Sugar Daddies & Seekers Discussion [Anyone Posting Ads Will Be suspended!] (compiled)

[Sweetie Pie]

Alright, alright!    If "Sugar Daddy" has any meaning at all, I have no idea what it means or who it refers to. In contrast to the straight world, where "Sugar Daddy" is frequently shown in drama films as a tycoon surrounded by mistresses each with gift of large houses and cars and endless cash to splurge, no one has persuaded me of Sugar Daddy's function in the gay community, if it is even remotely feasible.   This topic kept my eyes rolling.  May be we should all  dream of something more probable instead. 

Edited November 3 by Sweetie Pie

[Steve5380]

On 11/3/2024 at 3:01 AM, Sweetie Pie said:

 

Alright, alright!    If "Sugar Daddy" has any meaning at all, I have no idea what it means or who it refers to...

 

 

I understand,  and although I agree with the Moderator's criticism,  perhaps you are innocent if you have fallen for some of the Christian doctrine that paints the God as such a benevolent figure, who created the Universe, the World, and everything in it...  FOR US!   But perhaps you are not familiar with the Old Testament,  where the God of Israel had quite a heavy hand with humans around him.  No "sugar" at all!

 

And, if you look into, you will find that the God of Abraham, enhanced by Catholicism who divided him in three, is just the opposite of a "Sugar Daddy" to us the GAYS and homosexuals in general,  who according to the religious has the biggest abhorrence for gay sex!  (making one wonder how an infinitely powerful God can get so upset over such a small thing... )

[Steve5380]

On 9/10/2024 at 12:42 PM, GachiMuchi said:

 

 

My sharing is a cautionary warnings to people and not a show off of my past of how great I was at the receiving end of being a sugar baby. I never felt proud of my past and had never thought of using my looks or body to attracts people to get money, gifts, etc.  It happened at a time when I was a young and naive and learned my lessons.  I also do not encourage anyone to follow my footsteps. 

 

If at 30s you still want to be unrealistic and expects to be treated as a sugar baby, you really need to take a hard look and yourself.... what can you offer to the table... are you gorgeous and you are good fucker...etc.

 

I would enourage you to earn your own keep.  There are no free lunches!

 

 

I share your same feelings about being the subject of sugar daddies.  I was attractive when young and I noticed that some people were after me,  but in the closet I was unaproachable.  If I had fallen for someone, I would not feel any shame like we should not feel for what happened when we were young and inexperienced.  

 

You probably never had a need to become a sugar baby to relate to people you liked, and you never initiated such a relationship.  Neither did I,  but circumstances drew me into what could be considered to be a sugar daddy.

 

I met my bf, who became the love of my life, when he was in his early 30s.  Physically attractive, but what drew me to him was his spirit.  A modest guy from a poor Mexican family, with only a basic education, but what a kind soul! In our early interaction I naturally paid for most since I was 20 years older, but he was careful not to make me spend much money (unlike some other cute young guys I had affairs with).  Shortly after we met, he started to have health problems and once he was fired from his job for being gay!  Given his situation, I asked him to come to live with me.  He accepted, but said that he was going to contribute with expenses.   Little-by-little I convinced him that he didn't need to pay for utilities and other expenses since I had them already and he was not contributing much.  In the end, he lived with me for free, even if he had found other jobs,  and I convinced him to instead send money to his family in Mexico.

 

There was symbiosis in the relationship  (  NOT symbiosexual, ha ha ), and he was, and still is, a big contributor to my happiness. After a while he was recognized as disabled, and he received a pension from Social Security.  Yet I continued to be his support, and his caretaker for his medical condition. His family appreciated me and considered that I was his "Guardian Angel".  This stuck with me, and now I hold him as MY Guardian Angel who looks out for me from the afterlife.  

 

Well... I don't want to relate so much personal,  but my message is that sugar dads and sugar babies can convive without this being a case of exploitation, but an exchange of love in different ways.  Let's always aim for love!

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Edited November 4 by Steve5380

[koolkai]

On 7/7/2015 at 10:04 PM, Guest poster said:

I met someone in his twenties some time ago and after 2 weeks, he mentioned about going for a holiday. It is taken that I will pay for the trip as I have been paying for all meals. 2 weeks later, he asked to go for a holiday again.

 

This is the second young man who asked to go for a holiday after a few meals and I felt uneasy cos I was never like that myself. When I was in my 20s, even though I had an older man who offered to fly me to Japan and stay in a hotel, I never accepted. 

 

I am prepared to go for a real friendship but these 2 instances somehow tell me that these guys are only there for some good time.

 

Daddies, what are your experiences? perhaps, the market practice is to offer a free overseas trip after getting to know each other?

 

Daddy seekers, what do you say?

 

[koolkai]

Yes, the relationship should be mutual and not trying to take advantage of the older guy. To me, financially independent is more important than depending on soneone. 

[Sweetie Pie]

I met someone who I mistakenly believed to be "Sugar Daddy," but who is actually "Sugar Mommy." He is really needy, like a girl, even though I thought he was extremely affluent, lived on a landed home, and lavished me with food at ATAS restaurants. So incredibly strange that I finally managed to elude him with a 10-foot pole and decided to hide at the edge of the universe so that "she" wouldn't be able to find me at all.  As a result, I have "PTSD" and became less adventurous in the gay world.  

[k13v]

3 hours ago, koolkai said:

 

When daddy or daddy sugar being mention, one need to understand where it will endup. I m open to young or mature.. but if to know other and the objective is money. Then I move off.

[Str8curioustwink]

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Edited 20 hours ago by Str8curioustwink

[LeanMature]

On 11/5/2024 at 11:37 AM, k13v said:

When daddy or daddy sugar being mention, one need to understand where it will endup. I m open to young or mature.. but if to know other and the objective is money. Then I move off.

 

First thing first, you need to make known that you are not "sugar" daddy,  that means "go Dutch" on the first outing.  If he paid for the first outing, then you should reciprocate on the second.