best friend as travel buddy until u discover his bad habit

[Guest guest]

anyone encounter looking forward with best friend as travel buddy and later discover his bad habits , either snoring , dirty person . stingy or etc.

[cutejack]

Oh.tats normal.ever had few frens who return from holiday as enemies.so gotta choose the really really right one to travel together.lately a colleague keep suggesting to go europe for holiday together.i try to postpone n give all kind of excuses to avoid going with him. Until today he never even buy a cup of coffee or tea for me.how to go holiday with him? Damn stingy .staying in landed property.holiday with him?.mayb in dreams.

[looklook]

7 minutes ago, cutejack said:

Oh.tats normal.ever had few frens who return from holiday as enemies.so gotta choose the really really right one to travel together.lately a colleague keep suggesting to go europe for holiday together.i try to postpone n give all kind of excuses to avoid going with him. Until today he never even buy a cup of coffee or tea for me.how to go holiday with him? Damn stingy .staying in landed property.holiday with him?.mayb in dreams.

but still best friends ?

[Guest Cutejane]

Cutejack, why should he buy you coffee or tea? Even if he is stingy, as long as he doesn't take advantage of you by asking you to pay for this and that while travelling, I think it is ok.

Btw, have you bought any coffee or tea or anything for him?

[bigdanbeam]

Lol, why need to find excuses. Just say don't want to go lor. So simper!

[cutejack]

21 minutes ago, looklook said:

but still best friends ?

He cant b my best fren as i really choose my frens.

[Guest Lazy2login]

Yup .. my friend turned into a religious freak while overseas. All the meals must be halal (he's muslim, obvs and I'm not) or he'll make a big drama about "oh I'll just get a bun from the bakery and you guys go ahead", so fake. Even the other muslim guys pissed off with him.

 

Abuden still go for massage with happy ending, isn't it? Cis ...

 

We're still good friends but No More Travelling Together Anymore. 

[cutejack]

20 minutes ago, Guest Cutejane said:

Cutejack, why should he buy you coffee or tea? Even if he is stingy, as long as he doesn't take advantage of you by asking you to pay for this and that while travelling, I think it is ok.

Btw, have you bought any coffee or tea or anything for him?

Cutejane, i never buy for him.any drinks b4 but i did something which saves his life today which i cant mention too much here.he is aware of wat i did n he did thank me for tat.when we went out together to settle some of his issue., otw.buying me a drink ?no.im not saying it is wrong or im expecting.from there u can describe a person.

[cutejack]

10 minutes ago, bigdanbeam said:

Lol, why need to find excuses. Just say don't want to go lor. So simper!

He is much older than me.i respect him aa a fren.Sometime saying no may sound rude so better to give excuses as not to hurt him.

[cutejack]

11 minutes ago, Guest Lazy2login said:

Yup .. my friend turned into a religious freak while overseas. All the meals must be halal (he's muslim, obvs and I'm not) or he'll make a big drama about "oh I'll just get a bun from the bakery and you guys go ahead", so fake. Even the other muslim guys pissed off with him.

 

Abuden still go for massage with happy ending, isn't it? Cis ...

 

We're still good friends but No More Travelling Together Anymore. 

Who ask u go travelling with him?somemore got massage with he.next time bring me along.u want food include me also can.oopsss...

[FluteGuan]

50 minutes ago, cutejack said:

Oh.tats normal.ever had few frens who return from holiday as enemies.so gotta choose the really really right one to travel together.lately a colleague keep suggesting to go europe for holiday together.i try to postpone n give all kind of excuses to avoid going with him. Until today he never even buy a cup of coffee or tea for me.how to go holiday with him? Damn stingy .staying in landed property.holiday with him?.mayb in dreams.

Just say no.

 

Sho shimple. Hahah

 

Sometimes its not even the coffee or tea.

 

Look for the little act.

 

After eating, see how he reaches for his tissue pack n wipe his mouth.

 

Does he so much as offer u one? Lol

 

Says a lot abt someone whose world revolves around himself or someone who constantly looks out for the wellbeing of his travelmate.

