Of Love Struggles & Cries Of A Married Gay Man + Cheating Married Men Leading Dual Life (compiled)

[Guest tightlips]

A married man trying to save his marriage.

[Guest IMO]

I am not judging gay/bi married men who cheat on their wives, but to say that they were forced into marriage or coerced due to circumstances is absurd. Nobody can force you. My dad is very traditional and I'm the only child, and time and time again he has demanded that I get married, and has used emotional and monetary blackmail, and all sorts of means. Yet I've never give in because I cannot live a lie, to myself nor the wife/family (if I marry). One may argue that I am selfish, but if you really analyze it, the real selfish one is the one who wants it all, not caring about the consequence that the double lives may bring, the hurts that will be brought about to wife, children (if any) and parents.

[abang]

I have friends who are married and yet, they hit the saunas once monthly.

They are there to seek sexual gratifications, not romance nor friendship.

They have been married for so many years and there is no more passion with their spouses.

To them, doing hj and bj with a man is less sinful than going to Geylang.

My policy:

I dont date bisexuals and married men.

Never, never, never.

以“孝心， 无后为大， conform to social norms 等等的借口去结婚， 换来的是 ”众人的悲哀“。

- 老婆， 子女， 朋友， 自己 都不太快乐。。。。

[filxxxx]

OK guys. I've posted my other comments before, but I feel compelled to say something again. And this WILL be my last and most honest response. First of all, I am married. I am very much in love with my wife. You can argue differently, but I can tell you with all honesty that I doubt I will ever love a man the way I love my wife. That said, let me remind you of the current moral climate the entire LGBT finds themselves in. We (I consider myself bisexual) are not totally accepted by all of society. It's that simple. I don't think it's fair, but it's the truth. I sincerely hope it changes, and am supportive of giving ALL people the same rights and respect they deserve. We're all different, so we should all be treated the same (think about that). So why do I mess around with guys? Good question. I do it because my Mother's brother, my Uncle, introduced me to his penis when I was a 13 year old boy. For some reason I liked it. He would let me caress his hard cock in bed at night and I enjoyed how it would get hard. But that was all he would do with me. No orgasm, no oral, just touching. He would also share Playboy and Playgirl magazines with me. Perhaps he was bi, perhaps he was gay. But enough about that. I'm sure you understand. As I grew older, I still loved women. I would admire good looking men, but with no sexual intent in my mind. But by the time I was in my late 20s I had my first gay experience. Chatted with him on AOL. He was a straight acting guy, good looking, and talked me through the process. I was extremely nervous, and he was patient. First he kissed me, then he sucked me, and then I sucked him. After that, I craved more. Perhaps it was the thrill of doing something taboo, or the way guys express their sexuality with each other that has always kept me coming back for more. Granted, I take a tremendous risk at what I do. I'm not proud of having to live two different lives, but I'm not about to give up my straight one just for the cause of the gay ones who disagree with my point of view or how I live MY life. We're on the same team. Just not treated the same way. But if you want to judge me, then I cannot do anything about that. You have choices. So do I. I think we can all live with that for now.

P.S. I do realize some of you won't grasp what I am saying because your English isn't quite that good, and I am very articulate. So if you wish to chat with me, I am willing to listen and discuss it one on one. Yes, I can debate this subject quite well.

Edited December 2, 2012 by filxxxx

[Guest Joker]

Talking about moral value, then u shouldn't be "gay" in the first place... What a joke?

[Guest think]

