與死亡行列者，叫做共業中的別業。

 

Just MH17 and MH 370 is 共業

[Guest samsara]

YES， its called  “ 共業 ” . Someone who constantly have bad luck, can affect your good luck by telling his problems, end by by helping him, you get worse if your positiveness is not strong, you attracts

his negativeness.

 

佛教称“ 共業 “

 

 

Thats why I only stick with friends who are postive in thoughts, in deeds,  etc.

 

but isnt that very selfish?  so those pple who are in bad luck will never get back to their feet?  cause all the pple who are full of positive energies and good luck refuse to help because of the 'fear' to get tainted/attract negative energies/bad luck. . if such attitute were to persist, then where is the buddha's mercy and compassion?  i think buddha did say something like if i dont go to hell (di yu [in chinese]) who will?  also i think buddha did say he once let some vultures to eat his own flesh because he cant bear to see this vulture eat another animal or soemthing like that.  correct me if im wrong.

 

so if one day, the supposedly good luck/positive energied person one day is down with bad luck and he needs help.  but all the positive energied pple shun him fearing that they might get tainted, then that person how? forever badluck/down?  

[Guest 共业]

共业和不共业 -- 【编辑室】

 

当我们学习佛法时常提到的“共业”与“不共业”，这个名相在佛教理论中是非常重要的，同时也是较难理解的。然而，却是时刻出现在我们的现实生活中，而且还最常见的。

 

今天，天灾人祸无时不在发生，出现了许多“共业”与“不共业”的实例。都是值得我们三思的课题。

 

就以搞得沸沸扬扬的哥本哈根联合国气候变化大会来说吧，是最好说明“共业”与“不共业”的实例了。气候变化问题日益严重，气候变暖所带来的种种问题，这是全人类，同时也是全球众生所要面对的共业。

 

生活在狮城岛国的我们，共同感受到的生活环境，一样的天空，一样的空气污染，大家都同样受到影响，这就是共业。至于不共业，那是个人所能感受到的，譬如个人身体的美丑、强弱，

有些人住的是高级公寓，而有些人却挤在小小的组屋内，收入不同，但是，这些都属于不共业。

 

共业取决于共同的行为，或者是相似的行为，或是利益相关的行为。譬如某人与一个诈骗集团的主脑是好友，虽然这人没有直接参与诈骗活动，

但是诈骗集团分给了他一份利益，将来招感果报的时候，同样的他也照样有一份。这些都属于共业。

 

广超法师在《四圣谛讲记》里，清楚地解释了所谓的不共业，法师说：“我们造一些业，与别人无关，只影响个人的身心，只有个人受报，称为不共业。”

 

每个人过去所造的业，形成今生的身体、好心、善心、恶心等，是我们不共业所形成的果报。

 

因为不共业是你个人所做的，个人自己享用，别人是不能享用的，所以是不共业。

[fab]

Quote "YES， its called  “ 共業 ” . Someone who constantly have bad luck, can affect your good luck by telling his problems, end by by helping him, you get worse if your positiveness is not strong, you attracts

his negativeness.

 

佛教称“ 共業 “

 

 

Thats why I only stick with friends who are postive in thoughts, in deeds,  etc." Unquote

 

No offence but i believe 共業 is not explained this way. No one is able to affect another's karma. 个人业个人造。

共業is more like a kind child born to poor parents because of the latter's previous lives bad karma. Usually this child will excel and strike on his own.

Nonetheless TS may want treat this as coming to repay your previous karmic creditor.

Edited September 16, 2014 by fab

[Guest 净空法师]

净空法师关于共业别业的开示:什么是共业、别业？

2012-04-10 12:45 作者: 佛善堂 来源: 本站 浏览: 1,433 views 我要评论 字号: 大 中 小

 

摘要: 1、共业当中有别业，别业当中有共业。共业是什么？

 

大众都要受这个灾难，我们要跟大家一起受，这叫共业；

 

一起受的时候，我个人比别人生活得更幸福，那叫别业。

 

我们跟大家造一样的业，这是共业，

 

我们跟别人造不一样的业，这是别业。

 

所以共业、别业皆由善恶不同，这是我们必须要知道...