[lonelyglobe]

Lets put it this way, after the trip, u will end up either be really good friend or no more friend

[FluteGuan]

19 minutes ago, Guest Lazy2login said:

Yup .. my friend turned into a religious freak while overseas. All the meals must be halal (he's muslim, obvs and I'm not) or he'll make a big drama about "oh I'll just get a bun from the bakery and you guys go ahead", so fake. Even the other muslim guys pissed off with him.

 

Abuden still go for massage with happy ending, isn't it? Cis ...

 

We're still good friends but No More Travelling Together Anymore. 

Hahaha 

 

 

Cant help laffing at this 1.

 

 

Like one of my moslem frens saidm

 

Oh girl, u dont wanna worry abt tt halal or not sausage entering ur mouth, worse things have gone inside ur mouth. 

 

Lol

[Guest uglyjill]

13 minutes ago, cutejack said:

Cutejane, i never buy for him.any drinks b4 but i did something which saves his life today which i cant mention too much here.he is aware of wat i did n he did thank me for tat.when we went out together to settle some of his issue., otw.buying me a drink ?no.im not saying it is wrong or im expecting.from there u can describe a person.

 

You clearly seem to be expecting some form of gratitude in return though.

[dsd]

I snore.

 

dun sleep in the same room as me. Haha!

[Guest Guest]

Many many years ago, I often go out together with a group of 10 colleagues. 

One don't eat pork. One don't eat beef. One don't like fast food. And there are countless many others "don't".

Just going for a meal take actual Project Management skills in coordination.

I learnt my lesson  and I travel alone from that time onwards.  

There's so much more freedom and I can visit any places (read: GAY places) I want without any inconvenient questions, and I can eat anything I want and even skip meals if I want.  

[loacker]

a trip with friends really reveal alot of stuffs especially those overseas for bout a week..they cant really hide themselves..so the usual norms or bad habits all surfaced..

it is a good test to know ur fren better or ur soon to be BF better...

[darkflame]

Most people get annoyed by my strict adherence to timings during trips.

[TamPenis]

A friend had arranged a holiday to Korea next March with a group of 4 friends. Misunderstanding happens even before the trip. He had cancelled his flight and ticket which I think quite an extreme to do as things might get better from now till March?

[Coolbriz]

Besides "bedside etiquette" that unless you have travelled with him before you wouldn't have found out, during the many interactions with my "best friend" I would have known what kind of a person he is. I have a close friend who is very particular about cleanliness and comfort and it is easy to deduce any foreseeable issue when selecting accommodation overseas. I have avoided traveling with him all the while. If you are talking about normal friends whom you hardly know, yes, very likely you might encounter unexpected behavior since you don't really know that person. Well, once you found out, either you feedback to him or change traveling buddy lor. No point forcing yourself to go through the experience that you don't enjoy. 

[Guest Lazy2login]

1 hour ago, cutejack said:

Who ask u go travelling with him?somemore got massage with he.next time bring me along.u want food include me also can.oopsss...

 

Lol he's a really good and old friend, I didn't go massage with him la, choy! I didn't know he would turn into that once we crossed the border haha well, it's a lesson learnt.

 

Can , anytime babe, we go makan2 ..

[Guest guest]

how about when he is showering u borrow his shaver, He goes mad about it. Another type  he love window shopping at  high end shopping mall  just browsing only for gucci  and branded stuff  just to snap some picture  .Another type he only love hiding at sauna from opening till close and dump u aside.Another type when u go with yr new bf  when come to shopping he expect u to pay for items include those gifts for his parents , nephew and other family.I met one more type when i run out of thai bahts at the airport returning to singapore just to past time we decided  to eat at  burger king ,my friend refuse to pay with  his left over thai bahts for my meals.He prefer to snowball  for his next trip But all the time in singapore i been treating  him

[Drivendale]

5 hours ago, Guest Guest said:

Many many years ago, I often go out together with a group of 10 colleagues. 

One don't eat pork. One don't eat beef. One don't like fast food. And there are countless many others "don't".

