Share your experience of being Ghosted, Catfish encounter (compiled)

[Steve5380]

28 minutes ago, kingbitch said:

 

He should of course seek therapy. But between him dead or being alive and continuing his ridiculous behaviour, I would pick the former.

 

His behavior is of course inappropriate.  Therapy?  It doesn't do magic, but it might help.  At 30 he is still young, and problems like his are not too uncommon. He might overcome them when he is older, more mature.  Death should be out of the question, even if his behavior is deceptive although not dangerous.  We should not wish death to those who are a burden to society but have a chance to improve.  Every life has value.

[kingbitch]

18 minutes ago, Steve5380 said:

 

His behavior is of course inappropriate.  Therapy?  It doesn't do magic, but it might help.  At 30 he is still young, and problems like his are not too uncommon. He might overcome them when he is older, more mature.  Death should be out of the question, even if his behavior is deceptive although not dangerous.  We should not wish death to those who are a burden to society but have a chance to improve.  Every life has value.

 

You've always been kinder

 

I have met genuinely worthless individuals and I truly feel they are better not having existed. 

[Steve5380]

11 minutes ago, kingbitch said:

 

I have met genuinely worthless individuals and I truly feel they are better not having existed. 

 

I have considered at times if it would not be better if I have not existed.

But one doesn't have a choice.

[Guest Enter]

4 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

"I experience nothing of the sort with my real pictures. Nobody wants to talk to me, and hardly anyone wants me. At age 30, you can only imagine the toll this would have on my mental health. I am single, alone, and haven’t had sex yet."

 

"I know many of you will be upset with me, not only for breaching people’s trust and taking advantage of a minority community in a country like mine. But I’m sorry. I know what I’m doing is wrong. Deep inside I am alone, sad, regularly go through bouts of depression, and contemplate suicide every other day."

 

Poor thing!  At 30 he is single, alone, and haven't had sex yet.  And he is contemplating suicide!

With all the time he spends "catfishing", he could make himself attractive at 30 so that he has no problems finding sex the real way.

Cybersex might be a better alternative for him as most of the time, the handsome hunks turn out to be hyper bitchy sistahs who only look good in photos. Haha... 

[Guest Bitched]

11 hours ago, Eclectic33 said:

Hmm. Maybe... but then again, i look like my picture and i doubt he even saw me. But thanks for the insight

It is not how you look, it is how he look ,and he chickened out that you may find him not the same person he showed you in the picture.  Which explains why he didn't want to pick you up personally and wanted to give you a "surprise" but decided not to proceed.  You are lucky, the person could be an ugly old bitch nobody wants and he also didn't you want to find out which unit he stays.  He is a ghost in disguise.  

[Seekgoodsucker]

Probably cos while u otw, he managed to find another guy... N that made u the one of the available options..

 

so when u reach n he saw u.. he decide not to ‘shortlist’ u 

[Guest enlightening]

Can be a thousand reasons.

Some people just like to  play games with others.

 

1) It might that you annoyed him some other time or didn't meet up on a previous chat and he just took revenge. Some people can be very narrow minded... 

 

2) He is very closeted , knows he is gay but totally not out. he dared to meet you up, but then got cold feet. It is easy to be at an app like grindr, you can hide behind your profile...

 

3) It was obvious that you would reject him when you meet because he was not honest and the pics fake. when he saw you he realised, this is going to happen

 

4) There are guys who start hating everyone else and start being jealous about other lifes and to release their hate, they will resort inconveniencing other people...

 

I think the first two are most obvious, because of the background that he asked you if you are on the way and on public transport.

 

there are many people on grindr who tend to delete their profile and create a new one every 2nd day. The best is to keep a screenshot of the pictures exchanged. You will laugh, mostly they will re-use the same "fake" pics again.

 

If the other doesn't tell me the unit number from the start, then I don't even make a move.

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2017/02/28/am-i-being-catfished-9-ways-to-spot-fakers-online/

[fab]

His bf just came back.

[Guest melt]

you looked dread gorgeous and he melted away on the spot...

