Share your experience of being Ghosted, Catfish encounter (compiled)

[calvt]

6 hours ago, JyT said:

For me no matter what politeness  regardless of anyything!!! I m.still meeting a few PLU tht I rejected them. For dinners  chit chat and meet up not just sex !!!!!! 

You’re a decent good person. I met some here also and only one kept in touch via chats/DMs since I’m not in sg most of the time. The rest are just wasting my time in finding a friend. 

Edited July 29, 2023 by calvt

[Steve5380]

23 hours ago, Guest Sissy Boy said:

You are probably right.  I am not very attractive.  That man prefer a hunk and manly person.  He took a glance at me, sissy boy, dissappointed and left me alone for hours, habouring hope of seeing him.    He didn't sound like the type of man who would ditch me.  He was humourous, seem caring and very understanding when we chatted. 

 

WHY am I probably right that you are not very attractive?   I never wrote this, and I cannot know.  It is YOU who passes judgment.  And you could not possible have known that "he took a glance at me, disappointed left me alone...",   since you never saw him!!  

 

We can easily misjudge ourselves and think that we ugly.  It happened to me when I was young.  Today I look at my pictures from then,  and think "oh was I attractive and didn't notice it".  So stop misjudging yourself and lower your bar from "very" attractive.  We are all attractive in one way or another. 

 

And you still don't know WHY he didn't show up.  Maybe he got a stroke, or was run over by a car.  Be kind to yourself and choose the best outcome for you.

[JyT]

13 hours ago, Guest Guest said:

 

Could your English be the reason why he rejected you? 

His English also f up ,is not bout English bout how I view him as a person I was expecting tht he protects me but he protects his perm team mate colleagues who also PLU first instead of me that other reason why I dislike him especially we are on the same team..the moment I got up to the car he mentioned the person name I disliked so I suspecting alot weather he is attached to him ornot as he always look up to the PLU colleagues as well. 

[JyT]

Just now, JyT said:

His English also f up ,is not bout English bout how I view him as a person I was expecting tht he protects me but he protects his perm team mate colleagues who also PLU first instead of me that other reason why I dislike him especially we are on the same team..the moment I got up to the car he mentioned the person name I disliked so I suspecting alot weather he is attached to him ornot as he always look up to the PLU colleagues as well. 

Instead of me n yup I angry with tht that why I rejected him once we having eating nor he mentioned him during lunch time hope this help 

[auscent]

It is good to meet in person. Moderate the expectations. Too much/ too little of it can be a turn off.

[sgnorth26]

12 hours ago, JyT said:

For me no matter what politeness  regardless of anyything!!! I m.still meeting a few PLU tht I rejected them. For dinners  chit chat and meet up not just sex !!!!!! 

true. i hate it when ppl in rs had to have sex everytime you met. why can’t it be normal couple having dates and fun instead of sex

[radiusulnar]

i sometimes ghost as well when i am at a loss of what to say or when i get tired having to repeatedly explain my POV

[EastChat]

sometimes honesty is always appreciated. the worst is when they don't even have the courtesy to say. give me an honest man anyday.

[LeanMature]

On 7/28/2023 at 8:43 PM, Guest Sad said:

How to tell if you are being ghosted? I made a few connection thru this forum. 

 

We chatted abit. Few weeks. Nothing personal nothing excessive. I feel ready to take the next step to meet up. Not for sex. Just meet up to put a face to the people I am chatting with. Not for relationship. Just to meet up. Coffee? Not even fancy mall. Kopitiam. I'm fine to travel to a kopitiam near you... 

 

I just wanted to meet friends. That's all. 

 

Then I get ghosted. I mean, if you don't feel comfortable or not ready or duwan. Cannot just say "I prefer to remain online." or "I don't want to meet you". 

 

I mean I don't pushed them if I don't get response. But they just practically ghosted me after that. 

 

Makes me feel scared to initiate or ask for anything more. Anyone feel its hard to make any connection with another human in today's age? 

 

Ironic isn't it. That we are in the glory days of electronic communication yet we seem to have trouble really connecting. 

 

Be upfront about the PURPOSE of meeting up.  Most of the meetup here is exclusively sensual, if not something more.  Even if the purpose is mutual, the look and physique must meet each other expectation.  Only then relationship will naturally follow.  This is how random meetup goes.

[innocense]

I got ghosted too, hell I even got a guy who fly me on pigeon half-way thru our meet up.

 

You will encounter many more who can't be bother to give a proper closure and choose to just ghost, better get used to it.

Edited July 30, 2023 by innocense

[Guest guest]

18 minutes ago, innocense said:

I got ghosted too, hell I even got a guy who fly me on pigeon half-way thru our meet up.

 

You will encounter many more who can't be bother to give a proper closure and choose to just ghost, better get used to it.

In this era, everyone can't be bother to give a proper closure or tell the other person what is happening, whether meetup from forum or even friends that know many years. They can simply just disappear and don't contact you anymore just like that and left you wondering why you are being treated like this.

[leviathan78]

This just happened to me. We have been seeing each other a few times and mostly I had to be the one making the effort to meet. And when I told him about that, poof... he just stopped responding to my texts and disappeared.

[nick0503]

Sometime just dont expect too much until u meet. Even u met, must be make sure the communication in both way. Finally even u comfirm above still grt ghost, is luck. He just got a better choice i guess

[Matw]

For some reasons, although there should be quite some fake profiles on the dating apps, so far I haven't encountered one.

 

Not sure if I'm lucky.

But I'm just curious, like how it is like? You saw their profiles, decided to meet up, then when you reached, the other guy hit on you, only then you realised it's catfish?

[Guest Scruffy Chinese]

So many weirdos out there.

