From bottom to top

[Guest Top boy bottom]

Guys any advice how-to be a top? 

Im versa before after that turned into a bottom. I want to become top i have a hard time erecting my dick to fuck an ass... can you help me? No judgment please...

[Kimochi]

Go exercise first before sex. Help your erection. 

[Guest Top boy bottom]

What kind of exercise?

[Kimochi]

Any exercise which make you sweat and pant to encourage blood circulation. And sex after exercise feels damn good. 

[Guest Top boy bottom]

After that i can be top? Its really frustrating for my fuck buddy he wants me to top him which i can't do it.

[Kimochi]

Next is how he is going to do to arouse you. 

[GachiMuchi]

Try to remember when you started having sex and how you want to fuck people. but after you became bottom, how you want to please your top.

Being a top, it's about dominating, control, take charge. Most bottom are accommodating and given (in receiving) therefore, for you to turn around, you might need to find back your "dominating" self (初心), etc. It will take time but not impossible.

Well, if all else fail, there are still viagra. It will help you get up.

My 2 cents.

Hope it helps

[hey_jen]

I think its also about knowing what turns you on the most and also being assertive in getting what you want. 

 

I usually get the bottom role but last Monday I was the top for the first time in months. I met a guy who was a versatile, he was very 

eager in pleasing me (usually I am the one being submissive and pleasing the guy) he gave me a really awesome

blowjob and licking my balls (a HUGE turn on for me). Also I am a bottom who happens to really enjoy rimming 

and appreciate a nice bubble butt and the guy had it. So I began licking his hole and his moans turned me on even

more as I was eating his ass out and I was hard the entire time. 

 

He then turned me back onto the bed and lubed up my dick and sat on it. I could feel his hole tightening as he skilfully 

grind his hips up and down on me. I have not felt that way in so long. We then switched position and I began fucking him 

doggy style. I fucked him like how I want to be fucked which for some reason turned me on even more and my dick was hard the

entire time. I was pounding his ass and I kept licking and gently biting his neck from behind, smelling his hair. I then felt it coming and I pulled out and 

came all over his ass. 

 

Sorry for being a little long winded and telling a little bit of my story haha but I hope it helps you pick out some points from my experience. 

I am gonna try finding another versatile guy the next time and test out what I have learned on Monday haha and see if maybe I am now 

a real versatile guy or just a bottom who tops once every few months lol. 

Edited December 19, 2018 by hey_jen

[sgfreedom]

4 minutes ago, hey_jen said:

I think its also about knowing what turns you on the most and also being assertive in getting what you want. 

 

I usually get the bottom role (I think its because I usually can't hold my erection long enough) 

but last Monday I was the top for the first time in months. I met a guy who was a versatile, he was very 

eager in pleasing me (usually I am the one being submissive and pleasing the guy) he gave me a really awesome

blowjob and licking my balls (a HUGE turn on for me). Also I am a bottom who happens to really enjoy rimming 

and appreciate a nice bubble butt and the guy had it. So I began licking his hole and his moans turned me on even

more as I was eating his ass out and I was hard the entire time. 

 

He then turned me back onto the bed and lubed up my dick and sat on it. I could feel his hole tightening as he skilfully 

grind his hips up and down on me. I have not felt that way in so long. We then switched position and I began fucking him 

doggy style. I fucked him like how I want to be fucked which for some reason turned me on even more and my dick was hard the

entire time. I was pounding his ass and I kept licking and gently biting his neck from behind, smelling his hair. I then felt it coming and I pulled out and 

came all over his ass. 

 

Sorry for being a little long winded and telling a little bit of my story haha but I hope it helps you pick out some points from my experience. 

I am gonna try finding another versatile guy the next time and test out what I have learned on Monday haha and see if maybe I am now 

a real versatile guy or just a bottom who tops once every few months lol. 

 

 

Bravo!  Thanks for sharing your experience....sure is enlightening.  

