Will You Have A R/ship With A Married Man? + In Love With / Liked A Married Man (Compiled)

[Guest Marad44]

...if you are willing to accept that your partner is a married man, so you have to abide to the rule of the game...

Is any of you who is open to married men, also married yourself?

[Guest Marad44]

... been attached with male partner for many years... a buddy to supplement my sexual needs... with married man... less demanding, less of a nuisance.

Daringly honest!

[Guest Guest]

I always have a crush with married man especially those stocky manly look, loves to have sex with them but not relationship

[doncoin]

Interesting, chelseasian but may I ask, If the attraction be just sex, why the need for divorce?

That is if emotionally we move beyond the sex part. I love myself enough to admit that if I am in a relationship with a married man, I expect no less than 100% from him and vice versa. Hence for me a divorce is a necessity for me to commit otherwise it is just sex.

It would be unrealistic of me to sit and pine wistfully waiting for his call or text message maybe unless there is a Blowing Wind award for guys who are involved with married men award for self-sacrifice so they the married guy can be with his family.

Edited October 22, 2011 by chelseasian

[Guest BIDISCREETGUY]

Why i prefer married man is because ;

-less sissy and act like normal guy , cos they married so need to behave

-no demand to go movie or shopping together on the weekend

-mutual understanding of discreetion needed

-less gay mate

-its just about sex and desire needed

Eveyone have own preference to skinny , fat, chubby, black, white, old , twink, that a reality

[Guest Bi for Bi]

Why i prefer married man is because ;

-less sissy and act like normal guy , cos they married so need to behave

--> guess majority of gay men is straight as a rod. Minority of so called married (So-called straight) is sissy.

-no demand to go movie or shopping together on the weekend

--> from here, we can see how selfish or a so-called married man can be ..... Sigh.

-mutual understanding of discreetion needed

--> I guess is the married man who needed this because of their responsibility and commitment but impose ti his gay friend.

-less gay mate

--> in general it might be true. Doesn't straight man has more straight mate .... So funny.

-its just about sex and desire needed

Gay man should understand bi/gay married man is strictly looking for sex and desire. Nothing more but nothing less too. Unless willing to separate from their family and to be with you. Till then, just stick by your principle.

Eveyone have own preference to skinny , fat, chubby, black, white, old , twink, that a reality.

--> of course and obviously, I wouldn't choose a bi/gayatried man for LTR but only as a sex and desire partner as and when required!!!

Finally, if u (gay men) decide to remain single, why don't you find another single gay man for LTR and married man as a FB.

All the best and happy searching.

[Guest Marad44]

...Hence for me a divorce is a necessity for me to commit otherwise it is just sex...

Thanks for your explanation chelseasian.Divorcing to be with a man is unlikely.Even in countries where gay partnership rights exist, the cost of divorce (alimony, child support, division of estate etc) will bear heavily on the married.Curious, I attended a gay dads' meeting overseas and heard first-hand, the challenges they faced. 'otherwise it is just sex' could be your better option. Edited October 24, 2011 by Marad44

[Guest Guest]

The married man I met are tighter in the ass compared to the gay man I fxxked. Because they seldom get fxxked !

[Officeboy]

The married man I met are tighter in the ass compared to the gay man I fxxked. Because they seldom get fxxked !

If they meet u they could meet other guys too, doesnt necessary means that

[keyboard]

married men don't play games? it's a what i have is what i have. period.

[Guest passerby]

If i did find one, i'd just make sure i take care of him when he needs me. No questions asked...

[Guest Guest]

I think married men are turned on by men who are more rugged, musular, sexy & manly.

Very Sextifying!

[TheVisitors]

Whether they are married or not, it is just a status, because there are gay who is not married, can still provide and satisfy the conditions and requirements you are asking and seeking for.

I used to have many shares of flings/affairs with married dudes, thinking they were so cool exotic, highly sorted, you know, those crap beliefs.

Experiences taught me they are just merely weaklings who lives under the fear and burdens of their own facade.

As I changed , along the way, so did my taste thoughts and priorities, I find myself, attracted to men who have a mind of their own, not only who set their own lives' direction, without a damn what others think of them, but at the same, challenge and intrigue me with their wisdom, humour and intellect.

