Share Your Grindr / Jack'd Experience

[mate69]

23 hours ago, Guest attitude problem said:

Brought a poly boy to have sex at a public toilet. Unfortunately, when we reached there, it's too risky to have sex there today. 

 

So I suggested we try another place. He showed displeasure and told me I'm wasting his time. 

 

When we were walking over, he showed me the fuck face and purposely drag his feet and walked very slowly. I asked him if he wants to go home. He insisted on carrying and continue to show me attitude.

 

I was thinking how to have sex later together if he was already showing such bad attitude. I finally told him we should just go home since he is a pissed with me. He agreed and we parted.

 

Will you be willing to take his nonsense for the sake of sex? Am I over-reacting? Or will you do what I did?

 

 

Such horrible self-entitled attitude is the worst. Total deal-breaker.

[Guest attitude problem]

2 hours ago, mate69 said:

 

Such horrible self-entitled attitude is the worst. Total deal-breaker.

 

I recently chatted and met up with two guys. Both of them were very polite online and friendly when I met them in person.

 

No attitude at all. My gut feel is correct. They are not Singaporeans. They are foreigners working in SG.

 

Locals have the worst attitude and poor manners, especially the young ones. Is it because both parents are working and teachers don't have time to teach them these days?

[Guest Grindr]

After exchanging pic

 

Me: sorry not keen

Stranger x: me too. You ugly #%@^#%.

Stranger y: Ya you average joe. Shoo

Stranger z: Don't think too highly of yourself.

 

Rather than blocking people immediately, I thought that by letting them know that he is not my type, it would be polite. But sadly, not everyone handles rejection well. I am definitely above average just in case you are wondering if my looks invited those remarks.

[Guest no block]

since using grindr for about 3 - 4 years now. I never blocked any guy.

 

But I can confirm from above that some guys think that it is my duty to have fun with them, even if they are just not my cup of tea and they can get nasty when you reject them.

Maybe sometimes it is better to respond the Asian way of giving just some reason. Don't write "not keen" maybe, but just something else. Even the " I think we don't match" is still better than "not keen".

Other rejections:

"I think I lost my mood for fun, maybe some other time"

"I m a bit tired, maybe not good today"

"Stomach problems"

"Oh, my friend just asking me to join for supper..."

 

On times if you even take the time to explain you would get those weird responses.

Like for me I prefer my partner to be shorter than me, I don't like guys who are too tall.

Writing this to someone, they start doubting about the reason...

 

But I would still respond. And I would still reject if I don't feel for it.

And those making out claims that you have a duty, I take my response to tell them that both want to enjoy or not?

Mostly they would understand then.

 

I appreciate those nice guys who will respond with a "Thank you" to a rejection. Good manners are not very common nowadays on such apps.

 

Maybe I should initiate a seminar with Oogachaga on smart rejections with dating apps. ha ha

 

[Guest no block]

On 4/14/2019 at 8:47 PM, tyan said:

I think he “hi” u and then remember u r the same guy who didn’t bother to reply back. 

 

Some guys are just horny and will probably send a hi to everyone online, just to get a quick response from one guy. Then, you are already forgotten...

 

 

[R_CF_L]

Contemplating on the apps..initially

After reading above..just affirmed that those apps no not serve the intended purpose. 

More enlightened thanks to all who share the experience.

Worthwhile to share the experience and Kudos to all contributors.

[Guest hopeless]

Was chatting happily with this 28 years old guy since yesterday. We exchange photos and then move on to WhatsApp.

 

While chatting with him on WhatsApp to decide meeting venue, he calls me but I declined his call because I can't pick up at that moment. So I continue to message and he continue to reply. All of a sudden, he stopped replying and below is the last message from him. 

 

Honestly i am a bit disappointed cause you decline my phone...我的好意就没用啦 没事你就先吃吧

 

YES! I got blocked and when I checked my Grindr, I got blocked too!

 

What's wrong with people these days? Quick to judge, just want to say what he wants to say and never give the other party a chance to explain and block people just like that.

[Guest Useless apps]

Both are usually for ONS or hookups.

 

Jackd - gay version of instagram. No pretty face gym body no talk.

 

Grindr - app for headless torsos 

[Guest horny]

23 hours ago, Guest hopeless said:

Was chatting happily with this 28 years old guy since yesterday. We exchange photos and then move on to WhatsApp.