[Steve5380]

2 hours ago, Guest Top boy bottom said:

After that i can be top? Its really frustrating for my fuck buddy he wants me to top him which i can't do it.

 

In reality it is a little more involved than that.   It's more than doing some exercises and then you get hard.

Good erections need good blood flow, and this is improved with plenty of exercise, aerobic and with weights.

They also require good levels of testosterone,  which exercise also helps to rise.

In summary, natural good erections require good health, fitness.

And finally, to get the good erections at the right time the libido has to react to the situation.

 

I have been a bad top because I associate anal sex with pain, which is what I felt the time I tried to bottom.

But lately I have seen many examples of expert bottoms feeling intense pleasure from it.

This gives me now an incentive to top, because when I am giving pleasure this turns me on even more. 

[Guest Hot Swimmer]

I agree with the idea to do more exercises. It will improve your manliness and aggressiveness. When you are aggressive enough you will take the domination role (aka top role) to fuck a perky ass and enjoy rough and dirty fuck the submissive bottom.

[vera.]

3 hours ago, Guest Top boy bottom said:

Guys any advice how-to be a top? 

Im versa before after that turned into a bottom. I want to become top i have a hard time erecting my dick to fuck an ass... can you help me? No judgment please...

i think its your feelings or subconscious thats blocking u... im vers too but in a diff way i can only either top a guy or a btm depending on how i feel about a guy...sounds like bs haha...the attitude towards the other party is very diff depending if i wanna top or btm..maybe u just feel like that..MAYBE

[repressednerd]

A sex toy might help you do those exercise. It can be quite tiring to top, sometimes to the extent that your hip and lower stomach muscles ache. (At least when I fuck my Tenga)

 

If you are pretty loaded, you can even get those mount where you fit a fleshjack or tenga and you basically mount it. Will help especially for those doggy style fuck.

[Garyl]

12 hours ago, Guest Top boy bottom said:

Guys any advice how-to be a top? 

Im versa before after that turned into a bottom. I want to become top i have a hard time erecting my dick to fuck an ass... can you help me? No judgment please...

Hi bro,

I think you are born with it. My compliments for top compensate the complaints of me trying to bottom.

Go with flow.. why you want to top?

[xcuez86]

Nice.. I also hope someone can rim and eat my arse well... :) 

[vera.]

27 minutes ago, Garyl said:

Hi bro,

I think you are born with it. My compliments for top compensate the complaints of me trying to bottom.

Go with flow.. why you want to top?

he said he's vers

[Garyl]

4 minutes ago, vera. said:

he said he's vers

He say he is vers or think is vers but is actually bottom.

Also, he said how to be a "top" or "better top". If you can at least top, then you can be vers right. If you only btm, how to be vers.

I think there is a difference.

[vera.]

10 minutes ago, Garyl said:

He say he is vers or think is vers but is actually bottom.

Also, he said how to be a "top" or "better top". If you can at least top, then you can be vers right. If you only btm, how to be vers.

I think there is a difference.

erm being vers doesn't always mean u can do both simultaneusly...it can be fixated as for me

[Guest Top boy bottom]

49 minutes ago, Garyl said:

Hi bro,

I think you are born with it. My compliments for top compensate the complaints of me trying to bottom.

Go with flow.. why you want to top?

 

Im discgraced being a bot.. they told i thought you're top because of my features. That's why I want to try to be top.

[Garyl]

7 minutes ago, Guest Top boy bottom said:

 

Im discgraced being a bot.. they told i thought you're top because of my features. That's why I want to try to be top.

Hi bro,

Ok. Np. 

size -> "features" -solved (biggest issue resolved)

technique -> think of the best top you experienced. mirroring the charisma, technique etc..  I think the best tops i know are sort of manly in mannerism and performance. so you might want to be "manly". 

stamina -> google for techniques and training

"erecting my dick to fuck an ass" -> tiredness or medical? food or medications. pte me if need, not healthcare profession though. 

cheers, 

 

 

[lovehandle]

usu btms said they cannot get hard easily (for penetrative/sexual reasons)

Edited December 20, 2018 by lovehandle

[Guest Top boy bottom]

I cant get hard when I try to penetrate my partner's hole.

