Anyone feeling numb after too many sauna visits ?

[Guest MrMister]

When I first started visiting saunas abt a year back, I was like a kid in a candy store. I can go on a sauna crawl for like 3 times a week and each and everytime, I will find someone new to have fun with. I felt like I had a renewed and hightened libido that allowed me to cum easily twice at any of these visits.

 

But after a year, the visits have reduced to max twice a month but I noticed that I am less excited during these visits now. I can walk along the maze like a zombie and quite often, i leave the saunas not being attracted to anyone at all. Anyone else feeling this way ? Its like being sauna jaded. 

[Steve5380]

It is said that sex is self-limiting.

Addictions to alcohol, tobacco, hard drugs can worsen indefinitely until the body breaks down.

This is more difficult to happen with sex.  It takes time to recover from orgasm, and this is a limitation.

Furthermore, the libido wears out with too much, too easy sex. One starts to feel that reproductive systems 

are about the same for all people, and they become no more exciting than digestive systems.

 

I was never so lucky to enjoy so much sex that I get numb,

but it seems reasonable that making actual sex rare can restore a healthy, voracious libido,

like the libido gets stronger with unfulfilled sex.  Have you tried this? 

[Guest guest]

too much candy is bad for your health,  

 

too much easily available sex numbs your hunting instinct .

 

makes sense ?

[Guest MrMister]

4 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

It is said that sex is self-limiting.

Addictions to alcohol, tobacco, hard drugs can worsen indefinitely until the body breaks down.

This is more difficult to happen with sex.  It takes time to recover from orgasm, and this is a limitation.

Furthermore, the libido wears out with too much, too easy sex. One starts to feel that reproductive systems 

are about the same for all people, and they become no more exciting than digestive systems.

 

I was never so lucky to enjoy so much sex that I get numb,

but it seems reasonable that making actual sex rare can restore a healthy, voracious libido,

like the libido gets stronger with unfulfilled sex.  Have you tried this? 

Thats really enlightening. I hv never thought of it frm your viewpoint, esp that easy sex wears down libido. I suppose abstaining will help in restoring the sex drive, makes sense. 

[Guest Sherluck Homme]

23 minutes ago, Guest MrMister said:

Thats really enlightening. I hv never thought of it frm your viewpoint, esp that easy sex wears down libido. I suppose abstaining will help in restoring the sex drive, makes sense. 

 

Better not inflate ang moh 's ego by easy compliments,

 

LOL.

 

They are known to be glib tongues, and known to be good at sex grooming young gullible victims.

[Guest Candy Cane]

7 hours ago, Guest MrMister said:

When I first started visiting saunas abt a year back, I was like a kid in a candy store. I can go on a sauna crawl for like 3 times a week and each and everytime, I

Remember to visit the dentist regularly before your next candy tasting.  

[Guest MrMister]

39 minutes ago, Guest Sherluck Homme said:

 

Better not inflate ang moh 's ego by easy compliments,

 

LOL.

 

They are known to be glib tongues, and known to be good at sex grooming young gullible victims.

Frankly if u ask me, out of my many visits to the saunas, one of the most memorable encounters I had was with an ang moh.

 

We bumped in the maze, took glance at each and he held my hands and led me into one of the rooms. I dun hv to go into the steamy details. But my point is, after the fun, he actually helped to wipe the cum off my body, gave me a tight squeeze, said thank u before we exit the room. As opposed to so many asians who typically just rushed out leaving the door wide open for rest to peek at u wiping cum off. Not even a single thank you.

 

But I m a hardcore sticky rice so that chance encounter with the ang moh was just a one time thing.

[repressednerd]

Someone told me that before. Maybe he kept going to sauna even when he wasn't very horny in the first place but has already become a habit.

 

If you make your sauna visits more varied in experience, it might be more interesting. Normally when I go to sauna, I'm already so horny that even guys I don't really consider that handsome would be the objects of my lust. 

[Steve5380]

14 hours ago, Guest Sherluck Homme said:

 

Better not inflate ang moh 's ego by easy compliments,

LOL.

 

 

Most ang moh's ego is strong and justified enough that we don't have it deflated by easy anti-compliments,  ha ha  

[Guest Fingering]

If you do anything too much, it will become boring, including wasting your precious time arguing with extremely loquacious ang mohs. So as some others have suggested, go to saunas less, and go to different saunas at different times. Maybe hit up Cruise Club one time, Keybox the next, and Ten Mens Club after that. Also try meeting guys in different ways if you aren't married and deeply closeted. Use the apps or even BW to find guys to go on real dates with, or join social activities, such as playing sports or even going to pubs/clubs as a group. Finally, and most importantly, set a goal to find a healthy longterm relationship if possible for you.

