Single & Living Alone Discussion (compiled)

[lonely57]

I think I more or less can see myself being alone. Gay or straight I'll still be alone cuz I'm that fugly lol

[Steve5380]

I also know how you people react one. Simply label as troll so long as you can't face the facts, take the truth and admit your fault.

You fit the definition of a troll more than anyone else: 

For I never blindly label anyone as troll because I assume you're conscientious adult and I take whatever you said seriously, regardless how silly and ethically wrong you are. I supposed I should be the one ignore whatever you said.

 

How hilarious to read your ideas about trolls...  and not seeing how you are one of them.

 

One cannot even be sure how to respond to your posts,  because... which "Guest" is one responding to?   There are tens of "Guests".

 

If you were anything else but a troll, you would take a name here in BW and be anonymous but identifiable. 

The fact that you don't do it indicates that you are afraid, ashamed, or whatever about yourself.

You deserve pity.

[Steve5380]

I think I more or less can see myself being alone. Gay or straight I'll still be alone cuz I'm that fugly lol

 

It is fine to be alone as long as you don't feel lonely. 

How is being fugly a justification for being alone if you don't want to be?

 

There is a saying in Spanish: "the luck of the ugly the beautiful desires"

meaning that there are many ugly but fortunate people, while there are beauties who feel miserable.

 

And...  how in the 20s a guy can sit there and feel sorry for himself...  for being fugly?

Don't do the same mistake I made when I was very young.

I always felt that I was very UGLY!  Skinny and UGLY!  

Later in life I looked at my pictures when I was younger and WOW!  was I attractive!  

And I still am  

 

If you feel fugly,  and there are so many reasons to feel like that,

you have a long life in front of you to do something about it.

Nearly every fuggliness can be helped, given time and effort (and money)

 

So please get on your ass and start working on you.

Don't worry about being alone.  Soon you won't be it anymore.

[Guest Coordinator]

I'm thinking of forming a group for middle aged PLUs, i.e.late 30s, 40s & 50s.

 

Where would be a good place to meet? It would need to be close to public transport.

 

How about around 1pm on this Saturday at the coffee shop of Block 325 Clementi Avenue 5 where Botak Jones is located? It is next to the MRT and there is a big parking lot for those who drive.

 

Let's make it free and easy. We can order our own lunch and drinks. Just sit at a table in a corner outside without smokers, women and children and start small talk with any middle aged man. Let's be positive and relaxed. Each will need to take his own initiative. For the less secretive, you can state in advance here what you will be wearing so that others can approach you easily.

 

There is no agenda and no organiser. Slowly, the group will form and we can meet every Sat. Hope some real friendships and relationships will form and there will be at least two less lonely people in this world.

I plan to be there at 1pm this Sat 19 Dec...if you wish to make friends, do turn up.

[Guest Guest]

I plan to be there at 1pm this Sat 19 Dec...if you wish to make friends, do turn up.

 

That was last month on Nov 18.

[Guest Coordinator]

It is supposed to be every Sat...

[Steve5380]

It is supposed to be every Sat...

 

This "Coordinator" must be the owner of the coffee shop?

[Guest Coordinator]

Hi Steve, if you think that way, why not suggest another place...so long as it is near public transport so that anyone can go there conveniently?

[Steve5380]

Hi Steve, if you think that way, why not suggest another place...so long as it is near public transport so that anyone can go there conveniently?

 

Both you "Coordinator" and the first who proposed such group, "Guest",  you come here anonymously and untraceable.

I don't see how you pretend to "coordinate" something without having at least an alias here that gives you a permanent presence while still preserving your anonymity. Anybody can post as "Guest",  with a name "Coordinator" or not.  Therefore I would never go along with your "coordination".

 

I don't live in SG, therefore it is not for me to define a meeting place there.

[garrpng]

It is supposed to be every Sat...

 

I will go to make friends, but I cannot make it on 19 Dec and 26 Dec. Hope we all can continue this gathering next year.

[Guest Guest]

Does anyone use this

 

http://www.meetup.com/cities/sg/singapore/lgbt/

[Guest Coordinator]

Hi Steve, I think you need to do some self-reflection, if you don't mind my saying.

