Share Your Grindr / Jack'd Experience

[Lonelyboy90]

the worst experiences in all these apps I had are when people completely ignore your stats/profile description and ask stupid questions like "intro?".. dude if you spend a minute to read my profile you wouldn't have to piss me off

 

the latest oddity I had was on Growlr, when this guy who doesn't know me at all cos I'm low profile but I know about him cos we've got too many mutual friends on Facebook.. anyway he hit me up first, wanting to have dinner or something a month ago. I waited for him to let me know when he's free because he said he was busy but nothing happened so I left it at that.

 

last week I saw his profile again so I decided to chat. it seemed okay and we decided to arrange for dinner this week. seeing how he probably wouldn't initiate the dinner itself, I buzzed him last night asking when he's free. so he viewed my profile again & decided to ignore my question.. which is confusing. then again people on all these apps are confusing, including myself, so.. whatever

 

ya, whatever is the new trend in the community. 

 

they will msg u when they 'need' help or when have the urge to .... lol.

[iamziz]

It is not uncommon for guys hiding their age to put it as 99 years old on cruising apps like Grindr, Hornet, Jack'D etc.

Someone on Jack'D asked if he could get to know me. I replied:

''You are getting close to 100 years old and don't have a facepic. I don't know how much more time you have to live.''

 

No reply yet.

Edited May 24, 2014 by iamziz

[Abundance95]

Bad Experience lah I was tricked into having sex!!!!!

[firereaver]

Most times, I don't know what else to say after hi since most people are against "seek" and "how are you?". I once tried to directly say that I'm interested in knowing the person straight after hi but not sure what to say after that as well. Don't want to go all interviewy also. 

[duhdoy]

first world problem...

[Tor]

Bad Experience lah I was tricked into having sex!!!!!

 

Sounds like a bad experience 

 

So did you do it in the end?

[TheVisitors]

LOL, 

 

Reading this thread reminds me of my own misadventures in Grindr in the past.

Quite a few stories I can tell you , but i can reveal one at a time, that is provided if anyone wants to listen

 

Although generally speaking, it is a media platform for quick sexual gratification, you may also learn about other people's ( interesting)stories , provided you have a way in making someone very comfortable with you opening it up to you,, with your interactive skills to listen and to approach a person, when you have more or less , able to access his personality from the other side of the line. 

 

But as an ex photojournalism photographer and someone who worked in studio shooting for 2 years, I am not really impressed with how hot or good looking pics forwarded

 

Some people merely look good in photos, some are not even photogenic, but in real life,they can be really stunning. You will be surprised those with no pictures can turn out to be. One turn out looking quite like Wong Lee Hong ( Penang Chap) The other turned out to be a fit cyclist and sprinter, kind of reminds you of those modela shot by Airry. Yes we had a shared few past fun before. But if you are nice, they still drop a message to you once awhile in whatsapp

 

But gays are very superficial lot. They merely jump into conclusion and instantly judge someone through one photo. But a photo is one sided. You need to look at a person from different angles, Even a height can be elongated. A midget can look like Godzilla  Humpty Dumpty can look like Captain America

 

 

Some unpleasant encounters were

 

1) one chap claimed he was 22 year old ( he looked his aged) when he brought me home, there were O level text books lying around in his house  I back out

 

2) one was a Pinoy.  Ok nice stunning pics with a fit Bod and clear complexion. But he turned out to have a  38 inch waistline, acne  oily face. That pic was him

but 8 years ago. He asked me.." so can we have fun at your place or mine?"  and I told him...'  No, You can  GO BAK !"

Edited May 30, 2014 by TheVisitors

[iamziz]

I reckon I just got banned by Jack'D after I put in CAPITAL letters saying Idiots who reported my non-sexual pictures need to grow up and get a life. Those pics not even naked or in underwear. And Jack'D will not even allow you to reason out. 