 

1、共业当中有别业，别业当中有共业。

     

共业是什么？大众都要受这个灾难，我们要跟大家一起受，这叫共业；

 

一起受的时候，我个人比别人生活得更幸福，那叫别业。

 

我们跟大家造一样的业，这是共业，

 

我们跟别人造不一样的业，这是别业。所以共业、别业皆由善恶不同，这是我们必须要知道的。 —净空法师

 

2、佛法讲业报，有共业、有别业，

 

这个社会大多数人造罪业，这是共业，我们也没办法不能不受牵连；

 

我们自己不造，这就是别业。在这个共业苦难的社会当中，我们还能够侥幸平平安安度过，这是别业果报。我们要持有一颗感恩的心。—净空法师

 

 

3、现在人人有贪心，要他不贪做不到，他还有理：“别人都贪，我为什么不贪？”造恶成了潮流，如何得了！将来世界灾难就是共业所感，遇到佛法努力去修的，

就会有别业！我们要努力，否则无法幸免于灾难的吞食，一定要遵守佛的教诲！——净空法师

 

4、纵然我们不能帮助大众，大众转不过来，我一个人转过来，管用吗？管用。我一个人转过来叫别业，大众叫共业。佛在楞严会上告诉我们，共业跟别业果报不一样。如果你的别业殊胜，即使在极恶劣的共业之中，你还能够避免。大灾难当中，还有很多幸免之人，别业不一样。——净空法师

 

5、印光大师常说，要救这个世界，只有普劝世人深信因果，如果大家都相信“善有善果，恶有恶报”，起心动念就会收敛，天下自然太平。真正深信因果、积善修福，即使遇到大灾难，共业中还会有别业。所以大师一生极力提倡“了凡四训”、“感应篇”，真正是大慈大悲、用心良苦。—净空法师

 

[Guest Guest]

Well....wear RED! It is very Yang since you have been haunted by Yin Energy. Or you may want to consider jogging until you sweat under the hot sun to purge stuck energy inside you.

 

However, the root has to come from your friend, ask him what causes his distression and you will be able to prescibe the anecdot to your bad luck by attacking your friends' bad energy.  I believe, you have known your friend due to some unseen "force" to put you both together so that you can help him.  Heaven has its way of drawing a positive energy to help the bad ones. On that note, you count yourself lucky to have been picked by heaven for the difficult task at hand.  

 

i know this may sound stupid...

he is a pretty harmless person but he has a very bad habit... a last minute person... Let's call him H

everything is last minute.. cancellation is last minute.. he is a business friend of mine i should say... he can make appointments saying want to meet in 15mins then after 10mins say cancel. I know this is how things work out in real.. but this person is real extreme in last minute. 

 

Things were pretty bad while i was still with H... i always tell him you have to be credible do not do last min things.. Must be credible and do give people ample of time. If you stick to your ways of last minute fine.. if people cant adhere to your timing just leave things do not force or pressure people.

He never changes.. Last min and still persisting on his ways.. 

 

till i got so pissed.. i went on a month break closed my business... H was one of those i planned to cut out as i found his last minute ways to be real bad..

Things changed for slightly better till i met up with him last week.. i only met up because of his persisting last minute.. 

Maybe i should elaborate more during the month i closed my business for a break and for a new look he kept smsing me about stuff.. i should say this is solely entirely my business he is not partner just a fren whom is assisting me... i told him i will be away.. if you hear from me ok if no then no.. during that month however he still sms non stop... i ignore him... maybe my mistake i should have changed hp number..

 

During last two weeks H really got on my nerves with all the smsing till i sms him back several times saying i will contact you.. let this be clear i have never owed him anything nor did he owe me anything..

Last week on thurs he smsed me non stop on wed...

thurs morning 9am i woke up 1st thing was his sms and all my appointments subsequently got cancelled.. so maybe this was a sign i took just meet up and see what he needs.. not long after arranging an appointment with him.. a client called for an appointment... i should have just cancelled my appointment with H and see the client straight but instead i met H b4 the client.. sad to say the business deal with the client did not go so well.. 

 

During my business for 1st 2 weeks when i was trying to avoid him things were doing well..

however when H kept smsing me on days my business was not as good but still ok la..

 

after the meetup last thurs... well if things were well i would not be here typing all these stuff... now totally bo seng li...

my business is quite newly start up and two of my reviews were quite positive however..

 

something about my business i should like to mention... during my business start up on the 29/8 last month things were going ok except there was some problems created by some rowdy people so i should say my business was not  "smooth" from the start... Because the start when i posted my business there was another so called "toxic" person ( let's call him T ) who smsed me the same day i was posting up my business.. on the 30/8 when i started my business ..he called me the 1st thing in the morning but i ignore him. Business was not that smooth that day   however..

