best friend as travel buddy until u discover his bad habit

[sphere]

Just to share a past trip with 3 other friends (total 4 of us, 2 males and 2 females, they are straights).

For simplicity, let's call my guy friend A and my female friend B (actually both were my ex-colleagues too), and P is a female friend of B. Not exactly best friends, just friends.

 

B ha been talking about her trips and how she helped calm her friend when their planes were delayed and so on, so A and I thought she could be a good travelling partner. So we all planned a trip to New Zealand (my first and only trip there at this moment) together with P to make up the number and for accommodation purpose.

 

That trip was a disaster, my only trip that I wanted to go home right from day 1 (was in my head then, didn't say it out).

B was throwing tantrums since day 1 and got angry with very little things that we didn't even know why. Even her friend P had no idea how come she behave like that.

 

I had to endure her "nonsense" from day 1 till the end, and it definitely ruined my trip there for leisure.

Until this day, we don't know why she was the way she was back then, but you might have guessed it, I no longer keep in touch with her. She portrayed herself like a good travelling partner, but in reality she wasn't (or still isn't, haha). In any case, good thing was she left soon after, and we don't meet often (since she was no longer in the same office).

 

Anyway, as most said it, nowadays I either select carefully travelling partners, if not I rather go alone - much more freedom eh!    

 

[Guest Lazy2login]

23 minutes ago, Guest Kylegogo said:

I guess I came from another side of the story.

 

There was once I travelled with my best friend. We got the twin sharing room. We had separate itinerary for one day and I knew he was going to be out the whole day so I invited someone to have fun (on my own bed). He was so pissed and stop talking to me for months. We are friends now but he just wouldn't share the same room with me ever since.

 

Lesson learned, I guess we just need to lay our ground rule before the trip.

 

Could be he was mad because you didn't tell him beforehand and he didn't put away his valuables; so you perhaps put him at risk of having his stuff stolen.

 

You know how it is, these things happen - I know someone who had his car stolen by his one night stand while he was asleep!

 

(Or secretly he was jealous you got some action and he didn't hehe)

[ThePineapple]

2 hours ago, Guest Guest said:

Nobody snores deliberately one what? What can he do? Suffocate himself with a pillow? 

 

1 hour ago, Guest GUEST said:

Those who complain about snoring... how did you know if you yourself is not a snorer and affecting the other party too?

 

Anyway, I went overseas with my best friend, turns out he's quite a nudist, while sleeping and around the hotel room.

Let's see.... what can he do ? he could went for a short surgery to help his breathing problem. Most probably all along they have problem breathing normally and chose to ignore it - even if the people around them including friends and family recommend him to consult a doctor -
The cost of the surgery ? a few hundred $
Just imagine you have a partner who kept on snoring so loudly EVERY NIGHT. How the hell do you get a good night sleep for tomorrow's work/activity ?
For me, no matter how much I love the person, if he don't take my advice and go for the short surgery after nagging for so many months, even if i gonna sponsor him most of the surgery $.
Then i see no point staying together at all...


How do i know I'm not a snorer ? 
Because i don't wake up the next day with mouth dry like desert.
need more proof ? how about camp-mates sleeping soundly at the bunk during NS.

Edited July 3, 2016 by ThePineapple

[h.shi]

28 minutes ago, Guest Lazy2login said:

 

Could be he was mad because you didn't tell him beforehand and he didn't put away his valuables; so you perhaps put him at risk of having his stuff stolen.

 

You know how it is, these things happen - I know someone who had his car stolen by his one night stand while he was asleep!

 

(Or secretly he was jealous you got some action and he didn't hehe)

In any case it was bad luck having such people around 

[Guest Sure]

17 hours ago, Guest Lazy2login said:

Yup .. my friend turned into a religious freak while overseas. All the meals must be halal (he's muslim, obvs and I'm not) or he'll make a big drama about "oh I'll just get a bun from the bakery and you guys go ahead", so fake. Even the other muslim guys pissed off with him.

 

Abuden still go for massage with happy ending, isn't it? Cis ...

 

We're still good friends but No More Travelling Together Anymore. 

I encountered the same with a muslim partner.  The restaurant manager already assured the food is halal and my partner still insist on not eating.  The meal is free and came with hotel package.  No choice, follow him eat bread during the travel period in the hotel room and later have sex.  So much for being religious guy at the expense of me missing out good food overseas.