[angel_dust]

[TopChinese]

 

But as an ex photojournalism photographer and someone who worked in studio shooting for 2 years, I am not really impressed with how hot or good looking pics forwarded

 

 

Can you give us any tips on how to take a good photo for Grindr/Scruff ie sexy but not naked

[beta]

I find some people reply to the message is really very unfriendly. Could have just ignore if not happy to reply mah....

[iamziz]

Someone on Grindr asked me what's my sexual orientation.  

[Dorkable]

Just this morning on Grindr.....

 

Clueless Guy: Hi, you btm?

Me: No, I'm top.

Clueless Guy: Ok

 

----- End of conversation ---

 

Profile write-ups are there for you to read.

[mvoo]

fake profiles? or probably, just ask for your pictures and without sending back? 

Edited July 16, 2014 by mvoo

[ahwen91]

Just a heads up.

 

 

this dude is using a fake picture all these while chatting and when i request to meet him 

he meet as planned 

 

someone so thicked skin that knowing he use other's people picture still got the cheek to show up .

 

when chatted he told me he is MIXED and yes i believed 

 

but when i opened the door i started to laugh and think " Mixed " really ?

 

even his whatspp dp is a fake one 

 

His number 942069xx

 

right now he blocked me on whatspp and i not sure if he changed his dp or not..

 

anyway spread this cheater around :-)

Edited July 19, 2014 by ahwen91

[ezzeq]

So far the experience is ... Asking for fun...fun....fun....

Haha

[Longpath]

Personally I never use them for many years, like in the market looking for meat. loLs!

[ahwen91]

Just a heads up.

 

 

this dude is using a fake picture all these while chatting and when i request to meet him 

he meet as planned 

 

someone so thicked skin that knowing he use other's people picture still got the cheek to show up .

 

when chatted he told me he is MIXED and yes i believed 

 

but when i opened the door i started to laugh and think " Mixed " really ?

 

even his whatspp dp is a fake one 

 

His number 942069xx

 

right now he blocked me on whatspp and i not sure if he changed his dp or not..

 

anyway spread this cheater around :-)

Bump for awareness..

Seems like not only me who got cheated by this "Noddy" 

 

He stays Hougang avenue 3.

 

I wouldn't want to mention any races but he claims he's MIXED but using a chinese dude picture ( which i don't know if he's still using or not )

 

3rd - he does not have the kind of body .

 

TY

[darkflame]

Nothing much interesting recently.

Ever since I changed the profile to display Japanese first then English, few people message me anyway.

I can say the message volume reduced by 80% compared to when I was in SG.

Less nonsense is good anyway.

[Dorkable]

When trading face pics, the other party gave me his abs and cock pic instead. I blocked him outright.

 

P.S. And it was a tiny member, smaller than mine.

Edited September 23, 2014 by Dorkable

[Lovensick]

About 3-4 in 10 conversation goes:

A: Hi

B: Hi

(The End)

[bluemarlin]

Another problem of these platform is that some guys agreed to just chat and make friends. No more no less. However After chatting for a period of time we decided to meet up. And that's the end. Obviously these ppl are still going after look even though just chatting and making friends. Sucks .

[nicjude]

Look, let's be honest. Grindr: is it really worth it to hook up there, where people are nearby but all of them act like their dick pics? Why is it that guys are so afraid of showing their faces anyway? It's not like anyone really cares if you're there or not, right?

 

I mean, loads of guys put their torso and dick pics, some even more obscure and/or ridiculous unrelated pics.

 

What are you afraid of, your co-worker or boss or family members seeing you there? If that's what you're afraid of, then you forgot the bigger elephant in that room: what that guy was doing there in the first place!

 

Also, if someone wants to just talk with you, why not be human and talk back? It'd be nice to have more people in your social circle.