 

Back to topic could it be those 2 unlucky people H and T? Maybe i should have followed my plan change number and cut them out straight..

 

What do your think?

No i not blaming anyone but it is really such a coincidence.. 

my business is going haywire now.. i am at my wits ends..

[Guest Guest]

Would changing my number help as in totally cutting off H and T would be a wise choice?

would things turn for the better?

[Guest Guest]

how i came to this conclusion was that i read in a book about this humsup businessman who went to thailand saw a sexy woman and she turned out to be a ghost with a rotting face and that day on his business failed left bankrupt..

so i thought maybe... well... could it be some people bring us bad luck?

 

such a coincident.. H sms me the 1st thing my appointment got cancelled.. 

however when a client called me for meeting i should have cancelled my apt with H.

 

what do i do? i dun wAnt to see my business fail..

[Lad2]

Just stop meeting him if you feel he is not adding value to your life. get the wrong ppl out of your life. You are the average of the 5ppl you closely hang out with.

[Guest Guest]

Just stop meeting him if you feel he is not adding value to your life. get the wrong ppl out of your life. You are the average of the 5ppl you closely hang out with.

 

but what is done can it be undone???

I do not plan to meet him...

I sms him i regret knowing you.. i should never have met you.. i know it is not right nobody knows how i feel... 

i do not want to even see him or sms.. i plan on cutting off whatever contact..

[Lad2]

Is he a pessimistic person? Let's say you meet him before an appt,it depends what you talk about during the meetup.Negative words?venting about his problems,pessimistic thoughts,immoral thoughts.Then you are gonna bring all these thoughts into your meet up with clients. These negative stuffs will be reflected on your face,your choice of words and the energy you exude.Thus affecting the outcome to be able to seal the deal.

[Guest Guest]

Maybe i should add...

i know know is it my own bad luck or whatever.

when i started the new business i applied for a new line starhub..

a client informed me the new number is actually a sabotaged number he even pointed the forum the number was posted... that sabotage number was in 2010.. i was not even in business.. even the number i applied is a sabo line. is it my bad luck or what... the number was actually used for sabotaging.. all numbers yet i had to choose that number during start up... 

 

 

Is he a pessimistic person? Let's say you meet him before an appt,it depends what you talk about during the meetup.Negative words?venting about his problems,pessimistic thoughts,immoral thoughts.Then you are gonna bring all these thoughts into your meet up with clients. These negative stuffs will be reflected on your face,your choice of words and the energy you exude.Thus affecting the outcome to be able to seal the deal.

 

well during the meetup we did not talk about other things but food life things were going well.. we parted happily

[Guest recycled]

Maybe i should add...

i know know is it my own bad luck or whatever.

when i started the new business i applied for a new line starhub..

a client informed me the new number is actually a sabotaged number he even pointed the forum the number was posted... that sabotage number was in 2010.. i was not even in business.. even the number i applied is a sabo line. is it my bad luck or what... the number was actually used for sabotaging.. all numbers yet i had to choose that number during start up... 

 

 

 

well during the meetup we did not talk about other things but food life things were going well.. we parted happily

 

its quite ironic that the TS is himself quite negative...and keeps talking abt bad luck.  ...and that sabo number.  this so called bad luck can b avoided if u explicitly tell the starhub guys that u do not want a recycled number.  some telco will advertised that those set of numbers are brand new and not recycled.  others will just keep quiet.  ...but of cos they can always lie.  i kena before.  the sales guy told me its a new number never recycled before. turns out, alot of pple always call to ask for this person..till i super piss.  no, i din find out which toxic person or find out where those bad energies are from...i just change a new number and inform all my friends via social media.  ..everythings in the cloud, no issue.

 

 

[Guest Raiden Alpha]

@TS

You just want to hear whatever you want to hear to reaffirm your belief behind your woes.

You clearly stated it out in your opening post.

Instead of analysing and feeling angry over this person who have brought you down use the energy and will to let go/forgive and bring yourself up again.

Do whatever it takes to made you feel happier,avoid him or cut him off etc but don't mope or hold resentment toward him.

You are punishing your mind by doing so.

If you can bring yourself up through hardwork prior to meeting him as you have mention then it is within your ability to do so all along.