[Guest Book of Wisdom]

17 hours ago, Guest Top boy bottom said:

Guys any advice how-to be a top? 

Im versa before after that turned into a bottom. I want to become top i have a hard time erecting my dick to fuck an ass... can you help me? No judgment please...

 

If you cannot get yourself a hardon, the only thing you could do is to let other’s hardon comes in.  — Laofuzi

[Guest Book of Wisdom]

12 minutes ago, Guest Top boy bottom said:

I cant get hard when I try to penetrate my partner's hole.

 

If you cannot open the lock with the key, it’s either the wrong key or wrong lock.  — Aristurtle 

[Guest Book of Wisdom]

4 hours ago, Guest Top boy bottom said:

 

Im discgraced being a bot.. they told i thought you're top because of my features. That's why I want to try to be top.

 

Care about what others think and you’ll always be their prisoner.  Be it top or bottom, be yourself.  — Laofuzi

 

[Guest Blank]

Don't pcc for a month or two

 

Will shoot the moment your put your kkj inside 

[Guest Top boy bottom]

I want to try first being top, I've tried to fu(k before but I don't know what happened now. Maybe I just need practice and no more bottoming from now on. 

[Gympump]

On 12/19/2018 at 8:05 PM, Guest Top boy bottom said:

Guys any advice how-to be a top? 

Im versa before after that turned into a bottom. I want to become top i have a hard time erecting my dick to fuck an ass... can you help me? No judgment please...

 

Try not to jerk off for some time before you meet up with some one to be the top.

Arrange your first session with a flex and let him know it is your first. In case you are unable to get hard, he can top you so the session will not end there.

If this session doesn't get you erected, try again next time. Do not jo for a few days before meeting the flex.

And if you are still unable to get hard, it just means you are not ready.

 

[Guest fairboy]

I think there is a relation to it in psychology, that subconsciously you want to be a bottom or the more feminine side? im not sure but i have the same situation, im a bottom but when i try to be top even how horny and hard iam my dick gets soft once it goes near the ass, so i have a feeling that there is a relation in psychology.

[Guest Hot Swimmer]

18 hours ago, Guest Blank said:

Don't pcc for a month or two

 

Will shoot the moment your put your kkj inside 

Yes it's proven! ;D Try not to pcc for 2 months or more.

[repressednerd]

On 12/20/2018 at 11:33 AM, -Ignored- said:

usu btms said they cannot get hard easily (for penetrative/sexual reasons)

 

I met a guy who said this but ended up after he finger me and I suck his dick, he fucked and creamed me. 

[lovehandle]

4 minutes ago, repressednerd said:

 

I met a guy who said this but ended up after he finger me and I suck his dick, he fucked and creamed me. 

But u r a top then?

[Kimochi]

10 minutes ago, repressednerd said:

 

I met a guy who said this but ended up after he finger me and I suck his dick, he fucked and creamed me. 

Haha I really laughed out loud when I read this! 

[Garyl]

On 12/20/2018 at 5:57 PM, Guest Top boy bottom said:

I want to try first being top, I've tried to fu(k before but I don't know what happened now. Maybe I just need practice and no more bottoming from now on. 

Hi bro,

Tops usually can fxx anytime of day. Btm usually cant get hard to fxx even if they are hard from being fxx. You have to practice on your psych, mental then.

Edited December 22, 2018 by Garyl

[repressednerd]

3 hours ago, -Ignored- said:

But u r a top then?

 

Flex bottom. Some btms try to ride me but I'll just finger them.