Just going for a meal take actual Project Management skills in coordination.

I learnt my lesson  and I travel alone from that time onwards.  

There's so much more freedom and I can visit any places (read: GAY places) I want without any inconvenient questions, and I can eat anything I want and even skip meals if I want.  

That's so true. I never want to be that kind of 'project manager'.  Glad that none of my friends like visiting China, so I make it a point to visit every year.  Once I started to go travelling alone, I never looked back.  Some of my friends thought it was so boring to travel alone with no one to talk to.  That's perfectly fine with me... enjoying the sights and sounds of whatever beautiful and ugly surroundings one encounters... away from their incessant complaints and comparisons back home.

[Coolbriz]

Agreed! Been travelling alone for many years already unless it's a family trip. The only place I prefer to go with someone or a small group is to beaches. It can be boring to go to places like Pulau Redang alone. 

[Guest Common]

This is the very reason of natural selection of whom you want to stick with as in have similar interests.

[Drivendale]

Cruises are out for me.  Doesn't make sense to go on a cruise alone.

[Kimochi]

Similar to looking for a partner haha that's why do proper observations 

[ThePineapple]

Well i don't believe there is such thing as "perfect travel buddy", unless it's imaginary...
No 2 people always think alike, which is why there's a idiom called "live and let live" 
meaning is here : http://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/live+and+let+live

I had yet to travel with friend(s)... and I'm pretty sure it's interesting to travel around the world with them...

[iamziz]

I am a lone traveller and I have only 2 good friends I can travel with. We respect the space, compromise, look after each other etc. Invited a few good friends to join in some trips and I am not keen travelling with them anymore. Lots of issues making the trips more like a disaster than a holiday. Back in Singapore, we are still good friends. They ''are back'' to what or how I know them here. Not best friends but just good friends.

 

It’s often said that the best way to get to know someone is by travelling with them. Eat with them. Sleep (not sexually or maybe sexually ) with them. 

[dexter9898]

And many couples break up after their first overseas trip together, if u cannot accomodate each other during a short trip....don't even talk about staying together. 

[FFF]

14 minutes ago, dexter9898 said:

And many couples break up after their first overseas trip together, if u cannot accomodate each other during a short trip....don't even talk about staying together. 

Agreed 

I always test in short trip first if ok then continue hahahhhahhah

[upshot]

10 hours ago, Guest guest said:

anyone encounter looking forward with best friend as travel buddy and later discover his bad habits , either snoring , dirty person . stingy or etc.

I never go with a companion (male or female) and share a room. Never ever will unless it is a business trip paid by company. Very rare i found many has habits like to see or share in in the same room and find out too late.

[ThePineapple]

3 hours ago, upshot said:

I never go with a companion (male or female) and share a room. Never ever will unless it is a business trip paid by company. Very rare i found many has habits like to see or share in in the same room and find out too late.

Which is like snoring while sleeping?
It would be disaster if my travel buddy snores alot

Edited July 3, 2016 by ThePineapple

[upshot]

10 minutes ago, ThePineapple said:

Which is like snoring while sleeping?
It would be disaster if my travel buddy snores alot

Yes... snoring... ordering food to the room and not cleaning up afterwards, leaving the towels all over the place or use your towel when theirs too wet and having most of their toiletries in the bathroom all over like it is only for their use. I have had some nightmare times and this are with colleagues and one was my boss's son who shared my room. I have always been brought up to be considerate and always share and to always leave room for others to use.

 

So I have very low tolerances for people who don't  and worst claim to be such considerate people till you stay with them in the same room and find out how hypocrite they are. And being your friends does not give you the reason to take advantage and let you do what you like your way all the time.

Edited July 3, 2016 by upshot

[Guest Guest]

Nobody snores deliberately one what? What can he do? Suffocate himself with a pillow? 

[SeannyShortcake]

Not that I mind.

 

Upon learning all the bad habits, I'll evaluate on whether I would like to continue going out with said person on a second, third, e.t.c. trip.

 

I'm usually pretty tolerant.

