Sugar Daddies & Seekers Discussion [Anyone Posting Ads Will Be suspended!] (compiled)

[Sport1]

1 hour ago, singalion said:

 

But the 40s/50s guy would be less declined to follow the commands of the sugar daddy...

Looks like trouble to me.

How long can the 40s sustain being the subject of another. For a younger guy that would be less difficult.

 

Also the 40s/50s guy has less financial needs as he should already stand on his own feet...

 

If you pay for the sex and company then you want something young and hot.

 

 

this apply when sugar daddy is only look for action behind the door thing. What if sugar daddy are looking companionship?  

[singalion]

12 minutes ago, Sport1 said:

this apply when sugar daddy is only look for action behind the door thing. What if sugar daddy are looking companionship?  

 

I would feel pity for a guy who needs to buy "companionship" for social outings... 

 

Sorry to say this so bluntly. 

 

[doncoin]

While I am not a sugar daddy per se, I don't think I am on that financial level, I have over the years helped from time to time guys who are younger than me financially. It's never huge sums of money, a couple hundred here and there, and I have no expectations of getting repaid. 

 

The well-mannered ones would make some form of trade like I had one who offered to help clean my apartment and run errands for me. One thing I have always made it clear to them is that the financial help has no strings attached. I do it because I can, and to emphasize the point, usually, the sex stops once money is given. I just do not want to create this obligation from the guy, and that will have me wondering if he is nice to me because I gave him cash, or he is just a nice person? 

 

Out of the lot only maybe 2 actually repaid me the full sum which I appreciate, but it does change the dynamics of the relationship. Like I've said, the sex stops once the money is swapped hands. 

[radiusulnar]

12 hours ago, doncoin said:

the sex stops once the money is swapped hands

 

interesting. so once money is lent, that aspect of the relationship ends? or the entire relationship ends?

[doncoin]

13 hours ago, radiusulnar said:

 

interesting. so once money is lent, that aspect of the relationship ends? or the entire relationship ends?

 

That aspect of the relationship ends. I just don't want to create a transaction-type relationship with that person. So I'd rather we be friends, have dinner, etc. and I never invite them back to my place again. 

[radiusulnar]

will it ever restored, for example, you are paid back?

[doncoin]

On 5/22/2024 at 11:40 PM, radiusulnar said:

will it ever restored, for example, you are paid back?

 

 

With one of the guys who paid me back in full, we did hook up again after a year and a half later. For me I feel that money changes the dynamics of a relationship, even something as casual as a fuck buddy. 

[radiusulnar]

What level of financial support would be considered sugar daddy level? Michelin restaurant, super car, orchard condo, ion shopping? Or shake shack, grab, suburban hdb, Lazada?

[mate69]

6 hours ago, radiusulnar said:

What level of financial support would be considered sugar daddy level? Michelin restaurant, super car, orchard condo, ion shopping? Or shake shack, grab, suburban hdb, Lazada?

Spans a range. Depending on the transaction terms between both parties

[YYYY]

I was a sugarbaby 24-25 years ago, happy to share my experiences if anyone is interested.

[Steve5380]

7 hours ago, YYYY said:

I was a sugarbaby 24-25 years ago, happy to share my experiences if anyone is interested.

 

I have had contacts with some good sugarbabies.  One has to be careful, but it can be positive.

 

Good.  So please start sharing your experiences.   

[Steve5380]

On 5/25/2024 at 5:35 PM, oldies-lover said:

I do not to pay for an older man if he matches the below

 

a. Chinese married ( Age - 70 and abv )

b. Non smoker

c. Average body tone

d. Decent business look and on business pants

e. Retired teacher / Principal 

 

Typo error

 

I will pay if anyone matches the bill.

 

Would you pay for an 81 year old?

[oldies-lover]

yes if he meets the requirements 

[YYYY]

14 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

 

I have had contacts with some good sugarbabies.  One has to be careful, but it can be positive.

 

Good.  So please start sharing your experiences.   

 

What would you like to know? Cos I had a number of sugardaddies, sometimes a few at the same time (unknown to each other of course).

[YYYY]

12 hours ago, oldies-lover said:

yes if he meets the requirements 

 

How much would you pay? Just curious...

[oldies-lover]

really depends

 

have to see the photo and the person.