Don't give up and cheer up.

[thorzguy]

Dear TS,

 

Yes, to a certain extend, luck does play a part in our lifes, but notwithstanding the fact that we cannot just on the luck factor alone. As a matter of fact, in many successful (business) deals, there are much more important factors such as human (the mind, the action), timing, resources, planning etc etc. Luck is, well, to me, an "add on" factor.

 

Coming from religion point of view: good and bad karma. As in how one wants to garner more good (or bad) karma, it's up to individual.

 

However, I strongly believe in the mind. If you are able to control your mind (some allow their mind to control them) -  then most of the time, you will be on top of things. Law of attraction applies. It has been proven many times, in my cases.

The very important first step: Set your mindset right.

Also, be positive in your thinking. Avoid negative people as much as you can. No matter how strongly positive you are as a person, the negativity will rub in, sooner or later.

 

Back to your business -  I was involved in an unfortunate JV with some people few years back and sadly, not only the business failed to take off, our money was absconded, with debts to settle on our part. The important thing is: you are still healthy and well. Learn from mistake and move on. You can and definitely will, earn back the money.

[Guest Guest]

To all dears..

I have a meeting at 4pm today with my client..

However i was very very caught up with this matter and i mistook the timing at 4pm to be at 5pm..

 

It was a rather last minute meeting today.. I was vexing over the matter he did at 2.30pm told me his hp will be switched off due to low batt and switched on at 3.45..

At 4pm he said he was in the vicinity.. i was at home getting ready to go out.. However i realised 4pm first time in my life i mixed up the timings... Seriously... 

 

I sms him saying could we meet later on around 4.30pm.. However no reply his hp was switched off not sure is it low batt or purposely..

It is a first time customer.. 

well just my luck sent him an sms and an email to apologise..

However look on the bright side he may not be a potential customer...

 

So coincidental.. his hp low batt and i mix up timings.. 

Sounds very cartoon but everything i posted is nothing the truth but real.. 

 

I think i will quickly go change a new number.. to really "CUT" off ties with H.

 

Damn my luck... 

 

Blame him.. well as i said i have partial to blame the thursday he sms me i switched off my hp but well dunno why turn the phone on.. 

perhaps i should have made a clearer cut and totally cut off H and T from my life before starting my business anew.. 

 

Really sway lor... hopefully things turn out to be better..

but isn't it such a coincidence my new client today his hp low batt.. even if we were to meet we may not due to miscommunication due to his low batt.. would end up lost..

 

I had a feeling to cut both of them out but did not do it dunno why.. if i had done this i would not be suffering now..

[Blacque]

I feel very very sad for TS, not because of his 'misfortunes', but the way he's carrying himself. 

[Guest Guest]

Dear TS,

 

Yes, to a certain extend, luck does play a part in our lifes, but notwithstanding the fact that we cannot just on the luck factor alone. As a matter of fact, in many successful (business) deals, there are much more important factors such as human (the mind, the action), timing, resources, planning etc etc. Luck is, well, to me, an "add on" factor.

 

Coming from religion point of view: good and bad karma. As in how one wants to garner more good (or bad) karma, it's up to individual.

 

However, I strongly believe in the mind. If you are able to control your mind (some allow their mind to control them) -  then most of the time, you will be on top of things. Law of attraction applies. It has been proven many times, in my cases.

The very important first step: Set your mindset right.

Also, be positive in your thinking. Avoid negative people as much as you can. No matter how strongly positive you are as a person, the negativity will rub in, sooner or later.

 

Back to your business -  I was involved in an unfortunate JV with some people few years back and sadly, not only the business failed to take off, our money was absconded, with debts to settle on our part. The important thing is: you are still healthy and well. Learn from mistake and move on. You can and definitely will, earn back the money

yes maybe timing is one factor however time and tide waits for no man... 

 

What do i do now? there is no way i can create another new identity for my business

i have to stick with this.. i dun wish to wind up really..

 

What do i do? 

Is this wise changing my hp cutting out H and T.. and move on.. 

[Guest Guest]

I feel very very sad for TS, not because of his 'misfortunes', but the way he's carrying himself. 

 

hopefully one day you do not be in my shoes...