 

Firstly, you were rather cynical to suggest that I was the owner of the coffee shop.

 

Secondly, you were rather insistent (for a second time) that I use some "detectable" name.

 

It could be a cultural thing, but rather typical of Americans, if I may say, to push things their way...any other way, being not their way, is not the way.

[Guest Coordinator]

I will go to make friends, but I cannot make it on 19 Dec and 26 Dec. Hope we all can continue this gathering next year.

 

Thanks for supporting...I won't be around on 26 Dec...but yes, hope this will take off and there will be 2 less lonely people in this world.

[Steve5380]

Hi Steve, I think you need to do some self-reflection, if you don't mind my saying.

 

Firstly, you were rather cynical to suggest that I was the owner of the coffee shop.

 

Secondly, you were rather insistent (for a second time) that I use some "detectable" name.

 

It could be a cultural thing, but rather typical of Americans, if I may say, to push things their way...any other way, being not their way, is not the way.

 

Yes, you need to join me in some self-reflection.

There is no single way, of course.  There are good ways and bad ways.

What determines 'good' vs. 'bad'?

It is not a nationality, as you seem to suggest.

And it is not purely subjective.  There are some concrete reasons for the 'good', 'bad'.

I think it is perfectly fine for anybody to push for HIS way,  as long as it is a 'good' way.

 

In MY way, to coordinate something at this site, you should at least be a registered user with an alias.

This is 'good' because with an identity you show more responsibility for what you post than if you are completely anonymous.

And it avoids the 'bad' in lacking identity, which is that anybody can take your place and post nonsense.

So I am satisfied that I'm doing the right thing in posting what I post.

[cloz8dude]

Quite possibly no. My dad has few, if not many women in line for me to get married in the future. Won't be alone, yes. Will be Lonely, yes.

[lonely57]

Quite possibly no. My dad has few, if not many women in line for me to get married in the future. Won't be alone, yes. Will be Lonely, yes.

I hope u don't get tied down with someone you won't be happy with. If u can't provide the emotions for the girl.. Better not since it might affect ur future relationships when u find a guy u like or something.. What if u had started a family by then? Ur child would have a broken family. I'm just saying..

[Guest Coordinator]

I'm going there in 1.5 hrs' time with an open mind and no expectations...I need to have my lunch anyway

[cloz8dude]

I hope u don't get tied down with someone you won't be happy with. If u can't provide the emotions for the girl.. Better not since it might affect ur future relationships when u find a guy u like or something.. What if u had started a family by then? Ur child would have a broken family. I'm just saying..

 

 

Yup, I understand what you mean but with a conservative family like mine, it's rather difficult. Despite that, I am still working up the courage to not let this happen in the future. Besides, I'm really losing hope of finding a guy who would love me enough to fight for it. 

Edited December 19, 2015 by cloz8dude

[Guest]

any other idea to network t prevent loneliness?

[Guest Glyph]

There really isn't any other way to beat loneliness than to start learning how to enjoy time spent alone.

[Steve5380]

On 1/1/2016 at 8:58 AM, Glyph said:

There really isn't any other way to beat loneliness than to start learning how to enjoy time spent alone.

Well said!  We should love ourselves, and this includes the feeling of being in good company with ourselves.

Most productive activities are best done alone, and this would be universally accepted if not for the false idea some segments of society put in our heads that too much time alone can be sign of being unsociable.

If we have a healthy self-esteem we can seek company of others to give them the benefit of our company, instead of reacting to a desperation from being alone.

[abang]

Sorry for a long post.

Being the single man has its downside (and sometimes, upside but no backside!)

I had a serious lung infecton that bothers me for 2 months before I plucked up enough courage/stupidity to seek medical assistance.  I lost my appetite and was unable to focus... of course, no food = no strength and my body mass plummeted astronomically.

On 30th Nov, I knew it was now or never.  Either I died at home or forced myself to A & E, SGH. At about 1145 pm. I used all my strength. took a taxi there.  I was well-prepared for a long stay at the hospital - books, tablets and phones, eye-shades. tea and a proper change of underwear.  It was like packing for a beach resort!