[Steve5380]

3 hours ago, YYYY said:

 

What would you like to know? Cos I had a number of sugardaddies, sometimes a few at the same time (unknown to each other of course).

 

Could you make a living from your one or multiple sugardaddies?   Did you have to live with them?

[radiusulnar]

18 hours ago, YYYY said:

sometimes a few at the same time (unknown to each other of course).

 

how did you manage to juggle? 

[YYYY]

37 minutes ago, radiusulnar said:

how did you manage to juggle? 

 

Easy, I met them on different days. One of them I met every Saturday afternoon when he dropped his daughter off at the library for a few hours, another was once a week for dinner and a blowjob or handjob in his Lexus afterwards. They were not terribly demanding, in most cases it was light fun and companionship they sought more than anything else.

Edited September 4 by YYYY

[Guest Guest]

5 hours ago, YYYY said:

 

Easy, I met them on different days. One of them I met every Saturday afternoon when he dropped his daughter off at the library for a few hours, another was once a week for dinner and a blowjob or handjob in his Lexus afterwards. They were not terribly demanding, in most cases it was light fun and companionship they sought more than anything else.

You get to know your sugar daddies through app, social gathering, high society events, mutual friends, agency or pimps? 🤔 🤫

[oldies-lover]

6 hours ago, YYYY said:

 

Easy, I met them on different days. One of them I met every Saturday afternoon when he dropped his daughter off at the library for a few hours, another was once a week for dinner and a blowjob or handjob in his Lexus afterwards. They were not terribly demanding, in most cases it was light fun and companionship they sought more than anything else.

so where to find all these oldies??

[YYYY]

On 9/4/2024 at 5:59 PM, Guest Guest said:

You get to know your sugar daddies through app, social gathering, high society events, mutual friends, agency or pimps? 🤔 🤫

 

None of these. In those days, late 90's to early 2000's, there were no gay apps and one's handphone was only for making and receiving phone calls and simple text messages.

 

Altogether I had 7 to 8 sugardaddies throughout the years, the first one I met at Plaza Singapura toilet (famous in the 90's for cruising), the Lexus driver I met at Club Street (also famous in the 90's for cruising late at night where drivers would drive up and down the road and in and out of the car park to cruise for younger, fitter guys), another one I met at Delta Swimming Pool, and another one I met at V Club gay spa (closed down). 

 

[YYYY]

On 9/4/2024 at 6:59 PM, oldies-lover said:

so where to find all these oldies??

 

See my answer above. Nowadays swimming pools are no longer cruisy and Club Street/Raffles Place is no longer a place for gays to cruise at night because it has been heavily developed into skyscrapers and tall office buildings. Most people now meet in spas and through apps. I think the most realistic way for sugarbabies and sugardaddies to connect nowadays is through app. I know of an older Chinese Singaporean bottom who regularly brings his toyboy to fuck him at Shogun - the toyboy is a tall handsome and fit Malaysian Malay with a big cock.

[SidneyC]

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Edited October 8 by SidneyC

[fenghou]

When I was in my twenties and at my peak (as per dp then), a few people offered.

 

But it was never explicit such as "you want to be my sugar boy?"

 

It went more along the line of, hey I heard you like that [insert expensive thing], why not let me get that for you. Back then I was very staunch in having my backbone and I rejected both the items and even the basic friendship (i stopped talking to them). Now in my 30s, life's hard and sometimes I wonder....

 

hahahaha

 

on a separate note, I met a late 20s sugar boy, his fucking skills is superb (like really really good), but he is extremely "weird" in terms of mentality and world-view. Not a perspective that can normalize with age and experience, just weird and very-off. He is good in bed and on his instagram, keep seeing jumping hotels to hotels every 2 to 3 weeks. Guess business is good for him but here's the kick, he has a completely normal corporate job.

Edited September 9 by fenghou

[radiusulnar]

7 hours ago, fenghou said:

completely normal corporate job

 

dr jekell and mr hyde

[Tom_S]

I wish i have someone paying for my meals, and give me some couple hundred bucks for pocket money. It would help a lot. 
But don't think i will be able to find a sugar daddy since i never manage to get any during my 20s, and now I am ald 30s. 

SAD

[Guest Guest]

So to say sugar daddies only look for guys in their 20? They are not into 30 or 40 even if they are hot?

