Share Your Grindr / Jack'd Experience

[Seekgoodsucker]

9 minutes ago, Guest Truth said:

But it's true that you r fat.

Is saying the truth instead of previous flattery considered sour grape?

I find lots of fatty know the truth still refuse to face the truth, so they are easy to flatter. E.g. Calling themself bears instead of p**s.

They tell me they are very popular in social media, yeah they flatter each other on social media.

 

Funny, did u even read how the convo go? Lololll. I’m not even denying I’m fat to some people here

 

as per 2nd part of ur post, u sounded as if people with a certain physique (or looks) r not allowed to be happy about themselves

 

 

anyways, point made, I just here to share my Grindr experience, ciao =) 

Edited March 2, 2018 by Seekgoodsucker

[Guest Idiot]

9 hours ago, Guest Truth said:

But it's true that you r fat.

Is saying the truth instead of previous flattery considered sour grape?

I find lots of fatty know the truth still refuse to face the truth, so they are easy to flatter. E.g. Calling themself bears instead of p**s.

They tell me they are very popular in social media, yeah they flatter each other on social media.

You’re a dick, dude! 

[Guest ITE West CCK]

Used Grindr in school before and there was a 19 year old NSF seeking fun and alone in CCK.

 

When we exchanged contacts and I made my way to the flat near school  to meet, it was a bapok dressed in military pattern sports bra top, and obviously not 19 years old! More like 40-50 range!

 

Bluff people and waste time. Not into bapok, sorry!

 

Really freaked me out! 

[Oracle]

Have you guys use this? https://blocked.ongrindr.com/

[Guest Sport-coholic]

4 hours ago, Oracle said:

Have you guys use this? https://blocked.ongrindr.com/

No point to know.

[Guest Wow]

On 3/23/2018 at 6:38 PM, Oracle said:

Have you guys use this? https://blocked.ongrindr.com/

wait . So now you get to see/know who block you on Grindr ? Interesting 

[Guest Be Your Guest]

Hoi. I've been seeing a lot of ppl on grindr these days with the username "Cuddles". Does that mean they're looking for a cuddle buddy or something? Not into dates? Am confused lol, it happens often enough to not be just an individual quirk i think

[Rice60640]

2 hours ago, Guest Be Your Guest said:

Hoi. I've been seeing a lot of ppl on grindr these days with the username "Cuddles". Does that mean they're looking for a cuddle buddy or something? Not into dates? Am confused lol, it happens often enough to not be just an individual quirk i think

Why don’t you just asked those usernamed Cuddles instead of asking us to guess what their intentions are?

[Guest same]

11 hours ago, Guest Be Your Guest said:

Hoi. I've been seeing a lot of ppl on grindr these days with the username "Cuddles". Does that mean they're looking for a cuddle buddy or something? Not into dates? Am confused lol, it happens often enough to not be just an individual quirk i think

 

Probably the same guys as those who will post that they are not into fun but have  a topless profile picture of themselves...

[G_M]

The discussion had turned out to be a place for people to start exposing others. 

 

Therefore, it will be locked.

[Guest liars]

Have u met a gorgeous looking gays on gay app but when u see him in person, his appearance disappoint u?

I'm not referring to totally different person.

[keyboard]

You mean like this?

 

 

[Guest lulu]

13 minutes ago, Guest liars said:

Have u met a gorgeous looking gays on gay app but when u see him in person, his appearance disappoint u?

I'm not referring to totally different person.

 

Don’t feel sad, everything everyone everywhere are like this.  That’s why Photograph is called 照騙

 

 

 

 

[Guest 我佬喂]

18 minutes ago, keyboard said:

You mean like this?

 

 

 

Its 7th month now, please don’t post such content to frighten readers here. 

[Guest No After You]

What do you think of those "ghost" / block you after you sent your photo on Grindr?

 

Is there any ways to stop this nonsense? 

 

The person who started "After you". I wish you get burn in hell for creating this toxic culture in the community. Is this online behavior unique to Singapore? If yes, I hope it won't spread to other countries.