OK guys. I've posted my other comments before, but I feel compelled to say something again. And this WILL be my last and most honest response. First of all, I am married. I am very much in love with my wife. You can argue differently, but I can tell you with all honesty that I doubt I will ever love a man the way I love my wife. That said, let me remind you of the current moral climate the entire LGBT finds themselves in. We (I consider myself bisexual) are not totally accepted by all of society. It's that simple. I don't think it's fair, but it's the truth. I sincerely hope it changes, and am supportive of giving ALL people the same rights and respect they deserve. We're all different, so we should all be treated the same (think about that). So why do I mess around with guys? Good question. I do it because my Mother's brother, my Uncle, introduced me to his penis when I was a 13 year old boy. For some reason I liked it. He would let me caress his hard cock in bed at night and I enjoyed how it would get hard. But that was all he would do with me. No orgasm, no oral, just touching. He would also share Playboy and Playgirl magazines with me. Perhaps he was bi, perhaps he was gay. But enough about that. I'm sure you understand. As I grew older, I still loved women. I would admire good looking men, but with no sexual intent in my mind. But by the time I was in my late 20s I had my first gay experience. Chatted with him on AOL. He was a straight acting guy, good looking, and talked me through the process. I was extremely nervous, and he was patient. First he kissed me, then he sucked me, and then I sucked him. After that, I craved more. Perhaps it was the thrill of doing something taboo, or the way guys express their sexuality with each other that has always kept me coming back for more. Granted, I take a tremendous risk at what I do. I'm not proud of having to live two different lives, but I'm not about to give up my straight one just for the cause of the gay ones who disagree with my point of view or how I live MY life. We're on the same team. Just not treated the same way. But if you want to judge me, then I cannot do anything about that. You have choices. So do I. I think we can all live with that for now.

Turn the table around. WHAT IF? -- your wife also love you the way she could never love another man. But, her only problem is to seek sex (no emotion, just sex) outside your marriage. She also has her "dark secret past" causing her to do so (like yours for forgiveness sakes). She loves the thrill.

Think of that if this really happened, you OK with that? You don't have to reply here, just touch your heart and THINK !

[Guest weirdo]

I know what you are trying to get at but.. People are different. If I like ice-cream, my wife does not. But if she likes ice-cream, I also may not. Two totally independent things. You mean if I like ice-cream, she will also because I do ?

Turn the table around. WHAT IF? -- your wife also love you the way she could never love another man. But, her only problem is to seek sex (no emotion, just sex) outside your marriage. She also has her "dark secret past" causing her to do so (like yours for forgiveness sakes). She loves the thrill.

Think of that if this really happened, you OK with that? You don't have to reply here, just touch your heart and THINK !

[Clickclock]

Hmm yup, i do agree with your point, but just like politics, its a grey matter, you can't be ab so lllute (<<it got censored) in most things.

A married man who cheats is disregarding his marriage vows and his commitment with his wife and kids. That I will frown upon.

Society is filled with a lot of diverse, specific cases, there are some men who did not know that coming to terms with his homosexuality is a possible option and they decide to get married and get kids out of societal pressure from the expectations of their families and their friends.

Ya, then again its wrong to be doing that.. be it with a man or a woman... its disloyalty, but we have to bear in mind the specific scenarios that some people face, can't generalize.

anyway, I often feel ticked off in seeing posts like "married man looking for ONS or some fun, have place", I don't see the perks or plus factor of being married to another gay man. Does it make him appear to be more sexually attractive? Is it some certificate proof that the guy is straight acting and thus entice more gay man to go after him for his masculinity? Really disgraceful...

Edited December 2, 2012 by Clickclock

[Guest Guest]

OK guys. I've posted my other comments before, but I feel compelled to say something again. And this WILL be my last and most honest response. First of all, I am married. I am very much in love with my wife. You can argue differently, but I can tell you with all honesty that I doubt I will ever love a man the way I love my wife. That said, let me remind you of the current moral climate the entire LGBT finds themselves in. We (I consider myself bisexual) are not totally accepted by all of society. It's that simple. I don't think it's fair, but it's the truth. I sincerely hope it changes, and am supportive of giving ALL people the same rights and respect they deserve. We're all different, so we should all be treated the same (think about that). So why do I mess around with guys? Good question. I do it because my Mother's brother, my Uncle, introduced me to his penis when I was a 13 year old boy. For some reason I liked it. He would let me caress his hard cock in bed at night and I enjoyed how it would get hard. But that was all he would do with me. No orgasm, no oral, just touching. He would also share Playboy and Playgirl magazines with me. Perhaps he was bi, perhaps he was gay. But enough about that. I'm sure you understand. As I grew older, I still loved women. I would admire good looking men, but with no sexual intent in my mind. But by the time I was in my late 20s I had my first gay experience. Chatted with him on AOL. He was a straight acting guy, good looking, and talked me through the process. I was extremely nervous, and he was patient. First he kissed me, then he sucked me, and then I sucked him. After that, I craved more. Perhaps it was the thrill of doing something taboo, or the way guys express their sexuality with each other that has always kept me coming back for more. Granted, I take a tremendous risk at what I do. I'm not proud of having to live two different lives, but I'm not about to give up my straight one just for the cause of the gay ones who disagree with my point of view or how I live MY life. We're on the same team. Just not treated the same way. But if you want to judge me, then I cannot do anything about that. You have choices. So do I. I think we can all live with that for now.