[looklook]

2 hours ago, Guest Sure said:

I encountered the same with a muslim partner.  The restaurant manager already assured the food is halal and my partner still insist on not eating.  The meal is free and came with hotel package.  No choice, follow him eat bread during the travel period in the hotel room and later have sex.  So much for being religious guy at the expense of me missing out good food overseas.

I am treading on sensitive territory here. I tend to be a live and let live muslim but there are other muslims who are steadfast regarding the halal/haram of things. Usually even before traveling I'll lay down the basics on food. If they are reluctant to eat at a particular place because of the halal issue, they can eat at another place they're comfortable with. But I'll continue going to restaurants that I like as I do not mind eating on my own. My circle of friends know this and usually they'll travel among like minded friends. If I happen to be on holiday during the same period as them, we'll just meet up for some activities together excluding eating at places that they're not comfortable with.

[Guest Sexisok]

4 hours ago, Guest Sure said:

I encountered the same with a muslim partner.  The restaurant manager already assured the food is halal and my partner still insist on not eating.  The meal is free and came with hotel package.  No choice, follow him eat bread during the travel period in the hotel room and later have sex.  So much for being religious guy at the expense of me missing out good food overseas.

You're what you eat.  otherwise how to have sex with you.

[Guest 性感小野猫]

22 hours ago, Guest Lazy2login said:

7 hours ago, abang said:

Jialat...老师不想当傻子。。

 

 

 

老师， 你的DP好性感哦!!!  

[Guest Sure]

2 hours ago, looklook said:

I am treading on sensitive territory here. I tend to be a live and let live muslim but there are other muslims who are steadfast regarding the halal/haram of things. Usually even before traveling I'll lay down the basics on food. If they are reluctant to eat at a particular place because of the halal issue, they can eat at another place they're comfortable with. But I'll continue going to restaurants that I like as I do not mind eating on my own. My circle of friends know this and usually they'll travel among like minded friends. If I happen to be on holiday during the same period as them, we'll just meet up for some activities together excluding eating at places that they're not comfortable with.

We were OK in Singapore, and eat regularly at coffee shop and I didn't mind eating muslim food with him everytime we went out.  No sign of him being picky. But when it comes to travelling, even in Muslim country like Bintan, Jarkata, and the restaurants are certain to be halah and the waitress are all muslims. This friend of mine freaked out at everything that laid on the table for free...lunch and dinner.  My trip became not value for money when I missed out those tasty foods.  I did told him that I will eat alone if he is afraid and he said I don't love him.  We broke off after that fateful trip.

[Guest Guest]

I have tried travelling with my good friends, I should say it wasn't as enjoyable as just meeting up for a drink or dinner back home.

 

There are differences in habits, food and shopping preferences, stamina, etc.. not to talk about mood swings at times.. 

 

 

[looklook]

1 minute ago, Guest Sure said:

We were OK in Singapore, and eat regularly at coffee shop and I didn't mind eating muslim food with him everytime we went out.  No sign of him being picky. But when it comes to travelling, even in Muslim country like Bintan, Jarkata, and the restaurants are certain to be halah and the waitress are all muslims. This friend of mine freaked out at everything that laid on the table for free...lunch and dinner.  My trip became not value for money when I missed out those tasty foods.  I did told him that I will eat alone if he is afraid and he said I don't love him.  We broke off after that fateful trip.

all for the better i hope

[Guest who is a gd travel partner]

Not that I am boasting, but I guess I am a good travelling partner, cos I have always been asked by friends to travel with them and their friends.

Maybe because I am pretty unassuming in terms of places of interests, accomodation and food, and willing to try interesting stuff. I always go travelling with an empty and open mind.

So far, my travelling partners are all easy to "live" with too. I can't really recall any disastrous trips. But too bad most of them are attached or have their own families now.

Maybe it is time I start travelling alone.

[Guest Guest]

7 hours ago, ThePineapple said:

 

Let's see.... what can he do ? he could went for a short surgery to help his breathing problem. Most probably all along they have problem breathing normally and chose to ignore it - even if the people around them including friends and family recommend him to consult a doctor -
The cost of the surgery ? a few hundred $
Just imagine you have a partner who kept on snoring so loudly EVERY NIGHT. How the hell do you get a good night sleep for tomorrow's work/activity ?
For me, no matter how much I love the person, if he don't take my advice and go for the short surgery after nagging for so many months, even if i gonna sponsor him most of the surgery $.
Then i see no point staying together at all...