I was hospitalised for 13 days in the earlier part of Dec 2015.  I did not inform any of my family members nor friends throughout.  It was pure bliss - no one to ask silly questions about my illness, no one to ask whether I am going to sell my flat to defray the medical cost* etc.  I finished all the 4 books I brought and by the time I was discharged, I left alone.

Now I am at home nursing myself, taking my medication religiously.  I am able to man-handle myself (even to the point of taking the bus to JB twice, Sentosa once). Youtube and sometime, BW became my best pals.    Cooking becomes the numero uno - making dumplings, taro and carrot cake, claypot rice keeps me busy.

So there is a difference between loneliness and solitude.   It is the attitude on how to embrace them.  Love it or hate it, you got to live with it.  Perhaps, the idea of a core group is feasible in later stage. 

 

* I stayed in Class C ward and even though I was in the "isolation room" for a week, the charges were based on Class C charges.  Thanks to Medishield Life, my bill was sliced into half and the Medisave amount was less than $1700.  The real cost is the post-hospitalisation outpatient appointments - almost $200 each time (without medication).

[Firday]

22 minutes ago, abang said:

Sorry for a long post.

Being the single man has its downside (and sometimes, upside but no backside!)

I had a serious lung infecton that bothers me for 2 months before I plucked up enough courage/stupidity to seek medical assistance.  I lost my appetite and was unable to focus... of course, no food = no strength and my body mass plummeted astronomically.

On 30th Nov, I knew it was now or never.  Either I died at home or forced myself to A & E, SGH. At about 1145 pm. I used all my strength. took a taxi there.  I was well-prepared for a long stay at the hospital - books, tablets and phones, eye-shades. tea and a proper change of underwear.  It was like packing for a beach resort!

I was hospitalised for 13 days in the earlier part of Dec 2015.  I did not inform any of my family members nor friends throughout.  It was pure bliss - no one to ask silly questions about my illness, no one to ask whether I am going to sell my flat to defray the medical cost* etc.  I finished all the 4 books I brought and by the time I was discharged, I left alone.

Now I am at home nursing myself, taking my medication religiously.  I am able to man-handle myself (even to the point of taking the bus to JB twice, Sentosa once). Youtube and sometime, BW became my best pals.    Cooking becomes the numero uno - making dumplings, taro and carrot cake, claypot rice keeps me busy.

So there is a difference between loneliness and solitude.   It is the attitude on how to embrace them.  Love it or hate it, you got to live with it.  Perhaps, the idea of a core group is feasible in later stage. 

 

* I stayed in Class C ward and even though I was in the "isolation room" for a week, the charges were based on Class C charges.  Thanks to Medishield Life, my bill was sliced into half and the Medisave amount was less than $1700.  The real cost is the post-hospitalisation outpatient appointments - almost $200 each time (without medication).

Have a speedy recovery...

 

[azimuth]

Eventually we have to learn to be alone because our friends and families won't be with us all the time.

I find that one way to build up your love for solitude is to stay away from friends and families for short periods of time. This could mean heading overseas alone, etc. Once you learn to live and depend on yourself, you will find that it is actually not that hard.

[Rewindforward]

Hi guys,

Good topic. I do understand that ourself is the person that will be with us until the end. However, I came out of my mother's womb, and having brought up in an environment we all call FAMILY, to become who I am right now.

I'm 28 years old and recently I have this urge to be able to raise and guide a kid in my life. After some point, I'm sensing lack of purpose in narcisissm (actually this is different from the so-called self love, because in narcisissm we still love our facade, our reflection, not our SELF, but of course that's tough because we see with our eyes and human beings have bodies as a form), and being able to raise a child and give our love for someone else is full of purpose because in the process there is HOPE and fulfillment. We see the child in the eyes and we want the child to also look at us back and feel our love. Human beings grow old and feel at ease when they see part of them continue living on earth. It's the nature's drive that prevents us from extinction.