[Creevie]

Poor thing. I kena once too. Grindr. Woodlands pool evening. Disappeared from Grindr when I reached. But he didn't disappear from my fav list  and I forgot how but I knew he was probably a teacher in primary school. From the fav list I messaged him something like "u do this to ur students often in school?" To scare him. 

But yeah shit happens. Not too furious too. Juz feel disappointed why ppl can be like this. 

[DeMarko]

Those who chickened out when agreed to meet up but never appear at the scene are the LOSERS !!!!!

[pansapiens]

...ah, he's a gay incel. Well, I suppose it's a good thing he hasn't got himself a gun yet.

[Seungjun]

Maybe it's cos of all these fakers that make people start trying their luck on IG or FB instead. Fucking annoying.

 

I had an acquaintance unfriend and block me once after he arranged to meet up with a catfisher using my pic. I was like, eh bro you got my contact right? Just message me to confirm lah. Fucking stupid.

[Guest Cruel reality]

Do I thank him for being honest? 

Must I pity him for being 30, lonely and unwanted?

 

I've seen so many ugly guys having fantastic dates, gf, bf and wives! And that's because they have something else to offer! Money, good character, etc..

 

It's his choice to walk this path. And I'm not pitying him

[Ben S]

3 hours ago, pansapiens said:

...ah, he's a gay incel. Well, I suppose it's a good thing he hasn't got himself a gun yet.

I don't think he's incel since he knows what he's lacking, and he's not angry at others.

It's just that I don't see he mentioned any effort to change things he can change (physically)

 

To most people, below is considered time wasting, especially in hookup app

" I wasn’t interested, at the time, in hook-ups or dates; I just wanted a hot guy to talk to. "

 

There seems to be some satisfactory for him to dupe someone and getting their cock pic to jerk off at.

otherwise, he should have gone to cyber sex / chat room , or just straight up watch porn ... plenty cocks there, and it moves

 

In summary, I don't see any valid reason he had given to justify his catfishing activities.

if he wants to change his life, then he needs to start doing something new and can provide positive impact

[Guest Lao uncle]

It's not so bad actually.

There are plenty of lonely gays wanting to chat with others. But they lack coincidence. Using a proxy identity liberates them and they suddenly transforms from geeky Clark Kent to Superman.

I won't be surprised that many catfishes are able to finally chat with each other. It's just like a masquerade party.

 

Are we really happy with this lonely game we play?
Looking for words to say
Searching but not finding understanding anyway
We're lost in this masquerade

[Bridge]
Both afraid to say we're just too far away
From being close together from the start
We tried to talk it over but the words got in the way
We're lost inside this lonely game we play.

[youngnalive]

Lololololol this is just low, sad and pathetic

[Eclectic33]

Thanks for helping me understand the various situations that could be the case. Sounds corny but i really am very much enlightened now. Tbh i am most fearful about the situation that he showed me a fake pic and actually was a totally different person in real life. If i had to meet him i would not know what to do.  Would rather not meet at all. Now I am feeling thankful, for you guys and not having to reject someone in such an awkward setting. 

[Steve5380]

31 minutes ago, Eclectic33 said:

Thanks for helping me understand the various situations that could be the case. Sounds corny but i really am very much enlightened now. Tbh i am most fearful about the situation that he showed me a fake pic and actually was a totally different person in real life. If i had to meet him i would not know what to do.  Would rather not meet at all. Now I am feeling thankful, for you guys and not having to reject someone in such an awkward setting. 

 

If you ever find yourself in such an awkward setting, hopefully you have the smarts to get out of it, with or without rejection, instead of feeling trapped by it.  You can fake a telephone call, some news you receive that forces you to leave immediately, or something like that.

[Garyl]

2 hours ago, Eclectic33 said:

Thanks for helping me understand the various situations that could be the case. Sounds corny but i really am very much enlightened now. Tbh i am most fearful about the situation that he showed me a fake pic and actually was a totally different person in real life. If i had to meet him i would not know what to do.  Would rather not meet at all. Now I am feeling thankful, for you guys and not having to reject someone in such an awkward setting. 