How do i know I'm not a snorer ? 
Because i don't wake up the next day with mouth dry like desert.
need more proof ? how about camp-mates sleeping soundly at the bunk during NS.

 

Holy crab! Don't start spreading your nonsense that snoring surgery cost only a few hundred dollars and that all snoring can be solved by surgery. Next time you have flu, why don't you just have your nose surgically removed?

 

[cutejack]

23 hours ago, Guest uglyjill said:

 

You clearly seem to be expecting some form of gratitude in return though.

Honestly nope.why should i?i dont

Help anyone with intention to get something in return.

[Guest Lazy2login]

Actually I do understand and respect the whole halal matter and why it's important to him. The issue was that we were surprised by his sudden change in behaviour once we were overseas.

 

It was almost like wanting to control everyone and I guess it was just how he said stuff which was annoying when taken into context that he was still going to slut around at the massage parlour.

 

So nowadays, we don't travel together - even though he invited me to join in a few trips, I would rather avoid to preserve the friendship. 

[MeowPrince]

If you want a travel buddy/companion, then exercise some consideration and LOWER your expectations.  This was my own bitter experience from just over a decade back, when I started travelling for photography.  I won't deny I was a stickler for watertight plans, and was quite a bitch about it.  Then I realised my own circle of close friends suddenly refused to travel with me, preferring to travel in their own little groups of 3-4 on their own.  A hard lesson learnt.  Reinforced by more recent bad experiences with lousy travel companions.  I've had religious nuts who preached throughout my Provence trip, had a nasty roomie who ruined my Italian trip, an ex- who made my Vietnam trip miserable.  

 

That said, the lessons learnt made me more careful in picking my travel companions.  You learn to lay down your ground rules upfront, and manage your expectations.  If you do not, then you have very little reason to complain.  Since 2013, every trip I make sure to spend time sitting down with prospective companions getting to know them, and listing down expectations of both sides.  Eg: wake and leave early to shoot, room-mate expectations, food/dining concerns, amount of expected walking, my non-shopping rule, etc.  And I must say, it has served me well.  Have not had rotten experiences since.  

 

In 2015, my boyfriend joined me for 2 weeks to France.  And even though it was the first time we'd spend such a long stretch together, it was a pleasant trip.  We got to understand each other better, learnt to give each other space when needed.  He came to enjoy my photography-intensive travelling style, while I learnt to appreciate his ability to suss out the nearest cheap convenience stores.  That we repeated the experience in May this year with another 2-week trip that included 3 nights on Santorini was testament to having become good travel companions.  So what he gets distracted by souvenir stores all the time, it has become a chance for me to street shoot!  It boils down to tempering your own expectations and seizing the day as it comes.

 

Similarly, separate experiences, both with former mentees (ie, guys much younger than me) have been pleasant, and one of them is arranging an encore trip with me.  In both cases, my companion and I had laid down our expectations beforehand, and we knew to be considerate of the little things.  One of them has dietary constraints against pork, and we were in Hanoi, it just takes a little effort to skip pork.  And yes, we had street food for all of our 5 days there, twin-shared a room, and enjoyed.  The other guy was a closet exhibitionist and a fitness-freak as I discovered on my Cambodia trip, he sleeps in thongs and knocks back crunches and push-ups upon waking.  Who am I to deny eye-candy, especially since he put up with my extended exploration of the jungle stream we visited?  Its just give-and-take.

 

Travelling with companions need not be a bad experience, but it is what you make out of it.  Choose your trip and your travel buddy sensibly, all parties all out your expectations and proceed from there.  If you are looking for sex on travel, please make sure your indicate that clearly before proceeding too.

[Guest Halal waitress]

"the waitress are all muslims "

 

 

wow...waitress also be halal...OMG

 

 

U go JB, the Ba KUT the hawkers , all are malay woman

[Kibakun]

This happened to my friend: on a trip to Europe with some straight women and gay guys - very drama .. jealousy and competing with each other over buying branded products especially bags. Then on the return journey home, one of them ditched the whole group and used his points to upgrade to Business Class at the last minute - again causing jealousy and resentment.

 

Luckily I didn't go .. but it was fun listening to the gossip from all that LOL 

 

So it's not always true that women and gays are automatic best friends. They can be very catty amongst themselves too ..

[flowereat]

my friend likes to cover many places at once while i'm the kind who likes to move slowly at my own pace so yep we can't travel together. I guess to its hard to accommodate to everyone because we are all different in our own ways.

