How To Be A Better Top?+ What Makes A Good Top? (compiled)

[subarucap]

so what makes a gd btm? had only 2 gd anal sex..which i begged for more, 1st one was when i lost my cherry to a guy, the other was a SM buddy.. 1st one, i begged for more, the SM buddy, my legs was trembling while getting fxxk..

maybe a btm who can accept the right cock

I may not have a big one but some enjoys the shape of big head penetrating.

[geronimo]

The right size and the right attitude make for a good top.

A good top wants to give as much pleasure as he receives.

He seeks out his partner's erogenous zones. Some are obvious and some less so:

Forehead,eyelids and palms of hands (although kissing these areas are best between lovers because the gentle and tender touches could freak out your fb)

Ears, including behind and inner.

Lips, nape of neck, inside of upper arms, armpits, nipples, chest (biting helps).

Lower abdomen, groin and inner thighs.

Upper back around the shoulders and the small of back.

Butt and anus.

A good top is able to read his partner and is never boring.

He confidently changes rhythm, positions, the depth and the speed of his thrusting, always alert and taking his cues from verbal and non-verbal reactions to his lovemaking.

A good top is a keeper.

maybe a btm who can accept the right cock

I may not have a big one but some enjoys the shape of big head penetrating.

[subarucap]

The right size and the right attitude make for a good top.

A good top wants to give as much pleasure as he receives.

He seeks out his partner's erogenous zones. Some are obvious and some less so:

Forehead,eyelids and palms of hands (although kissing these areas are best between lovers because the gentle and tender touches could freak out your fb)

Ears, including behind and inner.

Lips, nape of neck, inside of upper arms, armpits, nipples, chest (biting helps).

Lower abdomen, groin and inner thighs.

Upper back around the shoulders and the small of back.

Butt and anus.

A good top is able to read his partner and is never boring.

He confidently changes rhythm, positions, the depth and the speed of his thrusting, always alert and taking his cues from verbal and non-verbal reactions to his lovemaking.

A good top is a keeper.

you sound like a good btm... keen to meet?

maybe u can tell me if I'm a keeper...

nice profile pic by the way...

Edited June 23, 2011 by subarucap

[geronimo]

Thanks.

You say you have a big head, so that could be a positive

You say you went 3 consecutive times with your bottom, so that suggests stamina.

Your proposition is tempting.

you sound like a good btm... keen to meet?

maybe u can tell me if I'm a keeper...

nice profile pic by the way...

[GachiMuchi]

Pls take ur flirting offline and PM each other and not divert from the topic.

[geronimo]

Apologies.

Pls take ur flirting offline and PM each other and not divert from the topic.

[subarucap]

Apologies.

submissive guy... i like...

i take it u are btm?

must be experienced fxxkee?

so maybe... can tell us what kind of tops would turn on a btm guy?

Edited June 23, 2011 by subarucap

[geronimo]

Dear Mr Cap

I apologised for very valid reasons:

1. I strayed off topic and was shamelessly flirting, for which I was correctly told off;

2. Mr Muchi speaks as a person of authority and more importantly, he appears to be a large person, not the sort I want to piss off in a dark alley, or a dark spa for that matter;

3.I am indeed a submissive bottom

Speaking only for myself, dominant tops with an easy sense of humour and a playful nature turn me on.

My dominant top frenchkissed me, while pinching my nipples. He then said, "Get on your knees, bitch".

I kneeled before him and he slapped his erect dick on my left cheek, the right and on my nose.

He pushed it against my lips. I pursed them, resisting the pressure.

I felt a stinge on my cheek before his hand grabbed my jaw. "Open your mouth", he growled.

Resistance was futile. I parted my lips slightly and he thrusted his dick in.

He held my hands on top of my head and pushed until my mouth completely swallowed his dick and my face was pressed against his groin. His pubic hair rubbed against my face as he fxxked my mouth.

Tears were running down my cheeks and I started to gag. I pulled away from him and with his dick out of my mouth, I gasped for air.

"Did I tell you to stop?"

"No", I replied meekly.

