Share Your Grindr / Jack'd Experience

[Guest Guest]

I'd met up with a boyish bottom uncle and we had fun for a day.

Good tool for us to cruise inside MRT too.

While a year ago another guy replied wanting to meetup but ends blocking me.

Share your different experiences; who you met; any cute guys and any fun things that happened on the app!

[Guest Guest]

                       

 

These apps sucks

[Guest Guest]

My experience:

 

1. Most of the people in the apps are only looking for fun, some asking directly through "seek?" or "fun?" (which I consider more proper, at least they're honest and not wasting my time)...

 

2. ...while others only pretend to get to know you but actually wants fun. He will ask non-sexual questions like favourite movies etc for quite a lengthy session, and then suddenly talk about dicks in general and then, the whole conversation turned into purely about sex, and then you'll know his intention all along

 

3. I even had an experience of someone trying to promote his product or insurance or something. He's cute but decided to ignore him since then. The second time (a few months later), I changed my photo to a much better looking one and he messaged me. I totally ignored him

 

4. People who do not give up and keeps on messaging even when I didn't reply at all. Looking at the thread, it's all line after line of hi's and hellos

 

5. Received some compliments here and there but hey, it's only a glorified photo so didn't let it get to my head.

[Guest 26yo top]

I'd met up with a boyish bottom uncle and we had fun for a day.

 

how come so lucky can find boyish bottom uncle?

[Guest 50+yo Fit Uncle]

My experience:

1. Most of the people in the apps are only looking for fun, some asking directly through "seek?" or "fun?" (which I consider more proper, at least they're honest and not wasting my time)...

2. ...while others only pretend to get to know you but actually wants fun. He will ask non-sexual questions like favourite movies etc for quite a lengthy session, and then suddenly talk about dicks in general and then, the whole conversation turned into purely about sex, and then you'll know his intention all along

3. I even had an experience of someone trying to promote his product or insurance or something. He's cute but decided to ignore him since then. The second time (a few months later), I changed my photo to a much better looking one and he messaged me. I totally ignored him

4. People who do not give up and keeps on messaging even when I didn't reply at all. Looking at the thread, it's all line after line of hi's and hellos

5. Received some compliments here and there but hey, it's only a glorified photo so didn't let it get to my head.

Agreed but there are more.

overall they are just another meat market like the saunas. IT gets boring after awhile.

I attract a big bunch of admirers, you also attract a big bunch of admirers too. Did you notice that THOSE who write about their experiences are always highly sought after?

We all tend to have an inflated view of ourselves. That is why sometimes I would play along for the fun of it.

Real or fake pics? my pics are all real hence many would wonder if they are too good to be real lol. Let them guess and guess and probe.

real or fake friendship? I am genuinely interested to chat even if they would only be interested in sex. size, top, bottom, I lol the questions away. LOL

real or fake meet up? I let them guess and guess but I am real, only difference I will not go out of my way to meet. I'll merely state where and when I am having dinner and if they don't turn up, I'll finish dinner and leave.

Of course I'll state here that most of those who met me were wowed by me lol. But this is the internet so pick what you want to believe lol

[Guest Guest]

It feels so unreal to receive atleast 30 chats per day.  :oops:

[iamziz]

Rude idiot who can't take no as answer deserves such reply:

 

[Guest Raiden Alpha]

All these apps are good in theory, it is the users that sucks big time. If I want to look at good looking face pic, I would rather surf the net or buy a coffee table book.

Lets just say local lousy housing policies and the largely immature gay population in this country are some of the reasons why gay social apps can't take off in this country. I have a much better user experience making friends when I use these apps overseas.

[Guest Guest]

Nice photo alot user talk to you. no nice photo 3 days straight also no one care

[Crumpler]

Nice photo alot user talk to you. no nice photo 3 days straight also no one care

 

[forte_sg]

From such apps can tell how educated and what sorts of family upbringing the chatter came from. 

1) When asking for pics to trade. The one asking will / may ask you to initiate where after that block you / ignored you without returning. Hello? Trade? How gentlemen!