 

For those who don't keep your promise and block people who have genuine interest in knowing, you must be thinking you are godsend. But let me tell you this, there is karma at work. The bad things you do to others now will come back and hunt you one day, maybe not in this life but definitely your next life.

 

"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." 

 

Peace out.

 

 

 

[Guest It happens]

Happens everywhere mate. Doubt it is unique to gay community - bet it happens in other platforms too. Just one of the aspects of online anonymity. 

[e5a1t2m9e]

i am no fool and there are definite catfishes and ghosts out there

but when someone comes to me and asks to start a conversation, i take it in good faith that they are serious.

And if i have chatted with them for a while and i find a good connection, i wouldnt mind sending them a face pic. coz even if they dont reciprocate because suddenly a switch flicked and they realise theyre not into me after a long conversation, they are not likely to be pic harvesters and are unlikely to do harm with your pics (post them on a tumblr site for example... yea yea i am paranoid)

 

HOWEVER

 

If the first thing after 'Hi' is 'Pics'? i ignore them. sure they may be trying to filter out time wasters, but i also cant exclude picture grabbers

If they lambast you with pics including nudes and expect you to do the same, without any form of connection... i can only assume the worst and think that these are harvested pics being cast out again, with the aim to harvest more pics from guys thinking that this is a sincere attempt at evaluating someone for a hookup  (presumably, why else the nudes)

 

the very fact that being gay here is stigmatized leaves a lot of people very private about their sexuality, and can you blame discreet dudes who are not out to family, friends or colleagues for fearing that they get posted online somewhere? 

 

i think building trust is important if guys are discreet and they dont want to dish out their pics like candy. sure, some are very comfortable with doing that because they are out and proud, but please dont measure everyone with the same yardstick... not everyone has the same luxuries as some of us. 

 

 

[Guest Sinnerella]

It started once upon a time when people was using the IRC...... ending of fairy tales has been changed to “After You”

[kingbitch]

Hope for the best but expect the worst. Be optimistic because there are good guys out there, but always know the next guy you speak to online could still be a fucked up jackass. 

[HydroNaut]

Normally, i block or dun continue with Mr "After You".....cause there is normally no happy ever "After".

[vera.]

i say "after you" because they tend to block me onces they got a pic and i commit to the trade even if im not interested

[bluefish20008]

The best way is to quit the toxic environment. Deleted both Grindr and Jackd two years ago, and never looked back.

[princestory26]

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Edited December 22, 2022 by princestory26

[pusheenpika]

I kinda feel the NPNC rule most people have in their profiles on Grindr and Jack's are somewhat an "after you" concept too. They just want to have the first right of rejection because, well, they probably are afraid of rejections themselves. Often I think to myself, who are they to judge me? 

 

But hey, everything seems so skin deep in this community. Those apps only serve to perpetuate this line of thought. 

[Guest Gymer]

What's the big deal? Such a minor thing make it such a big deal, don't you have better things to worry about in your life?

Sometimes they seemed so interested in me, sending me wows and hearts, I don't always send them the pics that they literally begged for. At best I'll send some headless shots. Some people like collecting naughty pics of local gays like owning some big secrets of someone would give them feeling of power over them. The possible threat of outing someone hangs in the air that maybe someday he can use it to benefit or ruin someone.

 

I got to know a psycho who after getting my fully clothed pic, he blocked me which was fine by me. But months later, one day he used another account to chat with me and to gather more information about me. Then he revealed that he used my pic to dig out more information about me. Somehow through luck or coincidence he finally found my true identity.

Of course the next thing he demanded was my naked pics. I refused and he threatened to out me to my friends. I was shocked and quickly blocked him. He used another account to send me very sexual messages. I was really scared that he'll do anything just to get to fuck me. I was not able to calm down and think straight. I could only negotiate if I let him have me, how can I be sure that he'll let me go? 