P.S. I do realize some of you won't grasp what I am saying because your English isn't quite that good, and I am very articulate. So if you wish to chat with me, I am willing to listen and discuss it one on one. Yes, I can debate this subject quite well.

Your GREED is being judged here, Cassanova.

I think you love the PENIS more than your wife.

Aren't you afraid that your wife might find out one fine day & react to your gay fun by take drastic steps like killing herself ?

P.S: Pls dun hate me because I m so blunt & honest with you.

[Guest not that articulate]

P.S. I do realize some of you won't grasp what I am saying because your English isn't quite that good, and I am very articulate. So if you wish to chat with me, I am willing to listen and discuss it one on one. Yes, I can debate this subject quite well.

If you are that articulate, then no harm posting your points in the open forum... to let other understand what a married man is going through.

Dont worry about the language, we can dumb it down for readers who have problem understanding English

i have 2 qns though... (1) do you mind your wife cheating on you? (2) do you intend to keep your "gay life" secret from your wife?

If "Yes" to Q1, then you are a hypocrite, cause you are cheating on her

If "Yes" to Q2, see above

If "No" to both, then i wish you & your wife a happy marriage

[Guest moon]

OK guys. I've posted my other comments before, but I feel compelled to say something again. And this WILL be my last and most honest response. First of all, I am married. I am very much in love with my wife. You can argue differently, but I can tell you with all honesty that I doubt I will ever love a man the way I love my wife. That said, let me remind you of the current moral climate the entire LGBT finds themselves in. We (I consider myself bisexual) are not totally accepted by all of society. It's that simple. I don't think it's fair, but it's the truth. I sincerely hope it changes, and am supportive of giving ALL people the same rights and respect they deserve. We're all different, so we should all be treated the same (think about that). So why do I mess around with guys? Good question. I do it because my Mother's brother, my Uncle, introduced me to his penis when I was a 13 year old boy. For some reason I liked it. He would let me caress his hard cock in bed at night and I enjoyed how it would get hard. But that was all he would do with me. No orgasm, no oral, just touching. He would also share Playboy and Playgirl magazines with me. Perhaps he was bi, perhaps he was gay. But enough about that. I'm sure you understand. As I grew older, I still loved women. I would admire good looking men, but with no sexual intent in my mind. But by the time I was in my late 20s I had my first gay experience. Chatted with him on AOL. He was a straight acting guy, good looking, and talked me through the process. I was extremely nervous, and he was patient. First he kissed me, then he sucked me, and then I sucked him. After that, I craved more. Perhaps it was the thrill of doing something taboo, or the way guys express their sexuality with each other that has always kept me coming back for more. Granted, I take a tremendous risk at what I do. I'm not proud of having to live two different lives, but I'm not about to give up my straight one just for the cause of the gay ones who disagree with my point of view or how I live MY life. We're on the same team. Just not treated the same way. But if you want to judge me, then I cannot do anything about that. You have choices. So do I. I think we can all live with that for now.

P.S. I do realize some of you won't grasp what I am saying because your English isn't quite that good, and I am very articulate. So if you wish to chat with me, I am willing to listen and discuss it one on one. Yes, I can debate this subject quite well.

You may have forgotten or your heart was eaten by stray dogs. Below is to remind you of the marriage vow you said to your wife in front of the sacred altar.

I, ____, take you, ____, to be my Wife. I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.

You have no guilt, no shame and You're not a man.