 

I do wonder, as a side note, why guys who are or claim to be attached put themselves on Grindr as looking for "dates, fun", some even using their torso/dick pics as their profile pics. Do you need to have a guy on the side? Isn't it the kind of thing that suggests infidelity and dishonesty to your current partner? I really find it hard not to judge these guys when it comes to their attitudes to dating and relationships, and how that very often puts a damper on the rest of our relationship prospects. It's hard for a gay guy to even get a boyfriend, how much trust do you think it'll have if the relationship is judged on the grounds that it happens to most gay guys? And even more so if you're considered "attractive" to many guys. Most of such guys don't have it in them to care about the deep and non-superficial stuff; few do, but they kind of come off as being in this tier of stupid with the lot that care less.

 

If you want to use Grindr, my personal advice is to get over yourselves and get real about all the guys on there. If they're there to look pretty and not much else, then they're not for you, probably not even worth a one-night stand. 

[Dorkable]

On Grindr today.....

 

Troll: Hi, so bored. What do you seek?

Me: Guys who could read my profile.

Troll: Lol, must you be so hostile?

Me: Must you be so stupid? * Blocked profile *

 

The end.

Edited September 27, 2014 by Dorkable

[Butterscotch]

I downloaded both Grindr and Jack'd when I was in Shanghai and didn't delete it when I got back to Singapore.

 

It was fun at first, entertaining guys and just merely chatting. After awhile I got bored with them - mainly Grindr - that I decided to just delete my profile and remove it from my phone. I still have Jack'd, just for the hell of it (and plus at least Jack'd has notifications, unlike Grindr).

 

Let's see how long I will last.

[geoduckling]

On Grindr today.....

Troll: Hi, so bored. What do you seek?

Me: Guys who could read my profile.

Troll: Lol, must you be so hostile?

Me: Must you be so stupid? * Blocked profile *

The end.

Lol we should trade n share all our mean grindr responses. I know i have a hate- base out there by now.

[Guest above avg]

what do you think of people who like to share information about guys they have chatted before on grindr or jack'd?

 

send his screencaptured profile and photos to AJ group chat (in LINE/WHATSAPP) to ask other people comments about anything.,

telling people what this guy sex role, preference, school, his gym, etc?

 

i personally hate those guy who like to do that without the photo owner consent, but seems its a norm for many people in this AJ group i join. 

 

what do you guys think? is it an okay thing to do? you dont mind people share your profile/photos around also?

I know we cant stop people doing this.but its just about individual conscience

[lean n mean]

If you are lucky, the person will look like 70 per cent of his pics. 

[Guest Guest]

I know I shouldn't say the meanest things to a fat gay person, but I couldn't help it when he was apparently loitering around, doing nothing but keep checking his phone in the cruisy spot.

 

It happened last night.

 

I was at the cruisy spot in the East to look for some hot action when a chubby guy came up after me. After a hour of looking at his phone and checking people out in his business wear at the park (inappropriate). Whenever I tried to tail after a guy of my type, he would also come and be kay poh..

 

So there, I was increasingly irritated by his presence but was cool enough not to tell him off. To kill my time, I opened my Grindr app and checked some nearby guys out. Usually the one next to your profile would be the nearest to your real-time location. That profile next to mine showed a non-human picture with just his age. No other vital stats or info. Somehow, my instinct told me it must be him since some chubby people are embarrassed about their stats. Without thinking twice, I initiated a chat with him through Grindr.

 

Me: Could you please go home?

He: << abruptly raised his head and quickly scanned the surroundings for any potential suspects >>

Me: << quickly hid my phone, pretended to sleep and silently giggled >>

He: << stared intently at his phone for the next good 15 mins >>

He: Huh?

He: Which one of you??

He: Well you wanna play with the topless guy over there is it?

Me: << keeping silent... >>

 

After 15 mins, he stood up and walked around only to vanish from my sight..

 

He: If yes I will leave.

