Share Your Grindr / Jack'd Experience

[Balestier]

5 minutes ago, doncoin said:

This is a recent personal observation: 

 

Grindr is like online shopping. Everyone just browses, adds a few to their cart, and leaves before they even check out. 

Usually it's NO PLACE , bare bodies too good to enjoy or SILENCE

[doncoin]

1 minute ago, Balestier said:

Usually it's NO PLACE , bare bodies too good to enjoy or SILENCE

 

Yeah. Everyone stays with family and it is inconvenient to invite guys back. 

[Balestier]

1 minute ago, doncoin said:

 

Yeah. Everyone stays with family and it is inconvenient to invite guys back. 

It's mostly they don't invite strangers home. Prefer to KB or TMC now.

[passinthenight]

22 hours ago, youdoyou said:

I met someone who sent his straight flat mate’s photos. But he was already at my door and I was very horny, so we went ahead. The sex was great, but I told him to never contact me again cos he lied about his photos. 

I love a man with principles. 

[singalion]

12 hours ago, Coolbriz said:

But Grindr seems a bit glitchy. It seemed like whenever I received a “tap” or chat notification, it didn’t appear and somehow it got delayed until a few days later. 

 

You're lucky. What happened to me some months ago was that every chat I opened was auto deleted.

 

I closed Grindr and restarted my HP and saw that the previous chats were all back again after the restart.

 

But when I opened them again, the auto delete of chats started again.

 

I wrote in to Grindr. They settled the issue within 1 hour.

 

If you have serious issues, write in to grindr, they will help to resolve some bugs. Actually, they are very accommodating.

 

But I had this delayed message receipt also some time back.

 

 

[reece7700]

A bit of a side track, but has anyone been approached by Personal Trainers on Grindr offering to meet up and give free gym advice?

 

The cynic in me thinks it is just a ploy to sweet talk and convert me into a paying client. Am I right or am I wrong? Should I take the bait/chance?

Edited November 20 by reece7700

[strategicthrust]

3 hours ago, reece7700 said:

A bit of a side track, but has anyone been approached by Personal Trainers on Grindr offering to meet up and give free gym advice?

 

The cynic in me thinks it is just a ploy to sweet talk and convert me into a paying client. Am I right or am I wrong? Should I take the bait/chance?

 

It's not a ploy if the guy literally told you he's a PT? He is a trainer looking for clients to train, full stop. Probably straight for that matter. The PTs know the pink dollar is lucrative so they come onto gay apps to fish.

 

Don't read too much into it and disappoint yourself for nothing.

 

 

[Nightmoon]

I subscribed to Grindr and was paying a monthly fee of SGD18.99 for the past 1 year. 2 days ago suddenly my subscription was deactivated and I saw in my credit card the amount was just deducted. 

 

Now they are charging SGD600/month. Siao. 

 

I have wrote in to ask for help but they had yet to reply. 

[Nightmoon]

Anyway, recently there was a quite sus experience. I was chatting with a "taiwanese" guy living in singapore and he insisted to do a video call and must show nude body. I keep rejecting him but he kept insisting until I have to block him. 

 

I think there are blackmailer in the app so be careful. 

[mate69]

On 11/21/2024 at 3:44 AM, Nightmoon said:

Anyway, recently there was a quite sus experience. I was chatting with a "taiwanese" guy living in singapore and he insisted to do a video call and must show nude body. I keep rejecting him but he kept insisting until I have to block him. 

 

I think there are blackmailer in the app so be careful. 

 

For sure there are, but there are also as many nice genuine people

You just have to sift through the wheat from the chaff

[doncoin]

While I was in Singapore, I had some guy chatting with me on Grindr and asked me take the conversation to Telegram. On Tele, after a while it became clear that he was trying to hook me on some stocks stuff by bragging how much he made that day etc. He stopped chatting with me once he realised that I have zero interest in whatever he was selling.  

[Cyruszs]

4 hours ago, doncoin said:

While I was in Singapore, I had some guy chatting with me on Grindr and asked me take the conversation to Telegram. On Tele, after a while it became clear that he was trying to hook me on some stocks stuff by bragging how much he made that day etc. He stopped chatting with me once he realised that I have zero interest in whatever he was selling.  