2) Someone saying hello .. and then disappeared for hours .. days .. or forever. If you are busy, do have the basic courtesy to tell the other party. Making people wait is very rude and 'low-class' behaviour. Further more, it was they who initiated the HELLO. WTF right? It's not difficult to type a sentence ya?

3) If you are not keen, pls say so. Words to use which are not so crude : i) I'm sorry  ii) Take Care  etc .. Be nice when rejecting unless that jerk is faking others' pics as his la. NO NEED to be a bitch! to hurt another. World is round, Karma will hit you back one day. ( esp teenagers and the childish adults , some will make remarks like : you're too ugly, your are so old, you are fat, you are wadever .... ) There's no need to. One day you will fall into this cat. too =)) 

 

cheers

[Guest Guest]

Rude way to reply others:

 

A: " Hi "

 

B: " WHAT LA???? "

 

 

 

 

A is going to block B forever.

[Guest Jack me]

And you realized your own pic is on another person's profile, when that person sends you a message.

Why? Why the need to use someone else pics...

[Guest Kai]

Some people find 'seek' straightforward while others find it 'crude'. One app has many different way of usage. At the end of the day, it's personality looking for similar personality. I like to engage in casual chats for a start and it takes the same to get my attention. People who ask me what I 'seek?' - Your disappearance. LOL

 

PS: I cannot imagine myself sending my cock pic to a total stranger to seek fun (By far, this is the worst I've seen). So LC. LOL.

[patisoy]

If not using somebody else's pictures, most guys in Grindr or Jack'd post their most beautifully-enhanced pictures. Enhancements by photoshop or some photo-editing apps. One time I was chatting with this guy who looks so handsome and skin was so smooth and youthful in his profile picture. It's actually not about his appearance why I kept chatting with him. He's witty and funny and that's what I like about him! Finally we decided to meet in person and have dinner together. While I was waiting inside the restaurant, I was frozen to my seat when suddenly an unfamiliar person sat in front of me. With a severely pimpled face and dark completion as compared to his profile pic, I almost didn't recognize him until he introduced himself. Well, it didn't matter to me actually how he looked like in person but the feeling of being deceived was a little hard to overcome. I feel sorry that he's embarrassed of his true appearance by posting an edited picture. Anyway, we're still very good friends up to now and we still meet from time to time. :-) 

 

Here's my personal advocacy: LET'S STOP BEING ASHAMED OF WHO WE TRULY ARE & LET'S NOT TRY TO BE SOMEONE WE ARE NOT! It surely feels good to be accepted and loved by someone without hiding something. Let's appear as we are and if people have trouble accepting that, that's their problem! :-)

[lynvas]

I don like grindr they have so many restriction prefer J'ack d . much more photos to see

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[Guest Guest]

Rude way to reply others:

A: " Hi "

B: " WHAT LA???? "

A is going to block B forever.

Ahahah i think this is funny.

[Guest 50+yo Fit Uncle]

From such apps can tell how educated and what sorts of family upbringing the chatter came from.

1) When asking for pics to trade. The one asking will / may ask you to initiate where after that block you / ignored you without returning. Hello? Trade? How gentlemen!

2) Someone saying hello .. and then disappeared for hours .. days .. or forever. If you are busy, do have the basic courtesy to tell the other party. Making people wait is very rude and 'low-class' behaviour. Further more, it was they who initiated the HELLO. WTF right? It's not difficult to type a sentence ya?

3) If you are not keen, pls say so. Words to use which are not so crude : i) I'm sorry ii) Take Care etc .. Be nice when rejecting unless that jerk is faking others' pics as his la. NO NEED to be a bitch! to hurt another. World is round, Karma will hit you back one day. ( esp teenagers and the childish adults , some will make remarks like : you're too ugly, your are so old, you are fat, you are wadever .... ) There's no need to. One day you will fall into this cat. too =))

cheers

It is a meat eating jungle out there. There is no use asking the animals there to be nice. They only understand the laws of the jungle: post a nice photo a lot of users talk to you; no nice photo 3 days straight also no one care. LOL.

If you got it, flaunt it. If you don't have it, you can only fake it till the time comes to meet. Then it is 丑婦终需要见家翁。Sometimes I agree to meet just for the fun of seeing how thick skinned people can get. I got the goodies they want and most of them do turn up to try their luck. LOL.