I think many of us would have experienced this before. Part of growing up.

[Garyl]

13 hours ago, fab said:

His bf just came back.

Thanks your angel that you are outskde and not in the house.

[Guest enlightening]

4 hours ago, Eclectic33 said:

Thanks for helping me understand the various situations that could be the case. Sounds corny but i really am very much enlightened now. Tbh i am most fearful about the situation that he showed me a fake pic and actually was a totally different person in real life. If i had to meet him i would not know what to do.  Would rather not meet at all. Now I am feeling thankful, for you guys and not having to reject someone in such an awkward setting. 

 

Try to stay nice at grindr.

The risks of getting "cheated" are known to you now but no need to copy the bad attitude of others or that rude behaviour which is prevalent in Singapore.

And I don't confirm what this Walter wrote that you don't manage to respond to all guys. Sure you do. And every guy would understand if you tell that you're busy....

[Carpenter]

On 1/3/2019 at 8:00 AM, Garyl said:

Do a video call b4 meet next time. Power of tech

But only to say hi n not camsex lor. Otherwise if you meet a bad kind, you will probably ended up on someone Twitter NSFW tweet.

Anyway, why do people still use Grindr, I think it's a shitty app with lots of problem, at least jackd or blued work better n one can actually video call someone directly from it.

Edited January 4, 2019 by Carpenter

[justanotherme]

Chatted with a guy who claimed that he is local. Then proceeded to send me all the pic of a taiwanese actor. I was like...wtf.

He insisted that he is that person when all the photos were clearly taken off the internet.

like...why?

[Garyl]

He is crazy or think you are crazy

[Guest Hunkle]

Next time dun be so despo and go to the other person's house. Find a neutral place like suburban mall to meet. U never know, both may find each yucky after meeting and at least can continue shopping or cruising at the mall LOL.

[Fit4Masc]

When their profile pic (most probably just the one pic) is too good looking.  Than it's probably a fake profile.

[MadMan]

Which is why I prefer to meet first time in sauna, not even hotel. But many Grindr members are discreet, don’t want to be seen in sauna. 

[Guest copyright]

58 minutes ago, MadMan said:

Which is why I prefer to meet first time in sauna, not even hotel. But many Grindr members are discreet, don’t want to be seen in sauna. 

 

Your profile pictures looks quite copyrighted to me....

 

I wouldn't meet in a sauna for the first time.

Just think if it will be the love of your life and you asked him to meet up at the sauna for the first date...

Then you celebrate every year at the sauna the birthday of your relationship.

Oh damn great, "Guys we met here in 2011, yep, no the buffet is not from us... "

 

Meeting on neutral ground is a good idea, but then if you are horny, need 1 hour to travel to your place and ops. Plus the guy has too many reasons to jump out if on the way he will decide otherwise.

I would take the risk, if it is a catfish, at least I ventured into a new area in Singapore (if not have been there)... and can always try a different food court. Once I was catfished at Hougang, travelled all the way, the original guy gave a wrong address, I got some dinner at the place and during dinner was contacted by another nice guy, who was alone at home... it turned out sex was not the most thrilling but the trip was not totally wasted... 

If he turned up at my place and looks are 150% different, then I would just tell him, sorry, I think it won't work out.

Strangely, most of the guys ended up in my bed. LOL (most not all)...

 

 

[Guest Guest]

Met this guy once and wasn't catfished. However, he looked so different as compared to the pic he sent to me. When i asked him about it he told me yea that was me 5 years ago when i went to the gym. -.-

 

The only difference between him and the pic was that he was probably 15kg lighter. He said to me technically i didn't cheat you as that was my pic. oh well.

[KennyHills]

Happened to me too. Got catfished several years ago. Nowadays, I am little bit careful. Only meet in public area near my place. It is easier to reject people too. Lol.

[tomcat]

most probably he spotted you, and changed his mind. it happens.

and i profess that i have changed my mind too when the actual person is standing infront of me.

 

even though many beg and say, "this is my picture what" but for a multitude of reasons  (outdated, deceiving angle, deceiving lighting, etc)

it's just not the same as the picture.