[MobyDick]

I wouldn't want to snore if it's within my control. This is why I made it clear if I am sharing room with friends for the 1st time. Very often, they failed to realize that they actually snored louder than me.

[lonelyglobe]

can't remember when is the last time I travel with my friends.......having said that, certain places still good to have company, beside redang and cruise ship, it is also equally weird to go Disneyland alone, the only good thing is I did officially jump the queue as they have only 1 more single seat for the roller coaster ride....

[abang]

Well I am very often the solo traveller, visiting places by myself.  As a result, I stay at youth hostels most of the time. OK it seems there is always some AMDK to drool at. But the truth is I enjoy the exchange of travel information from them.  My recent trip to Krabi was so enjoyable with a few clueless AMDK with me throughout the few days.  

 

 

Last year I had the unfortunate responsibility to bring 2 Chinese mainlanders (both handsome batangs) to Thailand.  Both are in their early 20s and I am more like their "surrogate father".  Surprisingly although it was their first trip and they did NOT do any research, they were willing to follow my instructions and suggestions. Goodness gracious, they let me do all the planning and because of their fat wallets, money wasn't a problem.

 

Imagine the 3 of us sharing a room together- major riot. The two of them have to sleep in a double bed as I prefer to sleep alone in the single bed.  As I am an early riser, I finished my morning ritual, gym workout and breakfast before the boys wake up.  Lucky for them that the hotel ends their breakfast session at 10.30.  

 

The journey started from Singapore to Phuket to Bangkok to Pattaya and back to Bangkok.  They probably seen more places than those tourists on tour packages.  No, we did not end up as enemies after the trip.  

 

 

 

Edited July 3, 2016 by abang
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[looklook]

11 minutes ago, abang said:

Well I am very often the solo traveller, visiting places by myself.  As a result, I stay at youth hostels most of the time. OK it seems there is always some AMDK to drool at. But the truth is I enjoy the exchange of travel information from them.  My recent trip to Krabi was so enjoyable with a few clueless AMDK with me throughout the few days.  

 

 

Last year I had the unfortunate responsibility to bring 2 Chinese mainlanders (both handsome batangs) to Thailand.  Both are in their early 20s and I am more like their "surrogate father".  Surprisingly although it was their first trip and they did NOT do any research, they were willing to follow my instructions and suggestions. Goodness gracious, they let me do all the planning and because of their fat wallets, money wasn't a problem.

 

Imagine the 3 of us sharing a room together- major riot. The two of them have to sleep in a double bed as I prefer to sleep alone in the single bed.  As I am an early riser, I finished my morning ritual, gym workout and breakfast before the boys wake up.  Lucky for them that the hotel ends their breakfast session at 10.30.  

 

The journey started from Singapore to Phuket to Bangkok to Pattaya and back to Bangkok.  They probably seen more places than those tourists on tour packages.  No, we did not end up as enemies after the trip.  

 

 

 

Nice to read a positive side of traveling with others

[Guest GUEST]

Those who complain about snoring... how did you know if you yourself is not a snorer and affecting the other party too?

 

Anyway, I went overseas with my best friend, turns out he's quite a nudist, while sleeping and around the hotel room.

[looklook]

2 minutes ago, Guest GUEST said:

Those who complain about snoring... how did you know if you yourself is not a snorer and affecting the other party too?

 

Anyway, I went overseas with my best friend, turns out he's quite a nudist, while sleeping and around the hotel room.

that is a nice discovery

[4evaboring]

I pick who i travel with carefully or just trusting my gut feeling, so far so good, only very trivial stuff happens along the way which i still can find them acceptable since no 1 is perfect and not everyone can take some food/drinks due to allergies.

[Guest PRC]

36 minutes ago, abang said:

Well I am very often the solo traveller, visiting places by myself.  As a result, I stay at youth hostels most of the time. OK it seems there is always some AMDK to drool at. But the truth is I enjoy the exchange of travel information from them.  My recent trip to Krabi was so enjoyable with a few clueless AMDK with me throughout the few days.  