Of course they wanted sex but my excuses though polite definitely hint that they are liars. I love to look into their eyes and watch them squirm.

Surprise of all surprise, some of them not only don't squirm in embarrassment, some of those liars even say they have lots of admirers. LOL. I really have to say that I give up that these doubly thick skinned people do exist. They lie so much that they even believe in their own lies.

This world really do have extreme people.

[Lonelyboy90]

i have encountering some issues with both the app.

 

jack'd notifies me with message alert like 10mins after the other party sent me the messages. kinda irritated by that.

 

grindr doesnt even have notification but it seems more stable.

 

well, pros and cons.

[Guest r2d2]

sometimes people dont get my replies( for example in the middle of an engaging conversation, conversation stops suddenly and a few days later he will ask if im busy)

 

and sometimes i dont get replies,and when i don't i will get insecure (maybe im not interesting enough? maybe im not good looking enough) or i will get confuesd( maybe i dont receive the replies)

 

anyone with the same problem? 

[mijsdlog]

The main advantage over the hookup/personals websites is the location indicator which allows you to (if both parties agree) meet up if the guy is just around the corner. Well... the option is there, although I wonder how often people go for the immediate reveal?

I've grown tired of the online personals sites. Even having shown face pics and chatted, the real meeting often doesn't live up to expectations, and I know it's I who have built up those expectations. The wait, the back and forth and the doubt wear me out. So nowadays I'd just rather look around when I go out. It is more challenging as my gaydar isn't good but I like having a clearer idea of the reality right away.

[ultimatey]

Jack'd takes a ton of space i realise, i think it archives ALL the messages you have ever sent

[rawbird]

jackd for android is forever in error... location wise always screw up. after i came back from ntu till midnight, the scene is still around jurong

[forte_sg]

And you realized your own pic is on another person's profile, when that person sends you a message.

Why? Why the need to use someone else pics...

 

Agree .. no pic is not too bad .. using others' pics .... 可悲 and felt sorry for those people. Come on man .. ugly is not a crime or sin, why need to use others to be yourself .. 

[forte_sg]

If not using somebody else's pictures, most guys in Grindr or Jack'd post their most beautifully-enhanced pictures. Enhancements by photoshop or some photo-editing apps. One time I was chatting with this guy who looks so handsome and skin was so smooth and youthful in his profile picture. It's actually not about his appearance why I kept chatting with him. He's witty and funny and that's what I like about him! Finally we decided to meet in person and have dinner together. While I was waiting inside the restaurant, I was frozen to my seat when suddenly an unfamiliar person sat in front of me. With a severely pimpled face and dark completion as compared to his profile pic, I almost didn't recognize him until he introduced himself. Well, it didn't matter to me actually how he looked like in person but the feeling of being deceived was a little hard to overcome. I feel sorry that he's embarrassed of his true appearance by posting an edited picture. Anyway, we're still very good friends up to now and we still meet from time to time. :-) 

 

Here's my personal advocacy: LET'S STOP BEING ASHAMED OF WHO WE TRULY ARE & LET'S NOT TRY TO BE SOMEONE WE ARE NOT! It surely feels good to be accepted and loved by someone without hiding something. Let's appear as we are and if people have trouble accepting that, that's their problem! :-)

 

YES! I experienced too. And i agreed, I was bloody pissed not because he is not good looking or something but felt  CHEATED! DECEIVED! and he, obviously know something is not right as in he know what he was doing. Best, act like nothing happened! *clap clap clap * 

[forte_sg]

Share one more species you can find in Grindr or Jack D ... 

 

Some cute looking boys usually from age 17-20 will tell you how much you can pay them if they meet. ( So far Singaporean Boys ) 

And, the amazing part is this.... when i play along about the price etc, they can quote $500 to meet up and do whatever.LOL! 

Guess what's the most ridiculous I'd heard so far ? $4000 a night, he was paid to sleep with a guy! LOL

Well end of the day, these babies have not seen the world yet. S$500-S$4000 ... There are many FOC around who are as good looking? ( didn't mean to be offensive but truth right? ) 

Cheers =) 

[Guest Guest]

Share one more species you can find in Grindr or Jack D ... 