 

While chatting with him on WhatsApp to decide meeting venue, he calls me but I declined his call because I can't pick up at that moment. So I continue to message and he continue to reply. All of a sudden, he stopped replying and below is the last message from him. 

 

Honestly i am a bit disappointed cause you decline my phone...我的好意就没用啦 没事你就先吃吧

 

YES! I got blocked and when I checked my Grindr, I got blocked too!

 

What's wrong with people these days? Quick to judge, just want to say what he wants to say and never give the other party a chance to explain and block people just like that.

 

maybe he is into phone sex but you ruined his chance.

[bwind88]

On 5/18/2019 at 1:52 PM, Guest hopeless said:

Was chatting happily with this 28 years old guy since yesterday. We exchange photos and then move on to WhatsApp.

 

While chatting with him on WhatsApp to decide meeting venue, he calls me but I declined his call because I can't pick up at that moment. So I continue to message and he continue to reply. All of a sudden, he stopped replying and below is the last message from him. 

 

Honestly i am a bit disappointed cause you decline my phone...我的好意就没用啦 没事你就先吃吧

 

YES! I got blocked and when I checked my Grindr, I got blocked too!

 

What's wrong with people these days? Quick to judge, just want to say what he wants to say and never give the other party a chance to explain and block people just like that.

I agree with you. Nowadays people dun have patience. Everytime when exchange pic. 

- After you

- pls initiate 

- you 1st. 

 

When I send them my pic. No reply or got block. Where is the manner? 

[Guest Guest]

Don't understand why people who are attached still go for blind date. After meeting if not his type he will tell u am attached my bf  don't like me to see other guys. So before u chat with anyone please ask them if they are attached or not.  Is a waste of everyone time. 

[66xing99]

There's no need for any expectations when using this app if it doesn't click,  it doesn't click. Move on.

[Beefycub]

no point asking if he is attached or not.

these "attached" guys are just looking for additional fucks.
after meeting, if u are hot enough for him, they'd still be gamed for a fuck.

 

if u are hot for him and he's hot for you, great.

but just move on, if either party is not attracted.

plenty of other choices.

 

7 hours ago, Guest Guest said:

Don't understand why people who are attached still go for blind date. After meeting if not his type he will tell u am attached my bf  don't like me to see other guys. So before u chat with anyone please ask them if they are attached or not.  Is a waste of everyone time. 

 

[lonely57]

so i have a few pictures of myself clearly showing my face and some people still ask for more pics when they have a blank profile. i even linked my instagram there yet they still ask without even showing me any pic of themselves. and even  when they do its either a headless torso or a dick pic. i would block these guys.

[kennethchung]

is jackd purely to seek fun

[Guest sighz]

1 hour ago, lonely57 said:

so i have a few pictures of myself clearly showing my face and some people still ask for more pics when they have a blank profile. i even linked my instagram there yet they still ask without even showing me any pic of themselves. and even  when they do its either a headless torso or a dick pic. i would block these guys.

 

I thought of blocking poor manners jerks too but I scare of losing a chance to meet my future partner.

 

And how many can you block? Almost all of them behaves like this nowadays.

[Guest Jackd]

Met someone Super clingy

[Guest no block]

On 5/18/2019 at 1:52 PM, Guest hopeless said:

Was chatting happily with this 28 years old guy since yesterday. We exchange photos and then move on to WhatsApp.

 

While chatting with him on WhatsApp to decide meeting venue, he calls me but I declined his call because I can't pick up at that moment. So I continue to message and he continue to reply. All of a sudden, he stopped replying and below is the last message from him. 

 

Honestly i am a bit disappointed cause you decline my phone...我的好意就没用啦 没事你就先吃吧

 

YES! I got blocked and when I checked my Grindr, I got blocked too!

 

What's wrong with people these days? Quick to judge, just want to say what he wants to say and never give the other party a chance to explain and block people just like that.

 

Many guys impatient, and the excessive mobile usage/availability of some guys lead to an expectation that you always have to be there or respond instantly.

 

Even on grindr you can experience guys who block you if you don't "instantly" respond.

They can't wait one hour.

Some act in an inferiority feeling: "oh seems rejected me" when you don't reply instantly. Many quick to draw (wrong) conclusions.