He smacked his dick against my face hard and hit my left eye. "Oops", he said and laughed apologetically.

I slapped his butt hard. He looked surprised.

Then he laughed. I smiled back. He bent over and kissed me full in the mouth.

Then we started again.

He was a good top and I knew I was safe in his hands.

I hope the above is not off topic.

I would like to continue but time to get ready for work.

submissive guy... i like...

i take it u are btm?

must be experienced fxxkee?

so maybe... can tell us what kind of tops would turn on a btm guy?

[subarucap]

I just jizz in my pants...

I felt u added an interesting colour to the topic... besides if only the tops add in to the topic its pretty much one sided affair...

that top of urs is damn hot even I feel the excitement and the throbbing in my loins...

so a good top knows how to control his bitch btm and make the btm feel thoroughly enjoyed...

hehe

[geronimo]

Dear Mr Cap

The world population is about 6.9 billion, of which roughly half are male.

It is said that roughly 1 in 10 persons are gay.

There could therefore be about 345 million gay people in the world, of whom say half are bottoms.

Each of the 172 million bottoms is unique in his own preferences and fetishes. I dare only speak for myself.

I would strongly urge you to think carefully and find out more before you decide to smack the next bottom you meet, especially if it is a muscular bottom.

As another saying goes, different strokes for different folks.

I just jizz in my pants...

I felt u added an interesting colour to the topic... besides if only the tops add in to the topic its pretty much one sided affair...

that top of urs is damn hot even I feel the excitement and the throbbing in my loins...

so a good top knows how to control his <strikethrough>bitch</strikethrough> btm and make the btm feel thoroughly enjoyed...

hehe

[Guest imseeker]

2. Mr Muchi speaks as a person of authority and more importantly, he appears to be a large person, not the sort I want to piss off in a dark alley, or a dark spa for that matter;

Mr Muchi. LOL!!!

[bluesea78]

I just jizz in my pants...

I felt u added an interesting colour to the topic... besides if only the tops add in to the topic its pretty much one sided affair...

that top of urs is damn hot even I feel the excitement and the throbbing in my loins...

so a good top knows how to control his bitch btm and make the btm feel thoroughly enjoyed...

hehe

wana try having 2 at a go? haa

[Guest initiald05]

how to give your partner a pleasurable blowjob?

[subarucap]

wana try having 2 at a go? haa

hahaha

anyway... to original poster what kind of secrets are you looking for...

i feel there's no real secret lei...

[subbtmchn73]

I may be asking for the impossible but i think a good top is one knows how to enjoy himself and let his btm enjoy without appearing too concern. I mean i get put off by tops who are too concern about my pleasure. i like those who just know what he is doing is giving me pleasure without having to ask me about it. The ability to read the body language of the bottom is a good skill. I also like a top who is rough but not going overboard. is like when he is rough it shows he is passionate and very horny and turn on and enjoying himself. i am inexperienced btm myself (but am totally submissive btm). so cannot say really experienced many good fxxkers. but i can only imagine from the stories i read and how i would like a top to treat me.

[subarucap]

it's all about confidence from the top guy.

[subbtmchn73]

it's all about confidence from the top guy.

Yes i totally agree. Confidence from a top is very sexy. Especially to those bottom who are more into power play and feel that the brain is the biggest sex organ.

I cannot say for all bottoms. Being in control of the scene as well. Like telling me what position to get into, and moving me into a position that you can fxxk and angle best.

[PaterTenebrarum]

To be a good top, imho, you need to bottom so that you know how it feels likes.

[Guest Guest]

is it true that top with thick cock will ejaculate faster when anal

[geronimo]

is it true that top with thick cock will ejaculate faster when anal

This is a difficult question to answer and requires some understanding of physics and in particular, the laws of friction, and how it applies to your hypothetical situation. I gathered this from my research:

Friction is the force resisting the relative motion of solid surfaces, fluid layers, and/or material elements sliding against each other. There are several types of friction:

Dry friction resists relative lateral motion of two solid surfaces in contact. Dry friction is subdivided into static friction between non-moving surfaces, and kinetic friction between moving surfaces.