Me: << finally starting to reply when he was still nowhere to be seen >>

Me: No I dunno what you are talking about, I'm with someone else. But whoever he is, please go to him and finish up the act. Your presence is bothering us.

He: Fxxker!

He: He actually went the other way round but you didnt understand so you didnt follow him.

Me: No I'm with someone else. Why should I follow him?

 

I can't remember the rest.. but it was pretty an exchange of reasoning between us. But his last line was: Ya, have fun bye. Then I blocked him off from my Grindr app.

 

To that chubby guy: I'm sorry about it but hope you don't mind. If you really wanna cruise, please come in your sexy attire and be more proactive instead of sitting down like a grouchy panda. Don't waste your precious time like that ok? (:

 

Anyway, that's the power of Grindr: Too shy to initiate a chat with a hot gay guy near you or don't wanna have a direct confrontation with him (that's my case, sadly)? Use Grindr as a middleman. (:

[Guest Raiden Alpha]

I know I shouldn't say the meanest things to a fat gay person, but I couldn't help it when he was apparently loitering around, doing nothing but keep checking his phone in the cruisy spot.

It happened last night.

I was at the cruisy spot in the East to look for some hot action when a chubby guy came up after me. After a hour of looking at his phone and checking people out in his business wear at the park (inappropriate). Whenever I tried to tail after a guy of my type, he would also come and be kay poh..

So there, I was increasingly irritated by his presence but was cool enough not to tell him off. To kill my time, I opened my Grindr app and checked some nearby guys out. Usually the one next to your profile would be the nearest to your real-time location. That profile next to mine showed a non-human picture with just his age. No other vital stats or info. Somehow, my instinct told me it must be him since some chubby people are embarrassed about their stats. Without thinking twice, I initiated a chat with him through Grindr.

Me: Could you please go home?

He: << abruptly raised his head and quickly scanned the surroundings for any potential suspects >>

Me: << quickly hid my phone, pretended to sleep and silently giggled >>

He: << stared intently at his phone for the next good 15 mins >>

He: Huh?

He: Which one of you??

He: Well you wanna play with the topless guy over there is it?

Me: << keeping silent... >>

After 15 mins, he stood up and walked around only to vanish from my sight..

He: If yes I will leave.

Me: << finally starting to reply when he was still nowhere to be seen >>

Me: No I dunno what you are talking about, I'm with someone else. But whoever he is, please go to him and finish up the act. Your presence is bothering us.

He: Fxxker!

He: He actually went the other way round but you didnt understand so you didnt follow him.

Me: No I'm with someone else. Why should I follow him?

I can't remember the rest.. but it was pretty an exchange of reasoning between us. But his last line was: Ya, have fun bye. Then I blocked him off from my Grindr app.

To that chubby guy: I'm sorry about it but hope you don't mind. If you really wanna cruise, please come in your sexy attire and be more proactive instead of sitting down like a grouchy panda. Don't waste your precious time like that ok? (:

Anyway, that's the power of Grindr: Too shy to initiate a chat with a hot gay guy near you or don't wanna have a direct confrontation with him (that's my case, sadly)? Use Grindr as a middleman. (:

You are not much better than that chub yourself.

How much time did you waste that night feeding mosquitoes in the park?

And did you manage to find someone meaningful to hang out with after that?

Sibeh bo liao leh.

[Hitora]

Need to ask from more experienced people out there:

 

Is it advisable to find dates using Jackd?

 

I mean at least you know they sexual orientation but I kinda like being friends and starting from there etc.

 

Any opinions?

[upshot]

You get more money boy then you can find anyone to have sex or friends. All you need to do is to make sure in your profil eyou say you don;t care for money boy and will never pay for sex. Suddenly a lot of calls to you stops or you lucky to get 1 to 2 reply per day.

[duhdoy]

Is it advisable to find dates using Jackd?

 

Any opinions?

 

Jackd is just like any other medium, the people intention is the matter.

[Guest]

i worst experience of my life..