 

Scammer! 

[Kopi Gao]

6 hours ago, doncoin said:

While I was in Singapore, I had some guy chatting with me on Grindr and asked me take the conversation to Telegram. On Tele, after a while it became clear that he was trying to hook me on some stocks stuff by bragging how much he made that day etc. He stopped chatting with me once he realised that I have zero interest in whatever he was selling.  

Thanks for reminder and heads up! Investment or get-rich-quick scam! Scary ... 😬 ... I wonder still have those "iTunes cards thingy" scam in Grindr or not .... 😮

[cbm]

On 11/22/2024 at 10:31 PM, mate69 said:

 

For sure there are, but there are also as many nice genuine people

You just have to sift through the wheat from the chaff

 

I've encountered the same issues on Grindr that everyone has shared here. Of all of them, this point about going through the rubbish is the most significant for me. 

 

There's tonnes of chaff and a few grains of wheat. But the few grains of wheat are worth it. One guy I met through Grindr has become a good friend. Not just for fun. But actual friend.

[cutejack]

On 11/24/2024 at 2:54 AM, doncoin said:

While I was in Singapore, I had some guy chatting with me on Grindr and asked me take the conversation to Telegram. On Tele, after a while it became clear that he was trying to hook me on some stocks stuff by bragging how much he made that day etc. He stopped chatting with me once he realised that I have zero interest in whatever he was selling.  

One fucker who chatted with me in grindr at adelaide forced me to join something like bitcoin(forgot n unsure what is that indeed) n win money.  Told me to join n screenshot to him. Knn mf. I said OK n blocked him. They are not scammers .I call them male prostitutes who don't know how to earn money in a proper way.

Edited November 25 by cutejack

[Balestier]

On 11/20/2024 at 11:19 PM, strategicthrust said:

 

It's not a ploy if the guy literally told you he's a PT? He is a trainer looking for clients to train, full stop. Probably straight for that matter. The PTs know the pink dollar is lucrative so they come onto gay apps to fish.

 

Don't read too much into it and disappoint yourself for nothing.

 

 

Get to know you and sell personal training. Could be gays or straights 

[iKneadyou]

On 11/5/2024 at 11:45 AM, doncoin said:

This is a recent personal observation: 

 

Grindr is like online shopping. Everyone just browses, adds a few to their cart, and leaves before they even check out. 

HHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAH 100% true. When a guy says “probably next time?”, it wont happen

[lean n mean]

Many say Hi. I say Hi back n mind intro pls? Cos i oredi have my face n body pics and stats displayed on my profile. Then silence. They just want to say Hi?

 

Then those with rich lifestyle pics ask u to chat on telegram n soon enough they tell u they are trading in crypto bla bla bla

 

and they will ask you stuff, you reply, then silence even though they are on the line, and then ask you another question one or two days later and then repeat the same pattern. 

 

worse are those mutherfcukers who ask u to meet outside n ghost u. 
 

these guys need to manage their expectations. U are not choosing husbands to live together for 50 years. And most of the time u are very super average to begin with. So irritating when I am oredi prepared to be not overly choosy in the first place since I m horny for cock so i visit grindr 🤣

Edited December 3 by lean n mean

[passinthenight]

I have a stalker from another country that keeps saying 'Hi'. He keeps showing a pic of some prince/sheik from the middle east, before I block him. This has been going on for over a year.

[Jace27]

Speaking of stalkers, I had a real-life encounter once. This guy on the app kept messaging me after I replied "hello" to his first text. Of course, I ignored all his messages after that, but he kept going on about how he felt I was the love of his life blah blah blah. This went on for a few weeks (I forgot to block him).

One night, I came home late after a night out with friends. It was around 12 a.m. I was walking towards my block when I heard footsteps behind me, getting closer. I sensed that someone was about to approach me, so I slowed down and turned my head slightly to anticipate it. In my mind, I thought maybe they were gonna ask for directions or something.