I can still entertainment married dudes when I have my urges, but not allowing myself to be at their conveniences and disposal. I control my own destiny to be with those I feel that would value into my life and time

If not me, there will be many others they will seek to fit into their schemes.

Men with weak minds simply fail to arouse me sexually, not more than 2mins.

[Guest Marad44]

Married men don't play games?

You nailed it in one line keyboard. Every player has his rules which seldom match.Those who jump in, do knowingly what they are getting into, those who score go for extended play and the bad losers scoff at the married men.

Whether they are married or not, it is just a status, because there are gay who is not married...

Exactly TheVisitors! You are as good as your game partner. Win or lose, just enjoy the game. self pity is an extreme form of ego-centrism,

Edited November 6, 2011 by Marad44

[Guest downtown]

I am married. I am in a very happy mongramous relationship with another married man. It is tough being married and yet in love with each other. There are up and down in the relationship but it is well worth it. We dont have many things in common but are working together toward a common goal and finding things we can do together with the little time we have together. It is great to be mongramous; especially in bed. We can be open to try new things for mutual enjoyment.

Our encouragement to fellow married guys; try mongamous. stick to one. It is very rewarding

[Guest Marad44]

I am married. I am in a very happy monogamous relationship with another married man... Our encouragement to fellow married guys; try monogamous. stick to one. It is very rewarding.

There is a Yahoo Group for just this kind of relationship between married men - Closed-Loop Society: http://groups.yahoo.com/adultconf?dest=%2Fgroup%2FClosed-Loop%2F

[Magicerife]

no; i wouldnt want someone to get involved with my father either.

[Guest Guest]

Well I have a dilemma, I met this married older guy about 2 months ago, and I really love him but the problem is he has a wife and kids, and he is only able to see me once a week coz he does not want to arouse the suspicion of his wife, I do not know his background that well, but from what I gathered, he is a bit controlled by his wife probably becoz his wife is richer??? I do love him but sometimes I feel so lonely when I want him to be by my side, but he has no time , so guys should I stay with him? I love him and I know I cannot do without him in my life, but at the same time, I feel so sad and depressed not able to see him when I want to.

[maturemedium]

You don't have to ask anyone for this advice.. Come to your senses and answer is right there.

[abang]

I leave married men alone.

Once a guy is officially taken (by his wife or his current boyfriend), I avoid them at all cost!

[tkong]

the marrired man alwalya are that,take it or left it.there no spec...

[gstc82]

Sex ok. Emotionally NO! He will always chose his wife and kids over you. N it's not fair to the kids if their dad have another lover.

[Guest Marad44]

You don't have to ask anyone for this advice.. Come to your senses and answer is right there.

Agree. Let it run the course - till the finishing line - and you will be better placed to accept the outcome. Best wishes.

Edited December 24, 2011 by Marad44

[gamcubmelb]

well if you like to be used like a spare tyre, then by all means... but if you are, as you say, sad and depressed... it's a pretty clear sign that this is not the way to go, isn't it? Find your self a new man... and just remember, if you won't want your bf to cheat on you, you might want to reconsider a relationship with a married man.

[koolkai]

Well I have a dilemma, I met this married older guy about 2 months ago, and I really love him but the problem is he has a wife and kids, and he is only able to see me once a week coz he does not want to arouse the suspicion of his wife, I do not know his background that well, but from what I gathered, he is a bit controlled by his wife probably becoz his wife is richer??? I do love him but sometimes I feel so lonely when I want him to be by my side, but he has no time , so guys should I stay with him? I love him and I know I cannot do without him in my life, but at the same time, I feel so sad and depressed not able to see him when I want to.

No you should not have a relationship with a married man. You should not be that "third" party. There are many "pawns" (as mentioned in another thread) in Singapore for you to choose from. Hence better to leave the married man alone.

[Guest Guest]

how old are u and how old is he?

[Guest say bye bye]

Well I have a dilemma, I met this married older guy about 2 months ago, and I really love him but the problem is he has a wife and kids, and he is only able to see me once a week coz he does not want to arouse the suspicion of his wife, I do not know his background that well, but from what I gathered, he is a bit controlled by his wife probably becoz his wife is richer??? I do love him but sometimes I feel so lonely when I want him to be by my side, but he has no time , so guys should I stay with him? I love him and I know I cannot do without him in my life, but at the same time, I feel so sad and depressed not able to see him when I want to.