He assured me that just let him fuck me once to make all his efforts pay off then he'll find another target. Then he made arrangements for us to meet and have sex. I thought of calling the police since I also have his pics and the apps chat record. But then I knew those pics were fakes for sure. 

 

I finally decided it will be worse calling the police because this type of case will be very juicy news for the police PR and they might get the press involved. All those naughty apps chats were too indecently explicit and I may even get charged under 377A.

 

I finally had to meet him and call his bluff. Sure enough, he was different from his pic. Though he wore sunglasses and a floppy hat to cover up, I still managed to take his pic with my phone after grabbing his sunglasses when he was not alert. He was totally surprised and ran away. After that I send him the pic and told him that if he dared to out me, I'll call the police, "is it worth it for you to go to jail?" 

 

He blocked me and went silent. Nothing happened after that and that was a great relief. Some psychos just have nothing better to do than spending so much time thinking about dirty sex, the dirtier the sex the more they are excited.

[Guest Yeah]

2 hours ago, Guest Gymer said:

What's the big deal? Such a minor thing make it such a big deal, don't you have better things to worry about in your life?

Sometimes they seemed so interested in me, sending me wows and hearts, I don't always send them the pics that they literally begged for. At best I'll send some headless shots. Some people like collecting naughty pics of local gays like owning some big secrets of someone would give them feeling of power over them. The possible threat of outing someone hangs in the air that maybe someday he can use it to benefit or ruin someone.

 

I got to know a psycho who after getting my fully clothed pic, he blocked me which was fine by me. But months later, one day he used another account to chat with me and to gather more information about me. Then he revealed that he used my pic to dig out more information about me. Somehow through luck or coincidence he finally found my true identity.

Of course the next thing he demanded was my naked pics. I refused and he threatened to out me to my friends. I was shocked and quickly blocked him. He used another account to send me very sexual messages. I was really scared that he'll do anything just to get to fuck me. I was not able to calm down and think straight. I could only negotiate if I let him have me, how can I be sure that he'll let me go? 

He assured me that just let him fuck me once to make all his efforts pay off then he'll find another target. Then he made arrangements for us to meet and have sex. I thought of calling the police since I also have his pics and the apps chat record. But then I knew those pics were fakes for sure. 

 

I finally decided it will be worse calling the police because this type of case will be very juicy news for the police PR and they might get the press involved. All those naughty apps chats were too indecently explicit and I may even get charged under 377A.

 

I finally had to meet him and call his bluff. Sure enough, he was different from his pic. Though he wore sunglasses and a floppy hat to cover up, I still managed to take his pic with my phone after grabbing his sunglasses when he was not alert. He was totally surprised and ran away. After that I send him the pic and told him that if he dared to out me, I'll call the police, "is it worth it for you to go to jail?" 

 

He blocked me and went silent. Nothing happened after that and that was a great relief. Some psychos just have nothing better to do than spending so much time thinking about dirty sex, the dirtier the sex the more they are excited.

 

Lonely lusty gays desperately looking for love or ons in online dating apps are favourite targets of con men.

[Guest Gymer]

On 12/9/2018 at 1:37 PM, Guest Yeah said:

 

Lonely lusty gays desperately looking for love or ons in online dating apps are favourite targets of con men.

It's the opposite, these are Lonely lusty gays desperately looking for love or ons in online dating apps, not me. I was being nice.

[Guest Jaded]

The Self-Entitled, 24 yrs old, Malaysian

 

Me: Want to have dinner at the hawker center nearby our neighborhood?

Him: ok sure. Do you drive?

Me: No. Why?

Him: Thought of asking you to fetch me

Me: (Thinking: Who do you think you are? A total turn off but I must thank you for showing your true colors early.)

 

The Crazy One, 23 yrs old, Singaporean

 

After chatting for awhile.

 

Me: Want to trade pics?

Him: We will trade if we are fated to meet.

Me: (Thinking: Either you look damn chui and the crazily romantic kind. Both of which, I'm not keen to date. A total time waster)

 

What's wrong with these people, especially those in their 20s?