When he tapped my shoulder, I turned around, and he said, "Are you ___ from ___?" He was wearing a mask at the time, but I could see he was of average build, slightly tanned, hairy, and shorter than me. He looked a bit nerdy. Inside, I was shocked, scared, and panicking. Still, I managed to reply, "Umm, yeah... How do you know?"

He said, "I was waiting for you in the car... Can we sit somewhere? I want to talk to you."

At that moment, something clicked. I knew right away this was the annoying guy I’d forgotten to block on the app. I quickly replied, "Uh, no. I need to rush." Then, I ran straight home.

It was terrifying to realise that he had tracked me through the app, waited for me to get home, and now knew where I lived. I kept replaying everything in my head, trying to figure out when or how he had figured out it was me. Maybe he used a fake account to get my pictures. After that encounter, I kept looking over my shoulder every time I went home for months😖

Now I understand how women feel in these situations—it's really scary.

[Kopi Gao]

1 hour ago, Jace27 said:

Speaking of stalkers, I had a real-life encounter once. This guy on the app kept messaging me after I replied "hello" to his first text. Of course, I ignored all his messages after that, but he kept going on about how he felt I was the love of his life blah blah blah. This went on for a few weeks (I forgot to block him).

One night, I came home late after a night out with friends. It was around 12 a.m. I was walking towards my block when I heard footsteps behind me, getting closer. I sensed that someone was about to approach me, so I slowed down and turned my head slightly to anticipate it. In my mind, I thought maybe they were gonna ask for directions or something.

When he tapped my shoulder, I turned around, and he said, "Are you ___ from ___?" He was wearing a mask at the time, but I could see he was of average build, slightly tanned, hairy, and shorter than me. He looked a bit nerdy. Inside, I was shocked, scared, and panicking. Still, I managed to reply, "Umm, yeah... How do you know?"

He said, "I was waiting for you in the car... Can we sit somewhere? I want to talk to you."

At that moment, something clicked. I knew right away this was the annoying guy I’d forgotten to block on the app. I quickly replied, "Uh, no. I need to rush." Then, I ran straight home.

It was terrifying to realise that he had tracked me through the app, waited for me to get home, and now knew where I lived. I kept replaying everything in my head, trying to figure out when or how he had figured out it was me. Maybe he used a fake account to get my pictures. After that encounter, I kept looking over my shoulder every time I went home for months😖

Now I understand how women feel in these situations—it's really scary.

Thanks for sharing ... so scary! 😬 Is it that he liked you very much? You told him where you stayed? People can use Grindr to monitor / track where one stays or where one is (exact location)? 😮😱

[Jace27]

3 hours ago, Kopi Gao said:

Thanks for sharing ... so scary! 😬 Is it that he liked you very much? You told him where you stayed? People can use Grindr to monitor / track where one stays or where one is (exact location)? 😮😱

Ya so creepy😣

No I didn't. Only said hello to him and he started texting paragraphs after paragraphs. Maybe he tracked me home for few months before stalking. 😰

[singalion]

7 hours ago, Jace27 said:

Speaking of stalkers, I had a real-life encounter once. This guy on the app kept messaging me after I replied "hello" to his first text. Of course, I ignored all his messages after that, but he kept going on about how he felt I was the love of his life blah blah blah. This went on for a few weeks (I forgot to block him).

One night, I came home late after a night out with friends. It was around 12 a.m. I was walking towards my block when I heard footsteps behind me, getting closer. I sensed that someone was about to approach me, so I slowed down and turned my head slightly to anticipate it. In my mind, I thought maybe they were gonna ask for directions or something.

When he tapped my shoulder, I turned around, and he said, "Are you ___ from ___?" He was wearing a mask at the time, but I could see he was of average build, slightly tanned, hairy, and shorter than me. He looked a bit nerdy. Inside, I was shocked, scared, and panicking. Still, I managed to reply, "Umm, yeah... How do you know?"

He said, "I was waiting for you in the car... Can we sit somewhere? I want to talk to you."

At that moment, something clicked. I knew right away this was the annoying guy I’d forgotten to block on the app. I quickly replied, "Uh, no. I need to rush." Then, I ran straight home.