 

Some cute looking boys usually from age 17-20 will tell you how much you can pay them if they meet. ( So far Singaporean Boys ) 

And, the amazing part is this.... when i play along about the price etc, they can quote $500 to meet up and do whatever.LOL! 

Guess what's the most ridiculous I'd heard so far ? $4000 a night, he was paid to sleep with a guy! LOL

Well end of the day, these babies have not seen the world yet. S$500-S$4000 ... There are many FOC around who are as good looking? ( didn't mean to be offensive but truth right? ) 

Cheers =) 

 

look at it in another way. not exactly these young guys have not seen the world yet. in fact, they are already smart enough now to know that money can do alot of things. and whats ridiculous? ridiculous that there are adult men willing to pay such prices. if theres no demand there wont be supply.

[Guest Guest]

maybe they need the $400-4000 meetup fees to pay for their hiv/std medical fees...?

[Guest Guest]

jackd for android is forever in error... location wise always screw up. after i came back from ntu till midnight, the scene is still around jurong

 

http://www.blowingwind.org/forum/index.php?showtopic=40019

 

turning on gps will help but i agree its a nuisance.

[Guest shalalala]

 

[Guest Guest]

seriously? people really so boliao? what is becoming of gays?

[Guest Guest]

And pls dun forget those who initiated the chat, n then asked u for ur stats... shdnt they be the ones to state their own stats first...

Usu I will reply ths pple saying: After you. :-)

From such apps can tell how educated and what sorts of family upbringing the chatter came from.

1) When asking for pics to trade. The one asking will / may ask you to initiate where after that block you / ignored you without returning. Hello? Trade? How gentlemen!

2) Someone saying hello .. and then disappeared for hours .. days .. or forever. If you are busy, do have the basic courtesy to tell the other party. Making people wait is very rude and 'low-class' behaviour. Further more, it was they who initiated the HELLO. WTF right? It's not difficult to type a sentence ya?

3) If you are not keen, pls say so. Words to use which are not so crude : i) I'm sorry ii) Take Care etc .. Be nice when rejecting unless that jerk is faking others' pics as his la. NO NEED to be a bitch! to hurt another. World is round, Karma will hit you back one day. ( esp teenagers and the childish adults , some will make remarks like : you're too ugly, your are so old, you are fat, you are wadever .... ) There's no need to. One day you will fall into this cat. too =))

cheers

[forte_sg]

look at it in another way. not exactly these young guys have not seen the world yet. in fact, they are already smart enough now to know that money can do alot of things. and whats ridiculous? ridiculous that there are adult men willing to pay such prices. if theres no demand there wont be supply.

 

Bro, you didn't catch it .. 90% they are exaggerating !! What are you talking about ? LOL =) How old are you btw ?

[forte_sg]

Share this, just happened earlier. Some one asked how long is my dick and after he replied his 12" .. I replied " inches? " 

He responded . Yep!!! 

My reply : Are you horse or something ?

 

* Shit I'm so Kumar * ( Bitchy ) 

[Guest Guest]

spotted a really handsome and friendly rare breed boy on Jackd'. Got to catch him first before other pedo or gays do

[Guest Guest]

Bro, you didn't catch it .. 90% they are exaggerating !! What are you talking about ? LOL =) How old are you btw ?

 

LOL i am old antique liao. oic i didnt focus in on ur part about exaggerating. the 4k one maybe he tell white lies. but there are really guys willing to pay money to these young boys. there are escorts quoting up to USD500 and some guys are willing to pay. i know some discreet ones like doctors, lawyers or business owners are willing to part with the money. just look at the straight scandal of that 17yo girl.

[Guest Guest]

so hard to find cute guys on jackd... either is fake or ignore others...

[Guest Raiden Alpha]

Interacting with gays on a gay apps is even worse than interacting on a FB social media site.

Too many bitter, jaded, sick, deluded,rude,pervert,vain,shallow,cheapskates,homophobic,confused,persistent ,stupid,stubborn,emo and proud people all found within a community or social demographic group.

How many more types did I miss out?

To look for a friend or even a fuckmate on gay social apps is really wrong to begin with.