[Guest Guest]

its quite ironic that the TS is himself quite negative...and keeps talking abt bad luck.  ...and that sabo number.  this so called bad luck can b avoided if u explicitly tell the starhub guys that u do not want a recycled number.  some telco will advertised that those set of numbers are brand new and not recycled.  others will just keep quiet.  ...but of cos they can always lie.  i kena before.  the sales guy told me its a new number never recycled before. turns out, alot of pple always call to ask for this person..till i super piss.  no, i din find out which toxic person or find out where those bad energies are from...i just change a new number and inform all my friends via social media.  ..everythings in the cloud, no issue.

 

it is a prepaid simcard... I cant use a post paid due to financial reasons... post paid requires u to sign for 2 years at least.. i am just starting up..

it has never thought to me that numbers could be recycled till that client pointed this out...

[snowball]

可能，也许，你正开始要走霉运厄运，刚好此人出现，

又或者是你上辈子欠他的，今生他是来讨债的。

Edited September 16, 2014 by snowball

[mydontay]

why blame others when things dun run smoothly for self? i believe in 人定胜天. one is in control of self. maybe there will be obstacles, but to me, they are not categorized as bad luck

[snowball]

当事事不顺人意时，气在心头上，总会把箭头射在别处，

我偶尔也不例外，总是觉得一定有小人或对自己不利的东西在阻扰，

是否是有人从中作梗，或在诅咒着我，有的没的乱想一通，

当事件过了之后，一切回復正常，又怪自己小心眼，不够成熟稳重。

人嘛，难免如此，想通笑过就没事。

Edited September 16, 2014 by snowball

[TheVisitors]

Yes I do believe some people bring you bad luck, basically your energy and his does not compliment each other

On the other hand, I had this unusual experience with this guy I was dating 10 years ago, for 2 months

 

Believe it or not, in that  2 months, every time when I do meet up with him, it gave me a strong instinct and hunch to buy 4 d

 

Believe it or not, I won about 8k of total winnings within that short period

 

But because I could not stand his nonsense and his lies, I called it off

 

And I did lost my Golden Goose, because i didn't had any 4d winnings after a year later

Edited September 16, 2014 by TheVisitors

[Guest Guest]

why blame others when things dun run smoothly for self? i believe in 人定胜天. one is in control of self. maybe there will be obstacles, but to me, they are not categorized as bad luck

 

i had a relative who believed in 人定胜天.

went bankrupt not long after..

[Guest Guest]

Yes I do believe some people bring you bad luck, basically your energy and his does not compliment each other

On the other hand, I had this unusual experience with this guy I was dating 10 years ago, for 2 months

 

Believe it or not, in that  2 months, every time when I do meet up with him, it gave me a strong instinct and hunch to buy 4 d

 

Believe it or not, I won about 8k of total winnings within that short period

 

But because I could not stand his nonsense and his lies, I called it off

 

And I did lost my Golden Goose, because i didn't had any 4d winnings after a year later

 

i am ts.

based on my scenario what do i do?

i already changed my contact number...

but i am afraid damage has already been done as i met up with him and spoken to him of course...

[Guest Guest]

i dunno what to do i am afraid everything will not go back to normal.

i really regretted replying to his sms..

i confronted him over sms over this matter

that bastard could actually say u can dun reply right? when he was bugging me non stop day and night....

 

even when i say my schd is tight hard to meet he said try la..

just catch up to chat with him this is what i got..

damn it..

 

[Guest Guest]

当事事不顺人意时，气在心头上，总会把箭头射在别处，

我偶尔也不例外，总是觉得一定有小人或对自己不利的东西在阻扰，

是否是有人从中作梗，或在诅咒着我，有的没的乱想一通，

当事件过了之后，一切回復正常，又怪自己小心眼，不够成熟稳重。

人嘛，难免如此，想通笑过就没事。

 

but maybe what u say is maybe right but since i contacted him things really gotten worst... 

i made my mind to keep out some people but not sure why i contacted him back.. maybe his persistant sms... the morning he sms me my client cancelled my appointment.. 

it is money we are talking here... my business not a laughing matter snowball...

if it was a relationship with bf issue i could still handle it but it is my business i cannot take it lying down...

[Guest Guest]

I will not say that I believe nor I don't but the answer is Yes.  Basically, it is about the integration of energy all around us.  Perhaps, this article as in This Link simplifies the understanding of what can possibly happen.  At the same time, to understand how energy in the thought-form of individuals can also play a part to shape the outcome in situations.  Think about the terms 'energy giver' and 'energy sucker' here.  Also, the term 'like attracts like' and vice versa.