It was terrifying to realise that he had tracked me through the app, waited for me to get home, and now knew where I lived. I kept replaying everything in my head, trying to figure out when or how he had figured out it was me. Maybe he used a fake account to get my pictures. After that encounter, I kept looking over my shoulder every time I went home for months😖

Now I understand how women feel in these situations—it's really scary.

 

It is always a problem if guys get a crush on you. 

 

It might also be caused if your looks are too good and others start "dreaming" of you...

 

Something similar happened to me some years ago when a guy always followed me back from my workplace to my home. You don't need grindr...for this to happen. It lasted nearly a year. I confronted him when he walked behind me. Unfortunately, before the confrontation I didn't really took note of him ( maybe looks very too average) but started noting it, when always someone followed me from the MRT to my place. 

 

 

[youdoyou]

12 hours ago, Jace27 said:

Speaking of stalkers, I had a real-life encounter once. This guy on the app kept messaging me after I replied "hello" to his first text. Of course, I ignored all his messages after that, but he kept going on about how he felt I was the love of his life blah blah blah. This went on for a few weeks (I forgot to block him).

One night, I came home late after a night out with friends. It was around 12 a.m. I was walking towards my block when I heard footsteps behind me, getting closer. I sensed that someone was about to approach me, so I slowed down and turned my head slightly to anticipate it. In my mind, I thought maybe they were gonna ask for directions or something.

When he tapped my shoulder, I turned around, and he said, "Are you ___ from ___?" He was wearing a mask at the time, but I could see he was of average build, slightly tanned, hairy, and shorter than me. He looked a bit nerdy. Inside, I was shocked, scared, and panicking. Still, I managed to reply, "Umm, yeah... How do you know?"

He said, "I was waiting for you in the car... Can we sit somewhere? I want to talk to you."

At that moment, something clicked. I knew right away this was the annoying guy I’d forgotten to block on the app. I quickly replied, "Uh, no. I need to rush." Then, I ran straight home.

It was terrifying to realise that he had tracked me through the app, waited for me to get home, and now knew where I lived. I kept replaying everything in my head, trying to figure out when or how he had figured out it was me. Maybe he used a fake account to get my pictures. After that encounter, I kept looking over my shoulder every time I went home for months😖

Now I understand how women feel in these situations—it's really scary.

Damn! Sorry you had to go through this. I hope you ran to a random block instead of your own.

[youdoyou]

I just recalled an experience I had in Italy earlier this year. It was at around 5am. I thought, maybe a quick hook up before I run out for the day. 

So I was talking to this guy about a kilometre away. He sent his photos, handsome and all. So I asked about his location, and sent him mine. At some point it became clear he was high on something so I said I’m not into sex with substances. Plus I was going out in a couple of hours. I said sorry about that. 

As you do, I was also replying to texts on insta and WhatsApp. When I went back to Grindr, there was a flurry of messages from him:

need a fuck now.

what do you like? 
when do we meet?

meet now?

ok I’m on my way. 

I’m near you now (he sent his location, now 300ish metres away).

 

I replied (politely even though I was puzzled by the turn of events) saying, I said no, sorry. 
 

He goes on to send an audio message telling me he’s a nice guy, we’ll have a good time. He’s had a rough day (from the day before), he just needs sex. 
 

I finally send another reply telling him no, and that I had to go out. He sends another audio message: you should have said so. I came all the way here. 
 

I think it was at this point my blood froze although I knew he didn’t have my exact location (the pin was for a spot some blocks away). But I couldn’t help but imagine him standing outside the building I was staying at. And I was going to go out that morning too. 
 

I left the guesthouse at around 7, with my hoodie pulled down low and a heightened sense of alert until I reached the bus station.

 

Edited December 3 by youdoyou

[Netizen]

I couldn’t understand, or find these annoying :

 

1. He initiated a “hi”, I replied “hi”, then comes total silence…. 
 

2. He initiated a “hi”, I replied “hi” within 30mins. 3-4 days later he wrote “how are you?”. I replied quite quickly “I am great, how’s things with you?”. 3-4 days later, he replied “I am good too. Seeking?”. I lost interest and didn’t reply.

