Guest Concerned Posted April 9, 2016 Report Share Posted April 9, 2016 We all know that media influences and conditions us into thinking in certain ways and we often believe we are easily aware of it. However, most of the time people just consume and imbibe the stuff on screens. Surely, they choose what to watch and listen to, but their choices then condition them and gets them into the groove of making similar choices. For example, I think too many good looking actors in gay (and straight) drama series make the gay community hanker for unrealistic good looks in their ideal partner. They make everyone dream of that celluloid dream guy, which causes problems in real life because people's expectations become sky high and nobody, not even quite good looking people can satisfy them. Also, porn stars have such good looks and bodies that it further reinforces the need to have someone sexy or someone with a fit-looking body. The gym culture is a product of media, although one can say that vanity and narcissism might have spurned those media to begin with, but it's a cumulative cycle. I think the gay community should rethink the media conditioning it has received and realise that endlessly following and chasing after who they believe to be popular, hot, cute or handsome is ultimately a futile if not detrimental pursuit. If you're 30 or nearing that age, you should begin to realise the transient nature of such things. So the cure seems to be to live a healthier, happier life with meaningful pursuits so that we don't keep watching porn or chasing dramas right? People who are busy and having fun generally don't have much time or don't even bother to watch porn or dramas. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 9, 2016 Report Share Posted April 9, 2016 Well said!! People just simply lose touch of reality after all that conditioning. Things in real life are imperfect and not as romantic. Either you accept that or set yourself up for huge disappointments. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest concerned Posted April 9, 2016 Report Share Posted April 9, 2016 8 minutes ago, Guest said: Well said!! People just simply lose touch of reality after all that conditioning. Things in real life are imperfect and not as romantic. Either you accept that or set yourself up for huge disappointments. Yeah man...but those full of that conditioning make it harder for those of us who are down to earth :X Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 9, 2016 Report Share Posted April 9, 2016 4 minutes ago, Guest concerned said: Yeah man...but those full of that conditioning make it harder for those of us who are down to earth :X Doesn't help when the male leads are not only cool and suave but also have lots of money or in some glamour jobs. When will the underdogs have their day? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2016 Report Share Posted April 9, 2016 1 minute ago, Guest said: Doesn't help when the male leads are not only cool and suave but also have lots of money or in some glamour jobs. When will the underdogs have their day? They will necessarily have to be really awesome to be on screen, but the problem is most people are incapable of separating fiction from reality and they want their reality to be like their fiction...without first looking at themselves. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 9, 2016 Report Share Posted April 9, 2016 Most gays have immature mindsets. They go for the transient and superficial rather than the lasting and meaningful. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 9, 2016 Report Share Posted April 9, 2016 6 minutes ago, Guest said: Most gays have immature mindsets. They go for the transient and superficial rather than the lasting and meaningful. And why is that so? Too much media? Too much porn? I think so... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EasleyLim Posted April 9, 2016 Report Share Posted April 9, 2016 But what if I LIKE watching porn and drama? If it doesn't consume my life, i don't see why i should stop doing it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest lol Posted April 9, 2016 Report Share Posted April 9, 2016 6 minutes ago, EasleyLim said: But what if I LIKE watching porn and drama? If it doesn't consume my life, i don't see why i should stop doing it. Lol then ya live your life nobody's talking about you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EasleyLim Posted April 9, 2016 Report Share Posted April 9, 2016 9 minutes ago, Guest lol said: Lol then ya live your life nobody's talking about you. True. Then again, subscribing to the notion that there is one ideal kind of life is, ironically, just another form of conditioning. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest lol Posted April 9, 2016 Report Share Posted April 9, 2016 3 minutes ago, EasleyLim said: True. Then again, subscribing to the notion that there is one ideal kind of life is, ironically, just another form of conditioning. That can be a standard (quite mindless) reply to those who inveigh against the negativity of alcoholism, drug abuse, anger issues, porn addiction, paedophilia, etc etc. Why are we conditioned to not rape children? Why are we conditioned to think that murder is wrong? Ok those are extreme examples for those who need them to get the point. Why are we conditioned to be polite to strangers? To not fart loudly in public? Even if everything is "conditioning", some are good and some are bad. In fact, some are rightfully called sensibility or virtue rather than "conditioning". No one is championing one ideal kind of life by talking abt how a particular thing is having detrimental effects on us. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Glyph Posted April 9, 2016 Report Share Posted April 9, 2016 TS, stop being salty. Gay guys are like the most realistic out of anyone living on this planet because we're conditioned to be so. A friend mad rushed the Addicted series within a day, yet the first comment that came out of him was "it's too good to be true". I think you'll make more sense if you're talking about fangirls shipping non-existent couples from made-believe dramas. Doesn't hurt to have a dream either, chill out bro. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doncoin Posted April 9, 2016 Report Share Posted April 9, 2016 Many people forget that behind the camera, there is a crew whose job is to make sure the actor/model looks good. Someone does the hair, make up, style what they wear, lighting etc. So that when the camera is on, the guy is an absolute adonis. Beyond that, you are looking at personal trainers, dietitians, chefs, dermatologists, dentists etc. Looking that good does not happen by accident. It is a lot of work that involves a crew and self-discipline, and in many cases, the power of Photoshop. I am not saying that the guys don't look that good, magazines etc. often Ps to make them look better. Just a reality. Just take what you see in the media with a pinch of salt. After all, it is just an image. dreamerboy 1 Love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Julian Posted March 8, 2017 Report Share Posted March 8, 2017 Which news recenty do you consider as fake? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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