 

As all energy is subtle towards the creation for conscious creation to the outcome (circumstances), intention plays an important part.  Like in your case, I have a friend who thinks whether her maid (whom is a 'foreign spirit/energy' to her sacred home [sacred Geometry]) can stir the energy (luck).  In this instance, should she is overly protective with her home and strongly 'thinks' that every foreign spirit does not belong to the part of the Sacred Geometry (nor a part of the ying-yang in the house), the evolution in consciousness can disrupt the balance and harmony.

 

There is more to understand the process but it entails the understanding (and acceptance) that the Law of Cause and Effect is also a part to the whole process.  Unfortunately, this will probe into the area where "things like blaming others but not yourself" is already been told not to be mentioned.

 

 

Yes, I think so. I have met a depress guy last year whom I tried to console him. Being a positive guy, I never thought that bad stuff would happen to me. Well, the next few weeks I started to get bad luck and it lasted for the whole year. It really took me quite a lot of effort to pull myself up again. Hope I don't meet such people again.

 

the prob is that i knew such people would be bad energy to my business so wanted to keep them out.. 

however i was not strong to reject them from my life...

just it is my imagination all would go back to normal next week. 

[Guest snowball]

If really that's the case, ask him out and openly face to face,

see what he want from you, tell him you are sick of those nonsense,

call him not to contact you anymore, you can block his contact numbers etc,

have you really try those ? you must be firm and let him know you want to see and hear from him no more.

[Guest snowball]

If you do not make up your mind and cut off with him, do not blame him, blame yourself weak .

[Guest Guest]

If you do not make up your mind and cut off with him, do not blame him, blame yourself weak .

 

i have part of myself to blame....

i dun deny the fact... 

in life do not be to trusting...

if u decide to cut be ruthless and cut off..

dun make the mistake i made

[Guest Guest]

If you do not make up your mind and cut off with him, do not blame him, blame yourself weak .

 

If really that's the case, ask him out and openly face to face,

see what he want from you, tell him you are sick of those nonsense,

call him not to contact you anymore, you can block his contact numbers etc,

have you really try those ? you must be firm and let him know you want to see and hear from him no more.

 

i have already changed new number of course i never give him plus all i deem to be "toxic" my new contacts...

i am already having a headache now... 

i already told myself i will not contact these jokers but why did i even reply to H.

As the phrase goes "let sleeping dogs lie" is the truth

[Guest Guest]

my only hope is that i get another chance hopefully heaven is kind to me..

[snowball]

人总有糊涂的时候，不清醒时就当是在做一场梦，

重要的是，梦醒了就要理智果断，别拖泥带水，

该怎么做就怎么做，衡量得失轻重，你可以根据目前的状况，

做出最明智的选择，相信自己更相信未来，祝福你。

[Guest Guest]

人总有糊涂的时候，不清醒时就当是在做一场梦，

重要的是，梦醒了就要理智果断，别拖泥带水，

该怎么做就怎么做，衡量得失轻重，你可以根据目前的状况，

做出最明智的选择，相信自己更相信未来，祝福你。

 

Thank you snowball 

i just hope all will return to normal

like how my 1st 2 weeks was...

hopefully this thread will serve as a lesson to those who are facing similar situations as i am... 

learn from my mistakes... 

[Guest Guest]

Dear TS,

 

Yes, to a certain extend, luck does play a part in our lifes, but notwithstanding the fact that we cannot just on the luck factor alone. As a matter of fact, in many successful (business) deals, there are much more important factors such as human (the mind, the action), timing, resources, planning etc etc. Luck is, well, to me, an "add on" factor.

 

Coming from religion point of view: good and bad karma. As in how one wants to garner more good (or bad) karma, it's up to individual.

 

However, I strongly believe in the mind. If you are able to control your mind (some allow their mind to control them) -  then most of the time, you will be on top of things. Law of attraction applies. It has been proven many times, in my cases.

The very important first step: Set your mindset right.

Also, be positive in your thinking. Avoid negative people as much as you can. No matter how strongly positive you are as a person, the negativity will rub in, sooner or later.

 

Back to your business -  I was involved in an unfortunate JV with some people few years back and sadly, not only the business failed to take off, our money was absconded, with debts to settle on our part. The important thing is: you are still healthy and well. Learn from mistake and move on. You can and definitely will, earn back the money.

 

how do you control your mind?