I don't mind raising an adopted child though, doesn't matter for me.

Edited January 3, 2016 by Rewindforward

[Guest Teatree]

1 hour ago, azimuth said:

Eventually we have to learn to be alone because our friends and families won't be with us all the time.

I find that one way to build up your love for solitude is to stay away from friends and families for short periods of time. This could mean heading overseas alone, etc. Once you learn to live and depend on yourself, you will find that it is actually not that hard.

Most of them above 40 had already learnt to live alone, which is not hard.  If you look beyond 70 or even 60, living alone can be really hard. 

[abang]

Well I'm 54 and gay.

On hindsight, I am glad to be childless at these years. I've seen the hardship of raising "effant terrible" amongst my colleagues and even, close family members.  Really the garment is pushing us to work beyond the stipulated retirement age and offering all these "incentives" to lure us to collect our CPF later.  

For those who are married with kids, don't expect them to look after you when you get older. Count yourself lucky if they don't ask for financial assistance to buy ..... 

 

[Firday]

16 hours ago, Rewindforward said:

Hi guys,

Good topic. I do understand that ourself is the person that will be with us until the end. However, I came out of my mother's womb, and having brought up in an environment we all call FAMILY, to become who I am right now.

I'm 28 years old and recently I have this urge to be able to raise and guide a kid in my life. After some point, I'm sensing lack of purpose in narcisissm (actually this is different from the so-called self love, because in narcisissm we still love our facade, our reflection, not our SELF, but of course that's tough because we see with our eyes and human beings have bodies as a form), and being able to raise a child and give our love for someone else is full of purpose because in the process there is HOPE and fulfillment. We see the child in the eyes and we want the child to also look at us back and feel our love. Human beings grow old and feel at ease when they see part of them continue living on earth. It's the nature's drive that prevents us from extinction.

I don't mind raising an adopted child though, doesn't matter for me.

recently a friend of mine try to adopt 3 kids from pri 4 to sec 1 but when they start to fall sick like cough and fever, my friend already doom with clinic,workplace and home. 

he is now in depression mood, after the adoption....

 

[Guest]

32 minutes ago, Rewindforward said:

Hi guys,

Good topic. I do understand that ourself is the person that will be with us until the end. However, I came out of my mother's womb, and having brought up in an environment we all call FAMILY, to become who I am right now.

I'm 28 years old and recently I have this urge to be able to raise and guide a kid in my life. After some point, I'm sensing lack of purpose in narcisissm (actually this is different from the so-called self love, because in narcisissm we still love our facade, our reflection, not our SELF, but of course that's tough because we see with our eyes and human beings have bodies as a form), and being able to raise a child and give our love for someone else is full of purpose because in the process there is HOPE and fulfillment. We see the child in the eyes and we want the child to also look at us back and feel our love. Human beings grow old and feel at ease when they see part of them continue living on earth. It's the nature's drive that prevents us from extinction.

I don't mind raising an adopted child though, doesn't matter for me.

I share your sentiments exactly. In Singapore you can raise a child through adoption. Yes single men can adopt babies, but only baby boys. Don't know why some people have this misconception that single men aren't allowed to adopt. 

Raising a kid on your own or with your partner can be very fulfilling and that's also one way to not be alone in old age, though not fool-proof as the kid can abandon you of course.

There's this other thread on surrogacy which offers another possibility of having kids. But surrogacy cannot be done in Singapore.

Good luck to those of us who fear loneliness to the death. Get a loving partner, raise a kid, set up a tight-knit community of friends, renew family ties or go live in a monastery. Other suggestions?

[Guest Teatree]

3 hours ago, abang said:

Sorry for a long post.

Being the single man has its downside (and sometimes, upside but no backside!)

I had a serious lung infecton that bothers me for 2 months before I plucked up enough courage/stupidity to seek medical assistance.  I lost my appetite and was unable to focus... of course, no food = no strength and my body mass plummeted astronomically.

On 30th Nov, I knew it was now or never.  Either I died at home or forced myself to A & E, SGH. At about 1145 pm. I used all my strength. took a taxi there.  I was well-prepared for a long stay at the hospital - books, tablets and phones, eye-shades. tea and a proper change of underwear.  It was like packing for a beach resort!