 

3. Those who love to give 1-2 words reply only; hi, seek, same, ok, sure, pic, fun, now, place, tel, etc… I lose interest quickly chatting with these people, my impression is they are either snobbish or nonchalant 

 

4. Those who asked to see your pic right away, but their profiles are blank with totally no bio or even a flower picture. 

 

5. Those asking to see your facepic without initiating. 

 

 

 

[paddle_up]

6 hours ago, Netizen said:

 

Agreed totally on those points.

 

Especially in situation such as i have 5 bod pics on my profile and some who initiated the chat dont have any pics on their profile.  When trade album, they have just 1 pic in their album, i usually highlighted to them that there is not called an album but a single or EP.  Once i shared my album, the other parties will have seen more than 10 pics and video from me while i have seen just 1 pic of them.

 

I usually will decline and establish that since i host, i will not invite someone over with just 1 or 2 pics.

[Fuzzyrob]

I dunno why but the chat just made me burst out of laugh.

[singalion]

7 hours ago, Netizen said:

I couldn’t understand, or find these annoying :

 

1. He initiated a “hi”, I replied “hi”, then comes total silence…. 
 

2. He initiated a “hi”, I replied “hi” within 30mins. 3-4 days later he wrote “how are you?”. I replied quite quickly “I am great, how’s things with you?”. 3-4 days later, he replied “I am good too. Seeking?”. I lost interest and didn’t reply.

 

3. Those who love to give 1-2 words reply only; hi, seek, same, ok, sure, pic, fun, now, place, tel, etc… I lose interest quickly chatting with these people, my impression is they are either snobbish or nonchalant 

 

4. Those who asked to see your pic right away, but their profiles are blank with totally no bio or even a flower picture. 

 

5. Those asking to see your facepic without initiating. 

 

 

 

 

But seriously I think local guys here are much too harsh on guys who don't instantly send a reply.

The expectation is too much for anyone to reply to any approach on the second after.

 

There are guys who blocked you even before you were able to pin any reply. (You know because initially until the app fully loaded you see the message but then when ready it is gone.

 

People are not hooked on dating apps 24/7.

 

People might have personal reasons for not replying on the spot.

You're at work, came back earlier from lunch and took a short look at the app but don't have time to reply directly.

At night you're just damn tired, read the messages but didn't reply...

 

This lack of patience is just rude and totally unreasonable.

 

On the guy above under 2, he might be under shift work and can only access the handphone on certain timings.

Why didn't you ask him for what reason his replies bump up only after 1 - 3 days?

 

 

 

[singalion]

28 minutes ago, paddle_up said:

Agreed totally on those points.

 

Especially in situation such as i have 5 bod pics on my profile and some who initiated the chat dont have any pics on their profile.  When trade album, they have just 1 pic in their album, i usually highlighted to them that there is not called an album but a single or EP.  Once i shared my album, the other parties will have seen more than 10 pics and video from me while i have seen just 1 pic of them.

 

I usually will decline and establish that since i host, i will not invite someone over with just 1 or 2 pics.

 

While you can't expect everyone to provide 10 pictures, but in the case of those having an album (which now due to grindr bugs on times takes minutes to open, then just have one picture: I am even worse and tell them, you do an Album just for one pic?

 

But actually these guys are just scared of you getting their pic because with the album function they can "lock " you out after.

 

I love also those using these expired pics.

 

My reply to that is after some while is:

"Sorry, but I already forgot how you look like"...

 

Best are those who closed the album even before you managed to take a look. haha

 

 

 

[ERFAbangBear]

12 hours ago, paddle_up said:

Agreed totally on those points.

 

Especially in situation such as i have 5 bod pics on my profile and some who initiated the chat dont have any pics on their profile.  When trade album, they have just 1 pic in their album, i usually highlighted to them that there is not called an album but a single or EP.  Once i shared my album, the other parties will have seen more than 10 pics and video from me while i have seen just 1 pic of them.