[Steve5380]

4 hours ago, Guest Fingering said:

If you do anything too much, it will become boring, including wasting your precious time arguing with extremely loquacious ang mohs. So as some others have suggested, go to saunas less, and go to different saunas at different times. Maybe hit up Cruise Club one time, Keybox the next, and Ten Mens Club after that. Also try meeting guys in different ways if you aren't married and deeply closeted. Use the apps or even BW to find guys to go on real dates with, or join social activities, such as playing sports or even going to pubs/clubs as a group. Finally, and most importantly, set a goal to find a healthy longterm relationship if possible for you.

 

I think it is a waste of precious time reading your post, since it does not address the issue of the TS.  He does not lack opportunities to have sex, but, as he wrote in the heading of the thread, with so much of it he got "numb", that is, he lost his libido.   The solution is not to go to different places to have more sex  because sex is not much different in the various saunas or in casual encounters through apps, BW, etc.

[Guest findbflah]

numb because u realised after so many visits, having sex with multiple greek gods with handsome faces

u feel void in your heart, the more u had senseless casual sex, the more empty and feelingless soul u become.

I instead went to pursue LTR with a guy I love and I found meaning in my life since then

[Guest Funchub29]

This is how one will go on to other trills like cruising/having fun with multiple ppl at public toilets.....where once the sauna and multiple naked bodies will get the heart thumping, it became too easy in a sauna where everybody is horny, naked and ready to go.

 

[fab]

I feel numbed looking at steroid muscles and plastic botox face.

Edited December 26, 2018 by fab

[hornyKL]

guess this is equiparable to the economic principle of the law of diminishing marginal utility. 

 

basically means that perhaps, you have reached a point where you have acquired the most satisfaction you can derive from going to the sauna, and the more you go after that, the less satisfied you will get or at least you won't be as satisfied since the last time. 

 

this happens till you reach negative marginal utility, which makes you perhaps, loathe going to the sauna altogether. 

[Guest Guest]

The feeling still the same, high adrenaline when you want to meet good looking guys in the saunas. Ive been to Sg, Thailand, Taiwan, HK, Japan and the Philippines saunas.

 

Maybe your sick and tired in sg saunas because all of them are the same crowd unlike in other countries new flavors to taste.

[hornyKL]

yeah perhaps u just gotta tweak the variables...the countries, the types of sauna-goers u r bound to meet, ur sexual state of mind (abstaining from sex for a period of time perhaps prior to visiting the sauna), and etc....

[Guest horny fantasies]

Sauna will be more interesting with these themes...

 

Executive wear theme: Shirt + underwear (or maybe wear only shirt)

Taekwondo style attire or Japanese kimono: Choose to wear nothing inside

Horror night: Wear a mask like Jason and wearing nothing except maybe underwear

Cap theme: Wear a cap, maybe normal cap, or police/pilot cap and wearing nothing except maybe underwear

Cage for exhibitionism: Two guys can fuck in a cage and the light will be bright enough for people to watch and masturbate to their live sex scene

Giant gloryholes: For guys to lie down through a hole so that the other guy can only see their legs and ass and fuck them anonymously 

[Guest Constructor]

On December 25, 2018 at 1:22 AM, Steve5380 said:

I think it is a waste of precious time reading your post, since it does not address the issue of the TS.

 

Dude, seriously, you don't have to take the bait every single time. You are old enough to realize that some of the guests you keep arguing with are simply trying to bait you, and you should be mature enough to ignore them, and stop sidetracking so many threads with meaningless insult contests.

 

This is not primary school, and it is not real life, so 'defending you honor' is not necessary. It is an anonymous internet forum, and nobody knows any of you, or cares who flung which insult. For the good of the board, let most of their shade throwing go, and maybe they will start leaving you alone.

 

I am sure you are seething with rage while reading this piece of constructive criticism, and preparing to hurl a vile stream of invectives in my direction, but I urge you to calm down instead and reflect on what I wrote. You will be happier, and most of the board will be happier, if the arguments end.

[Steve5380]

56 minutes ago, Guest Constructor said:

 

Dude, seriously, you don't have to take the bait every single time. You are old enough to realize that some of the guests you keep arguing with are simply trying to bait you, and you should be mature enough to ignore them, and stop sidetracking so many threads with meaningless insult contests.

 

 

LOL!  Your post is a bait too.  Why you care so much about me?  