[Guest moon]

I know what you are trying to get at but.. People are different. If I like ice-cream, my wife does not. But if she likes ice-cream, I also may not. Two totally independent things. You mean if I like ice-cream, she will also because I do ?

If it is about eating ice-cream, that's simple. The topic here is about fxxking around when you're married.

[Guest Guest]

P.S. I do realize some of you won't grasp what I am saying because your English isn't quite that good, and I am very articulate. So if you wish to chat with me, I am willing to listen and discuss it one on one. Yes, I can debate this subject quite well.

This forum is about the quality & worthiness of the thought or contents. This remarks was so condescending & that women & gays are just below you. You enjoy playing your demi-god by manipulating & abusing us, again & again.

You are very articulate could also mean you are very good at wrapping your tongue around anything that looks like a phallus.

"so if you wish to chat with me...... one on one" means you could be afraid of being 'lynched' in a public forum & would like to move it into a more private & personal space but the most befitting person you should invite is YOUR WIFE.

Yes, you can debate 'CHEATING MARRIED MEN' very well coz your eyes are blindfolded, your eyes covered & your heart - missing.

[snowball]

人是自私自利的, 往往只看到眼前的"利益"而不会顾忌放眼未来。

人总是自大狂妄而以为可以一手遮天。

人往往总是看到别人的不是, 看到别人的短处, 却不明原来很多时候都是五十步笑百步。

道德沦陷, 诺言无法兑现, 背叛与否该用什么去衡量?

想要好好爱, 却又伤害最不想伤害的人,

理性和感性如何才能找到一个平衡点?

欲望和责任感又如何取舍?

人就是如此矛盾复杂, 该如何才能填补无底洞?

自己最终要为所做的一切负责,

重要的是, 如果做了, 就要有承担的气魄和勇气,

人生毕竟无法事事随心所欲, 该放手时就别犹豫,

回头有时并不是很难。

[Guest Guest]

人是自私自利的, 往往只看到眼前的"利益"而不会顾忌放眼未来。

人总是自大狂妄而以为可以一手遮天。

人往往总是看到别人的不是, 看到别人的短处, 却不明原来很多时候都是五十步笑百步。

道德沦陷, 诺言无法兑现, 背叛与否该用什么去衡量?

想要好好爱, 却又伤害最不想伤害的人,

理性和感性如何才能找到一个平衡点?

欲望和责任感又如何取舍?

人就是如此矛盾复杂, 该如何才能填补无底洞?

自己最终要为所做的一切负责,

重要的是, 如果做了, 就要有承担的气魄和勇气,

人生毕竟无法事事随心所欲, 该放手时就别犹豫,

回头有时并不是很难。

Thank you for being eloquent & thought provoking in another language.

What's love? - Selfless? Responsible?Considerate?

Life is about choices & sometimes the consequence of making the right choice is loneliness.

Well, loneliness is the easiest to bear, compared to guilt.

[Guest moon]

Thank you for being eloquent & thought provoking in another language.

What's love? - Selfless? Responsible?Considerate?

Life is about choices & sometimes the consequence of making the right choice is loneliness.

Well, loneliness is the easiest to bear, compared to guilt.

if you have chosen to marry a wife and it caused you "loneliness", then the choice is not the "right" choice. Also, you mentioned "choice" i.e. you're not being "forced" to do something against your will. Unfortunately, "I am being forced to marry" has been a convenient excuse for many cheating married men.

I, ____, take you, ____, to be my lawfully wedded Wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.

Then you're making the marriage vow like a talking parrot without understand the sacred promise between the bride and groom. Your vow, your commitment to your wife, your life-time partner is invalid. You should not marry in the 1st place.

[Guest Jericho]

I Once had an fb whom I hooked up w once every few months. He is a real good cocksucker and can spend a long time slurping sucking and worshipping my cock. He is flex but w me he goes all bottom taking my dick up his ass like a total slut bottom and when I'm about to cum he will insist that I shoot it in his mouth and he will suck and lick all the cum until not a drop is left on my cock. Once I was so super horny and needed to be serviced badly and so i Msged him for a hook up. He replied dat he was already in bed w another guy and asked me over to join them.