 

I like Malaysian boys more than the locals all this while because they come over to Singapore to work at an early age of 20. And because of that, they are more mature and down to earth.

 

But the sad part is, they are learning all the bad mannerisms from the locals after they work here for some time.

 

 

 

 

[Guest Yuck]

 

14 minutes ago, Guest Jaded said:

The Self-Entitled, 24 yrs old, Malaysian

 

Me: Want to have dinner at the hawker center nearby our neighborhood?

Him: ok sure. Do you drive?

Me: No. Why?

Him: Thought of asking you to fetch me

Me: (Thinking: Who do you think you are? A total turn off but I must thank you for showing your true colors early.)

 

The Crazy One, 23 yrs old, Singaporean

 

After chatting for awhile.

 

Me: Want to trade pics?

Him: We will trade if we are fated to meet.

Me: (Thinking: Either you look damn chui and the crazily romantic kind. Both of which, I'm not keen to date. A total time waster)

 

What's wrong with these people, especially those in their 20s?

 

I like Malaysian boys more than the locals all this while because they come over to Singapore to work at an early age of 20. And because of that, they are more mature and down to earth.

 

But the sad part is, they are learning all the bad mannerisms from the locals after they work here for some time.

 

 

 

 

Noticed many malays and malaysian boys got bad breathe, is it due to poor oral hygiene or they have been sucking too many dirty cocks/ass...?

[Creevie]

Actually if u have no face or body, but mostly if u have no face, don't expect anything decent lol. Hard truth, in my honest opinion...

[Guest No face]

28 minutes ago, Creevie said:

Actually if u have no face or body, but mostly if u have no face, don't expect anything decent lol. Hard truth, in my honest opinion...

 

So i expect u 0% decent, hard truth 

[Creevie]

15 hours ago, Guest No face said:

 

So i expect u 0% decent, hard truth 

My bad. By "no face", I meant there's face pic but it's like creamed by a truck. 

[Guest guest]

17 hours ago, Guest Yuck said:

 

Noticed many malays and malaysian boys got bad breathe, is it due to poor oral hygiene or they have been sucking too many dirty cocks/ass...?

 

racist, racist , racist , racist, 

 

ang moh got smelly pits, crotch, 

 

indians got curry smell pits,

 

 

japanese got fishy smell pits and crotch,

 

 

all the are racist statements.

 

can understand  or not.

[Guest relationshipid]

have u all met someone who asked if u have relationship/hookup id to sort of prove u do not have negative reputation in the lgbt society. If u say no, he pass u the link to register?

[dexter9898]

On 2/4/2019 at 4:19 PM, Guest Jaded said:

The Self-Entitled, 24 yrs old, Malaysian

 

Me: Want to have dinner at the hawker center nearby our neighborhood?

Him: ok sure. Do you drive?

Me: No. Why?

Him: Thought of asking you to fetch me

Me: (Thinking: Who do you think you are? A total turn off but I must thank you for showing your true colors early.)

 

The Crazy One, 23 yrs old, Singaporean

 

After chatting for awhile.

 

Me: Want to trade pics?

Him: We will trade if we are fated to meet.

Me: (Thinking: Either you look damn chui and the crazily romantic kind. Both of which, I'm not keen to date. A total time waster)

 

What's wrong with these people, especially those in their 20s?

 

I like Malaysian boys more than the locals all this while because they come over to Singapore to work at an early age of 20. And because of that, they are more mature and down to earth.

 

But the sad part is, they are learning all the bad mannerisms from the locals after they work here for some time.

 

 

 

 

Some Malaysian Chinese are quite pampered and need to take transport everywhere since driving in Malaysia is a norm for them. Walking for a bus-stop distance is like killing them.

[tyan]

I used to post an under-rated picture. And 1 guy who is keen to suck cock message me. After a while, he came over and give me a good suck. Before he left, he said “actually u look way better in person”. I’m flattered. 