 

usana saleman....mlm tactics - piss me off.

 

use sms and whatsaps to threat me just because i don't believe in his product.

 

dare to say to me...he look younger with good skin when i see him balding with less hair and use lite makeup but claim to be powder.

 

i regret to exchange my hp....

 

stress me to buy his product

ask me to let him to stay because his "friend" throw him out

ask me to buy him dinner 

ask me to buy show on weekend

[batamsg]

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[razz669]

Just had a mind blowing experience.

I saw a photo on grindr tht looked familiar so I sent him a message saying that he looks good. So I got a reply n asked for my photo. The profile photo looked very very familiar. And I was right! This guy is using a photo of the late Dr Allan Ooi. This doctor committed suicide. So what I did was I sent him photos of the doctor's funeral.

Edited November 11, 2014 by razz669

[TheVisitors]

Look, let's be honest. Grindr: is it really worth it to hook up there, where people are nearby but all of them act like their dick pics? Why is it that guys are so afraid of showing their faces anyway? It's not like anyone really cares if you're there or not, right?

 

I mean, loads of guys put their torso and dick pics, some even more obscure and/or ridiculous unrelated pics.

 

What are you afraid of, your co-worker or boss or family members seeing you there? If that's what you're afraid of, then you forgot the bigger elephant in that room: what that guy was doing there in the first place!

 

Also, if someone wants to just talk with you, why not be human and talk back? It'd be nice to have more people in your social circle.

 

I do wonder, as a side note, why guys who are or claim to be attached put themselves on Grindr as looking for "dates, fun", some even using their torso/dick pics as their profile pics. Do you need to have a guy on the side? Isn't it the kind of thing that suggests infidelity and dishonesty to your current partner? I really find it hard not to judge these guys when it comes to their attitudes to dating and relationships, and how that very often puts a damper on the rest of our relationship prospects. It's hard for a gay guy to even get a boyfriend, how much trust do you think it'll have if the relationship is judged on the grounds that it happens to most gay guys? And even more so if you're considered "attractive" to many guys. Most of such guys don't have it in them to care about the deep and non-superficial stuff; few do, but they kind of come off as being in this tier of stupid with the lot that care less.

 

If you want to use Grindr, my personal advice is to get over yourselves and get real about all the guys on there. If they're there to look pretty and not much else, then they're not for you, probably not even worth a one-night stand. 

I actually can further validate how superficial people in such apps are

 

The same people who think you are not good looking enough for them, comment negatively about your looks, or even block you where by you are judged by your picture, are the very ones who  will stalk and cruise you in saunas, swimming pools, gym, shopping mall, or even at the road side bus stop

 

They may have totally forgotten who they have judged or cast aside before  in the first place, but i do remember faces very well and clearly.

 

That even as detailed as the little scars, moles or tattoos you have , as displayed in your pic

[BlackberryT]

You are not much better than that chub yourself.

How much time did you waste that night feeding mosquitoes in the park?

And did you manage to find someone meaningful to hang out with after that?

Sibeh bo liao leh.

 

Agree - sibeh bo liao. 

[vaio]

Haha. Some encounters are so funny. Here's mine: one guy texted me on Grindr with my friend's hubby picture (and yes, my straight friend's husband)! LOL. I regretted that I busted him out earlier cause a closed friend was saying I should set up a date with him and my friend's hubby. Haha.

Edited November 13, 2014 by vaio

[cycle25]

Overall its pretty hard to sustain any friendships or chats on these apps I find.

 

However, I did meet my boyfriend over on Grindr. We were both shy people so I guess it was one way for us to meet otherwise we may have never crossed paths at all. Monday will be our 1 year now.

[uncannyxmen]

Haha. Some encounters are so funny. Here's mine: one guy texted me on Grindr with my friend's hubby picture (and yes, my straight friend's husband)! LOL. I regretted that I busted him out earlier cause a closed friend was saying I should set up a date with him and my friend's hubby. Haha.