I was too horny to decline and when I got there he greeted me naked with his hard dick pointing straight at me. He led me into his bedroom where a naked guy was lying face down on d bed with his legs spread wide open. He had this beautiful fair bubble butt and a nice smooth little pickie hole. He turned and smile.

"hmm quite handsome" i Thot.

My cock got hard real fast and was pushing against my tight jeans. My fb has a really big cock n when it's hard like it was now it was really thick n long. He proceeded to push his thick dick into this guy n the guy was moaning like a slutty bitch enjoying every hard thrust of that long hard dick. It was such a turn on to watch. The btm reached out for my crotch n desperately grabbed at my zipper like a desperate btm slut. He didn't hv to try hard as I pulled my jeans n briefs down in one move n my hard cock just had a second to spring out before it disappeared into his mouth.

U grabbed his hair and roughly rammed his mouth with my hard cock making him choke each time while my fb also rammed his hard rod deep and hard inside the slut. . Btm slut was a gd cock sucker n was enjoying having both ends being rammed.

Then my fb said it.... "isn't it good getting yr cock sucked by a married guy? U want to come n screw his tight ass? It's really good and tight?"

I froze.

Images of a wife n kids flashed in my mind.....

[subarucap]

we talk a lot on moral conscience...

but even gay partners stray...

is it any different?

love your wife... love your partner... don't hurt anyone in the process... don't have to lie and you will live with a clear conscience.

the price of a clear conscience vs a guilty one... only you can ask yourself how much you are willing to pay for one or the other.

[Guest WTFisWRONG WITH THIS WORLD]

we talk a lot on moral conscience...

but even gay partners stray...

is it any different?

love your wife... love your partner... don't hurt anyone in the process... don't have to lie and you will live with a clear conscience.

the price of a clear conscience vs a guilty one... only you can ask yourself how much you are willing to pay for one or the other.

I AM FLABBERGASTED BY FLIXXX

WTF MAN! Wth is wrong with thissss world?

U blame it on nurture? Flixx? U call that convincing?

Wow if anyone respects you, that thing would be a dick.

Yea you're a thing, not a human. You love ur wife yet you fool around?

Why dont you come clean and let your wife join you?

THAT IS THE LEAST YOU CAN DO. Faggot.

And no, everyone is juded equally, gay , bisexual WHATEVER, you cheat,you sin, you get condemned.

And subarucap, you dont know the diff between an official oath, and aconsensual relationship?

With gay partners, only emotional damage applies if one cheats.

In marriage there are many more factors. Slowly go think ba!

[lausanne]

I sense a lot of high moral ground here. But cheating is itself emotional, it is not so easy to get away from one's own feelings.

For the ones who has strong stances against cheaters: You probably have not encountered having strong feelings for someone else other than your spouse - until the time comes when that happens to you personally, I doubt anyone can convince you otherwise.

It is not so easy to fight your own feelings. Some eventually will, but many others will fail and succumb to their feelings.

Edited December 5, 2012 by lausanne

[Guest Guest]

I sense a lot of high moral ground here. But cheating is itself emotional, it is not so easy to get away from one's own feelings.

For the ones who has strong stances against cheaters: You probably have not encountered having strong feelings for someone else other than your spouse - until the time comes when that happens to you personally, I doubt anyone can convince you otherwise.

It is not so easy to fight your own feelings. Some eventually will, but many others will fail and succumb to their feelings.

Well, it's easy. JUST SAY NO to cheating, like we did to drugs.

Sometimes, you just have to let your COMMON SENSE takes over your heart.

If you have feelings for the wrong person, KILL it before it develops into love - a tainted one.

[lausanne]

Im simply saying it is easier said than done, especially with feelings. Common sense is not really that common either.

To each their own.

Well, it's easy. JUST SAY NO to cheating, like we did to drugs.

Sometimes, you just have to let your COMMON SENSE takes over your heart.

If you have feelings for the wrong person, KILL it before it develops into love - a tainted one.

[Guest why censor?]

wow someone has been deleting comments!! ashamed much?