[thorzguy]

90% - sex (all kinds included. Usually such messages are one of the most harmless. Either a Yes or No)

5% - mad (demand to have all kinds of pictures, insist on their political, religion views and finally insist to meet up)

3% - Say Hi, I replied Hi and then no reply. Then suddenly few weeks later, history repeats. Just ignore after that.

2% - Real, sincere, sane people. Made real friends.

[Creevie]

I started using Grindr and Jack'D in 2011. On and off the apps seasonally. I have enough experience to know how a faceless person looks like by the way he chats. 

 

It is a max capitalist world in these apps, and that's good though my face is 4/10. 

[Guest Warning]

On 2/4/2019 at 4:34 PM, Guest Yuck said:

 

Noticed many malays and malaysian boys got bad breathe, is it due to poor oral hygiene or they have been sucking too many dirty cocks/ass...?

 

No they only sucked your dirty dick... since then....

[Guest what I meant]

On 2/9/2019 at 12:36 PM, dexter9898 said:

Some Malaysian Chinese are quite pampered and need to take transport everywhere since driving in Malaysia is a norm for them. Walking for a bus-stop distance is like killing them.

 

Unfortunately, this is quite true. It's just that cars are cheaper in Malaysia.

However, you forgot to mention those Singaporeans who were driven the 200 m from their home to their school by their parents.....

[Guest 54%]

On 2/10/2019 at 6:05 PM, thorzguy said:

90% - sex (all kinds included. Usually such messages are one of the most harmless. Either a Yes or No)

5% - mad (demand to have all kinds of pictures, insist on their political, religion views and finally insist to meet up)

3% - Say Hi, I replied Hi and then no reply. Then suddenly few weeks later, history repeats. Just ignore after that.

2% - Real, sincere, sane people. Made real friends.

 

The way your numbers add up, it implies that the people looking for sex are not “real, sincere, sane” people. I happen to use the app to look for sex, and I’m a “real, sincere, sane” person. I never use fake or outdated pics, or lie about my stats; I’m upfront about what I’m after, and I treat others with respect; I don’t harass or cheat or behave rudely to anyone. I think that qualifies as “real, sincere, sane”. 

 

I don’t use the app to look for friends because friends can be found practically anywhere – at work, at school, at the gym, among your neighbors... Friends don’t have to be gay male, of a certain height/weight/race/age, t/b, and whatever the hell else. But finding a sex partner, that requires a suitable channel. 

 

This doesn’t mean that a hookup couldn’t turn into a friendship. But that would be a lucky coincidence, not a prerequisite. 

 

So c’mon, give us a break. Just because we use the app to look for sex, it doesn’t mean we’re all crazed, antisocial creatures. 

[Guest Sport-coholic]

Mine was on Tinder. Ask for phone number after 'match', he 'unmatch' after that and I didn't even receive a message on my phone. 

[Guest after you]

A pictureless profile of a 24 yr old boy asked me to trade nudes with him so I said ok. It's quite common anyways.

 

Guess what he said next... "After you" Even trading naked pics without face also want to "After you"??? What's wrong with these people, especially the younger ones? Seriously?

 

I thought only older guys get blocked by the younger ones but a friend of mine told me he also gets blocked by people in his age group. He just came out but he is already very jaded. He is only 21 btw. Although he is average looking, he has a nice bod and character. I don't think anyone deserves this kind of treatment from the losers.

 

If you are one of the losers and always "ghost" some kindhearted innocent souls, I hope you will be forever alone on Valentine Day for the rest of your life. 

[Guest leangym0787]

6 hours ago, Guest after you said:

A pictureless profile of a 24 yr old boy asked me to trade nudes with him so I said ok. It's quite common anyways.

 

Guess what he said next... "After you" Even trading naked pics without face also want to "After you"??? What's wrong with these people, especially the younger ones? Seriously?

 

I thought only older guys get blocked by the younger ones but a friend of mine told me he also gets blocked by people in his age group. He just came out but he is already very jaded. He is only 21 btw. Although he is average looking, he has a nice bod and character. I don't think anyone deserves this kind of treatment from the losers.