Haven't you heard of the term , runaway train wreck,

sooner or later your train will hit a solid wall , everything will stop and you will be like a train wreck, all piled up and in smoky burning wreck.

Once the wifey finds out about you, do you want her turn up at your workplace and kick up a fuss and call you a home wrecker in front of all your colleagues.

[Guest shenderz]

As much as those of u who responded meant well, please refrain from amswerig to such post. Like women who just want a listening ear, he is not seeking advice. He knows he shouldn't but he wants it. The more u tell him not to, the more he would go into it. Tats reverse psychology.

Like in all previous threads, they would end up continuing the relationship, though it's a matter of time it will end.

Those who have enough sense to end it will not whine here.

[raind]

i used to meet a married man at the pool during my regular swims. and after sometime, we started talking and he propositioned me. we ended up doing it at a secluded place in my car. initially i thought it would be a one time off thing, but after that, whenever we meet at the pool, we would do it and eventually, we exchanged numbers as he said he wanted to be friends. he started calling me up and asked for sex on a rather regular basis. most of the time, we would do it at public car parks. and at times, he would even ask me to go to his home to do it (which i refused to). it was fun initially. forbidden fruits taste very sweet. it was really no strings attached and we both enjoyed each other's company. and boy, he could really shoot! this arrangement went on for a couple of months. he would share with me his life stories, tell me about his family, his friends, etc etc etc... swear blind everything he told me was the truth... and that he was open with me.... even his name.

and then there was this one time during lunch. he called again for sex and said his wife was at work and would not be home so soon. and after we did it at the car park, his wife called up and said she was on the way home. he totally freaked out and begged me to drive to home immediately. he didn't even talk during the short drive. suddenly, it seemed like everyone around him are potential people that would tell on him... and at a traffic light near his home, he just open the car door and ran. he ran like as though he was chased by a dog. didn't even bother to even turn back to say good bye or to wave. made me felt damned shitty.

i stopped seeing him after that... he continued calling me to meet him and go to his house after that incident but i refused to.

several months later, he called again to tell me he had shifted. again, he asked me to visit his new house to share with him my thoughts about his new place, i refused to. i knew how the whole visit would go if i went...

ps: thanks to facebook, i did a search and realized that the name he gave was fake. so much for swearing blind he was telling the truth...

such arrangements may be ok for some, but for me, not worth it.

[EasleyLim]

Flings maybe but not a relationship. If they succumb to marrying in order to hide their sexuality then there's no way they will throw away their family to be with you. There is no future for both of you.

[Guest Guest]

i guess i will look for an ideal one, but most older guys tend to be married, why can't married men just stay married? i guess i will still have a relationship with him until i find my Mr Right who is single and able to spend time with me, thank you guys for the advice.

[Guest Guest]

i used to meet a married man at the pool during my regular swims. and after sometime, we started talking and he propositioned me. we ended up doing it at a secluded place in my car. initially i thought it would be a one time off thing, but after that, whenever we meet at the pool, we would do it and eventually, we exchanged numbers as he said he wanted to be friends. he started calling me up and asked for sex on a rather regular basis. most of the time, we would do it at public car parks. and at times, he would even ask me to go to his home to do it (which i refused to). it was fun initially. forbidden fruits taste very sweet. it was really no strings attached and we both enjoyed each other's company. and boy, he could really shoot! this arrangement went on for a couple of months. he would share with me his life stories, tell me about his family, his friends, etc etc etc... swear blind everything he told me was the truth... and that he was open with me.... even his name. and then there was this one time during lunch. he called again for sex and said his wife was at work and would not be home so soon. and after we did it at the car park, his wife called up and said she was on the way home. he totally freaked out and begged me to drive to home immediately. he didn't even talk during the short drive. suddenly, it seemed like everyone around him are potential people that would tell on him... and at a traffic light near his home, he just open the car door and ran. he ran like as though he was chased by a dog. didn't even bother to even turn back to say good bye or to wave. made me felt damned shitty. i stopped seeing him after that... he continued calling me to meet him and go to his house after that incident but i refused to. several months later, he called again to tell me he had shifted. again, he asked me to visit his new house to share with him my thoughts about his new place, i refused to. i knew how the whole visit would go if i went... ps: thanks to facebook, i did a search and realized that the name he gave was fake. so much for swearing blind he was telling the truth... such arrangements may be ok for some, but for me, not worth it.