I was hospitalised for 13 days in the earlier part of Dec 2015.  I did not inform any of my family members nor friends throughout.  It was pure bliss - no one to ask silly questions about my illness, no one to ask whether I am going to sell my flat to defray the medical cost* etc.  I finished all the 4 books I brought and by the time I was discharged, I left alone.

Now I am at home nursing myself, taking my medication religiously.  I am able to man-handle myself (even to the point of taking the bus to JB twice, Sentosa once). Youtube and sometime, BW became my best pals.    Cooking becomes the numero uno - making dumplings, taro and carrot cake, claypot rice keeps me busy.

So there is a difference between loneliness and solitude.   It is the attitude on how to embrace them.  Love it or hate it, you got to live with it.  Perhaps, the idea of a core group is feasible in later stage. 

 

* I stayed in Class C ward and even though I was in the "isolation room" for a week, the charges were based on Class C charges.  Thanks to Medishield Life, my bill was sliced into half and the Medisave amount was less than $1700.  The real cost is the post-hospitalisation outpatient appointments - almost $200 each time (without medication).

Sorry to hear that.  To clarify, was the outpatient appointments/medication not covered by Medishield Life? Since you were all alone throughout your stay in hospital, were you well attended to by the nurses?

[Guest]

12 minutes ago, Firday said:

recently a friend of mine try to adopt 3 kids from pri 4 to sec 1 but when they start to fall sick like cough and fever, my friend already doom with clinic,workplace and home. 

he is now in depression mood, after the adoption....

 

why your friend adopt 3 kids at one go? where he adopt from?

[abang]

Thanks for all your well-wishers.  And sorry if this turned out to be an exchange of messages between the few of us.

I stayed in the Class C (which I mispronounced as "Classy") ward where the nurse station is adjacent or within the ward.  So, with the beeper, nurses were very attentive.  In fact, I did not get any good sleep because every other hour, my BP is checked, my anti-biotic infusion needs to be changed, time for medication, time for blood tests.... the list goes on.

 

Joke: As I was considered as "prone to fall", I am not allowed to go to the toilet much. They gave me a plastic urinal to pee.  I discovered I cannot pee while I am in horizontal or semi-horizontal position.  I need to stand up.  Cut off the embarrassment with nurses from Myanmar..they have seen even dicks...the worst is not to fart while urinating! 

[azimuth]

1 hour ago, Guest Teatree said:

Most of them above 40 had already learnt to live alone, which is not hard.  If you look beyond 70 or even 60, living alone can be really hard. 

I agree it may be harder at old age but not impossible. A healthy mindset is a must otherwise you will end up even more sick and depressed. 

[soapyguy]

we take charge of our own lives.

Muster some courage and go out to meet other gays by joining networking sessions. Just dump gay apps where majority is interested in sex.

U don't have to be super hottie with 6 pecs to make friends,

If u think u are not good looking, try improving your appearance within ur means

For eg: if u are fat, it's time to move ur butt
Try taking basic grooming lesson, adopt good hygiene.
Wear clothings that bring out ur +ve points and hide ur -ve points. Pointed shoes will make shorter guys look taller

I know men are visual creatures. but let's us not be shallow by looking at appearance. Exceed ur shallow expectation, try to know the person deeper

it's the sincerity and positive aura that you exude, pple will draw to u once they know u longer.

 

[Guest Fit Uncle]

Most important is to be confident. Smile a little, don't grouch. Being demure or bashful is for women not men. On the other hand don't be too color wolf either, everything has it's place and time.

I'm recent being thrown into this dating game and good men are really hard to find. But I'll rather not get one than be bored by incompatible ones. Unfortunately, most that I met still wanted sex even when I say we are not compatible. I'm not angry, it's just the way things are in this gay circle. Everybody make his choices and don't expect the gay circle will change for you.

[Guest BePrepared]

On 1/2/2016 at 7:41 AM, abang said:

I was well-prepared for a long stay at the hospital - books, tablets and phones, eye-shades. tea and a proper change of underwear.  It was like packing for a beach resort!