[Guest Blank]

I've never  been to a sauna, is it really that exciting?

[Steve5380]

1 hour ago, Guest Blank said:

I've never  been to a sauna, is it really that exciting?

 

Yes, a gay sauna is uniquely exciting.  The prospect of meeting persons who share the common goal of having casual sex,  in a place set up for casual sexual encounters,  enjoying total privacy from  the external world but not the other guests of the sauna.  There is excitement in the  chase for sex, the unpredictability of the pleasures (or lack of) to be encountered.

 

[Guest Numbed]

7 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

 

Yes, a gay sauna is uniquely exciting.  The prospect of meeting persons who share the common goal of having casual sex,  in a place set up for casual sexual encounters,  enjoying total privacy from  the external world but not the other guests of the sauna.  There is excitement in the  chase for sex, the unpredictability of the pleasures (or lack of) to be encountered.

 

Yeah, but after awhile, you become indifferent and the excitement wanes. All saunas are more or less the same, just prob slight different crowd that's all. You go in, have causual sex with strangers in total anonymity. No one knows you (unless you bump into friends or colleagues or worse, relatives). Once done, you get the F out. Trick is, go there only when you are horny, but otherwise, like someone mentioned above, it becomes a habit and you will find it hard to sensitize yourself again. Its just like having a  big box of chocolate by yourself, you get bored of the taste by the time you finish half-way, there's such a thing as too much of a good thing.

[snowball]

I think it is normal that you will be asking yourself, visiting gay sauna for casual sex is it that interesting and worth.

[Steve5380]

8 hours ago, snowball said:

I think it is normal that you will be asking yourself, visiting gay sauna for casual sex is it that interesting and worth.

 

It is good to have activities and hobbies that keep us busy, so that we don't go to gay saunas because we are bored.  Then when we are horny we don't need to ask ourselves but we go to a sauna to get the necessary satisfactions.

[Steve5380]

9 hours ago, Guest Numbed said:

Yeah, but after awhile, you become indifferent and the excitement wanes. All saunas are more or less the same, just prob slight different crowd that's all. You go in, have causual sex with strangers in total anonymity. No one knows you (unless you bump into friends or colleagues or worse, relatives). Once done, you get the F out. Trick is, go there only when you are horny, but otherwise, like someone mentioned above, it becomes a habit and you will find it hard to sensitize yourself again. Its just like having a  big box of chocolate by yourself, you get bored of the taste by the time you finish half-way, there's such a thing as too much of a good thing.

 

You have the right idea. Healthy sex is self limiting.  What else is there to do in a gay sauna but have sex?  And when this is done we can leave.  Although saunas also offer a slight possibility of socializing, maybe increasing the probability of finding a bf?  Oh NO!  I would never pick up a bf among people who go to saunas !!!  But... how about yourself?  When you go to a sauna aren't you one of "those who go to saunas"?  Would this disqualify you from being bf material?  People in saunas are regulars and non-regulars.  The way to tell them apart is by seeing the regulars frequently there.  But then... we are regulars ourselves  

[tyan]

MrMister, I can understand what u r going thru. My first job is at Tanjong Pagar where there are 3 saunas in vicinity. Especially I have tried the forbidden fruits of being sucked. From that day onwards, I always looked forward to finish work & head straight to sauna. Being young & tender then, I was popular and I was being served several times each visit. After a year, I got really emotionless and like zombie. Coincidentally, by then my contract also ended & I found another job and this time at East. That ended my voyage. 

[Goodygoodytissue]

Fun n play end and you waking up to pink song "Sober".

[Guest Guest]

I feel numbed too. Sauna fun is not that exciting because all the cocks gather there. Cruising is more exciting and challenging from swimming pools to mrts to gyms to public parks and malls. 

Plus it's FOC. 

[Guest take a break]

On 12/24/2018 at 2:27 AM, Guest MrMister said:

When I first started visiting saunas abt a year back, I was like a kid in a candy store. I can go on a sauna crawl for like 3 times a week and each and everytime, I will find someone new to have fun with. I felt like I had a renewed and hightened libido that allowed me to cum easily twice at any of these visits.

 

But after a year, the visits have reduced to max twice a month but I noticed that I am less excited during these visits now. I can walk along the maze like a zombie and quite often, i leave the saunas not being attracted to anyone at all. Anyone else feeling this way ? Its like being sauna jaded. 

 

Eventually going three times a week is a bit too much, sure there will be some bore after a while. for sure it is good to take a break on times.

Plus you can lose the spirit to enjoy casual one to one sex at home if you are a too regular sauna goer. I met those guys who were only able to get hard if there were plenty dicks around them, one single dick was not enough.