[sgbidaddy]

In my opinion, Sugar daddy means you pay for EVERYTHING.

You are rich enough to afford your boy's expenses with monthly allowance.

If you are not in that category, you are not a sugar daddy...

[GachiMuchi]

In my 20s, (80s) I met a man who changed my life. I was working as a sales assistant in a shop, and he was the boss of a nearby agency. He would chat with me, invite me out for food and drinks, and even celebrated my 24th birthday, always covering the expenses.

Eventually, I became his assistant at the agency. We lived together in his house, enjoyed delicious meals, and attended numerous parties and events.

He treated me well until he grew tired of me.

One day, a stranger called his house and told me he was seeing others behind my back. I was shocked. When I confronted him, he lied, claiming someone was trying to break us up.

His lies unraveled when he gave me an STD. I was furious. He took me to a doctor, and it was my first time getting treated for an STD. I felt scared and ashamed.

I eventually forgave him after I recovered. Back then, I was young and naive. I didn’t understand what love was; I just appreciated his kindness, as I never received special treatment at home.

I finally broke up with him after he started verbally abusing me when he was drunk, saying very nasty things. We were together for about a year until, after a heated argument, he physically abused me with an object over my head.

I realized then that this was not the life I wanted for myself. I decided to leave him.

He was devastated. He asked me to talk and threatened to out me. I lied, telling him I had informed my parents about his abuse and that he forced me to be gay. He was shocked and sadden and left me alone after that.

I realized I never really loved him; I only loved the fun and care he provided. I’m glad that chapter is behind me.

I still do get people interested in me in my 30s but I by then, I had learned my lessons and knows better. 

There is always a price to pay. 

[bigboyclubsg]

ngl the sugar baby lifestyle intrigued me but I feel it's only for the conventionally attractive right? 

[Guest Guest]

A serious question, is there a age limit to be a sugar boy?

[shenalone]

It is a dream to try to be a sugar baby but already, just started my 30s I guess no more chance?

[doncoin]

I was inspired by @GachiMuchi's story and it reminded me of a period in my time when I had this older guy. To some degree perhaps it is a rite of passage, a form of pederasty. It was around the last 6 months of my NS when I met this guy at the SAFRA town club at Wheelock Place. I had gone to used the gym there as I had plans to meet my friends at Olio Dome after. 

 

During my workout I noticed this older guy checking me out, and when I used the spa facilities later he followed, and we striked up a conversation. Long story short, after meeting my friends, he picked me up in his BMW then and we drove to his apartment along Holland Road. He was a nice guy, closeted. Family ran one of the big tour agencies and he is in family business. We somewhat built up a routine, where he would pick me up from camp some weekday evenings as I could book out, and we'd drive to his place, and I'd spend the night there, and he drove me back the next morning. We'd go to nice restaurants, etc. and never once did I foot the bill. We went shopping, but it just felt weird having someone to pay for me, and so I never asked him to get me anything. 

 

He was a sweet guy, and looking back, I also felt that he was a lonely guy. I think partly because he was closeted, and being in the family business, he had to maintain the facade. We parted ways when I was getting ready to move overseas for uni. but as a farewell, I bought him a meal and a Ericsson phone (this was the circa 97-98 when Ericsson phones were the rage). We lost touch and I have not seen him in over 25 years. 

[shenalone]

6 minutes ago, doncoin said:

I was inspired by @GachiMuchi's story and it reminded me of a period in my time when I had this older guy. To some degree perhaps it is a rite of passage, a form of pederasty. It was around the last 6 months of my NS when I met this guy at the SAFRA town club at Wheelock Place. I had gone to used the gym there as I had plans to meet my friends at Olio Dome after. 

 

During my workout I noticed this older guy checking me out, and when I used the spa facilities later he followed, and we striked up a conversation. Long story short, after meeting my friends, he picked me up in his BMW then and we drove to his apartment along Holland Road. He was a nice guy, closeted. Family ran one of the big tour agencies and he is in family business. We somewhat built up a routine, where he would pick me up from camp some weekday evenings as I could book out, and we'd drive to his place, and I'd spend the night there, and he drove me back the next morning. We'd go to nice restaurants, etc. and never once did I foot the bill. We went shopping, but it just felt weird having someone to pay for me, and so I never asked him to get me anything. 