I can honestly say it is within my right to change my mind, everyone has that right.

 

but with that power also comes responsibility (yasss ben parker), and it means you have to treat yourself and the other person respectfully.

I never ghost or catfish, but just honestly and openly state the reasons.

 

some guys take it well, some guys dont. but I have acted with dignity and respect. 

 

so just take it as life experience, and try to be honourable yourself in most circumstances.

thanks for writing in, but if it really was not a big deal, you would have surmised the reasons and moved on pretty fast.

 

[Guest Video call first]

On 1/3/2019 at 9:00 AM, Garyl said:

Do a video call b4 meet next time. Power of tech

Agreed. Doing so will resolve this hassle of no show, especially if one is to travel a long way to meet the other guy.

If the other guy doesn't want to accept a video call, then it is your decision to whether it is safe or worth going to meet. 

[Alponsu]

That's a big waste of time though

[Guest Anti troll]

Ask for recent pic, and no funny angles/cap/sunglasses. Many trolls in grindr who do not want to accept the fact that they are below average/ugly so they catfish or use ancient pics (for middle age men)

[Guest enlightening]

5 hours ago, Alponsu said:

That's a big waste of time though

 

yep. and often you get a feeling that the guy wants to do some jerk off on video call and is not intersted in meeting in real at all.

Therefore, I am more suspicious if they ask for video call.

[Guest enlightening]

6 hours ago, tomcat said:

most probably he spotted you, and changed his mind. it happens.

and i profess that i have changed my mind too when the actual person is standing infront of me.

 

even though many beg and say, "this is my picture what" but for a multitude of reasons  (outdated, deceiving angle, deceiving lighting, etc)

it's just not the same as the picture.

I can honestly say it is within my right to change my mind, everyone has that right.

 

but with that power also comes responsibility (yasss ben parker), and it means you have to treat yourself and the other person respectfully.

I never ghost or catfish, but just honestly and openly state the reasons.

 

some guys take it well, some guys dont. but I have acted with dignity and respect. 

 

so just take it as life experience, and try to be honourable yourself in most circumstances.

thanks for writing in, but if it really was not a big deal, you would have surmised the reasons and moved on pretty fast.

 

keep it please up to respond on apps, even if you need or want to reject.

Nothing is worse than ignoring others.

And for those who complain if you reject. I always tell them that for sure he wants both to enjoy, when I can't then would he enjoy?

[Guest Nate]

On 1/3/2019 at 2:29 AM, Eclectic33 said:

So here me out,

 

Yesterday on an app, someone pm me. After chatting and exchanging photos, he said his place was free at night and ask me to come over. After agreeing, we continued to talk about other stuff. 

 

We exchanged another form of contact as well. At around the arranged timing, he asked if i was on public transport and on the way there. I told him i was on the bus and would reach soon. Upon reaching, i told him to come pick me up cause he didnt give me his unit number. He asked me why dont i just come up myself. (In my mind i was thinking this was weird cause he didnt give me any info on which floor to go) after asking which unit, he told me the floor number 8. After that, he suddenly ghosted. Disappeared from the app, uncontactable on the other mode of contact.

 

So can someone tell me, why do people do this? Im not furious cause i didnt stay long and didnt really travel that far. What's the point of this? 

 

Bewildered boy

 

It happened to me twice. It is never enough LOL

[Muscgear02]

Dont worry. It happened to me too. Which is why I never ever plan to meet anyone anymore on social media (even on BW) anymore. I choose to just meet people on the streets or smth. Easier that way. 

[Guest Renzy]

On 1/3/2019 at 8:19 AM, GachiMuchi said:

Confession: I Regularly Catfished On Grindr. Here’s Why

A self-professed veteran catfish on Grindr shares his candid confession on why he catfishes regularly on Grindr!

 

March 5, 2018

 

 

 

I wake up realising that the AC has been switched off. In my disorientated state, I frantically unlock my phone to find the source of my pleasure.

