ThatLonelySGboy Posted May 5, 2017 Report Share Posted May 5, 2017 Perhaps the most pressing issue with people nowadays is their penchant for instant gratification - everything comes so easily that we get addicted to the notion of immediate relief to our problems- even though this immediate solution has been proven not to last, or solve any issues at all.... This is apparent in sex addiction - people seek instant physical pleasures that last for as long as the sexual act is being performed; it does nothing besides satisfying our libidos. While this may not post a problem in itself, it gets stickier when we begin to view other aspects of our lives in the same light - friendships, relationships etc. While true emotional attachment takes time to cultivate, some of us seek instant 'friends' and 'dates' through meet-ups orchestrated through platforms such as this forum/ the apps (jack'd, tinder etc). Hitting someone up online takes nothing more than exchanging profile information and pictures that both sides find visually appealing. While these meet-ups may sometime lead to a true, long lasting blossoming friendship, most of us here should have experienced that many of these turn out to be hi-bye dinner chats and may more often than not result in a not so satisfying romp. Taking this into consideration, maybe this community should take a step back and give each other time to grow, develop and dive deep into understanding each other better - relationships that take a lifetime to cultivate are those which lasts for - well a lifetime. MonstaInYoMind and honhon 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted May 5, 2017 Report Share Posted May 5, 2017 You preach something that is simply an idea in your mind and not based on experience. Instant gratification CAN have a lasting effect. Sex is healthy for the spirit and the body. Many delicious foods are healthy for the spirit and the body. What can be unhealthy in sex are infections in one person that can pass to the other. What can be unhealthy in delicious foods are components that negatively affect the body. But neither sex nor appetizing foods are intrinsically bad. We benefit from periodic gratifications that make our life worth living. And we need discipline to keep them periodic and not chronic. How you expect a gay community to take a step back? How many step-backs are YOU willing to take? If everyone gives everyone else "time to grow", you end up with a society of old folks who never lived their youthful days. We grow through repeated experiences including mistakes, deceptions, pain. Instant gratifications are not the evils that add these unavoidable elements to the process of our growth. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
auscent Posted May 5, 2017 Report Share Posted May 5, 2017 Things that come fast make an impression. Things that took time to grow make it a lasting impression. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The.Intrv. Posted May 5, 2017 Report Share Posted May 5, 2017 Good intentions albeit idealistic & impracticable. For these flaws I lament. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Glyph Posted May 5, 2017 Report Share Posted May 5, 2017 Actually, sex addiction is a huge problem in itself. Any addiction is. But the point of my reply is that everyone lives and grows at a different pace. Any expectations one may have for another to sit around and wait for some "growing" to happen is plain selfishness. Ya know, we're all short-lived creatures. Oh, and what exactly have we done together as a community? Let's not even go there. Do you truly believe you can change the world? Not even I am so naive as that. —Ramza Beoulve Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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