Fluid friction describes the friction between layers within a viscous fluid that are moving relative to each other.

Lubricated friction is a case of fluid friction where a fluid separates two solid surfaces.

Skin friction is a component of drag, the force resisting the motion of a solid body through a fluid.

Internal friction is the force resisting motion between the elements making up a solid material while it undergoes deformation.

Source : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friction

[amicablyalan]

haha, no lah it all depends how many times one cums that day ...

[Guest Guest]

because when a top's cock is thick,most likely he will feel tight.. hence more pressure n friction..easily get stimulated..no?

[subarucap]

This is a difficult question to answer and requires some understanding of physics and in particular, the laws of friction, and how it applies to your hypothetical situation. I gathered this from my research:

Friction is the force resisting the relative motion of solid surfaces, fluid layers, and/or material elements sliding against each other. There are several types of friction:

Dry friction resists relative lateral motion of two solid surfaces in contact. Dry friction is subdivided into static friction between non-moving surfaces, and kinetic friction between moving surfaces.

Fluid friction describes the friction between layers within a viscous fluid that are moving relative to each other.

Lubricated friction is a case of fluid friction where a fluid separates two solid surfaces.

Skin friction is a component of drag, the force resisting the motion of a solid body through a fluid.

Internal friction is the force resisting motion between the elements making up a solid material while it undergoes deformation.

Source : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friction

that is so sexy

[jzlookin]

im curious, but how long do u guys take to reach an orgasm? and how do u get more skillful as a top?

sounds stupid, but i hope people would share their experiences for a communal learning experience :twisted:

[Guest Prick]

What feeling does a top feel when fucking ar?

 

Does it feel something warm and moist grabbing your dick?

 

How different is it from a mouth?

[GachiMuchi]

How To Be A Better Top – From A Bottom’s Perspective

 

Published By: Blake Michaels | April 29, 2014

 

As a power bottom, it never ceases to amaze me how many tops fail to please. When you aim to make us happy, we’ll return the favor times a million. Two men trying to please each other equally are in for a whole lot of pleasure and before you know it, the sweat is dripping down our faces and we’re up to round three of an already long night.

You might think you’re awesome at sex, but most of you tops are in desperate need of some tips. Bottoms don’t want to be treated like blow up dolls, at least for the most part. We have bodies too which means we feel pain. Just because we like to get penetrated does not mean we want to be turned inside out. But don’t worry. I’m here to let you know what most bottoms fail to tell you because unlike the others, I’ve taken mental notes honey. I ain’t afraid to use them. Here are a few things I’ve picked up. They’re simple, yet make all the difference:

• You Need To Shower Too

Just because you might not be getting penetrated doesn’t mean you are free from maintenance. If you have any form of pubic hair, you better make sure you jump in the shower and scrub yourself before any mouth or butt makes their way down there. Trust me, it’s better to smell like vanilla than dried up sweat. Use soap and water on the butt, penis, balls, and every place else you’re exposing.

• Pay Attention 

Even before foreplay begins, open up your senses. See how his mood is in that particular moment. You don’t want to appear too aggressive at the beginning, but you also don’t want to seem too sensitive either. Welcome your touch and caress effortlessly, not forcefully. If you make him uncomfortable at the beginning, you’re setting the foundation for how the sex will be.

• Appreciate His Body

A bottom wants to know that you respect and appreciate his body. We’re on the bottom side of things, you know. We can get a bit insecure if our belly fat starts jiggling or you grab onto our love handles or choke us in an effort to hide our double chin. The minute you seem disgusted or unimpressed we tend to close up. For the best of both our experiences, you better think I’m the hottest guy you’ve ever had on top of you. Otherwise we’re in for an awkward night.

• Investigate His Zones 

I’ve always believed the tongue has magic powers when combined with hot breath. Exhale normally (not like your trying to fog up a window) on the outer layer of his skin. Start on the neck and work your way down to the nipples and stomach, especially the “sex bone” area. Notice which areas he shivers most and you can get a good sense of what he likes. Then, you can start implementing your fingers. But be careful – fingernails hurt.