I compare it a bit if guys watch too much porn, then they forget how the real sex works.

 

Take a break, chat on other apps, date guys but don't go to a sauna for 3 or 6 months.

[Guest KKJ]

On 12/28/2018 at 10:36 PM, Steve5380 said:

 

You have the right idea. Healthy sex is self limiting.  What else is there to do in a gay sauna but have sex?  And when this is done we can leave.  Although saunas also offer a slight possibility of socializing, maybe increasing the probability of finding a bf?  Oh NO!  I would never pick up a bf among people who go to saunas !!!  But... how about yourself?  When you go to a sauna aren't you one of "those who go to saunas"?  Would this disqualify you from being bf material?  People in saunas are regulars and non-regulars.  The way to tell them apart is by seeing the regulars frequently there.  But then... we are regulars ourselves  

Yeah, you can pretty much tell who are the regulars there. Typically lurking at the entrances to the maze, with soul-less eyes and dead-pan expressions. But once they see a newbie entering, their eyes light up and like vultures, target on these newbies and pounce onto them when opportunity strikes. 

[lovehandle]

On 12/29/2018 at 3:07 PM, tyan said:

MrMister, I can understand what u r going thru. My first job is at Tanjong Pagar where there are 3 saunas in vicinity. Especially I have tried the forbidden fruits of being sucked. From that day onwards, I always looked forward to finish work & head straight to sauna. Being young & tender then, I was popular and I was being served several times each visit. After a year, I got really emotionless and like zombie. Coincidentally, by then my contract also ended & I found another job and this time at East. That ended my voyage. 

and u totally stopped visiting?

[tyan]

1 hour ago, -Ignored- said:

and u totally stopped visiting?

No lah. But I cut down significantly comparing to going daily. Maybe once or twice a week.

[fly360]

i am reading a lot of wisdom on the comments in this thread really. thanks guys.

[Guest Lawrence]

On 1/1/2019 at 4:06 PM, tyan said:

No lah. But I cut down significantly comparing to going daily. Maybe once or twice a week.

 

How did it go? I go to sauna almost every other day. Usually for hot shower. I dont have heater at home. Could be very expensive to buy and install and it will just add up to monthly electricity bill.

[Guest Dobo]

Last time, I don't go regular, only when horny. Maybe once a month.

 

But instead of getting jaded, I'm getting more and more open.

Long ago was touching, mutual jo or oral.

Then tried my first anal, didn't like it. Occasional anal only if I like that guy.

Then one day met him, his powerful strong fucking suddenly hit my g spot again and again till I was in cloud 9. First time I enjoyed anal so much that I self ejaculated. Wow, never thought it's possible.

 

Then I went regularly every week at the same time, hoping to meet him again. He seemed to be doing the same too. Every time he fucked me silly. Those times when he's not there, I was so desperate that I opened up to others. Some hit and miss but usually satisfying. Then he stopped coming and I hooked up with a few and even became fuck buddies.

 

I became more and more voracious as though I'm addicted. Then those fuck buddies became tired of me, I became less and less choosy. Then had my first visit to Shogun and fucked by China worker openly at the big bed. 

Then became self conscious and tried to control. But cannot.

Got worse and now openly expose my hole even at the tv rooms. 

Found that people started recognising me as the cheap slut. Some don't mind and fuck me openly. Most started gossiping behind my back.

Then I realized those who don't mind also soon get tired of me. 

I became self conscious of the nasty gossips and went less often.

 

Then I tried overseas. Wow, I  can be totally shameless and get fucked as much as I wanted.

So I prefer to play overseas. But this pandemic suddenly forced me to go to local saunas again. Suddenly realised the anonymity of wearing mask makes everybody less judgemental. 

Now I  again merrily exposed myself. Even without getting fucked because now everybody is so cautious, it was liberating again.

You read the comments here about recognising the regulars, we became self restricting and jaded instead of enjoying what we want to do.

 

 

 

[auscent]

Self control may help: distract yourself then visit sauna less regularly. Some excitement should come back.

[Guest Guest Curious]

On 12/28/2018 at 4:22 AM, Steve5380 said:

Yes, a gay sauna is uniquely exciting.  The prospect of meeting persons who share the common goal of having casual sex,  in a place set up for casual sexual encounters,  enjoying total privacy from  the external world but not the other guests of the sauna.  There is excitement in the  chase for sex, the unpredictability of the pleasures (or lack of) to be encountered.

