Guest jayy Posted February 17, 2012 Report Share Posted February 17, 2012 (edited) We all have our own list of things that float our boats. I mean it does not necessarily have to be "good looks". It may be something about one's physique, build, age or whatever. The initial attraction is usually based on these factors. But these turn-on factors can only get you so far... at the end of the day there has to be some chemistry. Either you're both tuned to the same frequency or you're not. Either you connect really well or you don't. Edited February 17, 2012 by jayy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Friendly Posted February 17, 2012 Report Share Posted February 17, 2012 Orca888 you are too kind.. Er.. or you might consider to change your picture.. he he.. joking.. with you hope you like jokes.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Exynos Posted February 17, 2012 Report Share Posted February 17, 2012 Totally...hahahI mean who would even give the time of the day to a fat slob like me? LMFAO dude, seriously?! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mango_juice Posted February 17, 2012 Report Share Posted February 17, 2012 To me looks impt, but most basic make sure the teeth are clean.. make an effort to smell nice or at least neutral.. These are as impt as good looks.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest curious Posted February 17, 2012 Report Share Posted February 17, 2012 Thanks everyone for your feedback.Gosh ! As rightly pointed by guest (503pm today), personality forms part of one character. Pardon my bad english. Must be drowsy when I'm typing.I meant mannerism is also as one of my deciding factor as in how one's behave, in plu's terms whether soft / tough or straightacting or otherwise. Another would be common interests. So i would allocate 30% mannerism, 30% character, 20% common interests & 20% looks. These are my criteria. Maybe you guys have other consideration factors besides this like financial status, performance in bed, build, age ? I dunno.Guest (503pm today)'s idea of dismissing entirely on looks & focus on personality is ideal but more often a fantasy especially for most PLUs. More than often, we tend to focus on looks first, everything comes later. Like -2012- mentioned, you must like the person 1st then relationship comes later.Sad to say, it is so easy to like someone based on initial looks but hard to develop it into "love". I remember when I first got acquainted with a great looking chap. Initially I felt I hit jackpot, went crazy over him and wanted to start a long term relationship with him. I allowed lust to blindfold me, forsaking our incompatiblites just to be with him. Eventually, after a few outings & making out sessions, my passion for him turned cold. I wanted to make the relationship worked but it turned out to be tiresome, straining & self deceiving. It was through several acquaintenances, I had learnt there are also important factors rather than looks. Looks like many said is only a starting point, to develop a relationship, there are other factors to consider depending on each individual.Ideally, we all want our Mr Right to ace in every criteria, but life's not perfect & it is one in million chance we will ever meet the perfect person. Given a choice, I would rather to have a person who has the character & mannerism I admire as my partner, hopefully shares the same interest as me to reinforce our relationship. Looks still matter, at least an average looking guy who knows how to groom himself. Not looking for supermodel looking guys. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Marad44 Posted February 17, 2012 Report Share Posted February 17, 2012 (edited) Physical Attraction: Looks Do Count: http://www.topdating...-attraction.htm.However, when expectation of looks is motivated by ego, we have ourselves to blame for aspiring for looks that are beyond what we deserve. Many a good match slip past us by our own folly. Edited February 17, 2012 by Marad44 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caesar Posted February 17, 2012 Report Share Posted February 17, 2012 I do feel that looks play a tiny small part for me, and it is usually the first time I see him in real life that counts. Honestly if I'm choosing a partner, I want to be comfortable to how he looks like. For that, I don't mean going around choosing the best looking guys etc but someone pleasant looking will be great! From there, personality and others will start taking over. Things that I wouldnt condone in a partner is: he cruises (even before meeting me), being a smoker, not having a proper job, having a huge ego etc.I guess if I have to break down to percentages it would most probably be 60% personality, 20% looks and 20% body I'm surprised no one touched on the body type yet? Haha. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