• Don’t Go Full Throttle At The Beginning 

Going from zero to sixty in a matter of seconds is never a good idea. Stop and think before you shove your d**k inside. Give him a chance to warm up to you. The best idea is to let him take control during this time. Let him find the passage way that’s most comfortable. We’re all shaped differently, you know. Chances are, he’s not going to like what your ex-boyfriend liked. Starting slow and sensual is always a safe bet. From there, work your way up to the finish line.

• Know How It Feels For Them 

The greatest top is someone who’s done it before and knows how it feels. Empathy creates a much better experience, especially if you’re packing a big weapon. Trusting that your top is considering your feelings allows a bottom to fully give in. So in reality, it’s a win win for both of you. Don’t be selfish.

• Sensualness Is Key 

You don’t need to be in love to be sensual, though it does help. Making a connection is crucial before penetration because not only does it open a window of trust, but it conjures an incredible amount of rhythm. Your bodies become music, fitting inside each other’s tempo and cadence the more sensual you become. Don’t overestimate it, even if it’s just about the sex.

• Rid Yourself Of The Jackhammer 

In case you didn’t figure out, anal sex can hurt like a mother f**ker. Unless your bottom is totally cool with it, stop humping him like a jack rabbit and most importantly, never pull it fully out and fully in at a fast pace. It might look good in porn films, but in reality it’s pretty effing painful. Naturally this is all up to the bottom’s pain tolerance, but it’s best to see where it all goes.

• Take Control & Change Positions 

It’s cool to be vanilla at times, but it shouldn’t over take the whole experience. I’m not talking about bondage or leather, but simply changing up the positions. Even the most aggressive of power bottoms like to be controlled by a top who knows what he’s doing. Never make it planned or rehearsed, but allow it to be a natural progression from whatever position you changed from. Be the coach and I’ll be the student.

• Make Sure He Gets Off

Don’t be a blow and go type of guy. The bottom is the one getting penetrated which already gives him more points than you, so the least you can do is get him off. Don’t roll over and go to bed even if he proclaims that it’s “okay” or he’s “fine and just enjoys pleasing you.” Trust me, he’s lying. We all want to get off. Don’t be an a**hole.

 

Edited February 6, 2015 by GachiMuchi

[acidtongue]

Here's an MCP top's take on what it takes to be a good bottom (actually it was written by a power bottom and endorsed by a top). I tend to agree with the list especially when feeling frisky!

 

http://iblastinside.com/2012/07/the-eleven-commandments-of-a-true-bottom-by-a-bottom-for-all-bottoms/ 

[mydontay]

both are really interesting.

it really needs two hands to clap.

if both really care for each other, sex can be a pleasure.

[darkflame]

The jackhammer is quite valid.

The pain does show on my face but some tops take it that I'm pretending to be in JAV.

Holding my hand tightly while doing it can be quite assuring.

[Guest Longer]

Experience Tops will use a condom, so he can fuck with confidence and last for many more years.

 

Another reason for the condom is to reduce sensitivity so he can fuck and last much longer during the session.

[Guest Fucker]

If the TOP loves his bottom like a piece of gem, the TOP will cum easily.  Yes, I am currently eyeing for that piece of gem in my office now.

[Guest guest]

Can a guy with a short slim dick be a good top?  Will he be shunned by choosy btms?  What can such a guy do to enhance the anal experience for his btm?

[hairy springroll]

Practice makes perfect I guessed

[Guest Guest]

is it true that top with thick cock will ejaculate faster when anal

Not necessary. It's depends on how big is the hole as well.

[Shaun_ed]

Talking about experienced fuckers, I recently met a pure top who wears a loose silicon cock ring.

The top first asked me to sit/squat on him facing him, he was lying 45 degree, somewhat like cowboy position.

Then he started slowly entering me. We initially mentioned no anal, even if want must condom. But he just slot it in!

While I tried to say no, he start to plead, and say 'just 5 mins...' There weren't any fucking so I agreed to let him stay inside while we makeout and cuddle.