Well of course it would be for a 77 year old man whose one desire in life as he has admitted several times in BW is sex tourism to Asia annually so he can spend all his time visiting saunas in Singapore and around the region. And not having been able to travel to Singapore for over a year due to covid19 he is clearly overcome both with sexual desire and also desperation that he might never be able to return. No doubt young smooth Asian guys who must exist all over Houston and Texas are far less interested in hooking up with an old man. So he has to spend a fortune flying half way around the world to satisfy his sexual needs.

 

On 12/24/2018 at 3:26 AM, Steve5380 said:

II was never so lucky to enjoy so much sex that I get numb,

but it seems reasonable that making actual sex rare can restore a healthy, voracious libido,

like the libido gets stronger with unfulfilled sex.  Have you tried this? 

Tell that to a happily married couple who enjoy sex more than three times a week and totally enjoy it. 

[Guest Slut]

On 12/24/2018 at 2:27 AM, Guest MrMister said:

When I first started visiting saunas abt a year back, I was like a kid in a candy store. I can go on a sauna crawl for like 3 times a week and each and everytime, I will find someone new to have fun with. I felt like I had a renewed and hightened libido that allowed me to cum easily twice at any of these visits.

 

But after a year, the visits have reduced to max twice a month but I noticed that I am less excited during these visits now. I can walk along the maze like a zombie and quite often, i leave the saunas not being attracted to anyone at all. Anyone else feeling this way ? Its like being sauna jaded. 

Numb as in my mouth and ass?

[Guest Derelict]

2 hours ago, Guest Guest Curious said:

Well of course it would be for a 77 year old man whose one desire in life as he has admitted several times in BW is sex tourism to Asia annually so he can spend all his time visiting saunas in Singapore and around the region. And not having been able to travel to Singapore for over a year due to covid19 he is clearly overcome both with sexual desire and also desperation that he might never be able to return. No doubt young smooth Asian guys who must exist all over Houston and Texas are far less interested in hooking up with an old man. So he has to spend a fortune flying half way around the world to satisfy his sexual needs.

 

Tell that to a happily married couple who enjoy sex more than three times a week and totally enjoy it. 

Yes, after covid that dying thing is 79 or older? Unlikely to pollute Asia.  It can still fly but to be wheeled into the Sauna wil be a funny and pathetic sight.  I think the boss wouldn't let it enter. Will definitely affect business.

[Guest Wtf]

17 hours ago, Guest Lawrence said:

 

How did it go? I go to sauna almost every other day. Usually for hot shower. I dont have heater at home. Could be very expensive to buy and install and it will just add up to monthly electricity bill.

Wow, sauna must be dead cheap - where do you go and how much you pay? 

[Guest Jaded]

Working as intended. 

God made us like that. 

It's a fail safe system built into human. 

 

If don't have this safety feature of numbness. 

Human kind will be engaging in sex non stop 24 hours and civilization will cease to exist. 

[Expired Btm Uncle]

Its called the law of diminishing marginal return. keep having abalone will one day get sick and tired of it. 

[Guest not to take serious]

On 3/28/2021 at 1:10 AM, Guest Lawrence said:

 

How did it go? I go to sauna almost every other day. Usually for hot shower. I dont have heater at home. Could be very expensive to buy and install and it will just add up to monthly electricity bill.

very silly comment. The daily entrance fee for the sauna should be higher than any electricity expense for a heater at home...

[Guest post digger]

On 3/28/2021 at 11:45 AM, Guest Guest Curious said:

On 12/28/2018 at 5:22 AM, Steve5380 said:

 

Yes, a gay sauna is uniquely exciting.  The prospect of meeting persons who share the common goal of having casual sex,  in a place set up for casual sexual encounters,  enjoying total privacy from  the external world but not the other guests of the sauna.  There is excitement in the  chase for sex, the unpredictability of the pleasures (or lack of) to be encountered.

 

Well of course it would be for a 77 year old man whose one desire in life as he has admitted several times in BW is sex tourism to Asia annually so he can spend all his time visiting saunas in Singapore and around the region. And not having been able to travel to Singapore for over a year due to covid19 he is clearly overcome both with sexual desire and also desperation that he might never be able to return. No doubt young smooth Asian guys who must exist all over Houston and Texas are far less interested in hooking up with an old man. So he has to spend a fortune flying half way around the world to satisfy his sexual needs.

 

Tell that to a happily married couple who enjoy sex more than three times a week and totally enjoy it. 

I guess you forgot all the sexcapades at all the different stop overs on the way to Singapore...

 

Now you even have to resort to dig out almost dead old posts from 2018 from Steve to bash on him?