Let me tell my story. A and I was attached for the past 8 years. I also know that he sometimes "strayed" behind me. I am keeping one of my eyes closed until I found out that he was bringing his "closed friend" home. Home is a place which we have built together and I disallow any intruder. I was furious and so I set up a trap. I pretend to travel overseas and suddenly hit home at the right time at the right spot. When I opened the door, he was shocked. Just ignoring the guy he invited home, he begged me to forgive him. Also ignoring the guy, I told my bf with a harsh manner about how he had hurt me by straying outside our relationship. Throughout the whole drama, the guy was treated like transparent. The guy dressed up and tip-toed out of our house - I guessed he must have felt awkward or even shameful in this circumstance.

At least for now, A and I are back again in our home. I am not proud about this incident but I am glad that our bound has been mended. Our relationship grows better after this incident. If you have a choice, why do you want to be the 3rd party - be it in a straight or gay relationship. All men** are the same, they stared at the buffet table while eating their food on their plates. However, they should know the limit and don't go overboard.

** From the recent newspaper report, women are equally bad if not worst.

[sum1outhere_03]

The guy dressed up and tip-toed out of our house - I guessed he must have felt awkward or even shameful in this circumstance.

Oh dear, you must have been hurt looking at the guy naked.

[Guest Guest]

It's never alright to be a home wrecker. Put yourself in his wife's shoes.

He chose to go against his sexuality by marrying a woman, he should now pay the price for it. Why sacrifice yourself to give such selfish guys the best of both worlds?

Are all the single gay guys dead? If not, go look for someone more worthy of your love.

Stay away from married men and those who are already attached in committed relationships. If they can betray their partners, they can do the same to you.

[Guest Guest]

Oh dear, you must have been hurt looking at the guy naked.

Maybe I had knew the existence of this guy before hand and I was prepared to see "the cruel truth" in front of me. Strangely, I did not feel anything (hurt, sad, angry ?!) at that moment. All I wanted was to have my man back and express my disappointment of him. I was fortunate that my bf also wanted me back badly; between the guy and him were just a fling. Men are like kids, we do make mistake, ultimately we improve as we learn and do not repeat the mistake -- this is exactly what I told him.

[Guest Ironrod]

Maybe I had knew the existence of this guy before hand and I was prepared to see "the cruel truth" in front of me. Strangely, I did not feel anything (hurt, sad, angry ?!) at that moment. All I wanted was to have my man back and express my disappointment of him. I was fortunate that my bf also wanted me back badly; between the guy and him were just a fling. Men are like kids, we do make mistake, ultimately we improve as we learn and do not repeat the mistake -- this is exactly what I told him.

Wow! u sound really like a "woman"......are u a girl?

[Guest leanfit]

what we're seeing above are sound reactions/responses of wisdom from learned experience ... good work guys!

[Guest Guest]

Wow! u sound really like a "woman"......are u a girl?

I am a manly guy like you. I planned my moves for a win-win situation as I really love this man I have.

[Guest Derp]

Maybe you should get like more than one married boyfriends?

Try to find some with different time slots so that you can be taken and pampered all the time. :)

[snowball]

everyone has the right to fight for his happiness, but remember, never blame anyone if relationship tour sour, cos you choose it so face it, your heart will let you know are you truly happy, let go or stay, just pick one that suit you, your life your path, and bear in mind, life won't bring you anything, but what you add in your life, good luck.

[Exynos]

are u an idiot? are u a moron? are u mentally challenged?

if the answers to all these are a "No", then obviously u would know what to do

[cityhallguy]

I have met and had fun with married man and also man who had partnered. Up to now, we still keep in contact and became very good friend and they have been part of my life. Is not just because the sex is good that's why we still keep in contact, It is the mutual understanding and emotional feeling that both of us fond of each other. I personally know where is my border or line is, I never expect them to leave their wife or partner. You are asking too much out of it, if you hope he did that for you. My advise is enjoyed the time with him but still go look out for single man. Take them as friends with benefit, which we all men need to release but safe sex must be in mind.