The next time I know, 5 mins is up and as I wanted to stand, I was kinda impaled. As I was sitting on him, my dick is directly on top of his dick which was inside me. While I wasn't paying attention thinking he was only foundling with my dick, he had pulled his loose cock ring from his shaft to my shaft to bound my dick to his (you have to try to use abit of imagination here, cock ring now resting on my shaft and under his balls like a rubber band), the silicon tension made sure I stayed in place, and his dick stayed inside me.

He then tried to push/persuade me to lie on my back and let him be on top for his job. I expressed abit of anger, in the end he slide the cock ring off my dick back onto his.

While I was abit shocked about suddenly being impaled, I found this episode very kinky. He could have forced his way with me as he was definitely stronger than me and I can't stand up due to being bounded by the cock ring.

 

Usually cock rings are supposed to be fitting so that it can trap blood in the penis to maintain the erection right?

Little did I know there is actually another use for the cock ring!!!

Frankly, if he had wore a condom, I wouldn't have minded being "forced bottom" by him in this manner.

After the incident, I tried looking online for such a practice but to no avail.

Cannot be no one thought of this before ba...

 

Anybody got similar story to share? Or even better, pictures of that happening...

[lovehandle]

interestg sharing,  shaun 

 

 

noticed that u have just one post

[G_M]

Any healthy, safe sex practise Gay/Bi Top, who are:

Handsome (any race),

Strong but gentle when topping a bottom,

Lean Slim to average muscular is a plus!!

(not too slim, and not average fat! ~sorry no offend)

Dick must at least 15cm above..

Around 175cm height..

Please contact me, as i really don't want myself still virgin, lonely anymore...as i going to be 24 yo!!!

Man who fulfill my criteria pls reply/

You looking for a fuck and have so much criteria.

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[heliumduck]

oh man, what did i just read ?

i guess experienced tops are soooooooooooooo in demand ... haha

[fab]

The saying that a good top must btm first in order to understand the needs of a btm is so wrong.

 

Its akin to saying that a straight must let another guy fuck first in order to know how to fuck a woman.

 

Fucking should be an instinct. Most natural born fuckers will know how to do it naturally.

[lourdes]

On 10/4/2015 at 3:58 PM, fab said:

The saying that a good top must btm first in order to understand the needs of a btm is so wrong.

 

Its akin to saying that a straight must let another guy fuck first in order to know how to fuck a woman.

 

Fucking should be an instinct. Most natural born fuckers will know how to do it naturally.

 

.

Edited January 20, 2016 by lourdes

[mydontay]

agreed. to fuck well is a skill

[mate69]

As with all things, it comes with practice.

 

The first few times, you will probably stumble but as you do more often, you will know how to read

the signals from the other party, fine-tune your positions and re-examine your pre-conceived notions

about how to do the deed.

 

Practise

[Guest patrick]

Need to practise with diffrent btms to gain well rounded experience?  Where to find btms to practise?  One practice a week is good enough? 

[cutejack]

Plenty bottom.

[Guest Guest]

To be a good top, imho, you need to bottom so that you know how it feels likes.

are you trying to say, in order to know that drugs are bad, you have to try them first?

[Guest Skillful Bottom]

You need a good bottom for the Top to display its skill to the fullest.

[Guest Guest]

I need help.. I'm a top, (I bottomed before but I prefer to top), however my dick seems to be insensitive. I can fuck my bottom forever but I just cannot cum. It feels good and pleasuring for me, but I cant get high enough to cum. I feel like a dildo sometimes. Does anyone knows whats wrong? Or what should I do? Thanks!

[cutejack]

Its normal i thought.me too.keep fuvking n take it n jo to cum.better than lose erection rite?pls correct me if i m in wrong too.

[Guest Guest]

Yeahh I knoww. Fuck until the bottom thinks he had enough, take out, jo and cum. But I feel its odd that Im unable to cum while fucking. I mean, most tops would fuck until they cum right?

[lovehandle]

I envy u! I wish I can cum later!

 

 

Yeahh I knoww. Fuck until the bottom thinks he had enough, take out, jo and cum. But I feel its odd that Im unable to cum while fucking. I mean, most tops would fuck until they cum right?