 

He was a sweet guy, and looking back, I also felt that he was a lonely guy. I think partly because he was closeted, and being in the family business, he had to maintain the facade. We parted ways when I was getting ready to move overseas for uni. but as a farewell, I bought him a meal and a Ericsson phone (this was the circa 97-98 when Ericsson phones were the rage). We lost touch and I have not seen him in over 25 years. 

That a sweet life story. I guess I need to start going out for a walk or to a gym. To increase my chances? But not very good with conversations. Guess I will be the lonely guy next

[GachiMuchi]

2 hours ago, shenalone said:

It is a dream to try to be a sugar baby but already, just started my 30s I guess no more chance?

 

1 hour ago, shenalone said:

That a sweet life story. I guess I need to start going out for a walk or to a gym. To increase my chances? But not very good with conversations. Guess I will be the lonely guy next

 

My sharing is a cautionary warnings to people and not a show off of my past of how great I was at the receiving end of being a sugar baby. I never felt proud of my past and had never thought of using my looks or body to attracts people to get money, gifts, etc.  It happened at a time when I was a young and naive and learned my lessons.  I also do not encourage anyone to follow my footsteps. 

 

If at 30s you still want to be unrealistic and expects to be treated as a sugar baby, you really need to take a hard look and yourself.... what can you offer to the table... are you gorgeous and you are good fucker...etc.

 

I would enourage you to earn your own keep.  There are no free lunches!

 

[SidneyC]

On 9/8/2024 at 5:37 PM, YYYY said:

 

None of these. In those days, late 90's to early 2000's, there were no gay apps and one's handphone was only for making and receiving phone calls and simple text messages.

 

Altogether I had 7 to 8 sugardaddies throughout the years, the first one I met at Plaza Singapura toilet (famous in the 90's for cruising), the Lexus driver I met at Club Street (also famous in the 90's for cruising late at night where drivers would drive up and down the road and in and out of the car park to cruise for younger, fitter guys), another one I met at Delta Swimming Pool, and another one I met at V Club gay spa (closed down). 

 

can ask how you got into the sugardaddy relationship.you asked for it or they just offered.

what was the payments like?and was it over many years or just several months.

Edited October 8 by SidneyC

[wowww]

honestly having sugar daddies approach u isnt that hard as long as ure willing to accept and have the face/body/age😅

[YYYY]

On 10/8/2024 at 11:40 AM, SidneyC said:

can ask how you got into the sugardaddy relationship.you asked for it or they just offered.

what was the payments like?and was it over many years or just several months.

 

I got into it because I needed money urgently to pay my contra losses from playing shares. For example, there was this effeminate guy who often loitered at the shopping alley at Raffles Place MRT Station. It was early 1997 and he was working at UOB as a bank officer. I was also working at Raffles Place so I spotted him often, so when I lost money in the stock market and needed money quickly to cover the loss, I stared at him and he quickly brought me by taxi to his home near Clementi where he first sucked me and then I gave him the fuck of his life. I have a huge mushroom cock head so I knew he would really enjoy. Afterwards he gave me his phone number of course. One or two days later, I called him and told him I needed to borrow $1,400. He said yes immediately and met me at the alley to pass me the cash. I never contacted him again because he wasn't my type and I was only using him to get my hands on cash quickly. I was also afraid he would sooner or later ask for his money back. Anyway we did spot each other months later at the alley but we didn't speak, he knew I had played him out but he didn't look angry, just disappointed. I probably played my cards wrongly: if I had continued to meet him and be his sex buddy/boyfriend, he would probably have lavished money/gifts on me. Guess I was just dumb but he really wasn't my type, being very pale and soft.

[YYYY]

On 10/8/2024 at 6:25 PM, wowww said:

honestly having sugar daddies approach u isnt that hard as long as ure willing to accept and have the face/body/age😅

 

Yes that's true. If you have the face/body/age, someone will approach you if you send out the right signals that you're interested in the other party.

[jcboy18]

are sugar daddies even that worth it? been kinda considering it😂

[Thatguy642]

On 10/8/2024 at 2:40 PM, SidneyC said:

can ask how you got into the sugardaddy relationship.you asked for it or they just offered.

what was the payments like?and was it over many years or just several months.