 

I usually will decline and establish that since i host, i will not invite someone over with just 1 or 2 pics.

Tbh I get this a lot. And sometimes I have nudes on my album and they only have face pics that aren't even clear sometimes and they demand to unlock mine like that's not a fair exchange at all. 

[paddle_up]

9 hours ago, ERFAbangBear said:

Tbh I get this a lot. And sometimes I have nudes on my album and they only have face pics that aren't even clear sometimes and they demand to unlock mine like that's not a fair exchange at all. 

With such a fine specimen, i reckoned many will love to see more of you boy.

 

Not G or J app, but on the B bee app.  Met a boy for brunch, since it was raining, i asked to pick him up and head for brunch.  Went to a cafe and proceeded with our meals.  Throughout the session, it was very much a single direction traffic which kind of feel like a monologue or a Q&A session.  After an hour plus of brunching, i paid for the brunch.  Sensing that it is kind of abrupt and due to food, it may not be the best situation to communicate.  I proceeded to ask whether we would like to have coffee nearby and his treat so as to establish the sense of equality.  We went for drinks and the same situation prolonged with one direction conversation.

 

We parted ways.  After that, he texted me on the B app, sharing he enjoyed the session and looking forward to the next outing.  i replied okay, but you were silent or non engaging throughout.  His response was he is shy.  I left it at that.

[Netizen]

We had such similar situations. 
 

Connected good with someone in Grindr, switched to normal text messaging platform and chatted very well, before we both agree to meet. 
 

The coffee session was ackward; one-way traffic with me doing most of the talking. The conversation becomes dull quickly as it wasn’t engaging, and worse makes me feel draggy when I have to start searching for chat topics. It seems that I am meeting a different person where he was chatty and spontaneous in text messaging, while in person appears to be reserved and to a certain extent pretty aloof. At one point he started scrolling his phone and I stopped my talking. I took the cue that there was little interest to pursue further, and took the initiative to end the session.

 

He later texted me and said he was surprised I suggested to leave. Candidly I told him my thoughts about the meeting. He said he was shy and nervous because I look different from my picture which he wasn’t prepared for it. He didn’t want to appear too eager for things and thought better to remain composed… 
 

I left things there and then. 
 

ps: I believe both can still have a decent coffee chat regardless…. with or without interest. It is common courtesy since both made time to meet. 
 

[dilbert0987]

3 hours ago, paddle_up said:

With such a fine specimen, i reckoned many will love to see more of you boy.

 

Not G or J app, but on the B bee app.  Met a boy for brunch, since it was raining, i asked to pick him up and head for brunch.  Went to a cafe and proceeded with our meals.  Throughout the session, it was very much a single direction traffic which kind of feel like a monologue or a Q&A session.  After an hour plus of brunching, i paid for the brunch.  Sensing that it is kind of abrupt and due to food, it may not be the best situation to communicate.  I proceeded to ask whether we would like to have coffee nearby and his treat so as to establish the sense of equality.  We went for drinks and the same situation prolonged with one direction conversation.

 

We parted ways.  After that, he texted me on the B app, sharing he enjoyed the session and looking forward to the next outing.  i replied okay, but you were silent or non engaging throughout.  His response was he is shy.  I left it at that.

Was the chatting on the B bee app also one directional?

[paddle_up]

8 minutes ago, dilbert0987 said:

Was the chatting on the B bee app also one directional?

Hey sexy boy.

 

Nah, it was very conversational between us.

[Saggiboy]

18 hours ago, paddle_up said:

Hey sexy boy.

 

Nah, it was very conversational between us.

Pardon my ignorance, but wat is B bee app?

[paddle_up]

On 12/7/2024 at 8:20 AM, Saggiboy said:

Pardon my ignorance, but wat is B bee app?

It’s bumble my boy 

[Kopi Gao]

On 12/6/2024 at 1:45 PM, Netizen said:

We had such similar situations. 
 

Connected good with someone in Grindr, switched to normal text messaging platform and chatted very well, before we both agree to meet. 
 