[lovehandle]

but a real tool is still diff from a tiny finger

[Guest Top boy bottom]

1 hour ago, Garyl said:

Hi bro,

Tops usually can fxx anytime of day. Btm usually cant get hard to fxx even if they are hard from being fxx. You have to practice on your psych, mental then.

 

Maybe it's a psych thing, so how to do that?

[Garyl]

Bro,

If i have a cure, i wld be straight.. market much bigger

[Guest No Flex]

How common are flex guys anyway? I'm a top and I have tended to avoid flexes over the years because I had experiences early on where I told them I have no interest or desire in getting fucked, just can't get into it mentally, but they would try to fuck me anyway, which led to serious arguments, and in one case I ended up punching out a guy's tooth because he basically attempted to rape me.

 

Anyway a couple of guys have been pursuing me lately, but they are all flexes, and I am worried about those past experiences repeating themselves. They have said all the same things, like they know I'm a top, but they really want to bottom for me and won't ask for my ass in return. I have heard it all before and it usually turned out to be lies. On the other hand these newer guys are very hot.

[lovehandle]

On 12/22/2018 at 10:24 AM, Kimochi said:

Haha I really laughed out loud when I read this! 

Why? U knw him in person?

[Garyl]

On 12/23/2018 at 8:40 AM, Guest No Flex said:

How common are flex guys anyway? I'm a top and I have tended to avoid flexes over the years because I had experiences early on where I told them I have no interest or desire in getting fucked, just can't get into it mentally, but they would try to fuck me anyway, which led to serious arguments, and in one case I ended up punching out a guy's tooth because he basically attempted to rape me.

 

Anyway a couple of guys have been pursuing me lately, but they are all flexes, and I am worried about those past experiences repeating themselves. They have said all the same things, like they know I'm a top, but they really want to bottom for me and won't ask for my ass in return. I have heard it all before and it usually turned out to be lies. On the other hand these newer guys are very hot.

I think everyone attracts the different guys.. Flexes - bottom flex or top flex.. I find top flex will usually want to fxx you eventually. so i think you have to be mentally prepared. 

Not really a expert, but from google, maybe its your vibration..  - https://www.google.com/search?q=vibration+attracting+different+people&rlz=1C1GCEU_enSG822SG822&oq=vibration+attracting+different+people&aqs=chrome..69i57.10536j1j7&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8

Not sure why, but usually only the btm or btm flex is interested in me. 

[Kimochi]

2 hours ago, -Ignored- said:

Why? U knw him in person?

Nope but its funny 

[Guest InBangkok]

On 12/21/2018 at 9:20 AM, Guest fairboy said:

I think there is a relation to it in psychology, that subconsciously you want to be a bottom or the more feminine side? im not sure but i have the same situation, im a bottom but when i try to be top even how horny and hard iam my dick gets soft once it goes near the ass, so i have a feeling that there is a relation in psychology.

 

I am sure this is the main problem. You can exercise as much as you want, get the blood flowing and work up a desire for sex. But getting an erection is primarily a function of the brain. If your brain keeps telling your dick to stay flaccid, nothing is going to get it erect, unfortunately. My only suggestions are that you try watching porn and identifying more with the tops. If that doesn't work, you really should consider some form of psychological counselling. It may be a bit embarrassing at first, but there are surely some sex therapists near where you live who can give you much more practical advice than you can find in a chat forum. Don't worry, they will have heard it all before!

[Garyl]

I think you need to tell the sex therapists to play only gay porn and talk men. I get killed watching non-male.. 

我知道我有病 

[kennethchung]

how

[lovehandle]

On 12/19/2018 at 8:05 PM, Guest Top boy bottom said:

Guys any advice how-to be a top? 

Im versa before after that turned into a bottom. I want to become top i have a hard time erecting my dick to fuck an ass... can you help me? No judgment please...

but most btms i have met have problem in erection (not really a health problem/illness) but they  r not ez to arouse (even Non-sporeans who are youtubers)