Why would one want to find a companion or acquaintance in such a high concentrated pool of human rejects and failure?

Answers anyone?

[SeannyShortcake]

Why would one want to find a companion or acquaintance in such a high concentrated pool of human rejects and failure?

Answers anyone?

 

Because we're lonely and we don't know where else to look.

[Guest Raiden Alpha]

I ponder on my own question and something flash through in my mind.

Allow me to answer my own question.

Because the quest in searching for that rare one among the sea of human social dregs made it all worth it in the end if we manage to find one and let him touch our lives.

A uniquely human trait and characteristic we humans possess. Fate really love to made a mockery out of us mortals. ;p

[angel_dust]

I used these apps to kill time and to ease pain. End of the day, no expectation = no disappointment.

[Guest Raiden Alpha]

I used these apps to kill time and to ease pain. End of the day, no expectation = no disappointment.

Hi Angel:)

Think there are much better ways to kill time and ease boredom and pain.

If you go there just to act donkey won't you just become one of the undesirable element I talk about in my previous post?

No need to perpetuate and contribute to the rot and filth in there, we can and should be much higher than that. Don't get tangle up in this vicious cycle.

-Night bro-

[jonnyboy]

What you said made sense. How would you describe yourself then?

Are there platforms other than the two abovementioned?

[Guest Raiden Alpha]

What you said made sense. How would you describe yourself then?

Are there platforms other than the two abovementioned?

It's not about the platform itself. It's more about what the individual want to do in there.

One does not go into a shop selling cake asking for fried chicken. One must be very clear what one want before entering a friend making or fuck seeking club, if one is unsure or insincere to begin with why not just give these apps or places a miss?

Why ruin the experience for others who went in with the right mindset or agendas to begin with?

[Guest Guest]

share experiences =\= share PAINNNNN...

Please...

[mkey64]

My experience has always been:

 

1) Rude people who couldn't bother to give a simple Hi, I'm not interested or something. Or people who just have a conversation and seem to be picking up, then suddenly disappear off the face of the earth. I mean like, why bother to chat so much if you were never interested to have a conversation?

 

2) People who claim to be looking for friends but pay so much attention to physical outlook? I'm comfortable with speaking to faceless pic if it is an interesting conversation, but people just judge me based on my look and claim that they are looking for friends. Maybe I'm naive, but seriously you are looking to surround yourself with friends that all look like super models?

 

Meh...

[forte_sg]

My experience has always been:

 

1) Rude people who couldn't bother to give a simple Hi, I'm not interested or something. Or people who just have a conversation and seem to be picking up, then suddenly disappear off the face of the earth. I mean like, why bother to chat so much if you were never interested to have a conversation?

 

2) People who claim to be looking for friends but pay so much attention to physical outlook? I'm comfortable with speaking to faceless pic if it is an interesting conversation, but people just judge me based on my look and claim that they are looking for friends. Maybe I'm naive, but seriously you are looking to surround yourself with friends that all look like super models?

 

Meh...

 

Exactly what i mentioned earlier =) 

[Guest Guest]

i had try using extremely handsome photo of others in Jackd, and taDaa, 10 messages in 15mins. i love the pseudo attention. bitch please.

[Guest Raiden Alpha]

i had try using extremely handsome photo of others in Jackd, and taDaa, 10 messages in 15mins. i love the pseudo attention. bitch please.

What's the point?

Everything is so transient and fleeting.

Even the energy/attention you feed on is fake to begin with.

I won't bitch on you

I just pity you.

.........

[eastieboy]

Interacting with gays on a gay apps is even worse than interacting on a FB social media site.

Too many bitter, jaded, sick, deluded,rude,pervert,vain,shallow,cheapskates,homophobic,confused,persistent ,stupid,stubborn,emo and proud people all found within a community or social demographic group.

How many more types did I miss out?

To look for a friend or even a fuckmate on gay social apps is really wrong to begin with.

Why would one want to find a companion or acquaintance in such a high concentrated pool of human rejects and failure?

Answers anyone?

i agree. i download the app to find friends to click with, but perhaps i am too naive. we would be chatting quite well but once i show my pic, there's silence.

 

and when i read the write ups on the jackd profiles, it just degenerates my brain haha.