 

Instead of complaining maybe it was better not getting to know any such person?

[Guest Guess]

Why not. As long as there is internet.

[derryfawne]

There are no money boys in Singapore?

[Guest Terence]

On 3/11/2019 at 10:19 PM, Guest Help said:

Honestly it's a real problem. I'm trying to stop, but it's very hard. I think I've reached real OCD level with this now.

 

A guy I loved for a long time moved away to Europe a few months ago. I was infatuated with him during our time together, and now apart I'm really struggling with obsessive thoughts.

 

Next and worse. For anyone using an Android phone, you might be aware of location spoofing apps. Well you can location spoof all across the world and place yourself on top of someone on Grindr that you want to follow. This guy logs into Grindr every half an hour and I'm able to see his every movement. I can see if he's at a restaurant. I can see shopping centre. I can see people he hooks up with in remote areas (seeing that is really killer.)

 

I want to stop because it's making me anxious as F but it's a really fcuking hard. He has no idea I'm doing this

 

I think it is weird to follow guys from grindr.

[Guest Hopper]

I have installed Grindr up. Can we find someone serious there for long term relationship?

[Guest Nate]

On 12/9/2018 at 7:30 AM, princestory26 said:

Agreed. Downloaded those apps a while back and they were toxic. Not to mention BORING - no one was willing to chat with me and all. Romeo, BW, Growlr were wayyyy better by a landslide for me.

 Agree too. BW is much better.

[mate69]

Unlikely

[Kimochi]

11 hours ago, Guest Hopper said:

I have installed Grindr up. Can we find someone serious there for long term relationship?

Why not? 

[Guest question markers]

On 5/18/2019 at 1:52 PM, Guest hopeless said:

Was chatting happily with this 28 years old guy since yesterday. We exchange photos and then move on to WhatsApp.

 

While chatting with him on WhatsApp to decide meeting venue, he calls me but I declined his call because I can't pick up at that moment. So I continue to message and he continue to reply. All of a sudden, he stopped replying and below is the last message from him. 

 

Honestly i am a bit disappointed cause you decline my phone...我的好意就没用啦 没事你就先吃吧

 

YES! I got blocked and when I checked my Grindr, I got blocked too!

 

What's wrong with people these days? Quick to judge, just want to say what he wants to say and never give the other party a chance to explain and block people just like that.

 

That is the same as those horny bastards who after just adding their number on Whatsapp will instantly give you a video call as if you are free 24/7 and owe them that duty.

Some guys will then turn back to grindr and write something like: "I think you are fake!"

 

Look, you might have on mind that you are free to meet and horny but that must not mean the other is.

Got blocked. Just wonder why such guys can't think a bit more relaxed or give someone a 2nd chance to reply on the phone.

 

Some guys can be so quick to draw conclusions and block you, it is amazing.

 

Anyway. not only related to grindr but my favourite response are those question marks

 

A: Hi are you free to meet?

B: meet for what?

A: fun

B: what fun?

A: describing the fun

A: Keen?

B: keen

A: When are you free?

B: (silence for 15 seconds)

A: ??

A: blocked

 

I hate if people send me these questions marks. My mum could be calling me on the phone, I m changing the MRT Line, my boss talking to me, I am having a drink at the office pantry...

 

Why can't people wait 10 mins anymore for a response?

Chatting on an app doesn't mean you would always respond immediately.

 

My response is mostly:

B: Sorry I totally dislike receiving questions marks as a response.

[SubChnBtm]

Hey guys, do you often receive messages from China guys on Jack'D? I always thought they are cat fishing or scam so always ignore their messages.. haha.. would like to hear your experience!

Edited August 7, 2019 by SubChnBtm

[mate69]

usually scam or mb

[Beefycub]

I find most of the China mainland dudes are on Blued though.

Not sure what will happen to Jack'd now that Scruff has taken over.

 

[Fit4Masc]

On 2/23/2019 at 6:46 PM, cocopuff said:

The usual, say meet up but never show up. Waited for an hour like an idiot. Don't even know why they even bother to say yes when they are not interested at all.

Had the same experience once.  I suspect it could be a fake profile, one of those insecure wannabe impersonating others and just needed some attention.  Mine was this claimed to be married Ang Moh guy with kids, who say he only meet when his wife and kids are away etc... nice body on the only profile pic, but no face.  Never gave his phone number either, looks like he is a member on this BW too, with the same pic of course.