orca888 Posted February 18, 2012 Report Share Posted February 18, 2012 (edited) Orca888 you are too kind.. Er.. or you might consider to change your picture.. he he.. joking.. with you hope you like jokes..LOL - it's okay, I am quite the joker...Unfortunately, not everyone appreciates that...always get the comment that I am not serious enough Anyway, having a great sense of humor is something that I look for in my partner - and recently, I think I have found such a guy - we always make each other laugh...Now only if he's not straight (I think he is but I am not sure anymore) - damn - he would be perfect And on the topic of body types - as raised by Caesar...Yes, I do admit that I am attracted towards the lean fit sort - that's what my current squeeze is...He also has the looks - yup - that was what grabbed my attention in the first place but then strangely enough, what attracted me most was his mind - he's witty, intelligent, mature but also has that mischievous streak... Edited February 18, 2012 by orca888 Quote Am I falling for a bi? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SeannyShortcake Posted February 18, 2012 Report Share Posted February 18, 2012 Looks play a large part.It's more than 1% of the overall quality percentile.Ta-da. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tyan Posted February 18, 2012 Report Share Posted February 18, 2012 In this circle, yes good look do play a large part (at least for majority). Average lookers like me do not get much attention. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheAntisen Posted February 18, 2012 Report Share Posted February 18, 2012 My definition of 'looks' is someone who keeps himself clean and takes care of himself. I don't really care much if his nose is off, or if his eyes are small and stuff. If that criteria is met, then it just depends on the chemistry and how comfortable I can get with him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abang Posted February 18, 2012 Report Share Posted February 18, 2012 Yes, first impression counts.A head turner gets more attention naturally.However, if you sit down with this good-looker and there is no 'kimochi' (気持ち), then it is the wrong person.There were many incidents where the prospective guy looks promising on paper (with the right physical/mental/educational/financial attributes), but once we met, he and I both knew of the mismatch in personality. So love comes in the most unexpected moments and situations. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
orca888 Posted February 18, 2012 Report Share Posted February 18, 2012 Yes, first impression counts.A head turner gets more attention naturally.However, if you sit down with this good-looker and there is no 'kimochi' (気持ち), then it is the wrong person.There were many incidents where the prospective guy looks promising on paper (with the right physical/mental/educational/financial attributes), but once we met, he and I both knew of the mismatch in personality.So love comes in the most unexpected moments and situations.Yup, no point forcing a square peg into a round hole (pun unintended)...hahahWhen I met this guy, it was totally unexpected - just an ordinary makan outing with some forum friends...but we caught each other's eyes and there was instant chemistry - so much so that there was another guy (who knew me longer) felt a little jealous...To be fair, he ticked all the right boxes in my book (not sure how I fared in his cos he's straight - then again, I also come across as straight)...But since then, we have been chatting daily on SMS and whatsapp - we have also met up for several more dinners (just the two of us)...not sure many straight guys would do that huh Quote Am I falling for a bi? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
permanent-guest Posted February 18, 2012 Report Share Posted February 18, 2012 ( Anyway, having a great sense of humor is something that I look for in my partner - and recently, I think I have found such a guy - we always make each other laugh... Now only if he's not straight (I think he is but I am not sure anymore) - damn - he would be perfect And on the topic of body types - as raised by Caesar... Yes, I do admit that I am attracted towards the lean fit sort - that's what my current squeeze is... He also has the looks - yup - that was what grabbed my attention in the first place but then strangely enough, what attracted me most was his mind - he's witty, intelligent, mature but also has that mischievous streak... hmmm..... sounds like me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
derryfawne Posted February 18, 2012 Report Share Posted February 18, 2012 Everything counts.Good look catches eyes and attention, but it's not the be all and end all. Quote “Do not take life too seriously. You’ll never get out of it alive.” — Elbert Hubbard Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted February 18, 2012 Report Share Posted February 18, 2012 look plays apart for the first attraction,...thereafter if u grow haggard or fat, i think the other partner will not mind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
orca888 Posted February 18, 2012 Report Share Posted February 18, 2012 hmmm..... sounds like me LOL - how I wish But given my ass luck, he's straight though he keeps sending me very conflicting signals...sigh Quote Am I falling for a bi? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
orca888 Posted February 18, 2012 Report Share Posted February 18, 2012 look plays apart for the first attraction,...thereafter if u grow haggard or fat, i think the other partner will not mind. QFT...hahahYup, looks only open doors - it's what's inside the room (mind) that will sustain the interest...hahah Quote Am I falling for a bi? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest jsm Posted February 18, 2012 Report Share Posted February 18, 2012 Pardon me for saying this, those who say looks don't count are usually those who don't have the looks What is really disappointing is that when online chatting he says he is looking for chat friend and not sex. But when we meet, he keeps asking me to go to hotel. He has that hungry look in his eyes all the time. It gets so awkward. I had to keep reminding him that we already agreed to be only friends and no sex. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest curious Posted February 18, 2012 Report Share Posted February 18, 2012 U think so guest (1103am) ? Faithfulness is not a strong virtue among PLUs. If a straight man can forsake his wife of many years to have an affair with a young pretty woman behind her back, there is even a higher tendency for us to do maybe even a step farther, break off the relationship.Hmm.. ultimately looks still matter. I'm fascinated by handsome straight guys who take dull plain girls as wives. (opposite attracts ??) A case of love developed through admiration & appreciation of one's inner self ?? I highly doubt this will happen to PLUs. A lot of us emphasis looks at the onset.. would there be a situation that we initially dun consider a person based on first looks but gradually falls in ove with him due to his appealing inner qualities.. any one ???Maybe in straight relationship it works due to different functions/ roles/ characteristics between women & men that help to complement each other. Plus, straight couples have more to look forward in relationship... can married, have kids... grandchildren.. For PLUs, notwithstanding we can still adopt kids as substitute (in certain countries), but ultimately is more on companionship or outlet for sex ??? I dunno..Can't agree more with TheAntisen who pointed out so simply & accurately, the comfortable level. How comfortable we are with one another.Hmm. I'm so envy of orca888 who's got the guy he likes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest curious Posted February 18, 2012 Report Share Posted February 18, 2012 / quote Hmm. I'm so envy of orca888 who's got the guy he likes. /quoteApparently not... haha, a straight guy... but hopes everything works out well for orca888 =) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted February 18, 2012 Report Share Posted February 18, 2012 as long not 丑人爱作怪 will do Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted February 18, 2012 Report Share Posted February 18, 2012 Unless you are looking for a partner by hooking up in the public, then you may 1st check on that look but otherwise through friends gatherings n outings, looks really is not a factor.IMHO, the primary reason why so many are still single or why many relationships fail mainly because people are still choosing partner base on looks and not personality.Unless you personally are having a partner through look and it's lasting till today for more than a decade, then it may proof that "Choosing Partner through Good Looks" is possible.Otherwise be real and get real...... looks should not be a criteria.I'm just sharing my view on many successful relationships that lasted for decades including myself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted February 18, 2012 Report Share Posted February 18, 2012 However, if you sit down with this good-looker and there is no 'kimochi' (気持ち), then it is the wrong person. What is kimochi? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
orca888 Posted February 18, 2012 Report Share Posted February 18, 2012 / quote Hmm. I'm so envy of orca888 who's got the guy he likes. /quote Apparently not... haha, a straight guy... but hopes everything works out well for orca888 =) Thanks I really hope so too...hahahHe's supposedly straight - chick magnet to boot - but I was like that when I was younger too A mutual friend once commented that both of us were attractive in our own ways Anyway, I have also been getting a lot of signals saying otherwise...will a "straight" guy MSG good night to another guy? And we have been doing it every night Quote Am I falling for a bi? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cw30 Posted February 18, 2012 Report Share Posted February 18, 2012 he may just treat u as close hang out buddy / frd, dont think too much or try anything. if it comes, it will Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
orca888 Posted February 18, 2012 Report Share Posted February 18, 2012 he may just treat u as close hang out buddy / frd, dont think too much or try anything. if it comes, it willI can only hope...hahahStraight or not, he's great boyfriend material Quote Am I falling for a bi? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Doctor in the house Posted February 19, 2012 Report Share Posted February 19, 2012 Hi Orca888, guess what? I've got great news for you...everthing you have described? Ive been there and done that. Your friend may be "straight" but he may also have the hots JUST for you!...meaning, he is not exclusively straight! No one guy is exclusively straight, in my opinion. Most are bisexual and will swing either way depending on the person that really appeals to them...its a complicated thought but thats the way it is.I would suggest not wasting time guessing and wondering. It is also unnecessary to ask...the guy may be afraid of labels and as we all know, action speaks louder than words. I would suggest you make the first move and take it from there.For example, you could first end ur smses with "muacks"...and test the waters...if he reciprocates or doesnt pull back, then graduate from there and try giving him a peck on the cheek when the opportunity arises and so on...otherwise, you may like to start with a hug or run your hands across his skin...gauge his reaction from there and you will know!I wish you the very best of luck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