Fit , muscular chinese male. Chatted long time with my friend over grindr.

Offered to host a 3s with us.

Keep disappearing a long time and taking a while to reply.

Finally gave us a block number and street address. Said will meet us at the ground floor lift landing.

When we reached we the lift landing and asked where he was , he blocked both of us.

 

Stupid us didn't videocall first to establish identity. Served us right!

 

[Guest Jaded]

Anyone else encountered this 'white, married beefcake daddy' with really hot body on grindr? Always says 'sure, love to son' when asked if he would fuck mebit always tired cos just met his regular fbs, or in China on business. Then for sure will meet when he comes back, but never happens. Telegram profile is M...D....

Even has a blogspot with raunchy stories of public encounters that are too amazing to be believed.

What's also sus? For an American his English is so cmi

[Kimochi]

 

For some reasons, although there should be quite some fake profiles on the dating apps, so far I haven't encountered one.

 

Not sure if I'm lucky.

But I'm just curious, like how it is like? You saw their profiles, decided to meet up, then when you reached, the other guy hit on you, only then you realised it's catfish?

https://www.blowingwind.io/forum/topic/109319-post-catfish-people-here-~/?do=findComment&comment=2528350

[chaserslavewanted]

Reviving this thread cos I think I just encountered a catfish. 
 

angmoh profile on Grindr, muscled chaser into chubs. Says he’s working here. Chatted a while, moved to tele, ask for insta, don’t want to give insta name. Video call to “verify” but the video call last 3 sec and no face is seen but picture frozen. Ask to see your parts cos he’s horny and wants to jerk off. Lucky I’m smart to say no. Tells you some grandfather story that last time he met someone in Hougang who is willing to show him his. Try to trick you into false sense of security. In the end we end convo, got blocked everywhere. But here’s the kicker he has zero online presence at all. For someone from US to come work in sg, at the very least should have a good linkedin profile if not cannot come here and work right. This among many other warning signs. Just be weary of a “milesjacey” and remember if it’s too good to be true, it probably isn’t. 

[egal]

he promised to be my slave but chickened out

[SociNerd]

I've had encounters with people who appear and sound very legitimate on chat, but when I reached their supposed location, they ghost/block you with them nowhere to be found. I don't understand why this is a thing but it does happen rather often. Always verify their identity before making arrangements. I've also heard from one of my friends that he travelled all the way from the east to the west, for the same thing to happen to him

[ethancsg]

58 minutes ago, SociNerd said:

I've had encounters with people who appear and sound very legitimate on chat, but when I reached their supposed location, they ghost/block you with them nowhere to be found. I don't understand why this is a thing but it does happen rather often. Always verify their identity before making arrangements. I've also heard from one of my friends that he travelled all the way from the east to the west, for the same thing to happen to him

Nowadays I always want people to exchange face pic before meeting up. I guess they can't accept how we look if they saw us from far.

[PlayersGroup]

Not sure if this is a ghosting/catfishing but it was on a spooky midnight and the guy wasnt who he said he was.

 

Many years ago, someone here supposedly below 30 staying alone msged me and we arranged to meet at his place close to 12mn at Sembawang. The block/level I went to was directly opposite another block with open corridors, meaning I was visible by any one of the units from the other block.

 

I didn't like that, so I chose to stay at the stairs where I was partially blocked from view. While at the stairs I msged him and he claimed to be at home waiting. From my vantage point, I was able to see the supposed corner unit through its tinted windows cos the windows were perpendicular to the corridor. Because it was night, the interior of the house was still visible despite the tint. There was just an old uncle walking about in the room doing various things. 

 

I messaged the guy and asked him n he claimed he was waiting but I didn't even see the uncle check his phone. I verified the block and unit again and concluded I was pranked. And then I was blocked. 

[GayNomad]

18 hours ago, SociNerd said:

I've had encounters with people who appear and sound very legitimate on chat, but when I reached their supposed location, they ghost/block you with them nowhere to be found. I don't understand why this is a thing but it does happen rather often. Always verify their identity before making arrangements. I've also heard from one of my friends that he travelled all the way from the east to the west, for the same thing to happen to him

Worst is the guy gave a fake pics. Then when u reach his place, it turns out to be a old fat balding uncle.

[Expired Btm Uncle]

On 8/17/2023 at 10:08 PM, Guest Jaded said:

Anyone else encountered this 'white, married beefcake daddy' with really hot body on grindr? Always says 'sure, love to son' when asked if he would fuck mebit always tired cos just met his regular fbs, or in China on business. Then for sure will meet when he comes back, but never happens. Telegram profile is M...D....

Even has a blogspot with raunchy stories of public encounters that are too amazing to be believed.

What's also sus? For an American his English is so cmi

I think i saw that profile before. Heard its fake account.

[radiusulnar]

Thought of this thread when I saw a profile pic here with Shutterstock watermark. 😂

[singalion]

On 1/3/2025 at 11:12 PM, SociNerd said:

I've had encounters with people who appear and sound very legitimate on chat, but when I reached their supposed location, they ghost/block you with them nowhere to be found. I don't understand why this is a thing but it does happen rather often. Always verify their identity before making arrangements. I've also heard from one of my friends that he travelled all the way from the east to the west, for the same thing to happen to him

I always assume you might have annoyed the guy in a previous chat… then they take revenge by such means…

 

But there seems to be a weird range of guys who enjoy sending you to a location without being there. It hurts when you take a cab etc. 

 

I personally don’t understand these games. 
 

My advantage is having my own place, so less travel to other places.

[MDZY]

IRC days, kenna ghosted a few times. Its really frustrating but u can only blame yourself.