Edited August 8, 2019 by Fit4Masc

[JakeChun]

I just found this man in Grindr. We had chat for a few hours, then decided share our face photo. After I sent my own photo to him, he blocked right away. Haiz. 

[Guest daddy]

12 minutes ago, JakeChun said:

I just found this man in Grindr. We had chat for a few hours, then decided share our face photo. After I sent my own photo to him, he blocked right away. Haiz. 

 

Maybe your father or brother?

[Guest Guest]

On ‎8‎/‎7‎/‎2019 at 4:27 PM, SubChnBtm said:

Hey guys, do you often receive messages from China guys on Jack'D? I always thought they are cat fishing or scam so always ignore their messages.. haha.. would like to hear your experience!

Out of 10 China guys that text me, 10 ask me to add them in either Line or Wechat

 

Is it some kind of a scam?

 

The most common lines are either they are Hongkonger or Taiwanese working in China or they are PRC working in HK or Taipei. 

 

 

[JakeChun]

8 hours ago, Guest daddy said:

 

Maybe your father or brother?

probably someone I know in my place. Definitely not family.

[SubChnBtm]

Jack'd app is so annoying and user unfriendly now, so many ads just to see who viewed your profile, and can only see one or two, the rest are masked. No wonder it is overtaken by other apps like blued. 

[p-2122]

On 8/8/2019 at 9:33 PM, JakeChun said:

I just found this man in Grindr. We had chat for a few hours, then decided share our face photo. After I sent my own photo to him, he blocked right away. Haiz. 

I had that experience too, some say not his type after seeing my pics, but we did manage to click and chatted for a few hours, some even days!

[Fit4Masc]

3 hours ago, p-2122 said:

I had that experience too, some say not his type after seeing my pics, but we did manage to click and chatted for a few hours, some even days!

Click on a mental level does not necessary means and quite often don't equates to physical/sexual attraction.  If both got a tick, that means relationship lieow.

[FattChoy]

I stated on Growlr that I'm looking for friends and sometimes things work out well.  I met 2 chubs there and we moved to Whatsapp and has been chatting for years/months.  They're both meaty4meaty so I never met them cos I'm too slim for them. 

 

But I could honestly say we make very good chatmates and could share things on the same wavelength.  One of them, Ray, is a year younger than me and is a respectful and humble bear.  At the end of last year I thanked for always being 'there' for me and being such a good chatmate.  He fulfilled a social communication need of mine which even my friends and siblings can't come close to being.

 

The other is a married mature dive enthusiast and had invited me to his latest dive excursion.   I'm a water animal as well and we clicked. But I had to pass on that trip after I got injured before the trip. 

 

In my opinion, it depends on what we're after.  For me those honest exchanges and mutual sharing adds value to our lives and makes us more happy. That is a plus and I'm grateful for this blessing.

[JakeChun]

4 hours ago, p-2122 said:

I had that experience too, some say not his type after seeing my pics, but we did manage to click and chatted for a few hours, some even days!

I see. 

Maybe I should go to gym for a long period to build body and be fit. I feel this might be not for me

[Guest Wondering]

Recently encountered MANY Chinese nationals who claimed that they are here to work etc. They use chinese to communicate. Add on line/wechat and seemed genuine. Any take on that?

[G_M]

4 hours ago, Guest don't be deluded said:

"Bear" is just a nice/cute sounding word for fat/chubby men.

 

Bears have to hibernate for winter so they grow fat, humans? Because they are lazy and don't gym + eat trash food.

 

Men are meant to be mobile, move around exercise and grow muscles so that we can enjoy looking and touching them.

 

Not disgusting thick layers of flabs and fats.

 

Don't be an asshole.

Who are you to discriminate and shame people when you yourself pays your friend with benefit?

 

On 7/27/2019 at 1:21 PM, Guest Used hunk said:

Anyone else into fwbs but after the fun is over there is emptiness inside? Yeah we are attracted to each other good looks, nice bodies and hard cocks but when all that sexiness is released, I feel empty and maybe a little sad..? Starting to hate this lifestyle but we all need the human touch and connections, no other choice.