orca888 Posted February 19, 2012 Report Share Posted February 19, 2012 Thanks Doc - just what I needed to hear...hahahI know that no guy is exclusively straight - he could potentially be bendable...but I can't come across as too aggressive though he's pretty passive for a guy (another big mixed signal)...Yup, not going to ask - it may just strain the relationship...am slowly using actions too....He is quite comfortable with me holding him like draping my arms around his shoulder, giving him playful massages on his shoulders and neck when he complains he's tired...I think the biggest signal he gave me was last Friday when he leaned back onto my hand on the escalator (We were going up and I always stand behind him) - he definitely knew that it was my hand but he didn't pull away and stayed there for the entire ride...Darn, I should have gone further...sheeshLet's see what happens at our next outing...hahahThanks again but I don't want to get my hopes up too much either Quote Am I falling for a bi? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Passerby Posted February 19, 2012 Report Share Posted February 19, 2012 For me, I can be really superficial and get attracted to only handsome guys, however, once in a while I can be really attracted to someone who doesn't even look good to me. And I really mean that person doesn't even look pleasant. Hell but the attraction is great and it's really there. There are times when I lose the initial attraction because of the guy's character. So yea, my conclusion is that you can be really superficial but you'll never know when cupid strikes yea. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Mark Lee Posted February 19, 2012 Report Share Posted February 19, 2012 Of coz LOOKS is important ! Wud u like to fcuk or get fcuked by a guy that looks like Mark Lee the mo-peng face ??! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest queenie Posted February 19, 2012 Report Share Posted February 19, 2012 For me, I can be really superficial and get attracted to only handsome guys, however, once in a while I can be really attracted to someone who doesn't even look good to me. And I really mean that person doesn't even look pleasant. Hell but the attraction is great and it's really there. There are times when I lose the initial attraction because of the guy's character. So yea, my conclusion is that you can be really superficial but you'll never know when cupid strikes yea. Haha...if I'm not wrong, you are either very ugly or very old, or both. That explains why u are so desparate, looks or no looks also sapu all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tight Ass Posted February 19, 2012 Report Share Posted February 19, 2012 I am not really into looking for external beauty except that he must have a face not too round or oval, just nice with strong jaw cheek and clean set of teeth. Squarish face is a no for me. Crew cut, not botak, thick eye-brow, big round eyes wtih double-eyelids. Shavened cheek but can still feel its fine roughness. Nose big with no sticking out nostril hair Tanned and not too fair or too dark looking. Curvy up-ward mushroom cock, brown, not fair nor black and it should be circumcised and has shaft circumference not thicker than 1.2 inches. Body hair should be minimum or not at all with the exception of his rudby legs which I prefer a little more hairy than the arms the thickness of python. Firm butt, Belly button must be clean, nipple pink and solid without hair around it. 1.73m tall minimum, intelligent like me and jovial knowing how to please all the time.Other than the above, external beauty is not important, inner beauty is....... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil Posted February 19, 2012 Report Share Posted February 19, 2012 I am not really into looking for external beauty except that he must have a face not too round or oval, just nice with strong jaw cheek and clean set of teeth. Squarish face is a no for me. Crew cut, not botak, thick eye-brow, big round eyes wtih double-eyelids. Shavened cheek but can still feel its fine roughness. Nose big with no sticking out nostril hair Tanned and not too fair or too dark looking. Curvy up-ward mushroom cock, brown, not fair nor black and it should be circumcised and has shaft circumference not thicker than 1.2 inches. Body hair should be minimum or not at all with the exception of his rudby legs which I prefer a little more hairy than the arms the thickness of python. Firm butt, Belly button must be clean, nipple pink and solid without hair around it. 1.73m tall minimum, intelligent like me and jovial knowing how to please all the time.Other than the above, external beauty is not important, inner beauty is.......If somebody says that you are too choosy, don't believe him! Caesar and orca888 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted February 19, 2012 Report Share Posted February 19, 2012 I prefer someone who is in good physique rather than good look Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fortiplus+ Posted February 19, 2012 Report Share Posted February 19, 2012 the "look" counts....but oni for a start!like wat most hv said, it's the characters tat count...n whether both gel. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dreamer Posted February 19, 2012 Report Share Posted February 19, 2012 it sucks that i don't go for looks. i mean, i'm not saying that i should, but, each time i let myself fall for an admirer or someone who i won't think is goodlooking, i end up getting used, hurt, rejected, taken for a fool. and these people are shorter than me (i'm 1.83m), bigger sized than me (i'm 69kg; dancer built), and like i said, face-wise - not someone i would call "handsome"... i tend to go for guys who make me feel good... make me laugh... generally someone who grows on me over time. someone good looking can put me off with their bad behaviour or mentality. sigh. maybe i should move to another country. (random, i noe, just feeling crappy.