 

Hey Viao, i have a similar experienced with this. I have a malaysian friend who's the cousin is living here with the wife. The cousin is married but at his 40's still hot a even join man hunt long time ago lol (i'm really gonna do this guy for being so hot!). Then one day in grindr some guy with only a hot body pic (headless) messaged me and even told me he was stalking me in facebook long time ago and telling im really cute blah blah (since i use the same picture from facebook so thats why he caught me). Then when i asked for his pictures, BOOM! that is the married hot guy which is my friends cousin. So till now im not telling it to my friend that his cousin is gay or bi cause it might be a big issue to their family  it's pure coincidence but yeah that experience is really gonna shock you.

Edited November 20, 2014 by uncannyxmen

[ehh]

Met this guy on Jackd who had a pretty good body and I chatted him up, and eventually exchanged contacts over Line. Long story short, he turned out to be a fake as he was a chub. Even lied that his pic was him a few months back due to his slipped disc injury, when it was actually someone else's pic. Gave him snide remarks here and there while we chat face to face, while he was trying to redeem himself. Decided to split 20 mins later, never spoke to him again. Total waste of time indeed.

 

Moral of the story: Don't let your dick take over your brain.

[undies87]

Oh My God. The Age. Says that hes 30 only.. but the face like 45. Annoying!

[TheVisitors]

Hence from now, whatever I post here , are my past misadventures in Grindr, as i no longer use this apps

Let me post , as far as I can recall

 

He said he was 29. In his Whatsapp/Line/Grindr pic, it was a pleasant looking chap with a v shaped, face, coupled with a clear complexion, a bunch of thick healthy hair

 

Oh yeah, in his pic, he was slim

 

So, after a few chats, he wanted to meet since we both were staying very near

 

What turns out was someone, who was a like a September 11's disaster

 

He must had aged 20 years more since we last chat

 

A chub with a badly maintained figure, who had a waist that could squeeze in a truck's tyre

 

He had a bloated face, which reminded you of a puffer fish. I was wandering whether did he went to a petrol station, and suck in all the free air from the air pump 

 

What was very noticeably; he was bald

 

His face is full of acne and very greasy, and I swear i thought I saw oil dripping  and collected at the edge of his chin ( if he had one since his face as so bloated)

 

When he suggested if we could had fun, I really wanted to throw a lighted match onto his face and set it on fire !

Edited November 24, 2014 by TheVisitors

[iamziz]

A good reminder to be extra vigilant in meeting strangers for fun:

 

Man Stabbed After Answering Online Ad for Sex

 

http://www.nbcmiami.com/news/local/Man-Stabbed-After-Answering-Online-Ad-for-Sex-283288351.html?_osource=outbrain_recirc=obinsite

[Guest Dijkstra]

What would you do if the guy you've been talking to doesn't look close to the pictures he showed? Leave right away? 

Edited November 30, 2014 by Dijkstra

[ehh]

What would you do if the guy you've been talking to doesn't look close to the pictures he showed? Leave right away? 

It depends. In any social context it would be considered very rude. Based on experience I'd just entertain him, knowing that we won't be meeting ever again

[Butterscotch]

Is it only me or do guys, like most of the time, only go so far as to view your profile? Then after you viewed their profile, they viewed you back? It's like a game of never-ending ping pong.

[Guest Dijkstra]

It depends. In any social context it would be considered very rude. Based on experience I'd just entertain him, knowing that we won't be meeting ever again

Yea. I guess so. I personally I have never done it. If I ever ever find myself in that situation, I'll probably try get away by gnawing my hands off, and then call the ambulance.

[RealityCheck]

I had the worst Jack'D "date" ever. I keep harping on it cause it's my ultimate pet peeve where I bring someone to an art event and the person touches the artwork with the person's barehands. Even though I repeatedly said don't touch anything.