 

 

[bigdanbeam]

2 hours ago, Kibakun said:

This happened to my friend: on a trip to Europe with some straight women and gay guys - very drama .. jealousy and competing with each other over buying branded products especially bags. Then on the return journey home, one of them ditched the whole group and used his points to upgrade to Business Class at the last minute - again causing jealousy and resentment.

 

Luckily I didn't go .. but it was fun listening to the gossip from all that LOL 

 

So it's not always true that women and gays are automatic best friends. They can be very catty amongst themselves too ..

So juvenile

[Guest 小馬哥]

i believe if 2 persons have decided to travel together then the mentality of both parties has to change - you've to accommodate to each other requirements. Give and take. If you're unable to do that, better to travel alone. 

 

My first oversea free-and-easy vacation in Europe with my BF was a disaster. We quarreled everyday on what to eat, what to do, where to go. Luckily, we are still together.  After all these years, I'll let him decide and plan as he wishes and I'll just enjoy anything that comes by.  Even this, he still complain why everything must let him decide. 女人真系茶煲

 

[abang]

11 hours ago, Guest 性感小野猫 said:

 

 

老师， 你的DP好性感哦!!!  

没办法啦， 没有多少青春可卖了。。趁早把剩余的“好货色/暴露狂的心态” 奉献给还能欣赏我的朋友。

[freeseme]

Don't think its just traveling together ...its probably should be when you are with each other or others for a long period of time. Then you see more of the people you are together with, then you start to siam here and siam there and then poof .... friends no more.....

[ThePineapple]

13 hours ago, Guest Guest said:

 

Holy crab! Don't start spreading your nonsense that snoring surgery cost only a few hundred dollars and that all snoring can be solved by surgery. Next time you have flu, why don't you just have your nose surgically removed?

 

Holy crab ! someone don't know the pain of snorers and people around them !

it's ok... Hahahahahaha

[jocker]

i think the worst traveler are those who give you an answer of ANYTHING. After reaching the place and all the eeeekk, huh, sucks, yucks n omg come out from my friend mouth, I simply cannot tolerate such ppl if they say anything but yet give so many comments.

Edited July 4, 2016 by jocker

[Guest 青春完美者上]

6 hours ago, abang said:

没办法啦， 没有多少青春可卖了。。趁早把剩余的“好货色/暴露狂的心态” 奉献给还能欣赏我的朋友。

您老人家还是别硬撑了，太过暴露会导致感冒的。实际点吧! 别再以年轻人争宠了，劝您还是照了好您那衰老的身子，向永不回头的青春告别吧!

[Phil]

15 hours ago, MeowPrince said:

If you want a travel buddy/companion, then exercise some consideration and LOWER your expectations.  This was my own bitter experience from just over a decade back, when I started travelling for photography.  I won't deny I was a stickler for watertight plans, and was quite a bitch about it. 

.................................................

Travelling with companions need not be a bad experience, but it is what you make out of it.  Choose your trip and your travel buddy sensibly, all parties all out your expectations and proceed from there.  If you are looking for sex on travel, please make sure your indicate that clearly before proceeding too.

Wise advices, MP!

I agree, even if you must compromise sometimes, better travelling with a companion you already know, and who is in accordance with your tastes and expectations.

This being said, is it always possible? Seems it is the case for you now, congrats!

But when you travel with a group, it is probably more delicate, above all if it's not totally a business trip?

[bigdanbeam]

6 hours ago, jocker said:

i think the worst traveler are those who give you an answer of ANYTHING. After reaching the place and all the eeeekk, huh, sucks, yucks n omg come out from my friend mouth, I simply cannot tolerate such ppl if they say anything but yet give so many comments.

But if eventually they go with the flow (and not sulk), I would think some comments are acceptable

[kingbitch]

The biggest problem I feel is this strong pressure to harmonize begrudgingly. The ideal case is to declare on day one that "if we don't see eye to eye, you do A, I do B, let's meet up tonight at the hotel room / at 6PM in this restaurant"

 

I faced strong resistance from some of my travel mates "if we keep doing different things, what's the point of travelling together?". But after some time they got used to the idea, and hopefully appreciated it.

 

Sometimes I would declare that I wouldn't pay a hundred bucks for this mediocre hotel and I will choose to rough it out at a nearby backpacker's - and I will meet them at their lobby the next morning. Those interested can come with me.

 

I would be aghast if a friend would force me to do something against my desire. I was most intrigued by the Muslim friend anecdotes by a few previous posters. I would firmly declare "you can have your bread, I'm going to feast on this yummy non-halal buffet. Meet you somewhere else in two hours".