“Grindr” shows up in a private folder on my phone, and I click on the app. The first thing I do without hesitation is to click the messages icon at the top. I click on it repeatedly, anxious to see if “Nick” has replied. When I see Nick’s profile at the top of my unread messages, I am relieved. My grin turns into a chuckle when I see he has indeed sent me nudes of himself, as he promised just hours before.

He really does have a nice thick one, I note, and whip out my own to start masturbating to them. A quick shiver, and a low moan. I come. I instantly proceed to the bathroom to wash myself. The jerk off session was quick, and satisfying, and I now long for a snack. Perhaps a bite out of a karipap Mum usually makes for tea. Or maybe not. I had other things to do first, I reminded myself.

Within a few minutes however, I chat up another guy. The cycle continues, and the catfishing starts anew.

For the uninitiated, catfishing refers to the act of using someone else’s photos, usually for the purpose of pursuing deceptive online romances.

Dear Straight People,

I’m not sure when exactly I started catfishing. It may have been two or three years ago, maybe earlier. But what I am certain is that I am quite a pro at it.

I know exactly how to get around having multiple profiles on Grindr using just one email address – instead of making multiple email IDs every time – and I know what things to put on your profile that will get you all sorts of messages and picture, in an instant.

It’s a process that has taken years of experience (both good and bad) to perfect, and I’m quite proud of it.

My Grindr profile – let’s call him Jack – is creatively designed and incorporated using random Asian models on the web. Asian men, from experience, are most likely to get me a response compared to other ethnicities. I then stock up on various shots of genitalia from another source to make picture-perfect “Jack”.

The end product is magnificent; a 5’2”, versatile top, and one heck of a hunk. Jack is mine, and I love him. But I have to share him, or else it’s no fun.

Source

My smartphone in one hand, and a charging cable in another (catfishing can take hours, if I’m in the mood), and my adventures begin. I start by reaching out to whoever I want to talk to on Grindr. This ranges from hunks and fit, lean men, twinks, daddies, silver foxes, #masc4masc, and on several occasions, my next-door neighbours.

Sometimes, I come across classmates and former friends of mine. Often, these were the same people I would fantasise about in high school or college. Having kept a minimal presence on social media for so long, it was nice to catch up with these friends and acquaintances I once knew.

Nicer still was seeing them fully nude, no doubt, but it was just something else being able to talk to someone, and have a meaningful conversation, if you just looked, different.

Make no mistake that catfishing is easy work. However, even with all my efforts, it took Nick several hours before he trusted “Jack” to share his nudes. Getting guys to send you nudes takes time, dedication, and precision. No one is going to talk to you, let alone trade dick pics, if you take hours to reply, and not bother to string more than a couple of syllables as your choice response.

The size of Jack’s penis may have well accelerated the process, no doubt, but Nick would have never offered to trade nudes if Jack was not the hunk of a boy that I had designed him to be in the first place. Nick would have never sent the real me his pictures. And I’m not being fanatical – I had tried chatting Nick up through a different Grindr account, but once we started traded pictures, I never heard from him again.

I was overweight, ugly, and with acne, and nobody, nobody wanted to “tap that”.

But once I started catfishing, it was like I was finally desired. Conversations and fantasies were shared, all throughout the night, and nudes came in on demand. So quick they were, that I would sometimes challenge myself to get them under an hour, to see how efficient I was at my hobby.

I experience nothing of the sort with my real pictures. Nobody wants to talk to me, and hardly anyone wants me. At age 30, you can only imagine the toll this would have on my mental health. I am single, alone, and haven’t had sex yet.

 

Source

My first go at online dating pales to my catfishing adventures today. I must have been 16 or 17 when I first downloaded a dating app.

Dumbfounded at the simplicity behind the idea, I remember thinking online dating was too good to be true. Friends of mine credited solely these apps for having being able to find their significant others – in fact, two of my friends remained together for years after hitting it off on Tinder – so I figured the same would work out for me too.

I sent my first message out to an account at random, and immediately thought he was the one. I mean, he seemed intellectual (he used perfect grammar in his bio), mature (he was politically aware), and above all, he was drop dead gorgeous! Plus, he was a well-built Asian man. The thrill I experienced at this point is indescribable beyond compare.