Honestly, just get relatively fit and post a good picture on here or go on Grindr and you’ll get people offering you money. It’s pretty wild, but you gotta follow your gut as well because sometimes these ‘sugar daddies’ have zero respect for your personal space/privacy, and it’s pretty easy to get blackmailed if you’re not careful. 
 

3 minutes ago, jcboy18 said:

are sugar daddies even that worth it? been kinda considering it😂

if you really need money it can help, but there are other ways to earn money. It can be a pretty dangerous path because eventually when money comes so ‘easily’ it’ll be pretty tough when you need to cut some of them off if they’re not respecting any boundaries and if you get used to spending money as easily as you get it, you’ll feel broke 😂 it can also be pretty damaging to your mental health sometimes, but there are good sugar daddies out there who respect you as a human being but it seems to be pretty rare as far as I’m aware.

[jcboy18]

22 minutes ago, Thatguy642 said:

Honestly, just get relatively fit and post a good picture on here or go on Grindr and you’ll get people offering you money. It’s pretty wild, but you gotta follow your gut as well because sometimes these ‘sugar daddies’ have zero respect for your personal space/privacy, and it’s pretty easy to get blackmailed if you’re not careful. 
 

if you really need money it can help, but there are other ways to earn money. It can be a pretty dangerous path because eventually when money comes so ‘easily’ it’ll be pretty tough when you need to cut some of them off if they’re not respecting any boundaries and if you get used to spending money as easily as you get it, you’ll feel broke 😂 it can also be pretty damaging to your mental health sometimes, but there are good sugar daddies out there who respect you as a human being but it seems to be pretty rare as far as I’m aware.

ohhh alrights thank you!!

[Pubico1]

1 hour ago, YYYY said:

 

I got into it because I needed money urgently to pay my contra losses from playing shares. For example, there was this effeminate guy who often loitered at the shopping alley at Raffles Place MRT Station. It was early 1997 and he was working at UOB as a bank officer. I was also working at Raffles Place so I spotted him often, so when I lost money in the stock market and needed money quickly to cover the loss, I stared at him and he quickly brought me by taxi to his home near Clementi where he first sucked me and then I gave him the fuck of his life. I have a huge mushroom cock head so I knew he would really enjoy. Afterwards he gave me his phone number of course. One or two days later, I called him and told him I needed to borrow $1,400. He said yes immediately and met me at the alley to pass me the cash. I never contacted him again because he wasn't my type and I was only using him to get my hands on cash quickly. I was also afraid he would sooner or later ask for his money back. Anyway we did spot each other months later at the alley but we didn't speak, he knew I had played him out but he didn't look angry, just disappointed. I probably played my cards wrongly: if I had continued to meet him and be his sex buddy/boyfriend, he would probably have lavished money/gifts on me. Guess I was just dumb but he really wasn't my type, being very pale and soft.

Oh wow … and you didn’t return him his S$1.4K that you “borrowed”? .. amazing 

[wowww]

2 hours ago, YYYY said:

 

Yes that's true. If you have the face/body/age, someone will approach you if you send out the right signals that you're interested in the other party.

yeah from my experience as long as ure in the 18/19 age range, have a relatively good body and face then it’s not even a case of having to look for one it’s about people approaching u😂 

But for me those i had didnt like to label themselves as sugar daddies though🤷🤷

[doncoin]

Instead of a sugar daddy, consider an OnlyFans, and get multiple sugar daddies. That's what most young guys I meet seem to have in common lately. 

[radiusulnar]

On 10/28/2024 at 11:08 AM, doncoin said:

consider an OnlyFans,

 

But only those who are extroverted and non discreet will consider this route?

[abcwater]

7 hours ago, radiusulnar said:

 

But only those who are extroverted and non discreet will consider this route?

well im introverted and discreet 😛 

[radiusulnar]

35 minutes ago, abcwater said:

well im introverted and discreet 😛 

Quite unbelievable! 

Perhaps you are a functional extrovert and exhibitionist

[G_M]

1 hour ago, Sweetie Pie said:

My sugar daddy is HIM, the one and only in heaven, who created the world.  I am not apologetic that you are envious. 🤭

 

Don't be an idiot!

Stop diverting from topic, the discussion is not related to your god.

Any nonsense from you and you will get a warning point.

Consider this a warning.

 

Get back to the topic!