[DreamerBoyy]

All those who cheat on their spouses deserves to just die.

[Guest Guest]

All those who cheat on their spouses deserves to just die.

So says the 18 year old who has never been in a relationship.

[gstc82]

All those who cheat on their spouses deserves to just die.

omg, who gave you the moral authority to curse death on people? Dunt be self righteous right wing tyrant . N seriously, I hope no one you know, your friends, siblings, relatives ever cheated on their spouses as you actually believe their lives deserves to end. Reflect on what you write. Edited December 25, 2012 by gstc82

[Guest Guest]

I sense a lot of high moral ground here. But cheating is itself emotional, it is not so easy to get away from one's own feelings.

For the ones who has strong stances against cheaters: You probably have not encountered having strong feelings for someone else other than your spouse - until the time comes when that happens to you personally, I doubt anyone can convince you otherwise.

It is not so easy to fight your own feelings. Some eventually will, but many others will fail and succumb to their feelings.

yes i feel you. the forbidden fruit tastes the sweetest. for something that isn't yours or u havent got it, you always expect, anticipate or wonder. but once you got it, the hurdle is cleared and after awhile, it goes on again.

these kind of emotional struggles, no matter how much you 'seek help' from anyone or even talk to both parties, the answer only lies within yourself, the inner voice in you.

there is no right or wrong, but whatever action you take or decision you make, you have to think of the consequences (good or bad) and live with it and deal with it.

actually sometimes it is very simple, it is only about 'how much you love your partner' and 'how strong is the relationship'.

[doncoin]

Seriously, it is almost 2013, and everyone is still debating about married men. For married men, they've made the choice to be married, and they do what they have to do to express their gay side. I call it having the cake and eat it too mentality. Whatever it is, it is a choice they have made, so let them be. They can cheat their wives, lie to their families, and themselves, and forever live in fear of being outed, but it is their choice.

Gay guys into married men, you deserve better. You deserve someone who will love you and make you feel special instead of being the "mistress", coming in second or third place in his life after his wife and kids. More than that, you do not have to be an accomplice to his lie- help maintain the facade that he is a straight married man, and in the process, lie to yourself, or even your friends.

Of course, if both parties are willing to cheat and lie to each other, and know what they are getting into, who are we to judge?

[dannysuz]

两脚走路, 左脚走因, 右脚走果。 You have your choice to maintain the relationship. Happy New year 2013.

[Guest married man]

This is an imperfect world. Just as married man treated their gay/ bi friend as mistress, there are also those gay/bi who are out to cheat on married man feeling and love.. There are many reasons for what a person did. But we can never understand why we did what we did.

[Guest Xuesha]

omg, who gave you the moral authority to curse death on people? Dunt be self righteous right wing tyrant . N seriously, I hope no one you know, your friends, siblings, relatives ever cheated on their spouses as you actually believe their lives deserves to end. Reflect on what you write.

:clap:

[DreamerBoyy]

So says the 18 year old who has never been in a relationship.

omg, who gave you the moral authority to curse death on people? Dunt be self righteous right wing tyrant . N seriously, I hope no one you know, your friends, siblings, relatives ever cheated on their spouses as you actually believe their lives deserves to end. Reflect on what you write.

I may not have been in a relationship, but someone close to me did. They got married, had kids and got a divorce in the end because one of them cheated. When you decide to get married, you chose to share the next half of your life with your spouse. If you intend to cheat on your spouse, I just don't think that is right. If feelings faded and all seems impossible to salvage, have a discussion about it and end the current phase of your life well before beginning another phase because if you don't, you'll hurt your spouse greater in the future than in the discussion. Cheating is an irresponsible option.

So, in all due respect, if you had been in my position, you would know that I am very clear of what I am writing. I agree that I may have been harsh with my words though. But somehow, I won't feel pity or sad if that man died. Call me cruel or call me cold- blooded, I'm just stating my stand.

[Guest 范文芳]

All those who cheat on their spouses deserves to just die.

重要是, 自己的路, 自己该会怎么走怎么做, 不是吗?