Growing up in a country like Singapore, where LGBT rights remain largely unrecognised, I had initially found it difficult to connect the dots: gay people aren’t just those effeminate men with handbags, they’re just like ordinary people. So being exposed for the first time to such openness and diverseness among gay people, through Grindr, impressed me, and changed my view on the idea.

Source

When I was asked to send him a few pictures of myself, I hesitated.

Being a little on the plus size did little to raise any self-esteem I had at that point. And I had a bad camera, so any pictures I sent him wouldn’t suffice. I told him I would take a few pictures later. He stopped replying back to me soon after that. The same thing happened with other guys I mustered up the courage to text. Even when I started using pictures of myself, I realised soon enough that I was simply not good enough for seemingly anyone on the app.

“Fat. Not interested.”

“Malay? Not my type, sorry.”

“Not into u sorry.”

And so began my first step into the real world. Rejection. Discrimination even within a discriminated group.

I want to say that I persevered, and that I started working on building my body. Or that I started taking to the local gym, and found my boyfriend of 10 years there. But life sadly, isn’t that simple, and I started to catfish soon after.

I would tell myself:

“Nobody was going to talk to me anyway, so what wrong was it if I use someone else’s pictures?

Anyway, it was not like I was going to meet up with them for teh tarik or a date, so it’s not that bad, right?”

I wasn’t interested, at the time, in hook-ups or dates; I just wanted a hot guy to talk to.

Source

Dating apps like Tinder and Grindr do little to bring together communities and people with similar interests.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and nothing rings true to me than this. Beauty is the only thing in the eye of the beholder, and it matters not how kind you are, how much of a decent human being you are, or how much you do for society. It matters only, if you take pictures while shirtless, with your muscles bulging, and your pecs and abs on show for the world to see. It’s been a while since I catfished.

I’m not saying I’m proud – and believe me when I say that I do not, and will not condone catfishing – of what I do, or what I used to do.

Catfishing for me is seasonal; I don’t do it every day.

I know many of you will be upset with me, not only for breaching people’s trust and taking advantage of a minority community in a country like mine. But I’m sorry. I know what I’m doing is wrong. Deep inside I am alone, sad, regularly go through bouts of depression, and contemplate suicide every other day.

Like all of you, I am human, and I have needs, and I am sad at how my life has turned out.

But that is my story. I hope things get better for me.

Contributed by Jack

Note: Edits to parts of the submission not affecting the primary message have been made.

 

 

 

 

I can’t imagine why some people do it.

[Guest fishing rod]

Don't understand what is the fun with catfishing. At the end of the road, the guy stands in front of you.

 

Ok, about the weight, I think we all had phases where we put on weight. On others where we lost.

 

Some guys like to change pics on their profiles every week. great.

 

I only got catfished once by a guy in KL. But even if I wasted my time, nothing happened because I was disappointed.

 

But it is very silly and I m not sure if successful.

 

Probably, if you had put up a nice picture of you and on the first moment when meeting you seem a bit "Oh, is it the guy from the pic"  but it still shows similarity with the guy, I would bet guys would still have fun on a 50 - 50 base. But if you put a cute boy pic and then the guy you meet is totally different (age, looks, weight height etc) probably then 99% would reject any action.

Therefore: What is your gain in catfishing?

 

But with some catfishers I have the sense, they actually don't expect to meet a guy or the guy willing to meet up. They just want to harm you, traveling to the place, spending money on a cab or something. It are just guys who have been rejected all the time and then they tend to punish others for fun.

 

As the guys mostly come to my place, can always deny entry. ha ha

[doncoin]

Reading the article, the only thing I see is the guy craves attention. Not in that reality star way, but just want someone to see him, that he is not invisible. Unfortunately, those hookup/dating apps tend to be visual, and if you do not fit a certain look, chances are, you will be swiped. 

 

Rather than focus on the attention others bring to him, perhaps he can seek a more productive outlet to channel his insecurities- i.e. getting into the gym. 