 

If you are one of the losers and always "ghost" some kindhearted innocent souls, I hope you will be forever alone on Valentine Day for the rest of your life. 

 

Which is why i am very careful now with nudes and such. I do not send any photos of myself unless i trust the person completely. There are too many people fishing online. 

 

I even caught someone using my profile before on grindr. He had all my set of photos i sent long time ago. I tried to lure him out to meet but he had 1001 excuses. In the end, i got blocked. 

 

So now i only meet people. No photos sent or anything. If people dont trust in meeting, so be it. Because no matter what, i know that i am real. 

 

Of course there was a few times i wasted my trips and all and i suspected the other party is a fake. But at least i know there is no prove of pictures on their phone. Better be safe than sorry.

[abgsam001]

47 minutes ago, leangym0787 said:

 

Which is why i am very careful now with nudes and such. I do not send any photos of myself unless i trust the person completely. There are too many people fishing online. 

 

I even caught someone using my profile before on grindr. He had all my set of photos i sent long time ago. I tried to lure him out to meet but he had 1001 excuses. In the end, i got blocked. 

 

So now i only meet people. No photos sent or anything. If people dont trust in meeting, so be it. Because no matter what, i know that i am real. 

 

Of course there was a few times i wasted my trips and all and i suspected the other party is a fake. But at least i know there is no prove of pictures on their phone. Better be safe than sorry.

Agree with you.

Had several such incidents. Just be more cautious.

[kaiser74]

1 hour ago, leangym0787 said:

 

Which is why i am very careful now with nudes and such. I do not send any photos of myself unless i trust the person completely. There are too many people fishing online. 

 

I even caught someone using my profile before on grindr. He had all my set of photos i sent long time ago. I tried to lure him out to meet but he had 1001 excuses. In the end, i got blocked. 

 

So now i only meet people. No photos sent or anything. If people dont trust in meeting, so be it. Because no matter what, i know that i am real. 

 

Of course there was a few times i wasted my trips and all and i suspected the other party is a fake. But at least i know there is no prove of pictures on their phone. Better be safe than sorry.

My sentiments.

[Guest bad habits]

 

The youngsters in my eyes seem to mistake a dating app as tumblr or twitter to browse through dick pics or collect nudes but with no intention to meet up.

Nowadays, mostly after 3 lines of chats on grindr you get this "Got a dick pic" . After that "got nudes". If you sent over then they disappear or just keep quiet.

= > just dick pic collectors.

There are people who can write to me for 2 weeks "begging" to send a dick pic.

 

Now I will just reply: "After you!" and there mostly ends the chat.

 

 

But I think a face pic should be still an essential item, if you are serious to meet someone else.

Those profiles without a face pic or not sending one on request are just plainly ignored by me.

 

 

[Guest skip questions]

How do you deal with people who conveniently skip every question of yours while chatting and he continues to ask you questions and expect you to reply.

 

And most of these people don't even have a bod pic on their profiles I notice.

 

[Kimochi]

22 minutes ago, Guest skip questions said:

How do you deal with people who conveniently skip every question of yours while chatting and he continues to ask you questions and expect you to reply.

 

And most of these people don't even have a bod pic on their profiles I notice.

 

#Ignore 

[m1216100]

I think most of us have matured up and know what the app can offer. 

 

I always stick to what I want. If chat, I will mention in the first few lines, "I'm looking for a chat tonight. You up for it?" 

 

If sex, never have it with someone who dont want it as much as you do. Hi. Busy? Into fun/sex? Got place? Trade pic? - then proceed or blocked or ignored. Always follow what you want and you can politely mentioned to them "this is turning into interviews". And for picture hoarder I always ignore them after asking them some questions, cause we all know it - picture hoarders are not worth our time.

 

I met few good friends (i am a closeted bi) from grindr who had the same ideas as above. But friends and sexapp do not mixed too well.