BDSM Safety

[xiandarkthorne]

Here are just a few practical BDSM-related tips for beginners - 

 

*For practical purposes and simplicity, Bottom guys will be referred to as Subs and Top guys will be Doms. Not a prejudice on my part but just easier to type.

 

1.PREPARING FOR YOUR FIRST-EVER SESSION

a.Always make sure that someone trusted knows where you are going to meet up with your potential partner. This is especially important if you are the Sub.

 

b.Always make sure you both agree to a Safe Word. If your Dom or potential Dom says no need for one, be prepared to run.

 

c.Learn how to douche your rectum (wash inside your backside) if you expect anal penetration.

 

d.Never allow yourself to be tied up completely unless you are 100% sure you trust the Dom.

 

e.Never allow or agree to unprotected anal penetration.

 

f.If you want pictures of yourself (not advisable) make sure the pictures are taken on your own camera or handphone only unless you want to become the next local internet pornstar.

 

g.Make sure you know what kind of activities you are both referring to and that you both agree to do only what is consensual. Don't try something new with someone you don't know well enough to trust.

 

I will post more tips for beginners if there's any interest but feel free to post any questions you might have here and I'll try my best to answer your questions sanely and knowledgeably.

 

I won't post any bullshit, unverified facts or practices as answers to your questions.

[SebastianXu]

love being a sub 

[xiandarkthorne]

Yes. Many people find it a liberating experience really.

[SebastianXu]

just really hard to find any in SG. Especially when i am more of looking for mental arousal. I have some relatively extreme fantasies 

[xiandarkthorne]

Well, extreme fantasies can turn many people off because they are not used to considering much beyond the usual vanilla stuff. Even I will draw the line at certain things.

One thing to consider is that if you have particularly specific fantasies,it is always harder to find someone whose fantasies match or complement yours.

[SwitchSwap]

On 5/16/2019 at 7:53 PM, SebastianXu said:

just really hard to find any in SG. Especially when i am more of looking for mental arousal. I have some relatively extreme fantasies 

 

Would love to find out what those extreme fantasies are? 😋😉

[SebastianXu]

I would loved to be tired up and blindfolded. Have my nipples teased. Made to serve a few guys in a gangbang fashion and end it with a bukkake or a cup of cum to drink down.