I guess the guest is still new bah.. cause only knew the married man for 2 months and I dont think you meet him everyday, you already in love? You still in the honey period, wait till long you may find something strange.

[raind]

I have met and had fun with married man and also man who had partnered. Up to now, we still keep in contact and became very good friend and they have been part of my life. Is not just because the sex is good that's why we still keep in contact, It is the mutual understanding and emotional feeling that both of us fond of each other. I personally know where is my border or line is, I never expect them to leave their wife or partner. You are asking too much out of it, if you hope he did that for you. My advise is enjoyed the time with him but still go look out for single man. Take them as friends with benefit, which we all men need to release but safe sex must be in mind. I guess the guest is still new bah.. cause only knew the married man for 2 months and I dont think you meet him everyday, you already in love? You still in the honey period, wait till long you may find something strange.

i totally know what you mean...

[zell85]

but you gotta understand that he's built his life around his wife and kids and they'll always be his first priorty. and you, you'll be 2nd

[Guest i am no 3]

but you gotta understand that he's built his life around his wife and kids and they'll always be his first priorty. and you, you'll be 2nd

some people are born to be home wrecker and feel nothing wrong about it.

[Guest Guest]

I have met and had fun with married man and also man who had partnered. Up to now, we still keep in contact and became very good friend and they have been part of my life. Is not just because the sex is good that's why we still keep in contact, It is the mutual understanding and emotional feeling that both of us fond of each other. I personally know where is my border or line is, I never expect them to leave their wife or partner. You are asking too much out of it, if you hope he did that for you. My advise is enjoyed the time with him but still go look out for single man. Take them as friends with benefit, which we all men need to release but safe sex must be in mind.

I guess the guest is still new bah.. cause only knew the married man for 2 months and I dont think you meet him everyday, you already in love? You still in the honey period, wait till long you may find something strange.

Thanks for the advice, actually i have had many relationships before, trust me i know what love is, i really love this guy even though we are like 3 months to be exact, u just know that he is the one (i guess u guys who are in a relationship know what i mean) but of coz i dun expect him to divorce his wife, that is selfish of me, to me LOVE IS SACRIFICE, even if i can't be with him everyday, he told me that he will never leave me and will love me with all his heart, i guess tat is enough for me, he even suggest me to go look for another single guy, but i think i dun want to, if the single guy do come into my life so be it, but i know i will never leave him, IF YOU R READING THIS, i just want to say I LOVE YOU. whatever happens, so be it.感情要随缘

[Guest Guest]

Thanks for the advice, actually i have had many relationships before, trust me i know what love is, i really love this guy even though we are like 3 months to be exact, u just know that he is the one (i guess u guys who are in a relationship know what i mean) but of coz i dun expect him to divorce his wife, that is selfish of me, to me LOVE IS SACRIFICE, even if i can't be with him everyday, he told me that he will never leave me and will love me with all his heart, i guess tat is enough for me, he even suggest me to go look for another single guy, but i think i dun want to, if the single guy do come into my life so be it, but i know i will never leave him, IF YOU R READING THIS, i just want to say I LOVE YOU. whatever happens, so be it.感情要随缘

For you to talk like that, you must still be very young. Don't worry. You'll grow up.

[TheVisitors]

Well I have a dilemma, I met this married older guy about 2 months ago, and I really love him but the problem is he has a wife and kids, and he is only able to see me once a week coz he does not want to arouse the suspicion of his wife, I do not know his background that well, but from what I gathered, he is a bit controlled by his wife probably becoz his wife is richer??? I do love him but sometimes I feel so lonely when I want him to be by my side, but he has no time , so guys should I stay with him? I love him and I know I cannot do without him in my life, but at the same time, I feel so sad and depressed not able to see him when I want to.

Sign

Another of that million dollar, stupid (worthless) question.

Btw, are you a girl?

[Guest Guest]

For you to talk like that, you must still be very young. Don't worry. You'll grow up.

No i m not tat young but not tat old either, and i have gone thru a lot of things, but sometimes i question myself should i think with my heart or with my head? love is strange, when it hits u, u dun think rationally and objectively but yet u want it, so complicated

[Guest Guest]

Sign

Another of that million dollar, stupid (worthless) question.

Btw, are you a girl?

well u sound like a moron so no i am not a girl