 

 

Last year I had the unfortunate responsibility to bring 2 Chinese mainlanders (both handsome batangs) to Thailand.  Both are in their early 20s and I am more like their "surrogate father".  Surprisingly although it was their first trip and they did NOT do any research, they were willing to follow my instructions and suggestions. Goodness gracious, they let me do all the planning and because of their fat wallets, money wasn't a problem.

 

Imagine the 3 of us sharing a room together- major riot. The two of them have to sleep in a double bed as I prefer to sleep alone in the single bed.  As I am an early riser, I finished my morning ritual, gym workout and breakfast before the boys wake up.  Lucky for them that the hotel ends their breakfast session at 10.30.  

 

The journey started from Singapore to Phuket to Bangkok to Pattaya and back to Bangkok.  They probably seen more places than those tourists on tour packages.  No, we did not end up as enemies after the trip.  

 

 

 

 

So why is it unfortunate?  They followed your planning and whatever you decide.

[lovehandle]

15 hours ago, cutejack said:

Oh.tats normal.ever had few frens who return from holiday as enemies.so gotta choose the really really right one to travel together.lately a colleague keep suggesting to go europe for holiday together.i try to postpone n give all kind of excuses to avoid going with him. Until today he never even buy a cup of coffee or tea for me.how to go holiday with him? Damn stingy .staying in landed property.holiday with him?.mayb in dreams.

Cutejk has rich friend but I totally get your point!

snoring is not a bad habit!

15 hours ago, Guest guest said:

anyone encounter looking forward with best friend as travel buddy and later discover his bad habits , either snoring , dirty person . stingy or etc.

 

[abang]

8 minutes ago, Guest PRC said:

 

So why is it unfortunate?  They followed your planning and whatever you decide.

Jialat... why should we only focus on the "bad" side of things.  Always lay the rules first and close an eye whenever possible. The boys were rather the pampered type in their own families so it took a while to get used to my no-nonsense way of managing time and money.

先建立好条规， 可以容忍就没有负面。

 

They like to say, 钱不是问题。For me, I always bargain and will find the best deal whenever possible.  I really don't want to pay tourist prices. 老师不想当傻子。。

 

[Guest Yucks]

15 hours ago, Guest Lazy2login said:

Yup .. my friend turned into a religious freak while overseas. All the meals must be halal (he's muslim, obvs and I'm not) or he'll make a big drama about "oh I'll just get a bun from the bakery and you guys go ahead", so fake. Even the other muslim guys pissed off with him.

 

Abuden still go for massage with happy ending, isn't it? Cis ...

 

We're still good friends but No More Travelling Together Anymore. 

 

Yes this is a very sensitive issue while travelling. Thank goodness my muslim friend who travelled with me was not so drama.

I really do not understand why non halal food is such a taboo to your friend while going for massage with happy ending is not.

I shall stop here before I say the wrong thing.

[Guest Kylegogo]

I guess I came from another side of the story.

 

There was once I travelled with my best friend. We got the twin sharing room. We had separate itinerary for one day and I knew he was going to be out the whole day so I invited someone to have fun (on my own bed). He was so pissed and stop talking to me for months. We are friends now but he just wouldn't share the same room with me ever since.

 

Lesson learned, I guess we just need to lay our ground rule before the trip.

[looklook]

4 minutes ago, Guest Kylegogo said:

I guess I came from another side of the story.

 

There was once I travelled with my best friend. We got the twin sharing room. We had separate itinerary for one day and I knew he was going to be out the whole day so I invited someone to have fun (on my own bed). He was so pissed and stop talking to me for months. We are friends now but he just wouldn't share the same room with me ever since.

 

Lesson learned, I guess we just need to lay our ground rule before the trip.

wonder why he was so pissed. he didn't get his fair share of fun, maybe

[Guest Guest]

18 minutes ago, looklook said:

wonder why he was so pissed. he didn't get his fair share of fun, maybe

 

That's because it wasn't that sort of trip.

It's sheer disrespect to be bringing a stranger to a hotel that both of you are sharing, treating it like a whorehouse. It's a few days trip and he can't even keep his pants on.