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robp75 Posted February 19, 2012 Report Share Posted February 19, 2012 For many people looks are important yes, mainly in the initial stages - you see someone you find attractive and you do want to know them more etc... but within a short space of time you have to have other connections rather than just good looks - otherwise there's nothing to keep you together. Also, fortunately, people do find different things "attractive" as well.. orca888 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Azorius Posted February 19, 2012 Report Share Posted February 19, 2012 (edited) ..... Edited January 14, 2018 by Azorius robp75 1 Quote My amateur video links: http://www.blowingwind.org/forum/index.php?showtopic=30971&p=618776 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
orca888 Posted February 19, 2012 Report Share Posted February 19, 2012 For many people looks are important yes, mainly in the initial stages - you see someone you find attractive and you do want to know them more etc... but within a short space of time you have to have other connections rather than just good looks - otherwise there's nothing to keep you together. Also, fortunately, people do find different things "attractive" as well.. My thoughts exactly...Having good looks is part of nature's plan to help us get mates...hahahTo me, good looks just open doors but the content of the room must be interesting enough to make me wanna stay Quote Am I falling for a bi? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blissfull Posted February 19, 2012 Report Share Posted February 19, 2012 Pleasant looking is a must. I cannot imagine waking up to someone who I cannot stand. Quote "Well, I didn't know it would come to this but that's what happens when you're on your own." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted February 19, 2012 Report Share Posted February 19, 2012 i am superficial. i find looks important. my partner must be at least above average looking.in return, i take great care of my looks. if other hot guys do not wanna associate with me cos i am not hot enough in their eyes, it is okay with me, because i am superficial in the first place. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
orca888 Posted February 20, 2012 Report Share Posted February 20, 2012 I prefer someone who is in good physique rather than good look Anyway, who doesn't like good physique - it's part of the "looks" no? But physique tends to fade faster than looks...hahah Quote Am I falling for a bi? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted February 20, 2012 Report Share Posted February 20, 2012 i am superficial. i find looks important. my partner must be at least above average looking.in return, i take great care of my looks. if other hot guys do not wanna associate with me cos i am not hot enough in their eyes, it is okay with me, because i am superficial in the first place.U r not. U have the courage to be honest than most. U r also fair. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Marad44 Posted February 20, 2012 Report Share Posted February 20, 2012 Theorem of physical attraction in lighter vein:The higher the importance of physical attraction, the greater the probability of switching partners. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alien Posted February 20, 2012 Report Share Posted February 20, 2012 I prefer someone who is in good physique rather than good look U mean u prefer a gd body than face? Can the guy with elvin ng's bod but mark lee or dasmond koh's face? Quote 对自己好是一种幸福， 对别人好是一种积福。 Spend time counting your blessings, not airing your complaints. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Passerby Posted February 20, 2012 Report Share Posted February 20, 2012 Haha...if I'm not wrong, you are either very ugly or very old, or both. That explains why u are so desparate, looks or no looks also sapu all. Haha you're wrong. Happy pre-judging Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
orca888 Posted February 20, 2012 Report Share Posted February 20, 2012 U mean u prefer a gd body than face? Can the guy with elvin ng's bod but mark lee or dasmond koh's face?LOL - you have a point To me, good looking means the whole package - from top to toe and everything in between Quote Am I falling for a bi? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prince_A Posted February 20, 2012 Report Share Posted February 20, 2012 Think I'm weird coz I prefer average lookers.. Maybe it's my esteem issues anyway.. I find it no problem to love anyone with a good heart, but when they are too good looking however, will heighten my sense of insecurity.. Average, peaceful, loving is good... =) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Marad44 Posted February 20, 2012 Report Share Posted February 20, 2012 Think I'm weird coz I prefer average lookers.. Maybe it's my esteem issues anyway.. I find it no problem to love anyone with a good heart, but when they are too good looking however, will heighten my sense of insecurity.. Average, peaceful, loving is good... =)Prince_A, I don't find any fault in that. Would I be right in assuming that you strike a balance between fantasy and compatibility? Prince_A 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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