The coffee session was ackward; one-way traffic with me doing most of the talking. The conversation becomes dull quickly as it wasn’t engaging, and worse makes me feel draggy when I have to start searching for chat topics. It seems that I am meeting a different person where he was chatty and spontaneous in text messaging, while in person appears to be reserved and to a certain extent pretty aloof. At one point he started scrolling his phone and I stopped my talking. I took the cue that there was little interest to pursue further, and took the initiative to end the session.

 

He later texted me and said he was surprised I suggested to leave. Candidly I told him my thoughts about the meeting. He said he was shy and nervous because I look different from my picture which he wasn’t prepared for it. He didn’t want to appear too eager for things and thought better to remain composed… 
 

I left things there and then. 
 

ps: I believe both can still have a decent coffee chat regardless…. with or without interest. It is common courtesy since both made time to meet. 
 

 "look different from my picture which he wasn't prepared for it" ... is the feedback shockingly positive or shockingly negative that made your friend so "shy and nervous"? 🙄😬😍

[Saggiboy]

17 minutes ago, paddle_up said:

It’s bumble my boy 

Thank you daddy

[shenalone]

On 12/7/2024 at 8:20 AM, Saggiboy said:

Pardon my ignorance, but wat is B bee app?

I guess, it was the same guy? Looking for free food if his lucky 

[ERFAbangBear]

On 12/6/2024 at 11:01 AM, paddle_up said:

With such a fine specimen, i reckoned many will love to see more of you boy.

 

Not G or J app, but on the B bee app.  Met a boy for brunch, since it was raining, i asked to pick him up and head for brunch.  Went to a cafe and proceeded with our meals.  Throughout the session, it was very much a single direction traffic which kind of feel like a monologue or a Q&A session.  After an hour plus of brunching, i paid for the brunch.  Sensing that it is kind of abrupt and due to food, it may not be the best situation to communicate.  I proceeded to ask whether we would like to have coffee nearby and his treat so as to establish the sense of equality.  We went for drinks and the same situation prolonged with one direction conversation.

 

We parted ways.  After that, he texted me on the B app, sharing he enjoyed the session and looking forward to the next outing.  i replied okay, but you were silent or non engaging throughout.  His response was he is shy.  I left it at that.

You have a way with words lmao. 😳

[Expired Btm Uncle]

On 12/6/2024 at 11:01 AM, paddle_up said:

With such a fine specimen, i reckoned many will love to see more of you boy.

 

Not G or J app, but on the B bee app.  Met a boy for brunch, since it was raining, i asked to pick him up and head for brunch.  Went to a cafe and proceeded with our meals.  Throughout the session, it was very much a single direction traffic which kind of feel like a monologue or a Q&A session.  After an hour plus of brunching, i paid for the brunch.  Sensing that it is kind of abrupt and due to food, it may not be the best situation to communicate.  I proceeded to ask whether we would like to have coffee nearby and his treat so as to establish the sense of equality.  We went for drinks and the same situation prolonged with one direction conversation.

 

We parted ways.  After that, he texted me on the B app, sharing he enjoyed the session and looking forward to the next outing.  i replied okay, but you were silent or non engaging throughout.  His response was he is shy.  I left it at that.

He doesn't know how to appreciate hot guy like you. I totally enjoy your hard pounding lol. 

[thatsamore]

Had recently downloaded Jack'd and just browsing around. I am however a little suspecious of some profiles. Usually a good looking guy - handsome with good bod, probably from China. Ofcourse it may be a fake profile photo. They usually will start a chat and try to get my contact number. If you do not provide a contact they will then not choose to continue the chat on the platform. Are these scammers? How do they operate on this platform? How will your contact number be used if they are indeed scammers? Anyone had this experience? Please share 

Edited December 12 by thatsamore

[singalion]

2 hours ago, thatsamore said:

Had recently dowloaded Jack'd and just browsing around. I am however a little suspecious of some profiles. Usually a good looking guy - handsome with good bod, probably from China. Ofcourse it may be a fake profile photo. They usually will start a chat and try to get my contact number. If you do not provide a contact they will then not choose to continue the chat on the platform. Are these scammers? How do they operate on this platform? How will your contact number be used if they are indeed scammers? Anyone had this experience? Please share 

 

It never went that far for me to exchange any number.