 

You can give your friend benefits but yet you are scoffing at people at paying for sex?

 

What a hypocrite you are. 

 

On 8/9/2019 at 7:32 PM, Guest Wtf said:

Is it due to high demands from the growing numbers of aging old gays from the merdeka generation? Heard they will pay good money to these boys for sex so many of them have good business in Singapore.

 

You might be young and a good build now, wait for another 20 to 30 years and you will slap you own face with the words you said.

 

Any more discriminating or fat shaming words from you, I will remove all your post, even the threads you start.

 

Go back and ask your mother to teach you some manners. 

 

[Robertoenrique]

On 8/7/2019 at 4:27 PM, SubChnBtm said:

Hey guys, do you often receive messages from China guys on Jack'D? I always thought they are cat fishing or scam so always ignore their messages.. haha.. would like to hear your experience!

Usually catfishing with their photos

[transmissionsm]

ppl nearby don't like to meet and people think they are too good looking when they are not.

Lastly..people don't read profile.

 

 

Edited August 10, 2019 by transmissionsm

[Gentleman]

Just got scolded by someone whom I'm not sexually attracted to, for responding to, and continue chatting with him despite him not being my type...told me i've wasted my time.  I should've learned the Gridr etiquette of just not responding to show no sexual interest.  wth...

[Guest Ddgghh]

On 4/22/2019 at 4:16 PM, Guest no block said:

 

Some guys are just horny and will probably send a hi to everyone online, just to get a quick response from one guy. Then, you are already forgotten...

There are plenty of them in the apps so the chances of them meeting up is very high. That's what the apps are for, horny guys meeting horny guys. Because the success rate is so high, these apps just grow and grow.

Those who expect something more are in the minority. When you complain about it, that means you don't understand how horny guys behave. The apps are not going to change for the minority.

[Guest naughty pic collector]

There is a guy on grindr, who will repeatedly once in a while contact me, start a "meet up" convo until after some time , before we should meet, will ask for some XXX pics from me. Yesterday, I replied him: " yes this type of question I receive very often". after that he blocked me.

The guy is trying for over a year to get hold of my nudes.

I don't like to block guys.

He seems to create new accounts every here and there, but stupidly always sends me the same pics of him (if it is him at all).

Do you encounter such regular XXX nudes collectors too?

 

What do you do?

 

 

[Fit4Masc]

On 8/12/2019 at 5:26 PM, Gentleman said:

Just got scolded by someone whom I'm not sexually attracted to, for responding to, and continue chatting with him despite him not being my type...told me i've wasted my time.  I should've learned the Gridr etiquette of just not responding to show no sexual interest.  wth...

I agree,  I don't see any point in responding if there is no sexual interest at all.  Some think its rude if don't respond,  but I think there is really no point in starting or continuing a chat, if there is not even a bit of attraction.  These hookup apps are what they are, not for finding platonic friendships.  As majority of us already have that kind of friends.  Also I just won't even be bothered with those messages from profiles with no pics or pic of a cat, a pot plant or the likes.

Edited August 13, 2019 by Fit4Masc

[qqqueer]

Edited January 16, 2020 by qqqueer

[inexperience]

On 8/8/2019 at 6:44 PM, Fit4Masc said:

Had the same experience once.  I suspect it could be a fake profile, one of those insecure wannabe impersonating others and just needed some attention.  Mine was this claimed to be married Ang Moh guy with kids, who say he only meet when his wife and kids are away etc... nice body on the only profile pic, but no face.  Never gave his phone number either, looks like he is a member on this BW too, with the same pic of course.

Lol... gdpumper or something right... 

[Guest naughty]

On 8/12/2019 at 5:26 PM, Gentleman said:

Just got scolded by someone whom I'm not sexually attracted to, for responding to, and continue chatting with him despite him not being my type...told me i've wasted my time.  I should've learned the Gridr etiquette of just not responding to show no sexual interest.  wth...

 

I always respond and will say no match or something. Some guys forget, grindr is not the dark room at sauna, where you can't always figure out who the other...but grindr more like sitting in public and see who (if pics are real).

Some guys always have the idea, it is a must to meet once you chat. But if you're not interested and the other only after sex, keep responses short and just decline.

I guess the guy turned rude because many guys rejected him before on that day or he only have short time window to invite someone over and most time passed...