 

I do get labelled sometimes for being self-centered, but I did make myself very clear from day one. If they don't accept the terms, then they shouldn't agree to travel together

[MeowPrince]

10 hours ago, Phil said:

Wise advices, MP!

I agree, even if you must compromise sometimes, better travelling with a companion you already know, and who is in accordance with your tastes and expectations.

This being said, is it always possible? Seems it is the case for you now, congrats!

But when you travel with a group, it is probably more delicate, above all if it's not totally a business trip?

If it is a business trip (or even partly), then you face constraints that you may not be able to change, eg, booking by the agent/client to suit their needs.  In those circumstances, I'd make do the best I can, which sometimes can still be unpleasant, such as was my 2013 trip.

 

When travelling in a group that you have some control/say over, one should seek to reduce the chances of things going awry - by speaking up and laying your ground rules upfront.  Is it always possible?  I'd say no, but I'll still do all I can to minimise the misery, especially to myself.  

Just an example of what I tell my travel-mates (male/female/both/neither) :-

1.  This is a photographic trip - that means times are to suit MY photography, not yours. (If they clarify what that means, it is good sign, their interest is retained.  If they give me nonsense like "oh my uncle was a photographer", they are off the list.)

2.  My travelling style is one of Flashpacker, ie, better budget than backpacker, but I don't insist on 4-star hotels and air-con private coaches with multilingual guides.  (Most of my circle of friends are in this bracket, so little concern there, unless its a newcomer whom I do not know from adam)

3.  My travel meals are a mix of street food and local-cuisine ranging from cafe/bistros to cosy restaurants, but I won't do fancy restaurants and Michelin-stars everyday.  (Again no issue, as my friends are cut of the same cloth)

4.  If you are a rubber-timer, DO NOT join me.  I will abandon the culprit, something some of those who attempt to join my outings here in Singapore know full well.

5.  My trips are NOT shopping trips.  So if you are a shopping maniac, please travel on your own.  This is non-issue, as I would not invite a shopper to join me anyway.

After all, if someone wants to join my trip, he/she should travel by my rules, not their own.  If they cannot stomach it, then don't come with me.

 

On the other hand, if I am joining someone else's trip, then I should travel by their rules, that's pretty common sense.  If I cannot accept their terms, then I don't join them.  

[fab]

Bad habits i can tolerate, selfishness n inconsiderateness i won't.

 

I had no problem with a jc classmate for 2 yrs.  We became bunkmates in bmt n less than 2 wks we quarrelled over his selfishness.

 

What about sharing rooms with friends with bo jam feets etc? 

[Guest Reflector]

I wonder how many of us here have reflected on our own behaviour while travelling with others? Maybe our travel mates feel the same about us too and avoid travelling with us anymore. 

[Guest Lazy2login]

26 minutes ago, Guest Reflector said:

I wonder how many of us here have reflected on our own behaviour while travelling with others? Maybe our travel mates feel the same about us too and avoid travelling with us anymore. 

 

If people still invite you to join them, or when you organise a trip, people want to join - then you don't have a problem. 

[Guest best friends]

Even best of friends will have different interests and habits, good or bad.  Be less judgemental and more accommodating when travelling together.  

[oralb]

During my younger days went to HK with my 2 platoon mates, major disaster.

 

Both of them slept through the morning, i would have eaten breakfast, walked around, bought something and went back to room around noon to see them still sleeping. Complained about everything from too many people (hello? this is HK) to too much walking (we just came out of army so budget trip)

 

So i thought they were not morning people, but when my friends suggested lan kwai fong for clubbing, both preferred to sleep in the room. sigh...

 

needless to say that's was my once and only time traveling with them

 

[lovehandle]

On ‎5‎/‎7‎/‎2016 at 3:08 PM, oralb said:

During my younger days went to HK with my 2 platoon mates, major disaster.

 

Both of them slept through the morning, i would have eaten breakfast, walked around, bought something and went back to room around noon to see them still sleeping. Complained about everything from too many people (hello? this is HK) to too much walking (we just came out of army so budget trip)

 

So i thought they were not morning people, but when my friends suggested lan kwai fong for clubbing, both preferred to sleep in the room. sigh...