Good to be prepared for such emergencies, esp if need to be admitted immediately. 

1. I am also preparing a bag for such emergencies, can just grab and go.

2. Up to date First Aid Kit and easily accessible eg. aspirin

3. Learning and getting educated on symptoms of heart attack, when you're choking etc - what can you do esp when you're all alone.

4. Get to know neighbours well, a near neighbour is better than a far relative/friend.

5. Deleting all cookies and porn from all computer devices

[abang]

Take no medication with us to the hospital unless it is a prescription.   The medical team knows what best for us during our stay.  At home, I have all my medical aids in a 5-tier vertical box - just get one from Giant.  I placed my blood pressure reader, temperature reader, different types of over-the-counter medication separately. Also, I have a travelling medical pouch - the bottle of "Feng-you", the disposable antiseptic swab, panadol, salonpas plaster, bo-chye bills by the bed.    Not forgetting that extra pair of reading glasses!

I agree with you that knowledge is power.  We are what we eat - so go easy on ourselves. I cook all my meals now since I am nursing at home.  Quite a happy chore!

Have a password to prevent unwanted entry and yes, store all "eye-worthy" files in an external drive and unplugged it when necessary.

I am recovering well and I will probably want to do some part-time job for my daily expenses.  The bank account should be left untouched. 

[lonelyglobe]

On ‎3‎/‎1‎/‎2016 at 0:23 AM, Guest Fit Uncle said:

Most important is to be confident. Smile a little, don't grouch. Being demure or bashful is for women not men. On the other hand don't be too color wolf either, everything has it's place and time.

I'm recent being thrown into this dating game and good men are really hard to find. But I'll rather not get one than be bored by incompatible ones. Unfortunately, most that I met still wanted sex even when I say we are not compatible. I'm not angry, it's just the way things are in this gay circle. Everybody make his choices and don't expect the gay circle will change for you.

well said...I like your your last sentence "don't expect the gay circle will change for you" ....sometime just wonder why we cannot like straight men, they play hard in their 20s but most will settle down by their 30s but for most of us, we will still want to continue to play

[Steve5380]

2 hours ago, abang said:

Take no medication with us to the hospital unless it is a prescription.   The medical team knows what best for us during our stay.  At home, I have all my medical aids in a 5-tier vertical box - just get one from Giant.  I placed my blood pressure reader, temperature reader, different types of over-the-counter medication separately. Also, I have a travelling medical pouch - the bottle of "Feng-you", the disposable antiseptic swab, panadol, salonpas plaster, bo-chye bills by the bed.    Not forgetting that extra pair of reading glasses!

I agree with you that knowledge is power.  We are what we eat - so go easy on ourselves. I cook all my meals now since I am nursing at home.  Quite a happy chore!

Have a password to prevent unwanted entry and yes, store all "eye-worthy" files in an external drive and unplugged it when necessary.

I am recovering well and I will probably want to do some part-time job for my daily expenses.  The bank account should be left untouched. 

You are right that hospitals provide the medications for their admitted patients.  What is important if one takes medications regularly is to take a good LIST of them to the hospital. To keep private files private I use the program TrueCrypt to create encrypted files that are mounted as disk volumes, where programs I use write and read the confidential data. They can remain mounted for long times since I always put the PC to sleep instead of logging out.  But the PC needs a password to wake up.  IF someone gets hold of it, it has to be rebooted, and so all the encrypted files are closed and their content remains protected.

I wish you the best in your recovery, and don't forget that sex is healthy

 

[teatree]

11 hours ago, Guest BePrepared said:

Good to be prepared for such emergencies, esp if need to be admitted immediately. 

1. I am also preparing a bag for such emergencies, can just grab and go.

2. Up to date First Aid Kit and easily accessible eg. aspirin

3. Learning and getting educated on symptoms of heart attack, when you're choking etc - what can you do esp when you're all alone.