你可以不同意不欣赏别人的作风和生活方式, 但也不应出言不逊,

话不必说的太过火, 无需太绝, 那也是为自己留一条后路

[gstc82]

Pls note that the sentences have different meanings " mr scumbags Deserves to Just Die" and " I will not pity Mr Scumbag if he is Dead".

[Guest Guest]

Pls note that the sentences have different meanings " mr scumbags Deserves to Just Die" and " I will not pity Mr Scumbag if he is Dead".

:clap:

[glowingember]

In our society, cheating is viewed negatively.

But in some other society, it may not be wrong.

It's not a universal view.

However, one bears the consequence of one's actions.

If one doesn't like it, then don't do it.

Why do some forummers get so worked up over this?

Perhaps they feel the unfairness of broken promises and they despise the person who breaks the promise.

But the promise is between that person and his partner or spouse, not between the forummers and him.

Why cast stones?

[imchaser]

All those who cheat on their spouses deserves to just die.

I may not have been in a relationship, but someone close to me did. They got married, had kids and got a divorce in the end because one of them cheated. When you decide to get married, you chose to share the next half of your life with your spouse. If you intend to cheat on your spouse, I just don't think that is right. If feelings faded and all seems impossible to salvage, have a discussion about it and end the current phase of your life well before beginning another phase because if you don't, you'll hurt your spouse greater in the future than in the discussion. Cheating is an irresponsible option.

So, in all due respect, if you had been in my position, you would know that I am very clear of what I am writing. I agree that I may have been harsh with my words though. But somehow, I won't feel pity or sad if that man died. Call me cruel or call me cold- blooded, I'm just stating my stand.

An 18 yo trying to act mature by preaching his moral values to our face, without even being in a relationship himself. Sadly, it reflects a thinking of a 10 years old.

I doubt he never cheated before his entire 18 yo. If so, he deserve to die too since he curse all cheaters to death.

Team cheater

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Edited December 27, 2012 by imchaser

[Guest Guest]

Why do some forummers get so worked up over this?

Perhaps they feel the unfairness of broken promises and they despise the person who breaks the promise.

But the promise is between that person and his partner or spouse, not between the forummers and him.

Why cast stones?

All these girls getting their panties in knickers over cheating married men are so not fetch!

[Guest Guest]

Geisha (on cheating married men):

"All the girls, if you're tired of cooking and cleaning while your man is at the bashment, let me see some bullet bullet bullet!"

:twisted:

[Guest Andrew Fung]

An 18 yo trying to act mature by preaching his moral values to our face, without even being in a relationship himself. Sadly, it reflects a thinking of a 10 years old.

I doubt he never cheated before his entire 18 yo. If so, he deserve to die too since he curse all cheaters to death .

Well said Chaser !

It is understood that to be human, none of us are immune to delinquent behavior. However, a key factor in recognizing true character is whether he will commit to reforming those breaches. For your one friend who caused devastation to his own family, there are many other married men seeking advice and help to suppress their innate needs for male contact in other threads.

Why not talk about that? Perhaps it is more tantalizing to jump on the right-wing express, cast stones and score political points ?

Here we have a proud 18 year old moralist - never had experience in love - becoming lost in his own brand of blind hypocrisy. That speaks volumes on the youths of today’s world. If you are sincere about wanting to bring wholesomeness to our world, then help those who have fallen short and pick up those who slipped through the cracks of our society.

Cursing death to ALL cheats and not helping those who struggle is just yourself preening on your high horse.

[Guest Guest]

Well said Chaser !

It is understood that to be human, none of us are immune to delinquent behavior. However, a key factor in recognizing true character is whether he will commit to reforming those breaches. For your one friend who caused devastation to his own family, there are many other married men seeking advice and help to suppress their innate needs for male contact in other threads.

Why not talk about that? Perhaps it is more tantalizing to jump on the right-wing express, cast stones and score political points ?

Here we have a proud 18 year old moralist - never had experience in love - becoming lost in his own brand of blind hypocrisy. That speaks volumes on the youths of today’s world. If you are sincere about wanting to bring wholesomeness to our world, then help those who have fallen short and pick up those who slipped through the cracks of our society.