 

Mostly if they have those instagramable pics and fancy places or pretending a certain high life style, it is the indication to me.

Unfortunately, recently there are more with better English, previously they always wrote in Mandarin.

What are warning signs to me when their age is around 38-40s and above and when they write on their profile seeking relationship or tell you they are looking for a relationship.

 

If you want to give a contact number then use one app where you can later block them (best also to report them).

But they might have different numbers and will contact you again with another number.

 

Nowadays I will always ask them if they are trapped in one of the jail work dens in Myanmar or Laos and if they need help to get out or if they want me to call their Embassy for help.

 

It seems to work because after this they stop chatting with me.

 

Best sign is that they are not looking for sex, reply to you with a certain delay or can't give any real exact location and just stay general on the location.

 

 

[youdoyou]

On 12/6/2024 at 1:45 PM, Netizen said:

We had such similar situations. 
 

Connected good with someone in Grindr, switched to normal text messaging platform and chatted very well, before we both agree to meet. 
 

The coffee session was ackward; one-way traffic with me doing most of the talking. The conversation becomes dull quickly as it wasn’t engaging, and worse makes me feel draggy when I have to start searching for chat topics. It seems that I am meeting a different person where he was chatty and spontaneous in text messaging, while in person appears to be reserved and to a certain extent pretty aloof. At one point he started scrolling his phone and I stopped my talking. I took the cue that there was little interest to pursue further, and took the initiative to end the session.

 

He later texted me and said he was surprised I suggested to leave. Candidly I told him my thoughts about the meeting. He said he was shy and nervous because I look different from my picture which he wasn’t prepared for it. He didn’t want to appear too eager for things and thought better to remain composed… 
 

I left things there and then. 
 

ps: I believe both can still have a decent coffee chat regardless…. with or without interest. It is common courtesy since both made time to meet. 
 

I honestly don’t get guys who say they’re not good at making conversation. I mean, how do you expect to meet people if it’s going to be a one-way street? I understand being shy - I used to be a lot quieter when I was younger when meeting people for the first time. But you’d need to make an effort. It’s not uni where you need to ask smart questions - simple ones about someone’s day/week, what they do in their free time, where they’re travelling to, etc., would easily do the trick.

[mate69]

On 12/13/2024 at 5:59 PM, youdoyou said:

I honestly don’t get guys who say they’re not good at making conversation. I mean, how do you expect to meet people if it’s going to be a one-way street? I understand being shy - I used to be a lot quieter when I was younger when meeting people for the first time. But you’d need to make an effort. It’s not uni where you need to ask smart questions - simple ones about someone’s day/week, what they do in their free time, where they’re travelling to, etc., would easily do the trick.

 

Exactly. It's not rocket science, and there is no need to overthink things

[paddle_up]

On 12/9/2024 at 8:58 PM, Expired Btm Uncle said:

He doesn't know how to appreciate hot guy like you. I totally enjoy your hard pounding lol. 

Ha ha ha, come on. I am no young fresh meat 

[paddle_up]

On 12/14/2024 at 6:59 AM, youdoyou said:

I honestly don’t get guys who say they’re not good at making conversation. I mean, how do you expect to meet people if it’s going to be a one-way street? I understand being shy - I used to be a lot quieter when I was younger when meeting people for the first time. But you’d need to make an effort. It’s not uni where you need to ask smart questions - simple ones about someone’s day/week, what they do in their free time, where they’re travelling to, etc., would easily do the trick.

With that sexy bod, I reckoned I will be looking and salivating over that sexy bod to even think logically. 

[youdoyou]

51 minutes ago, paddle_up said:

With that sexy bod, I reckoned I will be looking and salivating over that sexy bod to even think logically. 

Alas, one would be sitting clothed at a cafe  

[Baredom]

I get it though. Some people just don’t do well in open settings face to face. Through screens, we’re all able to freely express without worrying about how we look or sound or smell or even come across. In person, we have to think quick, look attractive, make sure there’s no vege stuck in our teeth.