4. Get to know neighbours well, a near neighbour is better than a far relative/friend.

5. Deleting all cookies and porn from all computer devices

That's a good idea.  I have a bag for work, another one for workout/swimming, one for attending courses, I would now keep one for emergencies.

By the way, what are the essentials in the bag?  Underwear, slippers, towel ?  Anything else ? 

[teatree]

11 hours ago, abang said:

Take no medication with us to the hospital unless it is a prescription.   The medical team knows what best for us during our stay.  At home, I have all my medical aids in a 5-tier vertical box - just get one from Giant.  I placed my blood pressure reader, temperature reader, different types of over-the-counter medication separately. Also, I have a travelling medical pouch - the bottle of "Feng-you", the disposable antiseptic swab, panadol, salonpas plaster, bo-chye bills by the bed.    Not forgetting that extra pair of reading glasses!

I agree with you that knowledge is power.  We are what we eat - so go easy on ourselves. I cook all my meals now since I am nursing at home.  Quite a happy chore!

Have a password to prevent unwanted entry and yes, store all "eye-worthy" files in an external drive and unplugged it when necessary.

I am recovering well and I will probably want to do some part-time job for my daily expenses.  The bank account should be left untouched. 

That's good advice.  By the way, what is bo-chye bills ?  haha.

[gummibear]

3 minutes ago, teatree said:

That's good advice.  By the way, what is bo-chye bills ?  haha.

I am quite certain he meant this.

[Guest BePrepared]

2 hours ago, teatree said:

By the way, what are the essentials in the bag?  Underwear, slippers, towel ?  Anything else ? 

Anything that can keep you comfortable for a period of stay (like a short trip) if no one can bring any items for you. Think abang has mentioned some, and some other things I would include,

1. Tooth brush & paste

2. Eye mask and ear plugs for sleeping

3. Medicated Oil

4. Tablet & charging cables etc

5. Fresh change of clothes

6. Tissue/Wet tissues

 

Anyone else anything to add?

 

[abang]

Thanks for all your well-wishes again.

Oops, it looks like we are all set for the hospital with all the preparation - much more than a holiday.  Remember that if we are warded in the Classy Ward, the metal cabinet is quite small.  Also, the hospital provides a change of clothes that come with a towel.  There is no proper place to hang the washings, so bring those cheap plastic-wire cloth hangers.  

 

[teatree]

4 hours ago, abang said:

Thanks for all your well-wishes again.

Oops, it looks like we are all set for the hospital with all the preparation - much more than a holiday.  Remember that if we are warded in the Classy Ward, the metal cabinet is quite small.  Also, the hospital provides a change of clothes that come with a towel.  There is no proper place to hang the washings, so bring those cheap plastic-wire cloth hangers.  

 

ok, thanks for your input. Speedy recovery!

[teatree]

12 hours ago, gummibear said:

I am quite certain he meant this.

oic, thanks. So it is pills, not bills.

[teatree]

10 hours ago, Guest BePrepared said:

Anything that can keep you comfortable for a period of stay (like a short trip) if no one can bring any items for you. Think abang has mentioned some, and some other things I would include,

1. Tooth brush & paste

2. Eye mask and ear plugs for sleeping

3. Medicated Oil

4. Tablet & charging cables etc

5. Fresh change of clothes

6. Tissue/Wet tissues

 

Anyone else anything to add?

 

Thanks, look like not much different from my travel bag, less the passport and airticket.

[Guest Be]

21 minutes ago, teatree said:

Thanks, look like not much different from my travel bag, less the passport and airticket.

Yup just like packing for a short trip, my travel bag has got a lot more toiletries and stuff. May get disposable undies instead, easier to manage.

[teatree]

I noted that many guys cannot urine while dying on bed with a diaper. So if you are hooked up, how to stand up and urine? Just wonder.

[cloz8dude]

Judging from the earlier posts about having to do things ourselves when it comes to health emergency or stuff like that, what if, you have a choice between;

1) Marrying a woman who loves you dearly(or maybe not but forced by your parents to marry) so that you won't be alone,

2) Just staying single because you can't find the right man or get married to the man you love and be alone forever?

Would you pick the first one?