Cursing death to ALL cheats and not helping those who struggle is just yourself preening on your high horse.

:clap:

[Guest married and in love]

Am close to 50 and married. Recently knew this gay guy and we hit off quite well. Went movies, makan and even short trip to JB.

Am thinking should I go on as normal friend or seriously thinking into relationship.

Non of us hv bought out the issue but I just want to have a early tthougts before things get out of hand. Anyway he not aware that Am married and my age.

Hope to hear some thoughts from u guy

[EasleyLim]

How does your wife/husband feel about it?

[snowball]

让一切顺其自然吧, 何必庸人自扰, 也许八字还没一撇呢。

就算你对他有感觉, 你能肯定就是,爱? 也可能是一时的新鲜感。

问自己你能给予他些什么? 你有时间陪他, 或在他最需要的时候?

走一步算一步吧, 你也无法给他任何的保障, 目前这样的生活不是最好的安排吗?

不想跟你谈道德责任感问题, 但我认为你有必要跟他坦白已婚的事件,

知道真相后他会如何取舍是他的选择, 但至少你对他没隐瞒。

Edited February 7, 2013 by snowball

[Afterwork]

I guess it depends on what the both of you wants...

For all u know, he may not want to progress further with u. So end of story.

Am married too, so guys are NSA fun for me, so I'm pretty clear on this and won't progress beyond a normal fren.

Not here to judge, so if both of you feel you wanna progress, more power to you and go for it but just be aware of the road ahead.

At your age, you shld hv enuff sense and sensibility to think this.

Wish u good luck

[Guest Guest]

YOU ARE MARRIED! What are you thinking?

Why are you neglecting your wife and children? You sound very selfish and self-centred.

Stop what you are doing and focus all your attention on your family. They deserve better from you. It doesn't matter wether you are gay, bi or curious; you made a choice to get married. You have a commitment through wedding vows with your wife and you have responsibilities to your children. Honour these people. They are looking to you for love and to be a good role model. It's time to act like it.

Hope it all works out for you.

[Guest guest]

How do you identify yourself sexually: gay, bi, curious? Have you ever had crushes on guys before? Why now at 50 are you all of a sudden attracted to a man? Is this just a one off situation where you have never been attracted to another man before? Are you a closeted gay who was forced to marry for family or other reasons?

The reason I ask these questions is it's difficult to answer you without some more background information.

If you did pursue this relationship, would you be willing to lose your wife, kids and/or career over it? Are you willing to pay the price? If you did get into a relationship, are you willing to risk introducing STD's to your wife and how would you explain it to her? Every choice you make in life has consequences.

[Guest Guest]

你好！

您厌卷家庭的生活，想舍去曹康？前路不明朗， 您输得起马。。。。

三思

[GymStock]

TS,

You should come into the thread "Anything and Everything about Married Guys" and see how all those who are married would advise you on this matter.

I will not say yes or no, go or leave it... as most of what need to be said is said and frankly, at your age, you should be able to tell what is right or wrong, or minimally, which is a lesser evil.

But, there is only 1 thing I have as an advise for you.

BE HONEST!

If you want the relationship to go deeper, you jolly well let him know that you are married!

Just like everyone who chat with me on all those social apps, I make it a point to say that I am married. We may not become a lover, but at least those who wants to know you, knows that you have nothing to hide from them and that you are honest to them, they become your good friends.

Withholding such information from him, will only create doubts and suspicion about you... "what else has he not told me?" "Can I trust him in the future".

Whatever it is... you mess your bed... you go make it. Every decision has consequence(s).

Hope you find your way about this.

Cheers!

[ArickTeo]

Am close to 50 and married. Recently knew this gay guy and we hit off quite well. Went movies, makan and even short trip to JB.

Am thinking should I go on as normal friend or seriously thinking into relationship.

Non of us hv bought out the issue but I just want to have a early tthougts before things get out of hand. Anyway he not aware that Am married and my age.

Hope to hear some thoughts from u guy

My sincere advise to u, STAY WITH YOUR WIFE, CHILDREN N HAVE FAMILY WARM