 

needless to say that's was my once and only time traveling with them

 

I agreed! I dislike travel mates that love to sleep till late in the morning

and I have never visited HK too , probably felt very similar to sg

[alien]

On 7/3/2016 at 9:43 AM, TamPenis said:

A friend had arranged a holiday to Korea next March with a group of 4 friends. Misunderstanding happens even before the trip. He had cancelled his flight and ticket which I think quite an extreme to do as things might get better from now till March?

Heard many case pple even quarrel before going on trip, and extreme case wld ended up cancelled the trip even already booked and planned. Going holidays with pple not easy, be it friends or even family members. Many pple will ended up quarreling or become enemies after the trip. So if u dun want potentially lose a friend, better dun go holiday with tht person, unless u prepared u might lose the friendship after the trip.

Edited July 6, 2016 by alien

[Guest Lonely Planet]

It is always best to travel alone

[lonelyglobe]

agreed but having a travel companion can help to reduce the cost of traveling, there will also be time when u hope someone to share the food so u can order more variety, someone to scream with while taking the roller coaster ride etc. However, if u don't want to loose a good friend, then I suppose is good to keep them in Singapore

[suckmegood]

only after traveling, then u will know if the friendship is worth keeping because u will see all the "dark" side of the person

[Guest Guest]

2 minutes ago, lonelyglobe said:

agreed but having a travel companion can help to reduce the cost of traveling, there will also be time when u hope someone to share the food so u can order more variety, someone to scream with while taking the roller coaster ride etc. However, if u don't want to loose a good friend, then I suppose is good to keep them in Singapore

So true, even travel with friends can be fun and not so lonely. But if losing friends after travelling is definitely not fun. I have already lose two friends after a travel trip with them.

[abang]

I have this very good experience travelling with 3 STRAIGHT couples.  As we were all VERY Adults (above 40 years old), we managed to stay in the hotel of our choices, do our own things and only converge at a convenient location every night during our 4 nights-stay in Bangkok.

 

Being very civic and perhaps too calculative, we each have to fork out SGD 200 upfront for the dinners.  Each one of us were tasked to buy duty-free liquour as we left Changi.  Everything went like clockwork and we had a good time.  

 

To ensure complete smooth-sailing during the trip, do NOT expect a 24/7 companionship - your friends are NOT your parents/siblings, don't boss them around and expect nothing.  They don't have to abide to your plans.  

Remember what you like isn't always what they want and vice-versa.

 

[Guest ThaiTraveller]

5 hours ago, Guest Guest said:

So true, even travel with friends can be fun and not so lonely. But if losing friends after travelling is definitely not fun. I have already lose two friends after a travel trip with them.

How did it happen? Care to share?

[auscent]

Travelling together can reveal dark sides which u cant imagine. 

 

My backpacking buddy to M East started to be herself. Waking up late for tours saying shes not a morning person once she is on hols. No apologies to the poor guide. Making fun of me being older with some frens she made along the way etc. Wtf!

 

When we came back she apologised saying that she felt so comfortable in our frenship she lost control.

 

 

 

 

[firefight]

before getting married, a trip together can show how real a person is

[Rice60640]

When finding travel companion, don't go too far. Trial hotel stay and weekend in Sentosa to test the water for compatibility. Solve snoring problem?  Easy, wear ear plugs. Any surgery is risky so you shouldn't ask your friends to put their lives at risk. 

[Guest duh]

I travel alone. Go with friend will return with enemy.

[Guest Victorian]

My travel buddy walks around the hotel room with just gym shorts on. Wish he had the modesty to cover up, especially when we are only given the queen size bed.

[abang]

I hardly travel with another person except when I'm with an ex-bf(s). 

We had been used to each other's sleeping pattern, after all we were having sex like rabbits way before the trip.  In addition, we did our research before the trip - what to see, buy and do.

 

Even in short breaks to Hong Kong or Bangkok, take off an afternoon where I explore what I want to see whereas he could be relaxing by the pool.  Once I scoured the streets of Hong Kong to find an antique-looking jewellery box for his birthday.  I disappeared for 2 hours and came back with the gift.  We had good sex that night.

 

Don't go with people who are lack sense of punctuality, humour and spending.  After all, relax on a holiday.  Don't take things too seriously and don't expect to live the Singapore lifestyle overseas.  A beach holiday means nothing-to-do except wearing a skimpy trunk, frolicking in the sun and sea all-day.  No sight-seeing, no shopping - just you and me.

 

I like to be naked whenever possible and my ex-bf(s) being AMDK, just let me indulged in nudity in the room... with travelling mate, perhaps a tiny piece of underwear should suffice.