 

It is a pretty sad story really. While I think he means no harm, the only one he is really harming is his own self-esteem in the long run.

[Guest Blank]

On 1/3/2019 at 2:33 AM, ArchDragon said:

He could have noticed you from his unit and maybe you're not his type in real life.

 

this ^

 

you know, i used to have a friend who asked someone (example like you) to wait somewhere (example library). when he saw him from a far corner and found out he wasn't his type, he simply ran away and went to look for me (i'm his friend, not some fwb) where he told me this story. consolation: i did tell him off saying not to do this in future. i don't think he's lying to me as i knew he has a crush on me but i don't feel right with him after he confessed to me. i wish he didn't confess because it made me distant fr him somehow as i don't wish to give him false hopes. hopefully what i did is right.

[Guest Knight of Hanoi]

" I sent my first message out to an account at random, and immediately thought he was the one. I mean, he seemed intellectual (he used perfect grammar in his bio), mature (he was politically aware), and above all, he was drop dead gorgeous! Plus, he was a well-built Asian man. The thrill I experienced at this point is indescribable beyond compare."

 

" I was overweight, ugly, and with acne, and nobody, nobody wanted to “tap that”. "

 

 

 

OK LOL. This is going to offend some people but hey, reality is harsh. Why did the writer not pursue someone like himself? Specifically " overweight, ugly, and with acne".

 

If he has issues accepting folks from his own league, then how can he expect gorgeous hunks way above his league to accept him? 

 

He then proceeded to use his predicament as an excuse for catfishing. WTF lol. 

Maybe start dating people within your league? Or make active changes like getting a ripped bod or plastic surgery if you are so desperate for hunks. 

 

Classic case of 癞蛤蟆想吃天鹅肉. Toad lusting over swans flesh. 

[Guest Clementi Boy]

On 11/12/2018 at 12:30 AM, yoyo74 said:

There is a lot of discreet people out here who dont want to show their real face or photo here. During meet up they will hide in a place hoping for some handsome or fit guy and when the other party see you not up to their expectation in terms of face or body than of cause they will disappear before you can really see them. Even if you told them that you are ugly or fat they might not believe it until they see the real product themselves. So in order to reduce lots of wastage of time, you will have no choice and be lesser discreet and show the real current photo before meet up.

There is also a smaller chance even if you show your real current photo you might get played with disappearing act as there are lots of gay haters around waiting to sabo gay guys. Your disappointment and anger fuels their enjoyment. If such disappearing act really happen you just have to live with it, continue be cool without anger or sad and always expect such things to happen before really meet up. No point getting mad over past incident that wont affect your future.

 

Spot on! Had been a victim twice of disappearing act.

[Guest guest2]

Im guilty to share this but i also doing it sometimes when the guy is already in the void deck or in front of our condo gate i didnt show up and blocked them immidietly only because when i saw them in person they are really really not attractive at all compared to their pictures, like really cannot and i dont know how to reject them so thats why. I feel guilty still whenever i do that i feel bad to the person who takes time to come.

[LeanMature]

Don't do that.  The least you can do is offer an apology, not back off like a coward.

[Tricyclo]

There's a few who would tempt u into meeting them. The worst I had was to travel from north to the west(mind u it wasnt just the west it was complicated getting there) and he told me to wait downstairs. Then he just ghosted me and then he blocked me lmfao I was fucking pissed off. Another one was saying he was some discreet fella and when I was reaching he blocked me gosh lol after that I just uninstalled and never looked back

[feedersmiracle]

I actually don't have Instagram because I don't like looking at social media. Then how lol...

On 11/11/2018 at 11:50 PM, Ironrod said:

 

I never heard something so fuckup b4. U have bring it to the next level Mr Guest.

 

Word of advice to all -

 

1) Chat for a few days b4 even meeting , this will weed out impatient/ flakey minds and insincere person

2) Trade insta if you think he is using a fake pix. If he doesn't even have insta probably - can pass. Don't bother with the risk

3) Video "meet" first b4 even bother to meet physically

 

For closet case or paranoids, just jerk-off don't bother to hookup with any human. That's the safest.